Kathy Wakile

Kathy responds to the accusations in the tabloids.

on Jun 10, 20120

So how’s everyone this week? I want to thank all of you who sent so much love and encouragement to me, my family, and especially to my sister, Rosie. I can’t tell you how much it means to us to know that Rosie’s courageous story touched so many people!

I am going to briefly address this week’s installment of texts, lies, and videotapes! There’s so much out there that needs to be clear, and I feel I can do that with integrity and without having to hurt anyone in the process. Having said that, I know there will be times I will have to bite my tongue and allow the nonsense to just play out in the tabloids! Jacqueline said it best in her interview (and I couldn’t agree more) when she said, “How they get their money is their business.” But I need to set the record straight in words that are truly my own. I never asked my cousin how many times she goes to the mall. That is simply untrue. I would never judge a family member, friend, or any other person in that way. The only checkbook I want to balance is my own! End of story! I want to focus on more important things.

More fun times down at the Jersey shore. Whenever there’s a big group like that we have tons of laughs and we party like rock stars! Many of you asked me last week about the cocktails we were drinking and if I have any good drink recipes. We were drinking Red Velvet Cosmo of course during my shore house party. I will add some serving suggestions at the end of my blog. Make a note of them so you can try it!

On a similar sweet note, I would also like to acknowledge my husband. I am very proud of him, and I am so glad the viewers all got to see yet another side of Rich. It’s that exceptional part of him that is a good listener and a great friend who is deeply devoted to family. Communication, that’s a key ingredient in any healthy relationship, and that’s one of the biggest reasons I love Rich so much. Rich and my cousin Joey share a special brotherhood that is so wonderful to see. If there was any doubt about how fully committed Joey was to reconciling with Teresa just take a look at his face! It does not get any more real than that. It’s a big step for him and definitely out of his comfort zone. It takes a secure person to admit that he may have contributed to the condition of their relationship. It would have been wonderful to know that Teresa was just as committed and would agree to go to therapy just because her brother asked her, even if she doesn’t think she needs it herself. What other reason would anyone need? Let’s just hope for the best.

182 comments
lesliann44
lesliann44

I agree a healthy relationship in life is the communication in the relationship and being friends with your partner or spouse. 

 

I love Rosie she is so great, her story hit me hard.  I was like her I never fit in because I wasn't the hottie tottie in school.  I am straight woman but if I was gay Rosie would be the type of woman I would love to date she is down to earth and she is real not a fake person.

PleasePost
PleasePost

Listen, I do not support Teresa or Joe, I think they are delusional, rude and down-right liars. I say this only because I don't want you to think I'm on anyone's side here. I have a question that I think EVERYONE who watches housewives would like answered. Why did Joe, Melissa, you and Rich come onto a show when a family relationship was already strained. I've tried to justify it in my head every way possible but other than money and fame, I come to the same conclusion. No matter what the answer is, Teresa's action can NOT be justified but please? Can someone answer this for us. Andy, even though Teresa and her husband have shown themselves to be nothing but social climbers - why did the rest of the family agree to come on here when the family was alread so strained. As much as I like Joe (of Melessa n Joe), I honesly think he wanted to catapolt his wife into stardom without regard to his Sister. Please answer this question at the next reunion. and don't brush over it - get the question really answered (without Teresa interupting!!!!).

Dorothy Mellon
Dorothy Mellon

Kathy, I'm hoping that you stay out of the drama. Theresa is trying to stay positive in a very disfuntional situation between (which shouldnt involve everyone else) her and family. I do understand you are part of that family, but choosing sides is NEVER a good idea. Brothers and Sisters need to resolve their issuses among themselves. Jacelyn and Caroline need to stay OUT of it completely. Jacelyn is extremely emotional and being brainwashed by Caroline. I don't know whats up with that woman but watching her this season has been tough. So much anger and cruel. Please try and continue to stay neutral. It shows respect for your family.

Viewer777
Viewer777

Kathy don't listen to some of these viewer comments! U and your family are incredible and your kids are amazing!

