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View All PostsKathy Wakile
Lessons from RHONJ
Kathy shares what she's learned this season.
Oct 17, 2012Too many hurtful things have been said and too many feelings have been trampled on. Everyone is talking and no one is listening; I wonder, where do we go from here?
In life there isn't a rewind button, but unfortunately in reality TV there is. It is always difficult to have to deal with issues you thought were already put to rest. I guess in some ways though, it can be beneficial. It has shown me a way to learn from mistakes and try to make the future better. I have always believed that life is about growth and change, and I’d like to share some of the things that I have learned and some things that have helped me grow.
I have learned that most people are good-natured and supportive. I have learned that the viewers are caring people whose interest in me is very heartwarming, and I want you to know you have my sincere thanks. I have learned to listen to critique and criticism and understand the difference between helpful constructive criticism and just plain meanness. I have come to understand who I can count on and has my best interest at heart and who does not. But most of all I have reaffirmed that my family -- and by that I mean my husband, my children, my mother, my sister, and brothers -- are the ones who have never wavered in their love, support, and kindness. They are the true meaning of family.
I have grown so much as a person, and the RHONJ experience has enabled me to become involved in many charitable organizations that are now so close to my heart. As you know, I have become very involved with The National Brain Tumor Society. Just this week I was invited to be the keynote speaker for a program held by The Children’s Brain Tumor Foundation in NYC. These experiences and the giving and sharing that accompany working for a cause are life-changing and positive. I urge all of you to get involved in helping out in any way that you like. It will change you in the most wonderful way!
Wow Kathy I know this would be the last thing you want to hear but you've well and truly out classed that screaming cousin of yours T.....can't even say her name. Oh and please convince your sister Rosie to be on the show full time, Australia loves you
@Ausview . Totally agree, also from Australia. You are a classy lady.
You are so passive aggressive. You've stirred and initiated some of the worst things that have happened on the show, and your holier than thou attitude is ridiculous. You're in denial. Water seeks it's own level, and the people you're with are on the same level as you are or you wouldn't be with them. You are not blameless. Your husband is blatantly crude and his attacks alienate everyone. All the two of you do is judge everyone else by your standards. It also clear that you're not getting the same amount of attention as the rest of the women and that you're jealous. You hate the Giudices but it clear that you're jealous. I still can't figure out why you're on the show.
@MCTCB really Kathy has stirred the pot.....are we watching the same show?
Kathy,
I get you're pissed at Teresa, but THERE WAS NO REASON FOR YOU TO INSULT HER PARENTS (calling her mother a "liar" and her father a "coward"... REALLY)!!!!!!!! What really bothered me was that Melissa sat right there by you when you insulted her father-in-law and mother-in-law, AND SHE SAID NOTHING (but was offended when Teresa brought up your family, what sense did that make). You and Teresa seemed to have had a great relationship in the past, but I totally agree with Teresa when she called you "garbage" for dissing her parents (there was no need to hit below the belt like that)! Kathy, you're a terrific wife and mother (I love the playful way you and Richie interact with each other, it's so sweet)!!!!!! Honestly, I really hope everything works out for ALL OF YOU (Gorgas, Guidices, and Wakiles).
Your behaviour on the reunion showed us the true you. You knew how to hurt teresa so you went after her parents on live tv..shame on you! If melissa and joe had any sense at all, they should use that reason alone to stay away from you considering it was joes parents you just slammed. You and your mean husband need to just fade away and go back to whatever it is that you actually do..? Why did you come onto the show? It looks like you did only to bash and ruin teresa because you never was friend and you sure didn't behave like a cousin. You started the fight that got caroline and teresa fighting and teresa eventually leaving to go home. You had nerve going into her room to try and explain that you loved her and that you never meant to cause any problems...OKAY..?? You and caroline are probably the meanest and you sure do make a pair lol. I don't think you have to worry about your husband going anywhere because honestly girl, you would be the only one who would want that one. I see that you did some changes to your face but you should have done some repairs on your second one!
