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Kathy Wakile

Texts, Lies, and Videotape

Kathy responds to the accusations in the tabloids.

Jun 10, 2012

So how’s everyone this week? I want to thank all of you who sent so much love and encouragement to me, my family, and especially to my sister, Rosie. I can’t tell you how much it means to us to know that Rosie’s courageous story touched so many people!

I am going to briefly address this week’s installment of texts, lies, and videotapes! There’s so much out there that needs to be clear, and I feel I can do that with integrity and without having to hurt anyone in the process. Having said that, I know there will be times I will have to bite my tongue and allow the nonsense to just play out in the tabloids! Jacqueline said it best in her interview (and I couldn’t agree more) when she said, “How they get their money is their business.” But I need to set the record straight in words that are truly my own. I never asked my cousin how many times she goes to the mall. That is simply untrue. I would never judge a family member, friend, or any other person in that way. The only checkbook I want to balance is my own! End of story! I want to focus on more important things.

More fun times down at the Jersey shore. Whenever there’s a big group like that we have tons of laughs and we party like rock stars! Many of you asked me last week about the cocktails we were drinking and if I have any good drink recipes. We were drinking Red Velvet Cosmo of course during my shore house party. I will add some serving suggestions at the end of my blog. Make a note of them so you can try it!

On a similar sweet note, I would also like to acknowledge my husband. I am very proud of him, and I am so glad the viewers all got to see yet another side of Rich. It’s that exceptional part of him that is a good listener and a great friend who is deeply devoted to family. Communication, that’s a key ingredient in any healthy relationship, and that’s one of the biggest reasons I love Rich so much. Rich and my cousin Joey share a special brotherhood that is so wonderful to see. If there was any doubt about how fully committed Joey was to reconciling with Teresa just take a look at his face! It does not get any more real than that. It’s a big step for him and definitely out of his comfort zone. It takes a secure person to admit that he may have contributed to the condition of their relationship. It would have been wonderful to know that Teresa was just as committed and would agree to go to therapy just because her brother asked her, even if she doesn’t think she needs it herself. What other reason would anyone need? Let’s just hope for the best.

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lesliann44 12 pts

I agree a healthy relationship in life is the communication in the relationship and being friends with your partner or spouse. 

 

I love Rosie she is so great, her story hit me hard.  I was like her I never fit in because I wasn't the hottie tottie in school.  I am straight woman but if I was gay Rosie would be the type of woman I would love to date she is down to earth and she is real not a fake person.

PleasePost 228 pts

Listen, I do not support Teresa or Joe, I think they are delusional, rude and down-right liars. I say this only because I don't want you to think I'm on anyone's side here. I have a question that I think EVERYONE who watches housewives would like answered. Why did Joe, Melissa, you and Rich come onto a show when a family relationship was already strained. I've tried to justify it in my head every way possible but other than money and fame, I come to the same conclusion. No matter what the answer is, Teresa's action can NOT be justified but please? Can someone answer this for us. Andy, even though Teresa and her husband have shown themselves to be nothing but social climbers - why did the rest of the family agree to come on here when the family was alread so strained. As much as I like Joe (of Melessa n Joe), I honesly think he wanted to catapolt his wife into stardom without regard to his Sister. Please answer this question at the next reunion. and don't brush over it - get the question really answered (without Teresa interupting!!!!).

Always classy, much love and blessings to you and your beautiful family!

I'm not sure if Teresa ever responded to the text, but then again I don't really think a text is appropriate for a situation of this magnitutude. I understand that this whole ridiculous feud (which was caused by many) has been going on a while, but therapy should not be forced. I personally think it's weird to go to therapy with a sibling, but maybe they will all go one day. I wish you and your family well and please be supportive of both your cousins. They will still be your family far after this show ends.

"May have contributed to the condition of their relationship"...Really??

