Kathy Wakile

Kathy feels Teresa went too far by bringing up her marriage and her father.

on Oct 4, 20120

Some big secrets were revealed on Sunday evening. Obviously this was a very tense situation as we haven’t been all together for a year. It was bound to be intense, emotional, and passionate. I didn’t even get a chance to settle in when Andy Cohen called me out on my nose job right at the start! You can’t believe how many tweets I’ve received over having my nose fixed. Interestingly, it’s really no big deal for me. I never tried to hide it, but quite frankly it wasn’t something I chose to do while we were filming. I know some ladies choose to have procedures as part of their story line, and I commend them for it. However it just wasn’t what I wanted at this time. Andy has asked me numerous times on camera, and I’ve told him I did it for cosmetic reasons, which I’ve never denied. I just wanted the youthful look I once had, and I did not blame it on any medical issues.

The funny thing about plastic surgery though is that some people openly admit it like I did and others claim they’ve have nothing done when it is so obvious that they have. I say what’s the big deal? If you’re really curious about what I mean, you can check out my high school photos on Bravotv.com.

The decision to plump up my lips was so last minute. I was having a facial and decided to give it a shot. It was only 10 days prior to the reunion, so it was fresh but they’re not permanent. In fact they are already back to the way they were before. I think the big reaction from everyone was caused by a combination of the nose, lips, the extra glam makeup, and the lighter hair. Oh and I can’t forget the extra-long hair extensions. That’s one of the great things about being a girl, one day I can do a little more primping and prepping for an event and the next day go back to my apron and ponytail. That was my favorite part of working in the beauty business, the endless possibilities.

Another big dark secret -- you all found out that I’m such a bad person, because I didn’t have my first designer handbag until I was 40 years old! Guilty! It wasn’t something that I really wanted. (If it was, don’t you think that Richie would have gotten them for me?) I guess my priorities are little different than some. For me, having our family’s future secured and investing in my children’s college education was just more important.

756 comments
Turtlemom
Turtlemom

Kathy, Love you, Richie, your kids, Rosie and your wonderful mom. Ignore the idiots that trash you because they are ignorant and stupid. You do have class, you are a real person and you have your priorities straight. I hope to see you next season! I hope all your hard work with your baking is a total success! You do DESERVE all good things that come your way. I am sure you have great KARMA! If you and T never get back together, it will be her loss. You are so nice!

cvictoria
cvictoria

Love you and your family. You are a lady!!!

nomorelies
nomorelies

Kathy, you are easily one of the most likeable housewives of any of the franchise.

 

But it struck me odd that it was okay for you to say terrible things about Teresa's parents at the Reunion, but when Teresa insulted your parents, your sister Rosia and you went berzerk.  Is there a hypocritical side to you that you have hidden from the camera?  I sure hope not.  You owe Teresa's parents an apology.

Esposa
Esposa

Do not let Teresa get to you, are better then that I think!

doverma17@yahoo.com
doverma17@yahoo.com

This is for Caroline, Melissa,Jacqueline & you Kathy:  After watching all of you I can see that you all know what and who are important in your lives. If the show ends tomorrow you will are continue to enjoy  happy and productive lives. Your children will complete college, your children will enjoy the careers that involve themselves in. They are polite, well adjusted young adults and that comes from parents who didn't shirk responsibility for raising them the RIGHT way.  By giving them the time and guidance they need even at the expense of your own needs & desires. And most of all by showing all those new adults that to have a healthy happy married life they only have to look towards all of you as examples of what a good marriage looks like. The future looks bright for all your kids.

lsummertrue
lsummertrue

Sorry Kathy but you were the one that started by calling Teresa's mum a liar .... Te just followed your lead

thaboyz
thaboyz

Sad to see the haters beat on you and Melissa....Theresa is a tramp in total denial that she is anything but wicked....Love seeing you and Melissa on the show...What I can see is a very good person inside, and its what is there that really counts!

mrsjackson79
mrsjackson79

Kathy, it's fairly obvious that both you and Melissa were completely jealous of Teresa being on the show.  You try to act like you want to fix the family, but your actions speak louder than words.  You try and undermine Teresa every chance that you get.  I kinda hope you don't make it back on the show.  You aren't all that interesting and your husband is a douche.

allydachie
allydachie

I thought in the opening of the show you say " I come from the old school and believe in RESPECT"! Oh REALLY, does that include calling your aunt (profanity liar)!