@sonnyboy . Soonyboy, go yank your chain. She has every right to sick up for herself against a self absorbed, weirdo like Teresa.
you're a supreme moron kathy. you called out joe guidice for accusing jac of being a stripper on the reunion, but in reality jac brought it up herself--twice--because she needed that badly to be part of the conversation.
Kathy,
Unfortunately for you, blood is not thicker than water. From day one, I seriously doubt that you ever liked Teresa, and she's your cousin!. You may not see this in yourself- but you are very passive-agressive towards her. Almost, like there is an underlying resentment and hate. Her cookbook tour, you stompled in there declaring these were your mother's recipes. Heck, I'll bet you can find those 'same recipes" on the foodnetwork. Really? You tried to embarass her publicly. Next, take the toast, for example, why are you seeking her to include you. Maybe you have never felt like she considered you family and are seeking her approval. Perhaps, that is where the resentment lies. But, why? Why do you need her to include you as part of her and her brothers family to make you feel like you are part of the family too? Clearly, she has issues with him. Sure, it would have been nice to include you in the toast, but, she spent most of the time in the same vehicle as her brother and his wife. She has wanted a relationship with her brother for a while and he her. She was acknowledging that. Then, later that night, you go and trip her up again. You knew you started it, and felt guilty. Perhaps, this is your subconscious payback for her not including you. Grow up! Life isn't always about you. If you have these underlying issues, be an adult and deal with them. Stop trying to blame her for your resentments. I know this is harsh to say, but, sometimes we have a tendancy to blame others and not understand why we are reacting the way that we are. Search your soul and find out.
js101
WOW! Like the drama much? Kathy didn't 'stomple' into anywhere. Teresa however has stomped all over everyone, from Danielle to Jac and everyone in between.
It sure would be nice if you looked at things as they are and not as you wish them to be for Teresa's sake.
Bye, bye Katfish.
ALasVegasHousewife
lol! you are hilarious!!
ALasVegasHousewife
Seriously how old are you??? Name calling, I hope you don't have children...because they lead by example. Calling a total stranger names...how adult of you!
cila1 Get over it and get a life...This is BRAVO TV...Not PBS.
So maybe our dreams have come true, you will no longer be on the show! Maybe you should have really given your behavior some thought. Calling fans of the show an army of idiots and calling you eldelry aunt and uncle names finally showed everyone what we saw the entire time. At least you got a new face, new patio furniture, and landscaping. Thank good news you are done forever-something you should remember-not to bite the hands that feeds you
kansasgirl66087
Wow....get a life...if this is a dream come true for you. How sad!
@cila1 @kansasgirl66087 okay Kathy-whatever-p
Miss seeing you what a beautiful women you are thank you for being you wishing you well and good fortune...
2 words.. you're awesome
Just watched the episode where your darling mother revealed what happened to her as a little girl. I had seen it before, but I cried so hard to think of a mother leaving her 5 year old with another relative to be raised by them. I have a 5 year old and thinking of this made me unable to contain my tears. I know that was in the old country, but your mom is so beyond strong and her forgiveness is beautiful. Such a lesson for everyone. Thank you for sharing your fabulous family with the audience. Your sister Rosie is amazing as well.
sbhb
That was an amazing story about Kathy's mother, she is such a strong woman and her story was truly touching, God Bless her!
You four wonderful ladies are too good for Theresa and she believe her lies let her hit rock bottom then maybe she'll see how you ladies were trying to help her . Without you four ladies I wouldn't watch this show I feel connected to the four of you . And your sister is great as well she seams at peace with herself . I hope there's a season 5 just with you four
Kathy I'm from a lrge family & yes arguments insue, but nothing like I watch on the show. There is one common denominator with everyone, Teresa! Joe /mellisa was right, she needs to fall before she sees what's she's done. Maybe when joe goes to a well deserved jail term, and she's a single parent, maaaybe she'll smarten up. The group did everything they could to help her. Treat her like an addict. Let her hit rock bottom. She needs it. You seem like a wonderful person, the type I would have in my group of crazy women. We love our families, cherish our friends. Be a constant in mellissas life, she needs friends like you and your family. Teresa is missing out on a wonderful relationship with a brother who adored her. Y osh, someone needs to talk to Teresa's parents. What the hell are they thinking believing the bs out of Teresa's mouth. I try to be a peace maker with my kids, but never take sides. If my sister acted like Teresa I would of thumped her a long time ago. I've got 5 sisters. Same goes with cousins. It's the Canadian ideology coming out of me. Instead of saying all the things Teresa does wrong, it'll take less time to tell the things she does right. Nope, can't think of 1 thing.
