Kathy Wakile

Kathy shares what she's learned this season.

on Oct 17, 2012

Too many hurtful things have been said and too many feelings have been trampled on. Everyone is talking and no one is listening; I wonder, where do we go from here?

In life there isn't a rewind button, but unfortunately in reality TV there is. It is always difficult to have to deal with issues you thought were already put to rest. I guess in some ways though, it can be beneficial. It has shown me a way to learn from mistakes and try to make the future better. I have always believed that life is about growth and change, and I’d like to share some of the things that I have learned and some things that have helped me grow.

I have learned that most people are good-natured and supportive. I have learned that the viewers are caring people whose interest in me is very heartwarming, and I want you to know you have my sincere thanks. I have learned to listen to critique and criticism and understand the difference between helpful constructive criticism and just plain meanness. I have come to understand who I can count on and has my best interest at heart and who does not. But most of all I have reaffirmed that my family -- and by that I mean my husband, my children, my mother, my sister, and brothers -- are the ones who have never wavered in their love, support, and kindness. They are the true meaning of family.

I have grown so much as a person, and the RHONJ experience has enabled me to become involved in many charitable organizations that are now so close to my heart. As you know, I have become very involved with The National Brain Tumor Society. Just this week I was invited to be the keynote speaker for a program held by The Children’s Brain Tumor Foundation in NYC. These experiences and the giving and sharing that accompany working for a cause are life-changing and positive. I urge all of you to get involved in helping out in any way that you like. It will change you in the most wonderful way!