I guess your a nice person Kathy but really, you need to tell your husband to stay out of your family business. Its obvious he is trying to create more problems between Joe and Teresa and constantly adds fuel to the fire. Guess you all got on the show by promising to bring Teresa down but all you have really done is make fools out of yourself and create a lot of sympathy for Teresa, with family like you who needs enemies. The Gorgias are just a bunch of hanger-ons and boaring to boot...hope this is your last season. bye

Please your B.S. is getting so old...

So now we are all supposed to think Joey is wonderful and secure because he admitted he MIGHT be part of the problem when Teresa has been admitting it and apologizing for it all along... I think you often only see one side of the story and it is the side from the people who suck up your butt.

Hey Kathy, love you and your family I think its just what the show needed!!!!!!! I don't know how you do it with T, I think I would be done until she got over her self.

Sorry...can't believe you on this point about the question of how Teresa spends her money....you ALL were beating Teresa up about her spending habits at the S3 reunion. You all badgered her about them overspending while being on the verge of bankrupcy and you all acted holier than thou about your own bank accounts... So, it is not a reach to believe what she said, if she even said it in that article. I read that article and it seemed pretty mild and just rehashed gossip that was already out there by the way.... You all were looking for the right club to use to come down on her head. And about her "sincere" brother....bahhhh!!!!....would he be willing to bring up his and Melissa's AUDITION tape in which he pledged to bring his sister down????? Puh...leeeeeesssseeee....

Teresa said, in tonight's episode, that the tabloid reporters ask her questions and she answers them. That, apparently, is where they get all this information that goes into her "stories." Does she simply "forget" what she said, or is it calculated? I guess it really does not matter in the long run. It's not true and paints everyone but her, in a bad light.

It seems ridiculous that the rest of you have to keep doing "clean up" after her, telling us what you did and did not say, since we cannot rely on Teresa for the straight facts. No one should continually have to do that.

Teresa is a mess and she fell down the rabbit hole. And, stayed there.

Don't pay attention to Teresa. She's two faces and a back stabber. I'm sorry you guys have to deal with that. She has forgotten that when she is pointing a finger at each of you, she has three pointed in her direction. She talks out of both sides of her face. One minute she's saying that Joey likes to live in the past yet, she seems to be the one who brings it up ALL of the time. She says horrible things about Melissa and how Joey picks his wife over her yet, she said that Joe was her partner and she puts him first. Her way of thinking is really messed up and it kind of makes me sad for her because, she's wearing rose colored glasses and can't see past the end up her own nose.

I am liking you and Rich more and more, and I am crazy about your two children. They are very cute, and sensitive, and spontaneous, and honest, and just ADORABLE, and I know they didn't get that way by accident. Kudos to their parents!!

You keep it up Kathy, be fair, be real and when you can be family. Don't you think though, those magazines what to sell, so they twist words to make the " story" more interesting to the readers who are looking for the drama. You know this all started because Danielle and Melissa were speaking behind Teresa back, then the interview you guys didn't tell her about until after the fact and to top it all off Melissa and joe talk about subjects she has asked not be mentioned. Everyone gets upset with her but it seems like she is not allowed to be upset with them. Why is that?

Stop plugging your stupid cocktails or whatever it is you're selling.

WHy are you on the show?? your the most boring person on all of Bravo's shows kinda like ALEX was on the NEW YORK WIVES.. you play the person who wants peace, yet your husband says so much maybe he should be on the SHOW.. and i am Italian too and i grew up in the BRONX and I have never seen or heard a man like your husband voice so much on women matters?? and the way he dresses he is way out of his league or is he GOING THROUGH HIS MID-LIFE THING?? really?? the only thing that was interesting this season about you was your sister,, but you stated she didn't come out until in her 30's PLEASE ME AND THE REST OF THE PRIDE FAMILY WANT TO KNOW??? HOW DID YOU ALL NOT TELL?? common?? she's more manly in her old pictures than your husband is in his than and now??? It was soooo noticeable from the moment she first came on last year, like red gravy on spaghetti...,,,Pls make this easy for us all, and not have to watch you on much longer?? like Alex your story is so over the top and boring, I would rather have 100% root canal..with no pain meds, than have to watch your story still play out????