MzFitnez
MzFitnez

Good hearted woman, strong family, don't listen to the low level of integrity that the views who support Teresa go on about. People like that blame everyone else for everything...bet the reason they agree with teresa is because they too are "persecuted" in their lives. No worries, nice family, glad to see you also have something going on business wise. God Bless and take care!!!

AmyFromKEntucky
AmyFromKEntucky

Rosie totally ROCKS!!! We want to see more of her. She needs her own show.. Call it " RoSiE's WoRld"... Oh, your not so bad yourself!!! Keep it real, your family is awesome!!!

Seri0usly
Seri0usly

Leave the show. You (and your husband) and Melissa's endless obsession with Teresa is nauseating! The fans want the fun times back on RHONJ!?!

Effy - BR
Effy - BR

Hii sweet Kathy, I don't even know if you gonna read it, but ok. First of all, congratulations for your amazing family, they are all so sweet and kind! About Joey-Teresa situation, I think if she really wanna try to working things out with her brother, she will try everything...doens't matter if she believe or not in therapy, she has to try as his sister... I think Melissa and Teresa liked high school so much, they just can't let it go..it's a ridiculous situation, if I were on RONJ I would be just embarassed of calling my sister in law jealous..and little things like that, they are bullies, that's it!! What I admire on this show is your behavior, you're classy and very clear about what you said/say, you are very honest and it's nice to see it on this show, sooo rare LOl. Pleaaasee just continue like that, we love it! Kisses from Brazil!!!

mrspenc
mrspenc

Wow, there are some crazy accusations going on! It seems like every person is to blame for all of Teresa's actions and words toward others that are hurtful. Apparently you are not allowed to like Teresa unless you attack and spew such hateful things towards you and the other cast mates that have had enough of her bs. How pathetic...

JanePPH
JanePPH

Kathy, you have a beautiful family. From Rich, to your kids, mom and Rosie. You all just love and respect each other. It's a beautiful thing to watch and a reflection of you. Teresa's kids are really violent, bashing/hitting each other, cursing, screaming and Joe G. is the same. Their kids unfortunately have Joe G.'s foul mouth and Teresa's jealous/psychotic ways..very sad! Her kids tell a lot about her. At the end of the day if you watch the show with no sound and just watch ppl's actions and facial expressions, it's obvious Teresa has jealous and insecurity issues and Joe G. is not "juicy" but a fat man who is verbally abusive and angry. Keep livin' your life as you and your family make the show awesome! Rosie's story was very touching and inspiring...what I love most about her is that she's real.

IrishLoca
IrishLoca

Kathy I am a big fan of you and your family. Rich and you seem to have a great marriage, your kids seem so well grounded and your sister Rosie is hysterical. I am glad to see that you and Rosie have such a tight bond. You and Melissa take a lot of heat from Teresa fans and they are constantly talking about how you guys are always putting Teresa down. Are they not watching the show, Teresa does not go out of her way to be nice. I totally agree with you that Teresa has changed -- she was not this way when the show first started, I was a big Teresa fan then but I have come to dislike her ways. While magazines don't always print the truth and she may be correct on that front, the comments in her cookbook came directly from her. . . need I say more. Kathy, keep doing what you are doing and don't change. I think you are a very real person, you try to stay out of drama and I wish you and your family nothing but good things.

teri fish
teri fish

Kathy I don't understand what that pool party was about.Your friend coming on to your sister Rosie in the hot tub??? Very weird.

Jeanmcd
Jeanmcd

Kathy, Thank you for being a class act on RHONJ! Can't wait to try the Red Velvet Cosmo here in Florida!

Jeanmcd
Jeanmcd

Kathy, Thank you for being a class act on RHONJ! Can't wait to try the Red Velvet Cosmo here in Florida!

cherie1964
cherie1964

Hi Kathy, I agree... Theresa gets her own show because then I could watch this show and not see her... Folks this is a TV show meant to entertain...don't get your panties in a wad! If there wasn't any drama than we wouldn't watch..obviously Andy knows this and the producers! Otherwise the questions asked in the interviews and reunion would be non-provoking questions! I do agree that a lot of Theresa lovers come on other people's blogs just to vent...Gheesh I wish people got this fired up about our economy!

lovehw1234
lovehw1234

Kathy I dont believe from watching the show you REALLY want to work things out with Theresa ... you know Melissa wouldn't like THAT.

