Melissa Gorga

Melissa just wants Teresa to respect her marriage.

on May 8, 20120

I feel like Teresa is constantly looking for any reason she can to say I’m a bad wife. When she realizes no one is buying these "rumors," she brings up a dinner we went to with Kathy, Richie, Teresa, Joe, me, and Joey for my 29th birthday. In last week’s blog she says it was when Joey and I were dating, but this dinner happened when I already had Antonia and Gino. During the dinner we were all teasing our men and joking around at the table. Teresa was teasing her husband about how she will always buy everything she wants, my husband starting teasing me saying you married me for (this) pointing to Tarzan! I said to him in front of everyone, (laughing), “Yeah right, I saw that house baby doll.” We were all playing as friends and family laughing and drinking. Even Kathy said that we were just playing around when Teresa tried to get her to back her up at the reunion. Is that all she’s got on me?
 
I honestly can’t help but feel that she is projecting the issues in her life onto mine. After watching this episode, I think it’s extremely obvious what my sister-in-law is trying to do. The question is why would she do it? Does she think that if my marriage goes badly hers will get better? Does she think that if she puts the negative attention on me then it will not be on her? I’m not sure, but one thing I do know is that it is sad and it’s a shame. I try to be pretty easy in a lot of my blogs and tip toe around Teresa, but this time she is playing with fire. I am woman who loves my husband more than anything in this world. I will bend over backwards for him and my children. She knows that and I think at times she wishes she had more on me. How about just being happy that your brother is happy? You can throw dirt in my face a couple times and I will take it, but DON’T, mess with my family, DON’T mess with my children’s lives, and DON’T mess with my marriage. That is where I will NEVER back down.
 
To this day, Teresa is still trying to justify the rumors and still blames this whole situation on her brother Joey for not keeping their conversation private, but she honestly doesn't understand that you don't say something like that to a man about his wife and expect him to just live with it and keep it to himself. A marriage is a partnership and my husband and I tell each other everything, just like Teresa tells her husband everything. How does this blood is thicker than water notion apply to a husband and wife? We have three beautiful children together and are a family. It's called respect, and I'm not sure Teresa ever will understand that she doesn't have to like me, but she has to respect my marriage to her brother and keep her "rumors" to herself.

356 comments
nyc_viewer
nyc_viewer

Melissa, you are a doll! We can see who you really are and what kind of relationship you and Joe have. Teresa's "rumour" is an obvious lie she has manufactured and uses to provoke responses from other people. All of us know it has no credence and take it for what it is - a tool to try and slice someone to pieces so that she can feel better about herself. Look at how much mileage she has gotten out of planting a little seed (which by the way is really a retaliation at her brother for what she thinks "he did" to her). She is lapping this up - all the trouble she has caused with this little vendetta and she is still using it to try and creaate something out of nothing. If she can cause this much trouble with something that obviously has no basis in reality, I'd hate to even think of what she'll do next. My sense of it is that Teresa basically loathes herself and is overly bitter about how her inner hatred has created the disaster that is her life at the moment. And needless to say she is jealous of you and Joe's lives, marriage and the good people that you are. Rather than celebrate it, she continues to thrive off of trying to create other people's misfortune and trying to bring their characters down to the level of her own.

Charmaine H
Charmaine H

You are awesome Melissa..I don't think that I could've been that nice. You and Joe have a great marriage!!

Ivy010
Ivy010

Melissa I think your doing a good job with everything is going on!!!! I can relate to your in laws problems. We have only had one blow out so far and im glad that we are moving 14 hours away. Keep strong and I love how you and your husband can tell each other everything I hope my husband and I could do the same..its really hard if you could me advice on how to do it that would be great we have been through a lot the first year of marriage...hope to hear from you soon need help really bad...

EmMy1111
EmMy1111

I think you and your family need to escape the show and the spotlight before it ruins you like so many reality stars before you....get out while you still can and keep that precious family innocent. Blessings

sioux falls sd
sioux falls sd

teresa is just jealous of you. You are and have everything she wants. That goes for her low life hubby to. You have the perfect life, love your songs cut a full album and i am in.

alicia m.
alicia m.

hey again , give hugs and kisse s to your 3 angels.

