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I really wish Melissa would've never started with all the "thank you Jesus". I pray too. But guess what - I live in a broke ass house in Illinois, I've got short legs and freckles, my husband is a tired pipefitter working 7 10's and my kids don't ever get anything nice. We go to church every Sunday and try to be good people in our everyday lives. Quit thanking Jesus. You just got lucky...and you're getting me mad at Jesus.
I do respect your opinion, but in my mind, the assessment of the two Joes is reveresed, with Joe Gorga being basically good-hearted but flawed (one of his biggest down-falls, I think is in trying to be funny and it being inappropriate, which seems to be a family trait. I remember Teresa saying things before that were pretty tasteless as well (remember the penis apparatus she displayed and discussed in her interview, or her bragging about Joe jumping her on the way home from the hospital). When I look at Joe Gorga, however, his treatment of his wife and child are very different of Joe Guidice. One thing that was missing from my comment about Joe Guidice was the fact that Teresa is working her tail off to get them debt-free and maintain their lifestyle, while Joe is seemingly doing nothing to help her. Didn't he just get done saying that his pizza business failed because he couldn't be bothered to be there to manage it? I know that everyone talked about how beautiful Teresa looked on WWHL, and I do think that she is physically a pretty woman and dresses well, but to me she also looked tired to the point of hagardness. So either Joe is a lazy, selfish person who is content to let his wife pull the wagon and in the meantime sacrifice more time from her children than she wants to given the fact that she always talks about how much she loves being with them (not to mention the fact that her children probably miss her as well), or Caroline is right and Joe has resentment towards her because he blames her for their debt and is punishing her by letting her dig them out. Neither is a very attractive thing to me. When I compare that with Joe Gorga who not only works to support his family's every need but also provides both financial and emotional support for Melissa to fulfill her desires, but he also has in mind the needs of his children for their mother, and their mother's desire to be with them so provided a situation in which all needs were met, he does come out the winner in my eyes.
I do appreciate your response, though, and the fact that you actually responded to what I said rather than just throwing some snarky response out there.
Have a greate day!
SunnyAZ_1Actually, I need a lot more free time; I am a software developer and own my own business and don't work a eight hour standard day, but work a couple hours at a time during different parts of the day so that I can enjoy my life and take care of my family. Never posted until I had to be off due to a disease, and couldn't leave my home. Since I have to be on the computer so much for work, I don't generally like to use it for any entertainment, but I have to be in my email intermittenly to communicate with my customers, and my email box is always crammed with this stuff now. So, I will take 15 minutes or so as a break to read and comment as a way to clear my mind; kind of like playing solitare. It doesn't take me long to read all, comment, and clear my box. I am sorry that reading and compiling your thoughts is a big time investment for you. Must be frustrating.
The supporters I was referring to were the commenters on these blogs who seem very concerned about her physical and emotional well-being. I would assume that they don't have her "private" contact information, so they would indicate their concern at the way he treats her (maybe next week, when the preview showing him saying "bitch wife" is played out, should it be directed at her; not going to assume, sometimes a clip is used out of context). You may be right that the commenters are people who know her personally, but I am betting not.
Melissa couldn't you mind your own business? You HAD to tell Teresa what Kathy said about the cookie issue. And you said it so innocently, like you are on Team Teresa with this cookie/desert topic.
The point Joe was trying to make about the tools was that he was friendly with Joey in the past and helped him out because he was family. he mentioned the tools as an example of Joey being disrespectful to him. They have been on TV for 2 years and if this was really bothering him all that time we would have heard about it before
HulaliDo you really think that? Or do you think that he would get some support from the guys with that issue as they probably would understand that the tool thing would make someone angry, and he was too embarrassed to say that he was jealous of the way his wife put him on a pedestal and gave him an inappropriate role in her life, expecting him to do the same with her? Much more support for that in the show, by more than one cast member, including Teresa herself.
I think your husband is awesome, but he should really stop the perv behavior, kind of distasteful. Outside of that, he is funny, hard-working, and so loves you and his children that I can't help but like him anyway. For all the criticism you get about him, if you will just consider something, it will be easy to disregard the input.
Chris Laurita: Kind, gets along with everyone, doesn't get caught in the drama, hardworking, treats his wife and children, including his step-child with love and consideration. Slammed from the moment he expressed one negative opinion regarding Teresa.
