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Sext Scene

Kathy thinks sexting is no joke (despite what Rich thinks).

Hello everyone, I hope you had a great week. Did you hear? Bravo earned the highest ratings in history with our season premiere. Congratulations, Bravo, Sirens Media, and Purveyors of Pop! Your teams all work endless hours to tell our stories, and it hasn’t gone unnoticed. The viewers have spoken. Many thanks to all of you who tuned in to watch. Congratulations to my fellow cast members and their families. I know sharing our lives can be difficult at times. Sometimes watching them play back has proven to be even more difficult. However, I know that I share the same feelings when I say it is rewarding to hear that you have helped someone get through a difficult situation in their lives just by sharing ours.

Which brings me to this week. You find us knee-deep in our relationships with family and friends. We have gotten to know Jacqueline, Chris, and their kids, and we really love them. Although Chris joked around with Ashlee a bit, who knew he had such a dry sense of humor? It was a difficult decision to have Ashlee leave the house. I was especially moved watching Jacqueline packing up Ashlee’s things. My heart was torn apart hearing her sobbing. As a mom I could feel her pain and disappointment so profoundly. It’s so obvious how much she loves her daughter and only wants her to find herself and succeed. We are all pulling for them. Jacqueline has kept me up to date with how Ashlee is handling life on her own, and it’s wonderful to know that she’s taking on her responsibilities and doing well. I guess their tough love was just what she needed. We got a chance to see her when she visited this past winter, and I’m happy to say that she looked fantastic and she’s a brunette again.

It’s great to see Caroline and Lauren working together to deal with an issue that so many young women are confronted with. Let’s face it, when you are young and have weight issues, it affects your whole life. I applaud Lauren and her mom for being so upfront and honest. They are wonderful role models! By the way, Lauren, I’m so excited for you, spring has definitely sprung! You look fantastic and lots of luck at your new beauty bar, CafFace! Cheers to the new you and new beginnings!

I hoped you loved Joseph and Rich’s father and son outing as much as I did. I was so proud of both of them and so gratified to have our viewers see their wonderful relationship. Rich draws on the work ethic instilled in him by his father. He is showing and teaching our son that there is more to opening a business than hanging out a sign. You have to have a plan and actually work there and work hard to succeed. As children of immigrant parents, both Rich and I are very conscious of bringing the values that are important to us to our children. It’s great to see that Rich is able to keep his sense of humor as well. Clearly our Joseph has inherited that quick wit.

Jacqueline and Chris are good friends and great hosts. They invited us all over in a continuing effort to mend fences in our relationships. Their “poker night” was a great idea. We were able to share stories, meatball recipes, and have some good wine and food. It’s unfortunate that when Teresa and Joe arrived she inferred that we had been talking “about” her. Don’t mistake talking about her for our discussion, which was about how to handle seeing her after her recent comments. There’s a very big difference. As you all saw, we were talking through some concerns that we all had, and we all just wanted the evening to go smoothly. There was a very uncomfortable silence in the room that “speaks volumes” as they say. It was a minute for the viewers, but seemed like an eternity for us. There were no replies after Teresa’s explanation of comments in her cookbook and her apology. She said she didn’t offend anyone in her cookbook. Maybe what she was trying to say was, it wasn’t her intention, but she obviously did offend. For the record, I wasn’t offended by what she said about me or Rich or whomever she was referring when she wrote about her “cousin’s lame jokes.” It wasn’t that big of a deal. As Tre would say, “whatever,” but I can certainly see how the others would find her comments offensive. Which brings us back to her apology -- from the heart or guilty conscience? I’ll let you be the judge.

It never ceases to amaze me how some people’s true nature comes out in unguarded moments. I am referring to Joe Giudice’s comments about making a living playing poker, thinking it’s an easy way to make a buck. Let’s just hope that’s not his next business venture. It’s just so contrary to how Rich and I grew up and the things our parents showed us about how to succeed.Thank goodness Rich never loses his off-beat, quirky sense of humor, even after Joe Giudice starts to provoke him at the poker game. Rich tried very hard to diffuse the tense situation with his humor, but Joe would have none of it. Their tussle really started off in good fun, but unfortunately left Joe with some bruises. In the next few days Rich repeatedly tried to contact Joe to apologize about how their clowning got a little out of hand, but with no response. It is so sad to watch as you did how callously Joe dismissed Rich’s well-intentioned calls and texts. Joe said he deleted them. Why am I not surprised? I’m glad I saved them. I’ve always liked Joe Giudice, and Teresa can be the first one to tell you so. I have to say it’s very upsetting to see him this way.

