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Perfectly Normal

Melissa thought that Gia's reaction wasn't out of the ordinary for a 10-year-old.

Hi my Bravo friends! Was that a field day or what?! Jacqueline did not cut any corners. She had everything there! It stinks that you didn’t get to see the entire day. We really did have a blast. We were out there for like eight hours. It was nice to just go and have a good time. Joe and I just wanted to put everything behind us at this point and move on.

Did you hear me ask Joe outside Jacqueline’s house if my shorts were too short? He could have said yes! Geez! I keep thinking of the Nair commercial. Who wears short shorts? We wear short shorts! Ha. Yes, they were too short!

I thought Joe’s talk with Gia was so sweet. I love how he explained himself to her, because he loves her so much he wants her to hear it from him. Joe is amazing with children, and for some reason all the little girls love him. Yes, it bothers me a little the way she was saying her mom gets upset and her mom tries. I wish she didn’t know as much as she does about the whole situation, but I think Joe knows she is only getting to see one side and hear one side in her house, so he wanted to take the chance to tell her how much he loves her and her mother and that he is going to try and change it. Gia might be getting a little flak for being a sore loser, but I think it’s perfectly normal for a 10-year-old to act that way. They take it personally, and she is just at that age. I think her facial expressions and actions made it seem worse than it was. What did upset me was when Gia said something negative about her Uncle Joe and me, because it seemed like it was just something she was used to hearing. And with that I will say it is 100% not her fault. She wants to love us, but I think she is very confused as any little girl would be when she is hearing so much about us in her home. It’s very sad and unnecessary, because she shouldn’t have to hear discussions about her aunts and uncles. At such a young age, she shouldn’t have any negative feelings towards family, only love. I really feel for her. She even took to Twitter last night to defend herself and said it was what she was hearing. I do want to say that people need to be more mindful of what they say on Twitter. Attacking an 11-year-old girl is not acceptable. That is just sad, and I hope it stops.

As far as Jacqueline and Caroline talking to her downstairs, I do think they were trying to defuse the situation because Teresa, Joe, and I were all getting along so well the entire day and they were trying to calm her before it turned into a big scene. I was playing outside with my children when it all happened, so I didn’t see most of it. I will say I do try to stay out of situations between children and their parents. I don’t like to reprimand anyone else’s kids. To each their own when it comes to parenting, and that’s just something I try never to get involved in. We were all enjoying some good, clean competition. It was all in fun, and I think that Caroline and Jacqueline were just trying to make sure it stayed that way.

The last point I want to make is about the car ride with Joe Giudice and Teresa. I’m not going to talk about the way he was speaking to his wife, because that’s between them, but what I did notice was when Joe Giudice said he was sick of Teresa running back to tell him everything and that he would throw my in-laws out of his house if they defended their son. This is exactly the point that my husband complains about all the time. He does feel like they constantly try to turn his parents against him and they constantly complain to his parents about us. You can’t blame him, they are his parents too and he loves them, and he shouldn’t have to defend himself and his wife to his own parents because of what his sister and her husband are telling them. I have said it before and I will say it again, Joe and I spend one day a week with his parents, and it’s very rare we bring up Joe and Teresa. We don’t defend ourselves to them. We don’t try and make them believe us. We don’t discuss the show and we don’t want to stress them. We have dinner with them and spend time with them and the kids. If they are having stories fed to them, that’s on whoever is feeding it to them. We won’t do it. We have a happy relationship with them without talking about all the nonsense, and we prefer if that way.

I hope you can tell that good times are coming! We are all trying really hard to move past the spot we are at and start enjoying each other. Ahhh! Good times are on the way!


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Amber: Is Dina Coldhearted?

Amber Marchese dishes on her first reunion and why Dina Manzo confuses her.

Hello Housewife friends!  Welcome to the jungle baby! My first reunion was a wild ride. Call me sick and twisted, but I had an unbelievable time at the reunion when most, I have been warned, dread it. I felt like it was “The Great Purge” and when I went home I was felt relieved of any built up tension. I don’t care if anyone has a grudge against me, my slate is clean and I harbor no ill feelings towards anyone. I love to argue my point, and I truly stood by all of my convictions this season, so I was ready to say exactly what was on my mind, and then some. 

I know the twins and I went at one another pretty hard, but that is what the reunion is all about. It is an opportunity to get it all out and potentially understand one another's position better. Then we can each make our own decisions as to where we want to go with our relationships. I am very much the type of person that can say some of the meanest things and sling mud, but hug it out at the end forgetting anything negative that was said. It just rolls off my back. I actually think it is healthier to say what needs to be said, and then move on.

One thing I did question after the reunion was if Dina actually has a heart or if I should start calling her the Tin Man. I actually have not figured her out yet. Is she really just a coldhearted bitch, or has she been hurt so many times that she has become warped and jaded. I feel I don’t owe anyone any reason as to why I call cancer “the cancer,” but I will give it once more anyhow. “The cancer” is “the monster” to me. It is a way for me to take away its power and to minimize it. “It” destroys lives, so “it” does not deserve a name. It is just “the cancer” -- it was “the monster” or “the dragon.” Although Dina claims to have an understanding of how devastating cancer is to a family, her actions and blatant lack of empathy proves otherwise.

In addition, I did not think it was appropriate for me to interject into family quarrels at the reunion; however, this is something that I feel strongly about. I have met Jaqueline and I have spoken to her on many occasions. In the very short time that I have gotten to know Jaqueline, I know and have empathy with the struggles she has caring for Nicholas. I felt that Dina’s interpretation of her nephew was callous and completely out of touch with reality. The only thing that keeps playing in my mind is, "You know nothing John Snow."  No, thank God, he is not hooked up to machines with cancer; however, what the Laurita family goes through is extremely difficult on a day to day basis that will continue on for a lifetime. It is emotionally and financially devastating. Although, Dina "visits" children with cancer, at the end of her visit she gets to go home, leaving it behind and goes on with her daily life. Since Dina does work with children with cancer, I pray that she can abstain from a self-absorbed lifestyle and become a loving, involved aunt.