 

Go do your deserts and leave Teresa and Joe alone. Make ur own success without knocking Teresa's cook books down. JEALOUS

 

I think the surgeries you had done look lovely on you and natural to your face. So ok, you're so pretty (u already were) and even so now. Now can u leave your cousin and Joe alone. The Manzo's are doing all of this and Jacqueline, open ur eyes. U kept telling Teresa "her five minutes of fame wasn't worth her family," well HELLO the same goes to you. Stop being so jealous and just worry about your desserts and leave her alone.

aldoniab
aldoniab

Kathy I liked you in the beginning but now I think your just being hateful is this how you want your children to be acting when there your age. You and your husband talk about Teresa as garbage so I think everything she says is justifiable you should stay out the kitchen if you can't take the heat!

shannonlyn21
shannonlyn21

You're a wonderful, normal human being. Stay away from the crazy that is Teresa. She'd make anyone go bonks!

Lovebravo91
Lovebravo91

O kathy kathy kathy your pathetic, you want people to forgive you when you cant forgive your own family, cant stand you honestly!

mibasho
mibasho

Kathy, I’d love to have a cousin like you. Your sweet and the things you cook make me want to go over for dinner. The story your mom told at the dinner table was heartbreaking. Your sis is so cool. Your husband is funny and obviously worked very hard for you and beautiful kids. I love how intelligent your children responded when your sister told them about her struggle (coming out). That shows they have good report with their parents. That’s a rare and admirable quality. I think you and your husband are old school. Many couples can learn from you two. Your husband Ritchie is so cool, blunt and still cares about others. I feel you should not waste any more energy on “T” what for? All sisters, mother and daughters share recipes; I still don’t know why Theresa got so upset. She should just agree, and that’s it. Always on the defensive. I don’t get it. I have never seen 1 episode where you’ve commented or hurt her or her family. I think she’s having so much trouble with her husband she gets jealous at other relationships, but she won’t share that information she just blames everyone for her own faults. Like the saying goes: look at yourself before you look at others: that’s what Theresa needs to do and no one can do it for her. Good luck to you Ritchie and your awesome kids. Rosie-Kathy you have one another leave it at that. Who cares if you cousin is jealous, bitter angry those are her demons.

mom464086
mom464086

k at trouble making Teresa.And its Teresa that throws her parents in everything.We all have had friends and family that start stuff.Who cares Kathy lashed out at Teresa mom.This whole season Kathy has put up with Teresa's crap.Kathy has tried so hard to be a good cousin.But Teresa is a back stabber.

hawaiigramma
hawaiigramma

Kathy--I have always enjoyed you, however; I was shocked at what you said about Teresa's mother.  WOW, it has made me wonder if there is more going (off camera) on than what I have seen from you. That was not acceptable.  I hope you will return to your higher standards and NOT lower yourself to some of the classless behavior we have seen from so many others on this show.  BTW--I agree with you---why spend the money on Designer handbags??

 

melnatstell86
melnatstell86

so it was ok for you to talk about teresa's parents but it wasnt ok when she talked about you're father,really you showed youre true colors you know damn well you and melissa went on the show to make a name out youre self's and to destroy teresa its so obvious you and youre husband all you guys did was bad mouth teresa's fam.last season all youre husband was doing was talking about teresa and as for youre sister she need to go to a mental hospital wtf is wrong with her.youre already too damn old to be acting like this you should know better kathy but i guess youre so far up caroline's ass you cant see past her bully'ing ways and youre going her path too sad but true

marysxx
marysxx

Kathy all the haters on your blog, should get lost! You are the sweetest person on t.v.

Imjustsaying0873
Imjustsaying0873

Hey Copy-Kat, You get a facelift and now you think your better than everyone? Some might think your attitude on the reunion is a shocker, but I think that your fake "nice" attitude throughout the show was a the real shocker. You are not nice and am not sure who I'm more disgusted at, you or Melissa. I will not watch RHONJ if you remain next season. Scouts Honor!!!

hotinSC
hotinSC

Kathy do you have your cake and desserts on line? I want them for the holiday for my family.

LadyTeapots
LadyTeapots

Kathy when you judge Teresa, you do not define her, you define yourself.  