Mickey20523
Mickey20523

I agree with HIllaryNJ!

I also want to say this -- you, your husband, and the gorgas should be ashamed of partying infront of your kids like that. That is not responsible drinking....how can you possibly think that is ok?

Iowahousewive
Iowahousewive

Kathy. I LOVE YOU! Your family is so great. I love watching the episodes with you, your husband, kids and Rosie. Love Rosie! I think she and I could have a good time.

fabellinigirl
fabellinigirl

Hi Kathy,I must say i was not a fan at first but i moved on from all that got over the fact of the way you came into the show behind Teresa's back. Moving on i wrote last episode about your sister rosie and her courage i give credit where is due.

I also wrote that you are teresa's family and that you guys could work things out but i feel the more you have Melissa around you making nasty comments about her is not going to work.Melissa does not want you and Teresa to talk.She pretends when she is filming but in realty she does not want peace.Your husband is making nasty comments about Teresa all the time he needs to respect she is your family.Teresa has to say what 's really going on because a lot of the other cast members are not saying it like it is sorry but is the truth. I don't see how this show is going to continue the way it is is going to end up being cancelled or a lot of people getting fired.

Dena B.
Dena B.

I like you a lot Kathy, and I really like your family. I can tell you are an amazing mother. I think you got caught up and drank the kool-aid. It is a classic case of group think, and everyone else expanded upon and validated negative feelings you had about Teresa. But stop trying to convince us that Teresa is anything but annoying. She is not a bad cousin and she is certainly not the devil as you all want us to believe. Until you bring something of merit to the viewers, you are going to keep getting "haters" who ironically just "hate" the fact that you are "hating" on your cousin...

You really should be ashamed of yourself. And your in complete denial if you think you are fooling us viewers. We see right through it all. And it's sad that you have allowed your NON blood relative Melissa to brain wash you do much against your own cousin. I believe in Karma though, and every dog gets his day. All you are doing is making viewers bigger Teresa fans!

Murray4
Murray4

Kathy, thanks for keeping it in the positive....as a viewer I am so tired of the two girls fighting.

Show respect
Show respect

We are old school we show respect.......yeah if you know what respect means you would not use that for your opening line.

Your opening line should be.....do as I say and not as I do.

Debster1
Debster1

Kathy, I'm going to need you to remember that Teresa is your family. Your FAMILY. You and Melissa and Joey Gorga are so wrong. It's sad to watch.

OCAlly
OCAlly

I really don’t know what to believe anymore. I just read Tre’s blog and it sounds very possible, magazine’s work like that. I think you all lie. Some of you more than others. Except maybe Jacqueline, because she seems as fed up with all this nonsense as most of us viewers. Caroline was my favorite, until she became so over the top hateful toward Teresa. And I don’t even like Teresa. I think it’s time to retire the RHONJ after the reunion. This story line is becoming quite boring.

OCAlly
OCAlly

I really don’t know what to believe anymore. I just read Tre’s blog and it sounds very possible, magazine’s work like that. I think you all lie. Some of you more than others. Except maybe Jacqueline, because she seems as fed up with all this nonsense as most of us viewers. Caroline was my favorite, until she became so over the top hateful toward Teresa. And I don’t even like Teresa. I think it’s time to retire the RHONJ after the reunion. This story line is becoming quite boring.

Favorite Housewife
Favorite Housewife

I totally believe your husband was in love with Teresa too!!! I thought i was the only one. I wouldn't be cool with my husband being so obsessed over one women. Its just not normal. Kathy you should keep Richie in check, cause Joe Guidice could beat the "you know what" out of him if he ever tries making a move on Teresa.

beanie in STL
beanie in STL

Kathy, love you and your family. Your party looked like so much fun! Something struck me kinda funny and weird... at Jamie and Rich's wedding, Juicy "wished" that maybe he and Teresa have a baby BOY! Could THAT be what juicy is so jealous of Joey Gorga about? (I'm sure joey's material success pisses juicy off, but that "boy" statement got me to wondering! Gotta love these shows. I understand now why some people think people should be given a "test" before having children... Joe AND Teresa!!!!