Kathy, God Bless you for trying to be a peace-maker between Teresa and Caroline. I feel your heart on that one and I know you just wanted everyone to get along. Of course, it turned into a narcissistic Teresa rant and it got worse. At the very least, Caroline got to finally tell Teresa she was out of her life for good. Not the outcome you wanted, but it was cleansing for Caroline to finally say it out loud, I'm sure. You have a wonderful family and you really need to keep away from the toxic drama. Sit back, relax and let them go. It's not your problem, you tried, it clearly will never work considering those involved. I wish you nothing but the very best.
NorthernWolf
Kathy was never a peacemaker no matter how she spins it, more like a stick the nose in where it doesn't belong Troublemaker is more accurate!
Annie003 NorthernWolfPretty much what you're doing right Annie?
@Annie003 @NorthernWolf . Seriously if you don't like someone, why look at the site? Go and look at someone else's and leave positive comments for them and not negative ones. Isn't there enough negativity in the world?
when everyone on the trip was getting along and Kathy started bringing up all that old recipe book/caroline crap I was quite surprised, not to mention she made sure caroline was within earshot, before that, I believed that she truly did want to do the right thing and that she wasn't doing anything to drive a wedge between Theresa's friends and family...
Hi Kathy!! How are Teresa's moms deserts doing for ya?? Just curious...
@mscommonsense, you're a little short, may need to change your name
MsCommonSense Seriously, they're related and families share recipes. They might not have always been dysfunctional? Anyway, when have you seen Teresa make any desserts on the show?
MsCommonSense
About the same as Kathy's mother's recipes are doing for Teresa.
You have been a true lady in all of the conflict that reared its ugly head this season. Keep on being who you are and you will continue to shine. I can honestly say that I have liked you from the first time you came on the show. Don't change and keep taking the high road. In the end, you will reap the reward's if you haven't already.
@andebrown70 Clearly your cable service was interrupted during the airing of the three part reunion shows. Kathy and her relevance to the show is so insignificant....she won't be missed next season. Her part time status next year will surely dwindle and ultimately be non-existent as will her bogus cannoli kit venture.
@pat.cary1 pot meet kettle. Lol. Hypocrite much??
i feel like the reason you and rosie were supposedly fighting before, because of a girlfriend "leading her down the wrong path," seems conveniently rehearsed. i think it's the excuse you came up with before the reunion. i think tre told the truth on the show and at the reunion. i do believe you used to shun your sister. you can fool some of the people some of the time...
melsweet I disagree. On one of the episodes when Rosie's sexual orientation was being addressed, Kathy spoke of having met a couple of woman that Rosie had dated--one she liked, and one she absolutely hated. So it sounds pretty plausible to me.
rnkatmelsweet
When Rosie and Teresa were speaking one on one... Teresa said to Rosie - when Kathy shunned her when she was younger, she (Teresa) was always including her. I am pretty sure if that was not true, Rosie would have spoken up as we know Rosie does in a very honest way. The girlfriend was later in Rosie's life - so it does appear that the time line of Kathy not including Rosie and girlfriend association do not match up
Story was tweaked to help Kathy save face- I go with the untweaked version.
Bonz25 melsweet I understand your point. However, I don't feel that they were talking about the same thing. Kathy has said that there was some distance between her and Rosie before she came out--that Rosie had put up walls. I don't think it was a matter of "shunning" Rosie because she was gay--which is what Teresa was insinuating. And you are right--I believe Rosie would have spoken up in an honest way, and she did so at the reunion. Perhaps at the time she and Teresa had the conversation, she was simply dumbfounded. I know I was. What kind of person would try to make one sister look bad in another sister's eyes just to make herself look good?
rnkat melsweet I appreciate your point. I don't think Kathy was distant with Rosie because she was gay but i do think Teresa was there for Rosie when times were tough for her being accepted. Seems like a statement Teresa should not make but Kathy's first season was filled with Kathy making comments that Teresa was not into family as she claimed to be - (tit for tat seems to be rampant in this entire family). I also see Rosie standing by her sister and making the timeline work for Kathy's defense.