Mackie
Mackie

Kathy, You're a class act...you apologized for losing your temper ,why didn't Teresa? Need I say more!!

Luv2rn005
Luv2rn005

Kathy, your a classy lady! I love your way of being....with your kids, husband, sister, parents and friends. You are a real person with a real life! That's what's seen on the show. Who cares of what "T" has to say about you.....remember she's a hater who's miserable. She will one day be a very lonely person and hopefully she'll remember and acknowledge her mistakes in life. As long as your happy, as it seems, all is good. Your someone I love to watch on the show and admire your composure.

Kymmie
Kymmie

What you said about Teresa's parents was despicable! I would NEVER forgive you for that!!!

donna.bartnickimontalto
donna.bartnickimontalto

I understand family is family, but with Teresa, I just wouldn't be able to get past this.  She is pure evil after what I saw on part 2 of the reunion.  Awful, just awful.   If people don't see her true colors, then they must have the same character as she does.   Don't beat yourself up too bad about what you said about her mother.  She did push you.  It's no excuse, but it is an explanation.  And just for the record, if she's a liar, then she's a liar.  Being old doesn't make you a saint!  Oh, just for the record, I have nothing against people having plastic surgery if it makes you feel better than you should do.  However, I think you looked prettier with your old nose.  It gave you character.  It wasn't ugly, it was natural.  Sorry, but I think you looked stunning before.  The new nose took something away from you?   Be careful next time.  Not all changes are for the best.

mmmmmmary
mmmmmmary

Kathy,

You are a big phony .....stop with the eye rolling and the nasty faces. You are on TV after all and no one wants to look at that!!!!!

Between you, Jacqueline, Caroline and Melissa, this show has become a hate fest.  People who watch would like to see some smiles and pretty faces. Theresa knows how to do that very well!!!  That's why she will always have fans on her side. You call her phony.....we all call her savvy . She knows what the fans want!

And what is your concern about Theresa's  marriage? Is it just to prove to everyone that your marriage  is good? All you  did was show how nasty, spiteful, and stupid you really are. No one cares about your marriage.....it doesn't make you a good person to have a good marriage. Most of the time it's just luck.......

All of you have a lot of nerve mentioning Theresa's children..........She has more class than you because I have never heard her mention your children except in a very good light. The same with Rosie......get over yourself Rosie......yes, you perceive yourself to be a survivor.....but that doesn't give you the right to scream, yell  and threaten someone......especially your own family.You and Meiissa need to move on......get off the show  your 15 minutes of fame is over.....if it's even was 15 minutes!!!!

 

 

judith.littles
judith.littles

I'm glad I read this blog. I can respect and understand what Kathy says here. I still think you have also sniped at Teresa but she should  not have brought up either of your parents, especially your deceased father.

jerseyviewer12
jerseyviewer12

Honestly each one of you is wrong.  Why did you let your husband talk about Teresa the way he does all season (and last season as well) long.  Your sister's outburst.  There are no words for that.  Totally uncalled for.  Granted Joe Guidice bad mouths you guys as well.  But what is the difference between what he says and what your husband says.  Joe's is somewhat cruder.  Your husband is not golden tongued either.  How he has been speaking this year.  What happened?

If family is so important to each and everyone of you why is it that both you and Melissa don't tell Caroline and Jacqueline that you might appreciate what they are saying but it is a family matter and would appreciate it if they stayed out of it.  Trust me I think Teresa should do the same.  Was all this worth it for you guys?  The comment Teresa made about Melissa leaving Joe for a richer man.  Unacceptable!  But why is no one asking why Joe felt the need to share that private conversation with the world.  When Teresa was talking with her brother at another point about Jacqueline and Jacqueline was walking up behind them why did her brother not stop the conversation.  He wanted it all aired.  You all love the spotlight.  

Shouldn't Joe do the same when Melissa's sisters are bad-mouthing his own sister.  Say please that is still my sister.  When Teresa doesn't do that with her husband everyone is up in arms.  It is the same thing.

 

The comment that Melissa is moving because she does not want her children to go to school with Teresa's.  Absolutely heartbreaking!

Any comments concerning the children should have been kept off the show PERIOD.  