Erminia (MeX2)
Erminia (MeX2)

Kathy I feel like you try very hard to give people the benefit of the doubt. Always saying you never really know what someone is going through. I feel like Teresa is struggling. How could she not be after all the bankruptcy issues, financial situations? That must be very difficult for anyone , and trying to keep her head and families heads above water is difficult I'm sure. But let's give her credit for busting her butt with books, wines,etc to get the $$$$$$ rolling in for her family. Chris said it best she's trying to build an empire and I hope she does ! She's a hard worker. I hope you maintain your sense of normalcy like you have. and maybe remind the other girls life is tough sometimes and just hang in there .

canadian gal
canadian gal

Kathy your relationship with your immediate family and your friends is something to envy. Not to mention the perception of a great family and relationship with your Husband and kids. Something I wish to have myself one day. Love watching you, your family and sister Rosie every week.

rebeca
rebeca

Kathy, you and Caroline are class acts. Women with values, smarts, back bone and heart. I think any viewer who bashes you must be on the price is right Teresa wagon. I am so disappointment with Teresa. She was at one time my favorite with the Manzo's but now....i have to say she is moving down the charts fassst! her husbands comment to greg was so distasteful and uncalled for. I see no funny in it. his wife's va-j-j seems to have a price!! or is loosy goosey out there.....NOW is that NICE?!?! nooooo so why something so stupid comes from his mouth!? because they are both acting very stupid! they are in quick sand...sad...very sad. Many blessings to you and your family they are beautiful.

Emerald Rose
Emerald Rose

I hate it when people call you boring. Keep doing whatever it is that you are doing because you are the only truely happy person an RHONJ. You don't have to tell all your buisness to be interesting. Keep being you.

Maggie's Mom
Maggie's Mom

You've said that Teresa is not the person she used to be - really? How would you react if your family constantly attacked what you said or did? Whenever you, Melissa or your husband (who obviously thinks he's one of the Housewives) come on camer it only takes about 10 seconds before any or all of you are demeaning Teresa, her husband and her children. It's clear that you and Melissa joined the show with a mission to attack and destroy Teresa. You claim to be the victims but anyone watching the show questions what is wrong with all of you. Your husband needs to shut his mouth - he is definitely one of the chief instigators to demeaning Teresa. Every time he open his mouth he is passing judgment on or attacking her. We, the viewes, see what you're doing and its not working. Here's a question for you - if a family member was in trouble other family members would offer to help (financially, etc) - none of you've done that - why not? Any and all magazines would come to their own conclusions regarding people who are related to the person they are interviewing. The article in that magazine shows how the public and reporter simply sees who you are based on your behavior on that show. It's pretty simply to all of us that it's not Teresa's comments but that of the magazine based on feedback they get from their readers. Teresa and her family are so much better off without all of you. She doesn't deserve all your despicable behavior - you own that.

Rita33
Rita33

Kathy, you make me appreciate my cousins more than I ever did. Thank God my cousins wouldn't sell me out like you have done to Teresa. For what? So you could be on TV, get a nose job, and sell booze? Sad. Very sad.

Viewer4521
Viewer4521

Where is your light blue dress with angle neckline from? Not the beaded one.

disappoint in Ca.
disappoint in Ca.

Please kathy, you guys keep your partying up the real you is showing. Tell Richie and Joey to stay off the camera this is the housewife of New Jersey, stop with all the texting scenes its boring we already know, you want to make up with Teresa blab! blab! blab! JUICY SAID NO. So leave her alone intill you really mean it, do it off camera.