Been watching and watching...what's Ritchie's motivation? What a trouble maker!!!! Watch your back...it may be you guys next season.

Kathy, I honestly like you and think your children and Rosie are great, but you have to admit (and it's NOT in fun - if Joe Guidice doesn't get that card to play, either does Rich). Why did he have to say ONCE again, I'm glad Teresa is not here. She is YOUR cousin, and if MY husband kept continually saying things about my family, I'd let him have it. The other thing is you stated on The View (where you changed your story - go back and look at other interviews, and you need to stop looking at Melissa for approval) that there was a "confidentiality clause", so does that excuse you from telling Teresa from the very beginning of your interview process of possibly being on the show. I gotta tell ya, knowing there were family issues, I'd be upset too! Lastly, I I'm your age, and found the party a bit rough and very "Jersey Shoreish" (as in MTV's Jersey Shore) - definately NOT a good thing. All the kids are there, and you are all getting drunk - not cool. Anyway, just wanted to voice my opinion on those couple of issues.

just want to say that what i heard loud & clear is thae Joe( theresa,s husband wont let her work things out with her brother. Theresa will NOT go against her idiotic , stupid husband! Everything eles she says is an attempt to avoid saying why she really cant make things better with her brother & that is a real shame. Maybe someday she will take a stand against that horses ass of a husband!

Kathy it takes a good brother and a good cousin to not come on a tv show and air their family issues. Joey feels bad now... both Joey and You should have said no. To late for the look on his face. If he truly was a good brother he wouldn't be talking about it to the world it would have been between Teresa and him. Just saying your husband isn't cool he is like an old lady in eveyone's business, thinks he is funny just to be on tv.

You and Melissa have ruined this show. We can no longer watch this show because of it. Hope you don't return next season. The hate you spew is uncalled for, then play innocent and claim you want family unity and peace. PLEASE! Haven't been able to watch a whole episode because of your hatred, and haven't watch any episode in a while.

I think this show was so much more about life and forgiveness than what is written in some stupid magazine. I wish the cast would actually practice forgiveness. This whole saga you and Melissa and Caroline and Jaqueline create about these stupid issues belittles your show. An interview does not equal what is actually put in the magazine. As fans we don't fall for all the hype. So..don't worry so much about words. Most don't buy the magazine and those who do don't "buy" what is written and never 100%. Please give us more credit and don't be so hard on Teresa. You do seem to always hype up the negative. There is always eye rolling and feigned understanding. Not real support. It would be so much nicer if we were watching a supportive NJ family who can make it through whatever the world throws at them TOGETHER. Italians stick together. You may be the nicest basher in the world but you are still bashing... You are so kind, please just leave it alone already they are brother and sister..they will work it out without you.

Kathy, I too am happy Rosie was /is able to "come out " on the show. I had a feeling she was gay the first time I saw her on the show but more than anything I just like HER!!! The way she is with your chidren!!! AWESOME!!! I have nieces & nephews that I am terribly close to & their relationship reminds me of ours. Love you & Rich, he has been giving Joe great advice!!! Hopefully one day soon all the bad/ hurt feelings with everyone will get settled. Life is too short . Good luck!!

First of all...Teresa is NOT the only one of you housewives that have articles in magazines....Melissa has done them as well...but no one mentions them. Her article was harmless and blown wayyyyy out of proportion.

As far as the bash at Melissa and Joe's house...that was so much more inappropriate than any article written by Teresa. The way that you adults conducted yourselves with children in attendance was deplorable!!! Check yourselves!