 

L.I.oness
L.I.oness

Kathy, Anyone who has watched a parent die--with my mom it was Lou Gherig's Disease--gets where you're coming from. If Teresa were being classy she would not have commented like that. Ignore all the haters; they clearly need a hobby. May your dad RIP.

lori.diamondthrift
lori.diamondthrift

I think that you bring class and normalcy to the show. I like the relationship you and Richie have. He obviously loves you very much. As far as Teresa goes, one day reality will kick in. She obviously is in her own world. It's obvious her husband has no respect for her. In a way I have pity for her because when she falls, it's going to be hard. No matter how you and Melissa got on the show really shouldn't bother her. She would've done the same. Who wouldn't? Anyway as long as you stay true to yourself and your family, don't worry what others think. It's you that has to get up and look at yourself in the mirror everyday. As long as you can do that, then truly nothing else matters. Keep up the good work!

justjill2u
justjill2u

I am really tired of Theresa putting the blame on anybody but herself. Theresa lives for her fame but someday that will disappear and who will she have in the end.... Family is everything I wouldn't survive if I didn't have the love of family and Kathy you are a Wonderful Lady it reflects in your beautiful children and the way your husband loves you I feel the same about Melissa Bless you both I hope you stay on  the show because I would miss you both so much.Love you and Richie on twitter 

angie.georgegrannie
angie.georgegrannie

I love your spirit you are such a loving person~ haters will hate keep standing strong and respect to your family.

rosyposy
rosyposy

You are the most loved housewife on the show.  Pay no attention to the remarks from the Tre fans.  To tell you the truth, I suspect many of them are from the same people who write her blogs because the poor thing has trouble with grammar and spelling.....or even what simple words mean.  Teresa always spouts shocking lies when she is cornered.  Anyone who has watched the show from the start knows that.  She trashed you and Melissa to the other wives before you ever filmed your first segment.  Anyone who thinks it is the Teresa show is delusional.  As a matter of face, I cannot see how they can keep her on the show, because she has managed to turn the whole group against her.  Who wants to film with Teresa?  I think they should replace Teresa with Rosie.  Rosie is brutally honest, endearing, and a blast to watch.

msshowmekc
msshowmekc

Fact - Your have sat with all the castmates, including your husband and made nasty comments about Teresa from day one, I honestly have never seen a taped show where Thing Teresa said anything negative about you other than in self-defense. You have stated how Teresa done all these bad things to you and I must have missed that show cause I still have yet to see any. You cannot cry about what she said to you after you and the wonderful family and friends have attacked her. You are a real peice of work. You state how so very upset you and Rosie were that she brought up your "Dead Father" wow, you called a mother a F888 liar and her dad a coward, yet you feel like she is the devil for stating how her dad took up more time with you then your own dad... Oh this is the classic syndrome for the fabulous four ladies (that would be yourself, caroline, melissa and Jaco). You ladies think it is ok for you and your husbands to make nasty remarks about T but "OMG, she is crazy and selfish when she attacks your azz back".  I can not believe you have time to bake when you all spend so much time in Teresa business. Why is it so important to you all to have her confess and own up to BS that has not been verified. When she tried to tell you all about Melissa talking to Danielle behind her back you all were so damn out to get Teresa ya'll let the little snake Melissa slither right on in. Yeah she confessed ... but only after being backed in a corner, when Text was showed, cause as I can recall she denied it several times, prior to that, but somehow Teresa was the bad guy for that shi** to RIGHT!  You are so bent on bringing your own cousin down you cannot see the snakes whom you are rolling in the grass with.  Am sure since you and Teresa at some point was close that you had your sayings about Melissa ... as you were probably team teresa then, but because you have this built up jealousy since probably childhood  this is now your time to get her back Right?, being that she had a life you wanted then and you were still jealous as an adult. for someone who had a happy life prior to the show, you sure did kiss up for her friends Right... Get off the show please, walk away with the speck of dignity you have left.

DebbieinPhila
DebbieinPhila

I just have no words for you. You & Rosie have some serious anger issues. 

tike
tike

I have to say that Mr Jackson,Allydache and aldoniab are all Teresa or Teresa's friends cause people cannot be that naive, or were you guys watching a different show?