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Bonz25 melsweet Yes, maybe Teresa was there for Rosie--but I don't think it was because she wasn't "accepted". Like I said, before Rosie came out, Kathy did say that there was "distance" between them, and Rosie "put up walls". Once she did come out, Kathy stated in a previous episode that she had met at least two of Rosie's girlfriends--one she liked, and one she hated. Perhaps this is the girlfriend who was "leading Rosie down the wrong path", and Kathy did not support this, which perhaps could be misconstrued as "not being there for her". So for me, the timeline works. It doesn't mean that Kathy wasn't there for her, as Teresa implied; it means that Kathy did not support that relationship.
rnkat melsweet Either way... Kathy during her first season threw jabs at Teresa for not being "all about Family"- Kathy was distant to her own sister when Teresa was there for Rosie- making Kathy a hypocrite with the hard line she draws with Teresa on the issue of family supporting one another.
p.s.I appreciate the banter here with you - the Miami blog does not lend itself to discussion - it is all out war against differing opinions on their blogs.
rnkat Bonz25 melsweet strange how Teresa could break down those "walls" and maintain a relationship, but her own sister couldn't.
Bonz25 melsweet I appreciate the banter, too! As for the "all about family", maybe it was because Teresa was always touting that she was all about family, but Kathy didn't feel that she was. It could go both ways.
debharrington Bonz25 melsweet We don't know for sure if Teresa did break down any walls, just her saying that she was there for Rosie. Rosie did not acknowledge that she was. Teresa has a habit of spinning stories so that she looks like an angel. And the fact that Rosie was going over to Teresa's house at the time to tell her to stop talking sh*t about the family, but then she goes and talks sh*t about Kathy, just goes to show that she doesn't listen.
rnkat debharrington melsweet While Kathy was treating Rosie like Rudolf the red nose reindeer, Teresa invited Rosie to join in her Reindeer Games. - Essentially not allowing the walls Rosie put up to discourage Teresa from extending her friendship.
Rosie said something like enough with the tabloids or the tabloids have to stop. The tabloids were taking direct quotes from the show and putting bad pictures of the women with them. Not everyone gets the fact that tabloids are out to sell magazines and print what ever they want. - I myself was involved in a false tabloid story - the picture was me but the story was totally fabricated. The attacks on Teresa over what was written in Tabloids to me - do not hold any merit
Bonz25 rnkat debharrington melsweet I get your point, and I'm sorry about the tabloid stuff. Here's the thing--we only have TERESA saying that she was there for Rosie, Rosie later refuted this. I can understand her not doing so at the time, and here is why--my best friend used to recount stories about the two of us, in front of me, and these stories NEVER HAPPENED. She kind of made them up in her head, and believed them. I never refuted her, because it was just pointless to do so. I think the same thing happens with Teresa. I have seen her recount stories to other people, especially to her husband, and I would say to myself, that is not what I saw AT ALL. I think to a certain extent, Teresa lives in her own world. And I believe the original point that I was trying to refute was the Kathy "shunned" her sister, and I still don't believe that ever happened.
rnkat Bonz25 melsweet If Teresa was wrong in her assessment, Rosie would have let her have it right then and there. She's no wallflower. She has a voice and has proven that she knows how to use it. I think all this new information coming to light is to try and not make her sister looks so bad (who she loves very much by the way so it's understandable that Rosie would "tweek" her story)
debharrington Bonz25 melsweet I don't agree, for the many reasons I have stated above.
Looking forward to seeing you again on the upcoming season. It was nice to know that everyone in Teresa's family is not as dishonest and delusional as she is. Please have Rosie there. She is a blast.
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