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Rumor Has It

Melissa reacts to Teresa's comments that she would leave Joe for a richer man.

Hi lovers! We’re baaack! Miss us much? Well you’ve seen what we have done for the holidays, so now it’s time to see how we roll in the summer time. It’s a season with everything, trust me. Arguments, drama, love, tears, passion, fun, laughs, and a lot of skin!

You see in the very beginning scenes from last season, with Teresa and I hugging and telling each other that we love one another. When I talk it out and forgive and let something go, I truly mean it. I threw in the towel that day and was ready to enjoy her company, not just co-exist. I was done with all the petty games and nonsense, and Teresa said she was too. So with that in mind, yes, I was a little confused when the book came out and she threw a dig at me. At the end of Season 3, the book wasn’t done yet because the night we took the family picture she was passing around pages and pictures trying to decide which ones to put in the book. Once we started filming Season 4 the book came out and there was the dig. I was a little taken aback, because I thought we decided not to go down that road, but I decided to let this pass and not make a big deal of it.

So here we are with Season 4, the cookbook obviously being a focal point because it upset people. I didn’t tell my husband because everyone was starting to come together and I didn’t want to take a chance and ruin it. It just seemed a little petty and childish. Was I aggravated? YES! Was I going to do anything about it? NO! At Kathy’s BBQ they start talking about the book and it cuts to Kathy saying, “Teresa always says family is everything, Prove it.” It just gets you thinking and wondering why Teresa would even go there.

I will say it was interesting to watch Caroline and Teresa talk outside of Jacqueline’s house, because when Caroline brings up the dig about me, Teresa says in a very matter of fact way, “If the shoe fits!” Why? We’ve come so far. The last time we left off everything was moving in the right direction. It does make me think maybe Teresa had no intention of moving on and was just being nice for the cameras.This seems to be the case as we are packing for the weekend and Joe tells me his sister said to him that, “I would leave him for a richer man.” I wish he never told me. Why would she ever say something like that, it’s another dig, but to him this time. What is she trying to say, I only love him for the money? Oh, because he’s not handsome, charming, or sexy? He’s not an amazing husband and father? Money is all he has going for him? I don’t think so. I have been married for almost eight years now, I have three beautiful children with this man. I’ve never heard her say anything like this until we joined this show. It’s almost like she is planting a seed for everyone to believe. Or even for her brother to believe. She knows Joe and I have had times when we couldn’t even buy diapers, and that’s when I stood by him stronger than ever. What if Joe listened to her and came home yelling and arguing with me in front of my kids, is that what she wanted? Leave him for a richer man? Really? Come on, evidently I have no idea what I was dealing with here, but I do think it’s very clear to everyone what she is trying to do, so I’m not going to get into it that much. I think watching me and Joe it’s quite obvious how we feel about each other.

We had plans to go down the shore and meet up with Teresa and Kathy on the beach with the kids. Once again I decided I was going to let it go. It doesn’t affect our marriage because it has no truth so I wasn’t going to ruin this for my kids or Joe, because we were all supposed to have a nice weekend together. I really am trying to forget about it. Was it easy? Of course not, but I try like hell to keep it from bothering me.

Well I’m glad I did! How beautiful do all the kids look with a little tan and those bikinis on! OMG, one thing there is no denying, we all are so blessed with such beautiful children! Thank you, Jesus! The kids were having such a great time and the weather was perfect. I don’t want to speak for my husband as he addresses his issues directly with Teresa. I think part of the reason he wanted to talk to Teresa that day at the beach was because of what she said about me and because he was really bothered by the article she put out saying he wouldn’t be there for her. I know for a fact that he has been there for her many times over. Once again it’s almost like she is planting a seed for everyone to believe. Joe has called Teresa many times when other things were going on in her life, and she has brushed him off every time saying everything is fine, why are you asking me this? It’s almost like she was mad at him for prying into her business. She felt he was throwing it in her face when he would ask what he could do, so Joe was always confused when he read something in the magazines or he heard that something happened. I felt bad for him because he was always damned if he did and damned if he didn’t. There was no way to win. This particular time they are talking about, I texted her and said, “Is everything OK? Do you need anything?” Also not wanting her to think I was prying, but letting her know I was reaching out. I figured she would be more comfortable if I texted instead of called. She responded saying everything was fine and I said, “Oh good. That’s great, let me know if you need anything,” and she said thanks. Done, we left it at that.

Why go to the magazine and allow them to slam her brother? Again I can’t stop thinking about the family picture and dinner that night, when I thought we were done with this. When Joe reminds her of the time she did call him and he was there four hours later with exactly what she needed, it almost looks like she gets steamed that he was able to say he did that. She wants everyone to know the wrong he did without telling anyone all the good he has done for her and her children, and trust me when I say that was not the only time. He saw her get upset, so he didn’t say the rest. It’s like she doesn’t want anyone to know we do support her.