Kathy I can only commend you for being classy and keeping it real. I wholeheartedly believe that you want peace within your family. I encourage you to just keep doing what you are doing and hopefully things work out. Life is too short for arguing over silly things. All this because everyone wants to be on a TV show. I think the greatest thing that Teresa and Joe can do is to stop putting their personal business out there, get the help they need (whether its through therapy or otherwise) and try to mend their relationship. We are the greatest examples to our children and they need to realize that.

Loved your outfit and yes your butt did show, but it looked great! Congrats on the Red Velvet Cosmo!

This is intended for Bravo not you Kathy -- Seriously you should change the name of the show to Scripted Kind of Real Housewives of New Jersey. Could it possibly be a coincidence that at the Chicago hotel, both Caroline and Jaq got copies of In Touch and then wow ya'll did on the shore too in the same episode. HMmmmm, come on Bravo we aren't stupid.

Kathy, I think you have went over and above being a good person to Teresa. She has completely lost her mind. She has let the jealousy of her brother and his wife consume her life. I can't imagine what her children will think when they are old enough to watch the show. She needs to take a break from the show and get back to reality. She isn't the richest, brightest, prettiest or wittiest any more. She is now pathetic. I can't imagine how low you are to sell stories to the rag mags. You must be really digging the bottom of the barrel to want to even talk to them let alone sell your own family down the river. As a family member, you all need to say enough is enough and let her learn her lesson. I wouldn't say one word to her and then she can run to the rag mags and say no one is talking to me so I have nothing to sell

Kathy, you are such a liar just like Melissa. All you ever do is bash Teresa.

Are you also proud of the mean comments that your husband makes about your cousin that you didn't put in your wedding ok Kathy you are so " old school italian" and did I mention how loyal you were geesh with family like you who needs enemies!

Thank you for not having a hate filled blog. Its really hard to watch this season. The whole cast sits around and talks of nothing but Teresa. Its getting old and the show is not fun to watch. Its sad to see how oblivious she was to everyone (Especially Jax) talk and react so negatively behind her back. I did not even like Tre the first season, but its so apparent that her family came on this show to expose every negative thing about her they could. Tre never said anything negative about her family in season 1. They came on the show and bashed her in the first episode. They happily put all their family drama out there and now everyone wants to blame Tre for everything wrong with everyone. I hope this is the last season. This show has taken a turn for the worst.

i personally think kathy and most especially rich instigate a lot of the commotion surrounding theresa; they snidely vow to stand by family but rich always gets a little dig in here and there just to stir up a little trouble; why keep pushing joe to text his sister.... to go to therapy with his sister.... to rehash things being written in the papers.... practically repeat word for word things being said whether true or untrue.... loyalty does not mean sharing everything with the world..... loyalty is dealing with family with family privately and in a way that is supportive and not public knowledge

with respect to kathy's sister rosie..... she is not the first person who has faced discrimination.....who has had to deal with hurtful and vile people... who lived in fear of her family's reaction... this does not mean she has to publically appear before millions of viewers flaunting all the negative behavior many if not all bigots believe is normal gay behavior... there is nothing wrong with being gay and having respect for yourself and others... her behavior in the hot tub especially knowing her nephew and niece were in the house was totally inappropriate and disrespectful to kathy's home and to the people she invited over''

after hearing theresa's husband's "threats" to her in the car during the most recent telecast regarding her parents bein HER home and who she does or does not react with was despeciable; as a supposedly concerned family member kathy and rich did not make any comment... yet they have no trouble berating her in public before millions of people for things less serious than this; it's almost like seeing a women being beat in the supermarket and walking away only to complain to the checkout person about the flavor ice the woman bought for her children.

I like you Kathie ,here is a warning to your gentle heart,dont get to much more involved in Joey and Teresas touble, and I don't want to see you in it. I've had a struggle with both my siblings, when i backked off tryingto help things worked their way out. Nothing is ever the same, and get worse when people interfear. My beautiful uncle married legally 12 yrs ago inHolland aand when he came back to Canada he and his love remarried again. The healthiest man my uncle is he love makes him eat and laugh .My Memere would love him. Best to lovely Roosie she cracks me up.

