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An Honest Mistake?

Melissa celebrates her anniversary and weighs in on the toast drama.

Hi lovers!

Today is my 8-year wedding anniversary to the love of my life. I'm very proud of the family we created together and the bond we have. Marriage is never easy; you constantly have to work on it. I put my all into my marriage and show Joe respect -- I respect him as a father and as a husband more than words can say. We are so blessed and I am grateful. He's truly the love of my life!
So we are still in Cali! How gorgeous is the estate we stayed at? Now this is vacation. It was truly breathtaking! The vineyard Chris and the boys took us to visit was so much fun. I had no idea it was supposed to be just business! The Manzo/Laurita clan didn’t look so happy. Sorry, guys! We were on vacation and there was wine everywhere… I don't think we should have gone on that business trip! LOL! We probably should have stayed at the estate and let them do their business thing.
The surprise 50th birthday dinner for Caroline was so sweet and so special coming from her family. I love the bond that family has, they are unbreakable. Whenever I see them all together, I always think of my own family with one girl and two boys. I know we will be as happy as they are when I'm 50! God bless them. The speeches were perfect, and we all shed a tear!

I'm not going to get into the phone call we saw Joe have. I didn't like it when Teresa made accusations about my marriage, so I'm not going to do it to hers. They have four daughters that need to be protected from this, so I will leave it to Joe and Teresa to explain it. How they choose to live within their marriage has nothing to do with any of us. I was very upset when I watched the episode, and I wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy. We may have our differences, but I would never want this to happen to her.

When Teresa and I were talking in the RV, I thought it was hysterical! I was teasing her and she was laughing. It was perfect. I needed to explain to her that when she puts out these articles about her marriage and kids in a magazine and accepts a paycheck, then it's no longer just her business, it is now everyone's business. So she can't get upset when people discuss it. I felt like she was listening to me, but I'm not sure, because I just saw another one yesterday. To each their own. Just trying to help and get her past this hump. I did think Teresa was trying to make a nice toast, but the fact that she mentioned all the ladies besides Kathy ruined it. I can see why Kathy was upset and a little embarrassed. Relationships aren't about taking turns. It shouldn't be that it's either one relationship or the other. It might have just been an honest mistake. Not really sure, what do you guys think?

Well there's more California to come! Thank you all for being such great fans. I love reading all your tweets and beautiful comments. I heart you all!
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Lots of Love,

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Amber: Is Dina Coldhearted?

Amber Marchese dishes on her first reunion and why Dina Manzo confuses her.

Hello Housewife friends!  Welcome to the jungle baby! My first reunion was a wild ride. Call me sick and twisted, but I had an unbelievable time at the reunion when most, I have been warned, dread it. I felt like it was “The Great Purge” and when I went home I was felt relieved of any built up tension. I don’t care if anyone has a grudge against me, my slate is clean and I harbor no ill feelings towards anyone. I love to argue my point, and I truly stood by all of my convictions this season, so I was ready to say exactly what was on my mind, and then some. 

I know the twins and I went at one another pretty hard, but that is what the reunion is all about. It is an opportunity to get it all out and potentially understand one another's position better. Then we can each make our own decisions as to where we want to go with our relationships. I am very much the type of person that can say some of the meanest things and sling mud, but hug it out at the end forgetting anything negative that was said. It just rolls off my back. I actually think it is healthier to say what needs to be said, and then move on.

One thing I did question after the reunion was if Dina actually has a heart or if I should start calling her the Tin Man. I actually have not figured her out yet. Is she really just a coldhearted bitch, or has she been hurt so many times that she has become warped and jaded. I feel I don’t owe anyone any reason as to why I call cancer “the cancer,” but I will give it once more anyhow. “The cancer” is “the monster” to me. It is a way for me to take away its power and to minimize it. “It” destroys lives, so “it” does not deserve a name. It is just “the cancer” -- it was “the monster” or “the dragon.” Although Dina claims to have an understanding of how devastating cancer is to a family, her actions and blatant lack of empathy proves otherwise.

In addition, I did not think it was appropriate for me to interject into family quarrels at the reunion; however, this is something that I feel strongly about. I have met Jaqueline and I have spoken to her on many occasions. In the very short time that I have gotten to know Jaqueline, I know and have empathy with the struggles she has caring for Nicholas. I felt that Dina’s interpretation of her nephew was callous and completely out of touch with reality. The only thing that keeps playing in my mind is, "You know nothing John Snow."  No, thank God, he is not hooked up to machines with cancer; however, what the Laurita family goes through is extremely difficult on a day to day basis that will continue on for a lifetime. It is emotionally and financially devastating. Although, Dina "visits" children with cancer, at the end of her visit she gets to go home, leaving it behind and goes on with her daily life. Since Dina does work with children with cancer, I pray that she can abstain from a self-absorbed lifestyle and become a loving, involved aunt. 

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