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That's the Way the Cookie Crumbles

Kathy comments on the Cookiegate 2012 scandal.

This summer everyone and everything seems to be growing in the Garden State.

Congratulations to all of our ladies for branching out and taking on the next set of challenges as we all move into the next chapter of our lives.

My most important concern is and always has been my husband and my kids, which makes me no different from most housewives. Rich and I have always made sure to express to our children the importance of setting goals. We believe the best way to accomplish this is to lead by example. Through honest hard work they can achieve whatever they put their minds to, even if it means starting out very small and working your way up.

I was thrilled to have the opportunity to work with Gelotti’s and have a sampling of some of my new gelato creations. I didn’t need any fanfare or glitzy over-the-top signs or billboards to draw anyone’s attention. The desserts spoke for themselves. My feeling is that you give people your passion and your heart and wait for their response. This was a sampling of the type of desserts I like to make. They are small individual-sized portions with the finest and freshest seasonal ingredients. In this way you can indulge in a decadent treat without sacrificing flavor and still be able to maintain a healthy, balanced lifestyle. I’ve always felt that depriving yourself while dieting is a set up for failure. That’s why instead of cutting down fat or sugar content in a dessert, I believe that it’s the portion size that needs to be cut. You can be just as satiated with a burst of decadence in just two or three spoonfuls. I had made over 700 desserts for the sampling, and I was overjoyed that every dessert was gone by the end of the night. I did, however, manage to save some for the next day.

Check out this video from I am proud to say that I had some very experienced critics sampling too.

So even if I had signs made from construction paper, I also had something that’s much more valuable. I had the heart and soul of my life there supporting me and working hard to help me achieve my goals: my family. And that’s everything to me. Regardless of how much success you may achieve, to me it means nothing at all unless my family is there to share it along with me. That’s one sacrifice I will never make.

I want to thank everyone for the overwhelming response to my desserts. I have been working very hard to find a way for you all to taste them as well. Pretty soon they will be available to be delivered to your doorstep. So stay tuned! Dolci della Dea-Goddess Sweets by Kathy Wakile will be available soon.

Which brings me to what looks to be shaping up to be Cookiegate Part Deux! I went to Teresa’s book signing at the bakery because I wanted to let her know how proud I was of her by showing our support. However, as I’m enjoying and complimenting her cupcakes, she manages to slip in a dig. Teresa proceeds to tell me that a dessert cookbook will never be successful, because everyone is watching their weight these days. Kind of ironic don’t you think? Will someone please remind her that we are standing in a BAKERY! Even funnier is that she has the nerve to say I made a passive aggressive comment. LOL.

Anyway, as Teresa flips through the pages, I notice the pictures of cookie’s my mom often makes. My mother, her mother, as a matter of fact, probably a lot of Italian mothers. Who cares? She doesn’t even have a pizzelle recipe in that book, just a recipe using store bought! Isn’t it a family cookbook? Why so defensive? I know my mother and her mother are not sisters, which she made such a vivid point of in her blog last week. I never claimed that they were sisters. Again, who cares? None the less, they are family and family shares recipes all the time. Are we now going to start a war over a teaspoon of vanilla or 1/2 cup of sugar? Please, Teresa, get over it! Stop being so petty! But I guess that’s just how the cookie crumbles. No pun intended (or should I say no crumbs intended).
Hold onto whatever you need to, because California here we come!

As always, you can catch up with me on my website and through my newsletter at I appreciate your patience as my site has been a little quirky lately. Updates are in the works and a new, easier to navigate site is on its way. Follow me on Facebook and Twitter @KathyWakile @RichardWakile @VictoriaWakile @JosephWakile @RosiePierri!

Red Velvet Cosmo is now available throughout New Jersey, Florida, and Connecticut wherever spirits are sold. I have many more exciting things coming soon so stay tuned!

Lots of Love,
xoxo Kathy

P.S. Special thanks to Sal Sigona and his staff at Gelotti’s. Check them out on Facebook.



Amber: Is Dina Coldhearted?

Amber Marchese dishes on her first reunion and why Dina Manzo confuses her.

Hello Housewife friends!  Welcome to the jungle baby! My first reunion was a wild ride. Call me sick and twisted, but I had an unbelievable time at the reunion when most, I have been warned, dread it. I felt like it was “The Great Purge” and when I went home I was felt relieved of any built up tension. I don’t care if anyone has a grudge against me, my slate is clean and I harbor no ill feelings towards anyone. I love to argue my point, and I truly stood by all of my convictions this season, so I was ready to say exactly what was on my mind, and then some. 

I know the twins and I went at one another pretty hard, but that is what the reunion is all about. It is an opportunity to get it all out and potentially understand one another's position better. Then we can each make our own decisions as to where we want to go with our relationships. I am very much the type of person that can say some of the meanest things and sling mud, but hug it out at the end forgetting anything negative that was said. It just rolls off my back. I actually think it is healthier to say what needs to be said, and then move on.

One thing I did question after the reunion was if Dina actually has a heart or if I should start calling her the Tin Man. I actually have not figured her out yet. Is she really just a coldhearted bitch, or has she been hurt so many times that she has become warped and jaded. I feel I don’t owe anyone any reason as to why I call cancer “the cancer,” but I will give it once more anyhow. “The cancer” is “the monster” to me. It is a way for me to take away its power and to minimize it. “It” destroys lives, so “it” does not deserve a name. It is just “the cancer” -- it was “the monster” or “the dragon.” Although Dina claims to have an understanding of how devastating cancer is to a family, her actions and blatant lack of empathy proves otherwise.

In addition, I did not think it was appropriate for me to interject into family quarrels at the reunion; however, this is something that I feel strongly about. I have met Jaqueline and I have spoken to her on many occasions. In the very short time that I have gotten to know Jaqueline, I know and have empathy with the struggles she has caring for Nicholas. I felt that Dina’s interpretation of her nephew was callous and completely out of touch with reality. The only thing that keeps playing in my mind is, "You know nothing John Snow."  No, thank God, he is not hooked up to machines with cancer; however, what the Laurita family goes through is extremely difficult on a day to day basis that will continue on for a lifetime. It is emotionally and financially devastating. Although, Dina "visits" children with cancer, at the end of her visit she gets to go home, leaving it behind and goes on with her daily life. Since Dina does work with children with cancer, I pray that she can abstain from a self-absorbed lifestyle and become a loving, involved aunt.