Our kids are growing up so fast! How about those Giudice girls? We can always count on them to provide beauty and comic relief all in one scene. It’s so sweet to see Gia taking care of her little sisters. Where does the time go?Watching this episode filmed a year ago, I see how much our Joseph has grown up before my eyes. He looks so different now. It reminds me that we need to deal with issues as they come up and exercise some pro-active parenting to give our children the tools they need to deal with life.

And speaking of teenage life, you can only imagine my horror to find out about the sexts that were sent to my son. I immediately went into full momma bear mode to express my concern at this incident. Rich and I have always tried to keep the social networking to a minimum. We found that it is too much of a distraction from what is really important. It takes too much time away from schoolwork and family time. When the kids wanted to start a Twitter, I allowed it and it actually prompted me to start an account as well. But the contact e-mail is limited to a family e-mail that only I have access to. In this way I can filter anyone that wants to try to privately contact my children. I’m so glad that I did that. The girl involved does not go to school with Joseph nor has he ever met her or contacted her. In fact we have found that she is not a minor and is from out of state. It’s a mom’s intuition in overdrive. Fortunately Rich’s great sense of humor allows him to lighten the situation and take it with a grain of salt. I’m still working on that for myself. Sexting is no joke and I can’t find any humor in it. But a mom is a mom is a mom.

I would be remiss if I did not talk to you about how excited I am for Melissa with her new song, How Many Times (Dear Joe). The song reflects their loving relationship and how grateful she is to have found the man of her dreams. It’s beautiful to see how they relate to each other. They have found the formula of living, loving, and laughing that reflects who they truly are. I am glad you viewers get to see the Joe and Melissa that I know.

Moving forward, I have to use an analogy, so here goes. Family and relationships are like an onion. When you peel back the layers, sometimes you find it’s really sweet and sometimes you shed a few tears. Why do I use food to explain so many things in life?

I have to admit the best part of this episode is seeing our kids and getting to know them. As with most parents, our children are the center of our lives. I hope that you enjoy watching them as well. Whether it’s just a quick peek at Gino Gorga’s big, beautiful eyes, seeing the little ones play together, or our older children deal with life’s obstacles as they continue their journey to adulthood.

So it looks like you all loved seeing my little sister, Rosie, last week. The outpouring of love sent her way made me so happy. Thanks for making her feel welcomed. Keep watching as the weeks progress and you will see more of what’s up with Rosie.One person that I miss seeing on my TV, and I think you will all agree, is Greg. I assure you he will be making his appearance soon. Can’t wait, love you, Greg.

Rich and I had the pleasure of meeting some wonderful people this past week when we went to Chicago. Thank you all for being so warm and welcoming. We had a wonderful trip. What a great city! Before I end this blog, I want to share something that’s so important and near to our hearts. Last season when we shared Victoria’s story and her experience with dealing with a brain tumor, we received such a huge response. Also as a result of that episode we were contacted by The National Brain Tumor Society to be honorary chairs for the 2nd Annual Walk on Governor’s Island NYC, June 16th. We are humbled and honored to be asked. Our family has formed a team called “Victorious Angels.” We are proud to be involved with bringing awareness to the need for finding a cure. Victoria was so very lucky to have been diagnosed and have surgery for her benign tumor and recovered incredibly. Unfortunately, often times that is not the case. To find out more about this event go to and search the calendar for June 16 NYC, we would love for you to be a part of our team.

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Lots of Love,

xoxo Kathy

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Amber: I Felt I Like I Was Being Hazed

Amber Marchese dishes on her experience this season on #RHONJ.

We made it Housewife friends! As it was my rookie season, I felt like I was being hazed in a sorority, but as hard as it was, I made it! I learned so much about how strong I am as a person and some areas that I can work on. I learned that I really do have a “no surrender, never retreat” mentality. I will go to bat with anyone, at any time, and will defend myself and my family at all cost. I also witnessed the undying love that my husband has for me and his family. He was not going to let anyone hurt me and will unleash hell if someone tries. He is truly my modern day Spartan warrior. 

