Cast Blog: #RHONJ

Breaking Down the Wall

Melissa Gorga thinks the Napa trip helped bring her and Teresa closer than before.

Hi Lovers!

I’m so glad you got to see a fun episode! The California trip was amazing, and you haven’t seen anything yet. The best stuff is still coming! We had so much fun on that trip. I can honestly tell you from the bottom of my heart that I loved every single minute of it. I had no regrets sharing the RV with Teresa and Joe. I was happy to be with family, and I was truly enjoying myself! I have to say Teresa and I can be really funny together, right?

I felt bad that Joe had to drive the RV the whole time, but he was a good sport and had fun with it. Getting there was a nightmare with Hurricane Irene. I get extremely car sick on long rides and that this trip was looong. Not fun! Let’s just say I was not a happy camper. But when we finally got there it was all worth it. Living in Jersey we don’t get to see views like that. Don’t get me wrong, we have the incredible NYC skyline, but we never get to see the mountainsides like that and all the beautiful vineyards. Just wait to see the next place we go, it’s incredible!Teresa was killing me while we were talking to the neighbors! LOL! They were explaining to us that they live there all year round. They were not on vacation, they live in the RVs and wake up to that beautiful view every day. Teresa was just not having it! It’s kind of funny to sit back now and watch, I remember the conversation feeling so awkward!

The talk between me and Teresa on the beach was real and honest. She told me how she felt about the recipe situation with Kathy, and I told her how I felt about everything that was going on. I know she doesn’t have a sister to come in and give her advice on certain things, so I was trying to break down that wall and step in with what I thought was sisterly advice. I don’t sugar coat things -- I call it like I see it. I like when people are open and honest with me, so that’s what I was trying to do for her, hoping it could help mend her other relationships. I think she appreciated it and actually tried to listen to me. I felt good walking away from that conversation.

We are breaking ground here folks! Are you loving it?Well I’d love to tell you more about California, but I don’t want to give too much away!

Lastly I want to thank everyone that has been coming out to support me at my appearances and performances. I am so grateful for everything, and I love meeting you all! The Pool After Dark at Harrah’s in Atlantic City this past weekend was amazing -- over 2,000 people came out! Wow! What an amazing night. I apologize to anyone that couldn’t get in, they were over capacity and only letting two in as two came out. Some of my cousins couldn’t even get in! I felt so bad! Thank you again.

I’m so excited to tell you I finally shot my first music video this week! It’s for my new song “I Just Wanna”. It felt so unbelievable, and I can’t wait for you to hear this song and see the video. You are going to love it! A huge thank you to Jelsomino in the Dream Hotel for letting us shoot there! All of my songs are on iTunes! Here’s the link!
All my appearances that are coming up are on my website. Hope to meet you at one of them! Follow me on Twitter for the scoop @melissagorga and on Facebook.
Lots of Love,

Amber: Is Dina Coldhearted?

Amber Marchese dishes on her first reunion and why Dina Manzo confuses her.

Hello Housewife friends!  Welcome to the jungle baby! My first reunion was a wild ride. Call me sick and twisted, but I had an unbelievable time at the reunion when most, I have been warned, dread it. I felt like it was “The Great Purge” and when I went home I was felt relieved of any built up tension. I don’t care if anyone has a grudge against me, my slate is clean and I harbor no ill feelings towards anyone. I love to argue my point, and I truly stood by all of my convictions this season, so I was ready to say exactly what was on my mind, and then some. 

I know the twins and I went at one another pretty hard, but that is what the reunion is all about. It is an opportunity to get it all out and potentially understand one another's position better. Then we can each make our own decisions as to where we want to go with our relationships. I am very much the type of person that can say some of the meanest things and sling mud, but hug it out at the end forgetting anything negative that was said. It just rolls off my back. I actually think it is healthier to say what needs to be said, and then move on.

One thing I did question after the reunion was if Dina actually has a heart or if I should start calling her the Tin Man. I actually have not figured her out yet. Is she really just a coldhearted bitch, or has she been hurt so many times that she has become warped and jaded. I feel I don’t owe anyone any reason as to why I call cancer “the cancer,” but I will give it once more anyhow. “The cancer” is “the monster” to me. It is a way for me to take away its power and to minimize it. “It” destroys lives, so “it” does not deserve a name. It is just “the cancer” -- it was “the monster” or “the dragon.” Although Dina claims to have an understanding of how devastating cancer is to a family, her actions and blatant lack of empathy proves otherwise.

In addition, I did not think it was appropriate for me to interject into family quarrels at the reunion; however, this is something that I feel strongly about. I have met Jaqueline and I have spoken to her on many occasions. In the very short time that I have gotten to know Jaqueline, I know and have empathy with the struggles she has caring for Nicholas. I felt that Dina’s interpretation of her nephew was callous and completely out of touch with reality. The only thing that keeps playing in my mind is, "You know nothing John Snow."  No, thank God, he is not hooked up to machines with cancer; however, what the Laurita family goes through is extremely difficult on a day to day basis that will continue on for a lifetime. It is emotionally and financially devastating. Although, Dina "visits" children with cancer, at the end of her visit she gets to go home, leaving it behind and goes on with her daily life. Since Dina does work with children with cancer, I pray that she can abstain from a self-absorbed lifestyle and become a loving, involved aunt.