Al Manzo: Although comes off as a little arrogant, he is almost non-existent on the show; slammed when he made one negative comment regarding Joe Guidice.
Joe Guidice: Treats his wife disrespectfully, has the audacity to denigrate her book signing at the book signing (oh, yeah, that comment was made on camera in front of Teresa's fans just like Kathy's cookie comment) and brag that his last venture failed because he couldn't be bothered to show up and manage it; praised for his realness and heart.
If I were you, I would take the many nasty comments about your man and keep him and let Teresa have the all the supportive comments from strangers and keep her boy. You are the true winner.
It seems to me that if her supporters really had her best interests at heart, they would be sending her names of either good marriage counselors or divorce lawyers as they would their sisters or friends in real life.
I don't want to see anyone crumble and breakdown. My point is that if I had a someone in my life who was being treated by her husband the way he treats her, with indifference or rudeness, was not the best role model for his children, and was letting her work her tail off while he sat around drinking wine, I would be telling her that she should probably look at that as she would deserve better treatment than that and to consider taking steps to correct the situation, either inside or outside of the marriage. Because, when you love someone, you tell them the truth kindly even if it is hurtful if it will help them from damaging themselves. When you want someone to love you, you tell them what they want to hear and don't care about the ultimate consequences to that person.
I have to agree with your comment Joe's "perv behavior being kind of distasteful". I really don't care how many times Joe & Melissa, Teresa & Joe, and Kathy & Ritchie have sex. And the guys exposing themselves.....I hate to see this show turning into the Jersey Shore.
coloitalian "It seems to me that if her supporters really had her best interests at heart, they would be sending her names of either good marriage counselors or divorce lawyers as they would their sisters or friends in real life." How do you know noone has done that privately? It has been a year since these episodes aired, who is so say, but the housewives what is going on currently. OR maybe since the therapist we saw on the show was telling Teresa what she already knew, to forget the past and move on, who is to say she is going to have such faith in future therapists? I am continuing my graduate studies to be a licensed counselor Counseling is NOT for everyone. You have to want to go and want to truly make it work.
cupcake569 TanyaFrmNJ coloitalian
Absolutely; and you have every right to like who you like on the show and have whatever opinion you want based on your taste and your value system. The problem comes in when you feel like you are the only one that has that right.
my opinion (as i respect that you have yours)....
any man who feels that his wife is his "possession" is not funny in any sense of the word. i find him vulgar, classless and wanting to be in the presence of privilege yet doesn't have the dignity nor class to be there. not even sure if he has the money that he portrays to have....i'm sure we will find out eventually. he is a small man in every sense of the word.
chris laurita - deep down i feel he is a good person but his wife's drama and craziness has gotten to him and his financial woes are visable in his demeanor. he's beginning to crack under the stresses.
joe guidice - again, underneath it all seems to be good at heart. unfortunately, his personal issues and the complete and utter assassination of his wife's character and attempt by former friends and his wife's family to annihilate her business ventures has certainly taken its toll on him.
i don't think that there are any winners here.
coloitalian How can a person be called awesome and someone exhibiting perverted behavior in one sentence? Just asking?
Thank you for making my point. Chris Laurita has consistently been a peace-maker, not only in this situation but in others (Danielle, Ashley, etc). The minute he says a couple of things that are negative and doesn't follow the Guidice line to a T, he is a gossipping, jealous, girl with his motives being attributed to jealousy, with no foundation for your theory of jealousy other than you want it to be so so that you can justify Teresa and Joe. Again, thank you for the illustration.
Regarding the tools; the point for me is not the tools or the fact that it was inconsiderate not to return them, which is a given. The point is that Joe Gorga was 18! Have any of you ever had or interacted with an 18-year old boy? No offense to the men, but I don't even think men even mature until 25. I also remember myself at 18, and was not always the most considerate. For Joe to still be angry about this is ridiculous. Yeah, my husband would have been irriated, too, but he would not have stewed about it for 10+ years and cried about it like a little girl; he would have asked for his tools back like a man or sucked it up like a man.
@coloitalian You missed the point completely. Wow....if you're going to go to bat for the Gorgas/Wakiles and continue your Guidice bashing take a little time, open your mind and REALLY try to comprehend what is being said. And while you're at it, stop and notice that neither Joe Gorga nor Rich Wakile denied that Joe Guidice DID in fact help them get their start in slumlording and flipping houses and for Joe Gorga his construction business. That WAS the point...the tool remark was just to show how Joe Gorga has no respect.