GIVE TERESA HER OWN SHOW!

lawyermom83
lawyermom83

Why does Joey want Teresa to go to therapy on camera? He allegedly first bashed her on camera in an audition tape that has never been addressed by him...why not? Then he very vocally bashed her on camera by calling her garbage, and has been bashing her ever since on camera and on twitter...he has just gotten more sneaky about it by waiting to bring stuff up until the cameras are rolling. How can he and his wife steal Teresa's thunder by making her look bad today?

I see where this is heading and that they will go to therapy, but I will honestly lose respect for Teresa for going. Until Joe and Melissa admit or deny the audition tape or why they contacted Danielle, I don't want to hear anything from them, because the root of all the drama is how they ended up on the show and that is the ONLY thing not being addressed. Everyone has thrown everything but the kitchen sink at Teresa and nothing has stuck yet. The truth is that the drama really began when Teresa got fame and maybe she acted different, but clearly her family could not be trusted.

I like you a lot Kathy, and I really like your family. I can tell you are an amazing mother. I think you got caught up and drank the kool-aid. It is a classic case of group think, and everyone else expanded upon and validated negative feelings you had about Teresa. But stop trying to convince us that Teresa is anything but annoying. She is not a bad cousin and she is certainly not the devil as you all want us to believe. Until you bring something of merit to the viewers, you are going to keep getting "haters" who ironically just "hate" the fact that you are "hating" on your cousin.

I believe Melissa that the problems in your family started before you came on the show (I saw her published Facebook comments bashing Teresa before she was cast), but any idiot can see that coming on a show and broadcasting family problems will do nothing but exacerbate said problems. If you two (or anyone on the RHONJ cast other than Teresa) would just admit that you can see how that would complicate a strained relationship than people would not have to pick sides. I am non-partisan even in politics and I resent the fact that I am felt like I have to pick a side by you ladies on a tv show. I used to love the mindless entertainment that was RHONJ but now I only half watch. I am a busy girl and I can only follow a couple of shows and quite frankly I don't know if I can take much more of this petty stuff.

Oh and P.S., tell Melissa that I read Teresa's blogs from Season 1 again and she uses the same tone. Are we to believe that she has had a ghost writer from day 1? And if so, Melissa and Joey should have followed suit. Nobody with any sense will forget the karma blog anytime soon. Barf!

dbtx
dbtx

The people who need therapy the most are the ones who KNOW they are in the wrong--and DO NOT want to change. I finally got my husband to go to marriage counseling ONCE, (because he is a bully), and as soon as the counselor hit a nerve, he got hostile, angry and it was the last time we went to counseling. Teresa knows she is wrong, she is just too proud to admit it.It's a real shame that she chooses to attack and then play the victim. You have all tried to be fair and cut her some slack, but she is too insecure to admit her problems and not blame everyone else. All of you have my sympathy...and Teresa would have it too, but she says she doesn't need it...because everything is just going great for her.

amorenomore
amorenomore

You should have been chastising Joe Gorga for not going to his sister in person & talking this out not texting her. As for the tabloids...you've been around long enough to know that a lot of times the stories are made up. Even real celebraties know that & often sue them for defamation. Your proud of your husband for the way he speaks/helps joe??? What about the way he digs & jabs at Teresa...maybe he should try talking to her the way he talks to Joe...bet you'd all get along a lot better. Why didn't you berate Caroline for the way she lashed out at Teresa in her interviews, when you saw Teresa was was being nice to her??? Where was your cousin loyalty then? Last but not least...you were on the View??? Sorry missed that (can't stand Joy). How come you didn't express your apprecation to Teresa? Because if it weren't for you being TERESA's cousin, YOU NEVER would've been invited to that show!!

viewer99
viewer99

I shouldn't read the comments because they make me sick to my stomach!!! A bunch of morons. I love you and Richie and your entire family. To "Puna TeriViewer"...I love your "If ignorance was a crime..." blog. Kathy I hope you and your family stay and come back next season.

redglow
redglow

Kathy I just want you to know that I thoughly enjoy watching you and your family. You and your family could teach your cousin a few things. I respect how you handle all the stuff Teresa say about you. Your cousin has huge DISABILITIES! I feel Teresa time should be up on Bravo I am so tired of her.