I just love you and Rich and the kids, Kathy. I wish we could be friends! Keep it real, baby....Laura in FL

STAY OUT OF THE SET UPS AGAINST YOUR COUSIN TERESA! WE LOVE YOU! I NOW THINK YOU ARE SINCERE....(not last season) WE REALLY LIKE YOU BUT TELL YOUR HUSBAND TO STAY OUT OF THE STAGED SCENES AGAINST TERESA AND JOE! IT IS SO TRANSPARENT!!!!!!! STAY OUT OF IT KATHY!

Kathy ... Teresa is your cousin, PLEASE stop the gossip about her. You don't like her fine. You hate her fine. But to trash talk her ALL THE TIME, then say something like Teresa's my cousin, I love her, is insulting to those of us who really do love our family members. For once please tell the truth.You joined your cousin's show behind her back. You did a radio interview when you first signed onto the show with one story, you blogged another version, then on The View you tell yet another story. You blog that we see another side of Richie this episode ... Not really. We see him yet again butting into the relationship of YOUR cousins. He also once again trash talks YOUR cousin Teresa. Shameful. Does your husband have nothing better to do that sit around and insert himself in the Gorga family issues? He's like an old yenta. He said he's glad Teresa and Joe weren't at the party ... looking at that party I don't think they missed much. Sometimes you seem so above it all. But this week, with The View and this blog, you obviously are just as petty as some of your castmates. You really should look at yourself and quit going along with what you think will make good TV or doing what the other women want you do. You are NOT perfect, Kathy.

Kathy, I want, first of all, to thank you for replying to my Tweet to you regarding Rosie's bravery on last week's show. I love that wonderful sister of your's so much for who she is. She has helped me see what life has been like for her and I know she is opening people's minds and hearts everytime we see her. I wish Bravo would come up with a format for a show for Rosie that would help other's to learn more about gay people and how they are just that, People. I also want to commend you for your appearance on The View and maintaining your dignity and showing constant respect for others. I am never disappointed in your comments and total honesty and more than anything your loving heart toward others. And Rich is great too! His talk with Joe Gorga was touching. I realy hope you will consider putting a book out there with your fantastic original recipes for food and drinks. I can't run to the PC everytime I want to look something up and I would love to have a book by Kathy Walkile On the counter in my kitchen. Love you, Rich, the kids and OMG, Rosie so much.

Kathy, very nice blog.It's nice to see you ladies are catching on to Teresa's tricks. I wish all of you would wait at least once for Teresa to post first, since it's clear she waits for you ladies to blog, and let the comments come in...then she spins her story to suit her purpose. I would be as fake and nice as I could be around her since all she wants is to sell a story..any story....damned if I would give her one!

At that party, I thought all of you acted very immature. All of you live these fairy tale lives and bash each other constantly; love & kisses, then hate & backstabbing. My son is in Afghanistan and I'm not even sure why I'm commenting here. All I know is I used to watch the show for entertainment and now all it does is make me sad that you all have so much and really don't appreciate it as much as those of us here without our loved ones nearby. Maybe if you had to wake up every morning and wait to see if a white Army van is coming down your driveway to bear bad news you could all think more about what's really important in this precious lifetime. But then "it's just a show" right?

At this point, you have not been that bad towards Teresa. Why don't you two alone meet up for lunch. I think you could be close with her if you didn't have Melissa involved. Your husband has been supportive of Joe. Maybe the two of you could help solve this....don't join the bandwagon.

another housewife trying to peddle her wares. this is getting old.

i'm so tired of hearing the same old song and dance from you. we get it. you and melissa are SO innocent. you support "poor" joey. their party was disgusting. NO class! who i really feel sorry for is their neighbors!!

teresa was smart not to go to therapy with joey. he would have broadcasted the details everywhere... in his own twisted words. i don't believe for a second that he was actually willing to go. he just knew teresa wouldn't. yet another set up to make her look like a villian and you guys look like angels. not buying it.

btw, i FF through all of melissa's scenes, and now yours. so staged and transparent. *yawn* i hope teresa gets her own show so i don't have to watch the rest of you anymore. already WAY more interested in the NY ladies.