Melissa, I'm gonna play "guess Melissa's passive aggressive blog" (start music) "Did you see my trying to talk to the neighbors, I'm like that. Did you see Teresa not, oy, she's killing me, but she's like that with EVERYBODY. Oh well, we'll just keep on showing her all we wany is family."
Melissa, the reason these blogs sound angry is because we ARE angry. AND the same viewers who keep writing the fans are mean are just without merit and quite frankly desperate. All they would have to do is watch this show since the day you stepped on, to see that every BLOG, every ACTION for two years makes any criticism you've received, seem like CHILD'S PLAY in comparison to your ruthless and conniving behavior that we've WITNESSED. YOU'RE getting mean comments?? Oh my gosh, pricless,,and dilusional. Be serious. The fans of the show have been compared to a Sleeping Giant and I agree 100%. The slepping Giant is decency and humanity and we see through your act with 20/20 vision. It was cruel, dispicable, and without honor. Teresa not being receptive to her campgrounds does NOT put her on equal playing ground of a family member who had no problem destroying her sister-in-law on camera with every ounce of her body for two bloody years so you could launch realty show fame and a singing career. It has been excrutiation to watch in silence, but we aren't silenced anymore and I'll be DAM**D f we're going to let you continue your crucifuy campaign against a woman because you think you are more deserving of the pedastal we've placed her on. We happen to disagree quite vehemently. Not only do we not have you on a pedastal. Your ACTIONS have made you everything I hope my daughters DON'T become in this new reality world fame. Shame on you for what you've done to The Gorga Sr's. Shame on you.You can never take it back and I hope Teresa has removed herself permanently.
What crucify campaign???? There isn't one woman who is on any Reality TV show that doesn't try to use that platform for fame, promoting their products, or business, certainly Teresa is also using it. Look at all of the other Housewives shows they are doing the same, whether it's promoting wine, jewelery, handbags, singing, acting, etc.... Personally I hope they are all successful in pursuing their dreams.
LisLwr AMEN!!! I hope she reads this. IF she would EVER think for a moment it was HER, if she can admit it, then we can say "Thank you Jesus". i meant that facetiously. In reality, a true Christian does not go on camera praising Jesus and God the way Melissa does. When you look back at Biblical times, she reminds me of those rabbis who publicly prayed on the temple grounds, made the sacred temple into a market place. Jesus said to others, they already have their reward. God said when you pray, pray in silence, where noone can see or hear you except God the Father. Melissa is not what a Christian should represent.
Scripture also says praise the Lord loudly in all things whereever you go. The main problem with the man who prayed publicly, wasn't that he prayed out loud, it was that his prayer was basically thank you, God, that I am so good and extolled his virtues loudly for all to hear. The other man quietly acknowledged his fault and asked for forgiveness. The meaining behind this is much bigger than the mode of prayer you use; it is about having a real relationship with God in which your concern is not that people know you have one, but that you are truly seeking one (None of us knows what relationship any of these people have with their God and should not judge that; we are only called to judge behaviors, not people or the validity of their Christianity, Judiasm, etc; that is between them and God). It is also an illustration of how we are to view ourselves, in recognizing our fault and striving to be not only forgiven but be better, rather than justifying ourselves to God and others and extolling our virtues to the point that we have no fault. I am not going to spell out the obvious on that one.
LisLwr Funny I disagree with you quite vehemently. I've watched this show from the beginning and I do not agree with anything your saying. Stop with the negativity its unnecessary
omg people are so rude/viscous on here... i don't care much for certain housewives but i would not go posting nasty or horrific things to hurt them.. that doesn't make me any better of a person or feel better about my self... anyone could be made to look like a "bad person" on television with editing... and its easy to attack someone when they are under a microscope.. we all have had our bad moments, and we certainly wouldn't want to be constantly attacked for them, especially by strangers!.. people should take a look at themselves before they point the finger at others... and why is it so horrible that Melissa is following her dream despite how she got the opportunity... shes not the only person who wanted to be a singer... and good for you Melissa for taking a chance in a tough industry like the music business... though you may not be getting #1 singles, you are doing you and having fun with it...and to all the other housewives... keep up the good work... new jersey is my fave and i love tuning in every Sunday.. can't wait for the reunion =)
Geez, who's show is it? Teresa's? No, it's Bravo's & it's calle RH of New Jersey and that's what Melissa is. She shouldn't be slammed because she was offered by Bravo to be on the show. Jacqueline & Caroline are family. Is that a big deal? Then why should it be that Teresa's fam is on too?