I am so blessed to have shared my experience and struggles with breast cancer -- the timing of my five year mark, the photo shoot, and growing my hair for five years then cutting it for charity -- it was nothing short of a miracle that the Bravo was able to catch that all. It was just meant to be and God was truly working his wonders. Cutting my hair was completely symbolic for me, since cancer no longer defines me. I will never forget, however the pain, fear, and anxiety is in my rear view mirror now. I can sometimes look back to remind myself where I came from, but it in no way defines my future. It is my promise to all of you, I will never take that for granted, especially knowing that there are thousands struggling with cancer every day. 

On to my perspective on the season finale! I am not quite sure why the twins make it a point to confront others in front of large crowds. As Teresa said, they had two weeks to call her and speak to her about what Victoria Gotti had said to us. If they had an issue or wanted an apology, so be it, but what ever happened to being a civilized human being and picking up the phone to call? They did the same thing to me. Two weeks went by without any phone call from them. In fact, they never returned any of my phone calls or texts! They decided to make a scene in front of an entire party. Difference is, this was at a charity event with children in ear shot. Can you blame me for not wanting to bring my babies to this event? I would have absolutely loved my children sashaying down the runway, but there is absolutely no way I would EVER allow my babies to hear what went on. I spoke with Teresa and I knew the twins never called her. So I knew exactly what was brewing, so did Dina. My children come first and mama was protecting her children. Dina was brazen enough to kick Jim and me out of the Florida home for less of an offense, why wasn’t Dina kicking the twins out because they were making a scene at her own charity function for children?! Can we say double standard? Where were her “heads rolling” that she claimed would happen if someone started anything at a Ladybug event? 

I will add that I completely understand how hurt the twins are. I can understand their anger. However, I cannot understand their way of handling conflict. That level of “hot headedness,” I would think, cools down at a certain age as we tend to calm ourselves, think clearly, and with wisdom. It is a level of discernment that should happen after a certain age or experience in life. 

Dina claims to be Teresa’s friend of 25 years, but does not back up her friend at all. If that was my friend, like Christine or Angelia, whom I have been friends for just as long, the twins would not have gotten to the letter T in stupid before I would be dragging them out of the event by their ears. Dina doesn’t have to agree with her best friend, but she should also never allow someone to call her friend of 25 years stupid, at her own charity function no less. Especially knowing what her friend is going through, which pales in comparison to some stupid rumor.

Since Dina has unwarranted venom towards my husband and has completely snubbed him for his previous contributions to The Ladybug Project, I am going to thank him on their behalf for coming up with the idea of the children's fashion show, as well as the connection to East Coast Stars. Since Jim did not attend, he also made a sizable cash donation on behalf of our family. Jim had also worked hard before all the drama to make sure Ladybug even had a venue with all costs covered, including food and beverage. The venue was ultimately not chosen, but Jim had still worked hard to give Dina an option for the event. Instead she chooses to focus on Jim’s comment about her IQ after she interrogated him at an extremely inappropriate, charged moment right after his wife was attacked. Despite her inappropriateness, Jim still ended up apologizing to her. However in my opinion she should have apologized to him for being so glaringly insensitive. 

It may seem as if my perspective is harsh for an end of season blog, LOL! But it is what I was feeling at the time. I owe it to you all to give you my honest interpretation of it. However, at the end of the season, I came out having a certain amount of respect for all of these ladies. Being on a reality show is hard; it pushes us to our limits and it is nothing short of psychological warfare. I truly hope you will support all of us, equally. Teams are good, and appreciated; however, keep the hate towards other Housewives out of it. Perspective are OK, different points of view are what make the world go round, however, when your perspective rises to a level of cruelty, it takes the fun out of our jobs. Allow us to be ourselves, with the good moments and even the moments when we could have handled ourselves a little better. At the end of the day, the Housewives are girlfriends that have strong personalitiesand disagreements -- we love, we hate, and we make up. That’s life. 

I have would like to thank: Denee Lockhart, Amy Malkoff, J. Vincent Jewelers, Cate Scaglione Photography, Castle Couture, Action Media Productions, Elinet Cakes, Christine’s Restaurant, Historical Names, East Coast Stars, Zaboyon, Greenhouse Flowers, Johnny Donavan PR, Anthony Palmieri stylist, Tony Bowls evening wear, and finally, my husband Jim and my mom, Pamula Aguero. 

It was an amazing experience that I would not change for the world. I want to thank all of you for you love and support. This was a wild ride. 

Many blessings to all!

Amber Marchese

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