Rockie23
Rockie23

@mom464086 totally agree I have 1/2 siblings, some of their parents raised me (and i consider one my "true father" yet I have said horrible things about their parents from time to time, because in that specific moment I had had enough. You can only be pushed so far before you snap. Tre brought her parents into the mix, not anyone else. Was what Kathy said okay? Obviously no but frustration and anger cannot be bottled forever- and girlfriend has been bottling it for 2 damned seasons. Sooner or later the damn was going to break. Kathy is one of the few who seems to have her head on straight and when I look at her overall actions and demeanor I cannot condemn her for one outburst. And before someone brings up things she's said about Teresa in the past, think about your own family gatherings. Inevitably you talk about family members, about actions you don't approve of, disappointments in their behavior. I've done it w/my own mom. Expressing differences of opinions or rehashing a family members behaviour does NOT mean that you are gossiping or trashing them. People talk to try to work through issues, get outside perspectives and guidance. Everyone has said something about a problematic family member when they weren't around, from "aunt franks" alcoholic tendencies to "sister Sarah's" inability to converse in a civil manner about topics your trying to hash out. It's NORMAL to talk about a person you are concerned about, express bafflement at their behaviour, and so on. Most family gatherings result in talking about the one person who didn't show up, the reasons why, problems between cousins, siblings, aunts, uncles and parents. There were harsh words thru the season, but it didn't appear to be ANYTHING different than discussions of normal families, tight groups of friends would say w/out TV shows and cameras in their faces.

WhatACrockItAllIs
WhatACrockItAllIs

 @hawaiigramma I feel the same way. I think of ALL the housewives in ALL the shows, Kathy is the most real. This really shocked me though. Bringing someone's parent into something, calling a woman a liar that way, that's your Aunt. I hope you can all become family again some day because family is what matters in life and if one of you dies, there are NO second chances for any of the ones who are left. 

marysxx
marysxx

Then don't watch!!!!!!!!!

JohnDerik1
JohnDerik1

 @Kymmie But Teresa has said some very despicable things about Kathy, FYI..

marysxx
marysxx

You crazy !! Are you watching the same show has everyone else??

rhondak
rhondak

 @mmmmmmary and you can say this about Kathy because you've known her for ohhhhh about two seasons huh? Get a life! lol

JohnDerik1
JohnDerik1

 @mmmmmmary I like Teresa and all but people can not blame this hate fest entirely on the other ladies. Teresa is trying to play victim just like Danielle did Season 1 and 2. I respect Teresa just like I do all the ladies, but it is all their faults. Teresa has allowed her issues to go publicly, which is what happens when you are on a reality tv show, but she should handle them off camera. Just saying. Hope you have a blessed day. xo

xtaylor
xtaylor

 @mmmmmmary Just luck to have a good marriage? NOT EVEN CLOSE. These days, people have to work twice as hard to keep a marriage together because everywhere you look, people are divorcing over the DUMBEST things. So when someone attacks a STRONG marriage that's had OVER 20 years of hard work AND raising a family, you DEFEND THAT!!!! Teresa is obviously blind as a bat towards her marriage, and to take the light off of Joe's cheating scandal, she has to point at everyone else. I'm not sure where your hate is coming from, but you can't honestly say that Teresa has sat and been an angel every season.

rhondak
rhondak

 @jerseyviewer12 obviously it's Melissa's prerogative to move because Teresa is the devil..  why do YOU care so much? Get some business.

browsing
browsing

 @DebbieinPhila Maybe they should flip tables and get up off their chairs and chase people around screaming at them. Would you feel better then?

loredana.manfrediniverrilli
loredana.manfrediniverrilli

 @JohnDerik1  @Kymmie

 no she said that her Dad was there for them after their Dad passed away which is far from calling her own aunt a liar.  Kathy, you should take lessons from your beautiful mother's lessons on humility and forgiveness.  Now, that's truly  a classy lady!!!!!! The show has obviously ruined you.  So sad and even more sad that you don't realize that your cousin was trying to protect you.

gettincrazy
gettincrazy

 @JohnDerik1  @mmmmmmary hmm, idk, they're all to blame but the teresa bashing the last 2 seasons has made it almost unbearable to watch. Idk if i'd call it victim as much as defending herself.  As far as selling her stories to the mags telling what she wants the public to know, is her prerogative, not there's.  Remember they have a huge debt to payback, i'd sell my soul to the devil to keep my home and pay my bills, just sayinn

darma34
darma34

 @browsing  @DebbieinPhila

 If someone insulted me at my own dinner party they are lucky it was only a table! One of her guest was attacking her FRIENDS and T stuck up for them and Ya she flipped a table. Did you watch the same episode?