I cannot take your blog seriously. I apologize, but I cannot. How on EARTH you can call any criticisms Melissa receives "viscious", after what she has tried to make happen to Teresa and her girls for two years, with an ugly ERNEST the likes of which I have never SEEN before, is just crazy. Melissa has been "viscious" and "nasty" and it was all for her "dream" your praising her for. Imagine the heartbreak for her in-laws who have been placed in their own living he** so she could try and literally destroy their daughter so she could drop a few kareokee songs. My god!
LisLwrAnnie003 I see where you two are coming from... Melissa isn't portrayed very well and had a bad start up on the show coming onto it. The same case for Teresa can be made about being portrayed as a "bad" person. For myself, it is just hard to see the hurtful comments when I put myself in her shoes or anyone else who receives the same comments. I just don't condone bullying or hurtful comments despite if its "deserved" or not. It's hard to tell what the real truth is. The Gorgas were probably nasty to the Giudices and the Giudices were probably nasty right back to the Gorgas as well. Unfortuantely, we may never know what really happened and what the intent was behind it because it is all "hear say" and good editing afterall. I praise Melissa for her dream because I know too many people who never followed theirs because they were afraid or didn't see the oppurtunity. This is Melissa's oppurtunity while she is on TV. We don't know the true extent of what she did to come on the show and record an album, but to me it seems Teresa "forgave" her for whatever she did the moment she appeared for a taping to Melissa's performances to support her. The Danielle incident was very petty, but Melissa owned up to it on TV and was forgiven by Teresa, and after all, this is their family feud and only they know what really happened behind the scenes. It is sad to see a family crumble like this as opposed to friends like the other Housewives' shows because children are involved but they all continue to renew their contracts and put themselves "on display" to the media and viewers. They're all at fault for not having the ability to have a civilized conversation to resolve things without finger pointing and insulting eachother.
Annie003i understand that's your opinion and view on Melissa based on what you hear or see, but I don't agree that "that is the way she really is" ... for myself I've learned to look at things with an open mind and never in 'absolutes', I've never met Melissa or any of the housewives personally outside of their public images (Met Teresa at a book signing, though that is a public persona she has on at those greetings ) just like I'm sure many other fans haven't personally met them in their real form. Teresa was very nice and friendly, however I know there is more to know about her other than how she acts at a meet and greet. In my view and opinion from what I see, Teresa has been portrayed very poorly on mid-season 3, mid-season of The Apprentice, WWHL when shes a guest, and portrayed horrendously on all of Season 4. For me though I don't trash, insult, or judge Teresa and conclude that must be how she is in real life or say that about anyone else I've never really met, or know well personally, and that includes people in real life as well. The point of my first post was i didn't understand how other people could do that and to do it with such malicousness, and that was my bad for the choice of words I used.
I do agree with you about how sad it is for the children and the consequences they will endure as a result, as i've hinted at in the last part of my second post. I don't think it's all worth it but the adults seem to think so. They know the risks involved in doing these shows and this is not the first family to crumble on reality TV. They all sign up for this and that includes Teresa (who is also rumored to be in talks of her own show when Joe goes to jail)
@A_dRi_N. It is a very sad story and I've said it before there are no winners here. This travesty has taken it's toll on everyone involved....INCLUDING the innocent family members who never signed a contract to be "on display". But, I do have to say, that Teresa was cast on this show on Season 1 and along with the other castmates celebrity and exposure fell into their lap. Melissa and Kathy entered for the sole purpose to capitalize on what this show could give them and they took their family's troubles and made it their storyline. Teresa NEVER brought or used her family's trials and tribulations to acquire her fame or success and therefore has my respect. No one on these blogs is claiming that Teresa and Joe Guidice are without fault or are perfect; but what we do recognize is that the Gorgas/Wakiles are fame-seeking opportunists that would lower themselves to expose the dirty details of this family's problems and the private details of family members who never asked to be any part of this show; in every attempt to become significant enough to profit from this venue....and they did it with despicable PLEASURE!! They will never have my respect or support.
