Cast Blog: #RHONJ

Truth is Stranger Than Fiction

Amber Calls Out Andy Cohen

Dina: What am I Doing Here?

Amber: Is Dina Coldhearted?

Dina: "The Reunion was Very Hard to Watch"

Teresa: We Love Hard, We Fight Hard

Dina: The Ladybug Event was Perfection

Amber: I Felt I Like I Was Being Hazed

Melissa: Continue to Pray for Teresa's Family

Why Amber Shares Her Cancer Story

Dina: I Was Team Santa

Teresa: I Don't Blame Jim

Bobby's Unacceptable Behavior

Amber: Dina is Jealous

Melissa: "We are Heartbroken"

Dina Reacts to the Sentencing

Kathy Talks Kevin Jonas

Amber: Dina Was Planning a Blood Bath

Jim and Amber Were on Different Pages

Dina on Bobby's "Bizarre" Behavior

Amber Calls BS on Dina

Nicole: Words are So Powerful

Teresa: "Kudos to Dina!"

Teresa: I Love the Show, I Love My Fans

Praying for a Positive Outcome for Teresa

"Tipsy Melissa is My Spirit Animal"

Dina's Lose-Lose Situation

Jacqueline on Her Status with Teresa

Why Teresa Told Dina the Rumor

Amber on Her Cancer Scare

Teresa: There was an Agenda to Hurt My Family

Melissa: I Do Feel for Amber

Dina: Gia's Beautiful Inside and Out

Nicole: This is Not 'Jerry Springer'

Amber on Her Meltdown with Teresa

Amber's Emotional Call to Teresa

Teresa Thanks the Fans

Dina: Florida Will Be the New Scary Island

Teresa: I Wish I Never Heard the Rumor

Amber on the Shocking Rino Rumor

Victoria Gotti's Big No No

Truth is Stranger Than Fiction

Kathy Wakile reflects back on the events of the Posche fashion show.

So here we are at the end. Believe me viewers, there is no pun intended. As I watched the scenes of the final episode I realized that while I was sitting at the table enjoying my salad, there seemed to be a whole other show going on. Apparently a lot of things were happening. I often wonder to myself, why is it that I do not pick up on these things as they are happening? Or is it that I just choose to block out ugly situations and try to believe that there is a logical explanation for everything? Unfortunately watching this it is obvious that the events of that evening were definitely orchestrated, and not a coincidence. 

Human nature has proven that you can take any group of people and allow them to view the same scenario and each person will take away something different based on their emotions, personal identification with the players, or just plain willingness to side with one party or another.

So as I sit to write this blog, I think it would be best to remove my emotions from the mix and just present you all with the facts we’ve all seen involving the events of that evening. It occurred to me that the old saying that truth is stranger than fiction was in play here for sure. You can’t make this stuff up folks. The Set-Up: To paint a negative picture of Melissa at a public event by exposing her alleged past employment as a stripper.

The Players: Teresa; Kim D; The Bald Guy aka Angelo, former strip club manager conveniently  turned PR agent for a day; Melissa; Jacqueline; Caroline; Lauren; and me.  

The Motive: To destroy Melissa’s reputation, embarrass her, and ultimately try to destroy a happy family of five.

The Clues: Body Language, Facial Expressions, Accusations

The Evidence:

1. There isn’t any evidence to support the statements or claims made by the creepy “Bald Guy” that Melissa was a dancer for him, so everyone will just have to take his word for the truth.

2. The texts Jacqueline was receiving all evening from a mutual friend of both she and Teresa. The texts were being sent to inform Jacqueline there was going to be some serious drama that evening. Drama that Teresa, Kim D, and “The Bald Guy” had carefully planned out at the expense of one of the lady’s reputation.     3. The Candid Taped Confession: Ah, finally some real visual evidence. The conversation the creepy “Bald Guy” was having with some woman in the distance while forgetting he was still wearing a mic. (This is reality TV, if you think because the camera is not directly in your vision you’re not being filmed, you’re wrong. Let’s not forget, in reality TV the walls have ears! Or in other words when you are mic’d or near a mic, you’re being recorded and someone is always listening.) During this conversation “The Bald Guy” gives us a confession and admission to the big drama for the evening and the players involved in the setup.     

The Plot: The events get weirder by the minute as we reach crescendo and the key players start to play the blame game, while handing out accusations and lies.

The Finale: Cast members are angry, hurt, disillusioned, tired, and wondering how on earth we will be able to make some sense of this and get up at 5:00am to be ready to film a reunion with some civility. And then, the unintended finale… It is obvious from facial expression and body language that Jacqueline is in a complete state of shock and is having a meltdown. A sense of sadness and futility pervades the conclusion of this melodrama.

The next morning we find ourselves at the Count Bassie Theater in Red Bank, New Jersey sitting beside one another without Jacqueline. 

Where do we go from here? Well it’s been a year since we’ve all been together in one room. Tune in next week to see how that goes.

Lots of Love,
xoxo
Kathy

Amber: Is Dina Coldhearted?

Amber Marchese dishes on her first reunion and why Dina Manzo confuses her.

Hello Housewife friends!  Welcome to the jungle baby! My first reunion was a wild ride. Call me sick and twisted, but I had an unbelievable time at the reunion when most, I have been warned, dread it. I felt like it was “The Great Purge” and when I went home I was felt relieved of any built up tension. I don’t care if anyone has a grudge against me, my slate is clean and I harbor no ill feelings towards anyone. I love to argue my point, and I truly stood by all of my convictions this season, so I was ready to say exactly what was on my mind, and then some. 

I know the twins and I went at one another pretty hard, but that is what the reunion is all about. It is an opportunity to get it all out and potentially understand one another's position better. Then we can each make our own decisions as to where we want to go with our relationships. I am very much the type of person that can say some of the meanest things and sling mud, but hug it out at the end forgetting anything negative that was said. It just rolls off my back. I actually think it is healthier to say what needs to be said, and then move on.

One thing I did question after the reunion was if Dina actually has a heart or if I should start calling her the Tin Man. I actually have not figured her out yet. Is she really just a coldhearted bitch, or has she been hurt so many times that she has become warped and jaded. I feel I don’t owe anyone any reason as to why I call cancer “the cancer,” but I will give it once more anyhow. “The cancer” is “the monster” to me. It is a way for me to take away its power and to minimize it. “It” destroys lives, so “it” does not deserve a name. It is just “the cancer” -- it was “the monster” or “the dragon.” Although Dina claims to have an understanding of how devastating cancer is to a family, her actions and blatant lack of empathy proves otherwise.

In addition, I did not think it was appropriate for me to interject into family quarrels at the reunion; however, this is something that I feel strongly about. I have met Jaqueline and I have spoken to her on many occasions. In the very short time that I have gotten to know Jaqueline, I know and have empathy with the struggles she has caring for Nicholas. I felt that Dina’s interpretation of her nephew was callous and completely out of touch with reality. The only thing that keeps playing in my mind is, "You know nothing John Snow."  No, thank God, he is not hooked up to machines with cancer; however, what the Laurita family goes through is extremely difficult on a day to day basis that will continue on for a lifetime. It is emotionally and financially devastating. Although, Dina "visits" children with cancer, at the end of her visit she gets to go home, leaving it behind and goes on with her daily life. Since Dina does work with children with cancer, I pray that she can abstain from a self-absorbed lifestyle and become a loving, involved aunt.