I HOPE THAT BRAVO DOES NOT RENEW YOUR CONTRACT FOR THE NEXT SEASON. YOU CAME ON WITH AN AGENDA TO HELP DESTROY TERESA AND MAKE HER LOOK BAD. YOU AND MELISSA SHOULD OWN UP TO YOUR CALCULATING WAYS. WE DON'T NEED TO READ BETWEEN THE LINES CAUSE WE CAN SEE RIGHT THROUGH YOU.

Say what?? You weren't even at Jaimie's wedding!! How can you tell us how wonderful it was? What gives here anyway?????

Kathy....I have come to love you as one of my favorite housewives out of ALL of the franchises. You are a kind, sweet, peacemaker and your great character is represented in your beautiful children. God bless and best wishes to you and Rich and your children. You deserve all the happiness in the world.

I enjoyed most of the housewives I am glad some are gone and wish it was a show with real stories instead of hear say and backbitting. teresa is not the only one who needs to watch what she says about people. mean hateful remarks on camera in you alone views tells one so much. If I want to hear this junk I would visit my family hope for happy shows or I will not watch.

I felt bad for you this episode. You have absolutely no storyline. I only recall you walking into Melissa's house. I think your husband got more screen time than you did this episode.

Really love watching you & your family each week. I admire your creative cooking. Your truely an artist with food & entertaining. I started to say something about Teresa, but decided you don't deserve to lose any of your shine for that family. If ignorance were a crime, the two of them would get a mandatory life sentence! Your a wonderful role model, we need alot more like you in TVLand.

Happy to hear"Victorious Angels" is doing so well! Victoria is a beautiful girl and it's wonderful to see her and your son so close. I have to say, if i had a SIL that said, my love for my brother, was "weird" and did so PUBLICLY, encouraging others to TWIST the meaning of that love and bond between a brother and sister, and then to boot, that brother adds more fuel to a fire that had no business ever being started, well, I wouldn't trust the motives here by SIL. Of course, neither of my brothers married women who have issues with their husbands being close to their sisters. Thank God! Maybe, Joe Gorga doesn't understand that a therapy session would be CONFIDENTIAL, unless of course, he & Mel wanted them to film their sessions??? I guess if you accuse a sister of being too close to your husband(Her brother)one minute, but then turn around and say ''go to therapy WITH my husband", the next minute, most sisters would have lost any sense of trust by that point. Just try putting, your own son and daughter in the same situation. If Victoria's love for Joseph was twisted into something unnatural, by his wife no less, would you still want her to go, knowing Victoria had been humiliated already more then once with Joseph and his wife? Creepy Right! You just don't do to a brother and sister what Missy did...

You are the sweetest, and I am glad you joined the cast and gave us all a chance to meet you and your family. You daughter is beatuiful and your son and husband are so funny, I get a kick out of both of them. Rosie is such a nice, caring and brave women and I hope she find what ever she is looking for in a partner. Best of luck to you

Finally a nice refreshing no bashing blog ! Thank- you, Very classy !!

Until you and Melissa come clean about both your motivations and your methods surrounding your coming onto the show, the majority of people will not trust you. Melissa has lied and contradicted herself too many times to count, and you are not being entirely honest. I will give you this - at least you seem a bit more uncomfortable with your deception; Melissa is a much better liar. You have a choice - you can start being honest or you can hone your skills at walking that fine line between "technically true" and honest. Hopefully, you have not reached the point where you actually believe your own spin. If that's the case then you are lost.