How would you like it if after you were done singing your song, kathy was in the audience and in front of the cameras, saying she wrote that song? Same thing. What passive agressive Kathy said was very intentional, she knew exactly what she did. Keep an eye on her, she is so fake! It was a big deal!d
I hope you suceed at what you dream of. I agree with you that Teresa is the problem and she does not see it and it irkes me to no end. But as a follower we see it. And on your camping trip she seemed to good for us regular folks? Karma has a way biting back no matter what she tries to do. I love karma. However, I wish you the best.
I agree; as someone who has camped for years to make her husband and children happy (and I mean real camping, not the little hop on a plain with an RV with showers trip) sometimes I am almost tempted to fake a heart attack to get out of it. However, I did think the way she acted to the people who were campers was a little classless, and the way that she said that for her talking to the RV people was an I don't think so was alot like her I am too good to live in a house that someone else has lived in before comment from seasons past. Have you noticed the reaction EVERY TIME the camera shows her interacting with people outside of the cast in normal situations (business interactions, camping, when she was talking to parents when Gia was auditioning). They look at her like she has two heads, and look at each other like what is wrong with this woman.
cupcake569 sherri82 I would have been beyond pi$$ed if I was told about this trip and then spending my time in a parking lot. This was NOT a concert, but supposed to be vacation. I wouldnt be too keen leaving my house to live in a parking lot for several days. IT is different if they knew about living in a parking lot before hand.
guiltypleasure9 Jill Zarin. She used to be a NYC housewife. Just like we will say Melissa USED to be a NJ housewife after this season.
Enough with the tools already! Somehow I think The Guidice's have enough OTHER things that they can be mad about The Gorga's trying to steal - - like their LIFE for instance,,,Yeesh, I would be hard pressed to think of two less likeable people all on all of reality television as Melissa and Joe. Seriously.....
Would you dislike your sister/brother's spouse if they didn't return tools they borrowed years ago? LOL!!! Come on guys, I know you're trying to take up for them, but BE REAL about it. Someone answer the question truthfully as if you were in the "I dislike you because you didn't return my tools!" situation. Lol
I get darn tired of borrowed things not being returned!! If you don't want to deal with returning something that BELONGS TO SOMEONE ELSE? Go buy YOUR OWN! Bums!
Annie003 Especially nowadays. Tools are not made or anything is made the way it was years ago. They were probably very good quality. Who knows if the tools had sentimental value and trusted him to borrow them? Also, who knows if they were from Italy and you cannot get them. Who knows, he probably has them and will not return them. He probably has an entire collection of borrowed items. That is why he has all this money...he never bought things...he always "borrowed" things.
Annie003 Thanks. It's true. Who knows how many things the Gorga's borrowed. A friend of mine borrowed books one day and it took months to get them back. It was so freaking irritating that I had to be the one to ASK for them back. I felt it was very inconsiderate. When in that situation, how do you continue the friendship,act like nothing is wrong when you have on your mind, "when the hell is she going to freaking give them back?"
Apparently, you've not had a man in your life who values his tools! Tools take years to come by, & for most men even one out of place can send him over the edge! Most importantly, in this case, these were tools of his TRADE! Their very livelihood, and you can bet Joe Gorga has, and still uses, those tools to this day. Maybe your husband is a golfer? Can you imagine him loaning his clubs & not having them returned? Not to mention how a golf-pro, who earns his living by using said clubs, would feel? Yes, YEARS later!!
You are right, grudges should be held against everyone all the time... grudges are the BEST!!!!!! Especially when it happened over 20 years ago between a teenager and an adult, who apparently never asked for the tools back over all those years, but instead decided to destroy an entire family over it. Don't you think it has more to do with something they aren't telling us, how could anyone honestly hold in that much hate for something so stupid?
I can't seem to find where your songs are on the charts that you keep talking about. You must be a "rock star" to be able to finish a video shoot in one day. Doubt even Madonna could pull that off or J-Lo. And once and for all, Bravo, PLEASE show the tape that the Gorga's so deperately sent in so they could join the show & basically destroy another human being. Time for some new & classier ladies from New Jersey if there are any.
agreed! I had a NJ party last night, and the consensus at the end of the evening was if The Gorgas are not off, or given a "reduced role" next season, they will not be watching. The "disturbing" level has become to high because of the family factor. Melissa has been unnerving in her quest for fame vis crucifixtion and it's time her reign ended. At the very least for The Guidice little girl's sake. We can't watch this woman in action one more season.