When Joe confronted Teresa on what she said about me, she once again had no excuse and said, “I heard rumors.” We hear rumors all the time, but don’t go to Teresa or her husband and ask if they are true. It’s ridiculous that Teresa is upset that Joe said something to me. I am his wife and in no way is it right to say something like that to your brother about his wife and expect him to just live with it. If it’s just rumors, why put that in your brother’s head? Also, what I’m really wondering is if she’s suddenly going to come up with some kind of rumor to get herself out of this so that she has an excuse. When we were filming then, I hadn’t had performances or appearances yet and every appearance or performance I have done since Joe has attended. He’s my husband and my best friend. We enjoy each other’s company, is that a crime? Can’t wait to hear more about these rumors… I wonder how RICH this new man will be?

OK, enough with that. As the season goes on, you see how we did let it go and decided to move forward and keep trying to just enjoy being together and have his sister and her family in our life. Definitely baby steps, but we do make progress.

I have to say, this season is going to be fun. There are ups and downs, but the good part is just summer in Jersey, baby!

I love the Jersey Shore, who needs the Hamptons? You will get to see our shore house finished during the season; I promise we didn’t make the kids swim in a green pool! Joe and I bought that house the first year we got married. I was pregnant with Antonia and most of my family is down there, so we thought it would be great to have a spot to go to for the weekends. We bought a small house that is in the best location. It’s right on the bay, ten minutes from my mom and sisters and ten minutes from the boardwalk and beaches. Since Joe builds houses for a living, we decided to fix it up a little each year when we had some extra money. It only had two bedrooms, and with Gino and Joey now we are five people. It was getting tight for Joe! Although, because of the size of our house up north, I really enjoyed it and liked being on top of each other. It’s so cozy down there. I’m happy to say you will get to see all of Joe’s hard work as the season goes on. The house is finished now and it’s beautiful!

I can’t wait for you to see some of the good times (yes, there are good times) we have coming up this season. And finally I haven’t stopped pursuing the music. Next week you will see me record a ballad I wrote for Joe! It was definitely different than what I have done in the past, but I am very proud of how it came out and am excited for you to hear it!

Until next week, I will forever be thankful for all my gorgeous fans!

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Love ya,
Melissa

Amber: Is Dina Coldhearted?

Amber Marchese dishes on her first reunion and why Dina Manzo confuses her.

Hello Housewife friends!  Welcome to the jungle baby! My first reunion was a wild ride. Call me sick and twisted, but I had an unbelievable time at the reunion when most, I have been warned, dread it. I felt like it was “The Great Purge” and when I went home I was felt relieved of any built up tension. I don’t care if anyone has a grudge against me, my slate is clean and I harbor no ill feelings towards anyone. I love to argue my point, and I truly stood by all of my convictions this season, so I was ready to say exactly what was on my mind, and then some. 

I know the twins and I went at one another pretty hard, but that is what the reunion is all about. It is an opportunity to get it all out and potentially understand one another's position better. Then we can each make our own decisions as to where we want to go with our relationships. I am very much the type of person that can say some of the meanest things and sling mud, but hug it out at the end forgetting anything negative that was said. It just rolls off my back. I actually think it is healthier to say what needs to be said, and then move on.

One thing I did question after the reunion was if Dina actually has a heart or if I should start calling her the Tin Man. I actually have not figured her out yet. Is she really just a coldhearted bitch, or has she been hurt so many times that she has become warped and jaded. I feel I don’t owe anyone any reason as to why I call cancer “the cancer,” but I will give it once more anyhow. “The cancer” is “the monster” to me. It is a way for me to take away its power and to minimize it. “It” destroys lives, so “it” does not deserve a name. It is just “the cancer” -- it was “the monster” or “the dragon.” Although Dina claims to have an understanding of how devastating cancer is to a family, her actions and blatant lack of empathy proves otherwise.

In addition, I did not think it was appropriate for me to interject into family quarrels at the reunion; however, this is something that I feel strongly about. I have met Jaqueline and I have spoken to her on many occasions. In the very short time that I have gotten to know Jaqueline, I know and have empathy with the struggles she has caring for Nicholas. I felt that Dina’s interpretation of her nephew was callous and completely out of touch with reality. The only thing that keeps playing in my mind is, "You know nothing John Snow."  No, thank God, he is not hooked up to machines with cancer; however, what the Laurita family goes through is extremely difficult on a day to day basis that will continue on for a lifetime. It is emotionally and financially devastating. Although, Dina "visits" children with cancer, at the end of her visit she gets to go home, leaving it behind and goes on with her daily life. Since Dina does work with children with cancer, I pray that she can abstain from a self-absorbed lifestyle and become a loving, involved aunt.