redglow
redglow

Kathy I just want to say how much I enjoy watching you and your family. You have a great head on your shoulders, and I love the way your husband shows how much he loves you and your children. I know Teresa is your cousin but she has huge DISABILITIES! I wish you all the luck in the future.

london gurl
london gurl

i have just noticed something. The last two episodes have been really good! I loved watching Jamie's wedding. When Kathy & Melissa are removed from the equation, the old gang are back together and giving us the RHONJ we LOVE! BRAVO, I don't mind Kathy but i cant stand Melissa. I think Melissa is actually the problem...these last two episodes proved it. No matter how mad Caroline was at Teresa, they were still laughing and put their differences aside because no one was there to stir the pot! Next week there is more drama & i hear MELISSA'S name...urgh.

please remove Melissa and bring on Jamie or Juicy Joe's sisters.

love from London!xxx

oh no you didn't
oh no you didn't

Kathy you're the best and don't let all these haters on this page get to you. Teresa needs mental help and the best thing for you to do is stay away from her. You can't change an animal stripes! Good luck and you have a wonderful family!!

sky snow
sky snow

.........also since when does anyone automatically believe the tabloids?? You do?? Do you think Teresa also hand selected the pictures they used of all of you. You are over reacting and giving way too much credit to Teresa for what is written. The magazine wants to sell so they are going to hype up anything they hear in an interview. You all just love to hate.

sky snow
sky snow

Actually it is not honest to say that the conversation that went on between Rich and Joe was honest. It was an acting job once again to make Teresa look bad, as if Joe is trying and Teresa isn't. Rich's comments all lead in that direction even insinuating that if Teresa didn't get back to Joe from the wedding she was attending there was no excuse since she was without kids. She was traveling and had a time schedule. It isn't up to Rich to decide when Teresa is available. He was just egging on the situation of whether or when Teresa got back with Joe was right or wrong. Always always a judgment from Rich and trying to sway the viewing audience. Of course Joe and Rich work together on this. The show went into the ditch when all of you joined and agreed with Bravo to make Teresa feel alienated and worked against. I can't watch another season of The Hate Show. I emailed Bravo the same. Tired of it. The first thing Joe did was to bring the magazine into everyone so all of you could do what you do best, hate Teresa.

Ramsey NJ Mom
Ramsey NJ Mom

notice you didn't "defend" what Teresa said in her personal blog and on the view....because you can't.....you and Melissa LIED on the view and Teresa put the truth out there.....can't wait until your 15 minutes is up

3BabyBoys
3BabyBoys

Family members that truly love each other do not go on a tv show and air their dirty laundry, esp. behind a family member's back. It is quite transparent that becoming famous was far more important than your cousin (same for Melissa), and for storylines you are desecrating your family member. It's really sad and transparent. The scene with Joe and Rich was as fake as the professions of reconciliation you, Melissa and Joe constantly spew. Teresa certainly seems to have plenty of flaws, but what kind of family goes on a national tv show to expose them for all to see for fame? Good luck with all this cause 15 minutes runs out fast.

Ummm
Ummm

I really think your entire family is insincere. If you want to patch things up, get off this show--all of you, including Theresa. It's only making things worse. Honestly, saying negative things about Theresa on camera is the same as Theresa saying negative things about the family in a magazine. Don't you see that? How staged was it that the entire cast got ahold of this magazine and commented on it? Melissa has her passive aggressive digs about how Theresa has to do it to make money...come on. This isn't love.

@cali_veronica
@cali_veronica

Kathy come one now!!! Bottom line ur hubby has a thing for Teresa, and you have always known this and of course are so jealous of her! Right? She even said that he made these comments to here that made her feel weird!! So sad that you teamed up with her sisnlaw to bring her down!! And are u kidding me??? Ur husband talked about her financials all along last season...what gives? What show have u been watching??? All the nastiness your husband says to put her down is down right awful!! How can you stand by someone like him??? You have a daughter, could you imagine someone speaking of her like that??