VeeZee
VeeZee

I completely disagree with those that say Joey shouldn't have told you what Teresa said about your marriage; yes, that is his sister, but you are his wife. His sister needs to learn to respect that. Teresa and her husband are miserable and beyond disillusioned.

JK
JK

I don't understand what is wrong with the people who are posting positives about Teresa?! She's an absolute loser who is 100% jealous of you and your husband, which is so obvious. You have been too nice for too long just to keep the peace. Yes you are being the bigger person but I think that the entire cast needs to just ignore the Giudices. You guys are great, Kathy and her family is awesome as well as the rest of the original cast (again, minus Teresa & Joe). Wake up Bravo! Bring a new family in just like you changed the NY housewives!

Jamie Watson
Jamie Watson

Melissa, just forget about what Teresa does and says. You and Joey are the cutest couple; you do not need all that negative energy. I watched the shows, from season 1 to now. At first, I thought Teresa was wonderful but I have to say, she has just gone BONKERS. I truly believe it is just pure jealousy and a way to get her husband out of his financial troubles. Teresa and Joe are poison and they are trying to ruin what you and Joey Have. Well, you are a beautiful, talented and gracious young woman. You have beautiful children and a loving husband; who wouldn't be jealous of that. Hey, it's your life, live it, enjoy it and to hell with whoever doesn't like it.

NEhousewife
NEhousewife

Melissa, first off I love you!! I think it is awful how Theresa treats you and your marriage. I am younger and married with our first child. My husband is only 4 years older than I but his sisters are much older. I get along with his two sisters that live out of state, but his one sister that lives here reminds me of Theresa. I watch the episodes and cant help but see myself and my sister in law when I watch you and Theresa interact. I think that you are always very mature about situations that arise. I also try and be mature and responsible, but sometimes you just cant take anymore. Lets face it being younger, prettier and more mature will make certain people (sister in laws) not like you and or be jealous.

TEAM MELISSA ALL THE WAY!!!!

side eye
side eye

Melissa,

If what Teresa said to her brother about you cheating was not true why are the both of you talking about it to anyone who will listen? All you do is talk about Teresa all then time. Why did you and your husband come on to Teresa's show if you both hated her so much. Lets face it you guys went to Teresa's place of employment to start all this nonsense. You both should be ashamed of yourselfs. Why is your husband so menatally and emotionaly abusive to Teresa. It is a bit creepy.

COSSGA
COSSGA

Joey should have NEVER relayed his sister's conversation to his wife, both ladies deserve his loyalty and it only causes turmoil, so stop.... WHAT IS HE 10 YEARS OLD? Come on Joey is a camera whore and wants to keep it stirred up. wish they would take all the men off, I bet the ladies could be friends again if the men would behave like grown ups. Melissa girl......you cant sing, find a small church and sing in the choir with other people maybe that will help. Melissa you are not innocence, you contribute the same amount of b.s. as Teresa does.

Clsj268
Clsj268

There really is something wrong with Teresa I read her blog has she not seen these episodes she clearly said there was no vulgar name calling except you calling her a coward she straight up said to you B- don't go there I couldn't even spell that out to you completely because I think you are to much of a lady and beautiful person to speak negative words to you. I think you have a beautiful family and should never let anyone break that. I have had to put my foot down with my in-laws as well to mind their own business had to tell them in the end I'm my husbands wife and don't care what any of them think I never did or will the only persons opinion that matters is my husband because in truth we are life partners. I think you and your husband are wonderful together. And why wouldn't your husband share everything with you that's what being married is about. Some people just have to shut their mouths because my three year old has more sense than your sister-in-law. You Caroline Kathy Jacqueline and all your husbands are the reason I watch the show. I have to say the husbands are great and understand what it means to be with all of you. As for Teresa's husband he's such a moron or as my younger cousins would say he's smooth cluck. But great job and stay strong and just cut that string(Teresa) off you'll be better off trust me

Super T
Super T

AND... she took the high road and said hello to you at the fashion show and your froze her out... Teresa can't win for trying. You talk about respect, that is earned little girl.

Super T
Super T

You know, I'm revisiting season 3 and Melissa and Joe, you started the season creating drama. The christening, bad mouthing Juicy saying he put the wedge between father and son, nail down the tables, she does this she does that. Seriously, get over yourself instigator. You must be very proud of yourself pulling a family apart... why go on the show and just throw stones?!?!?!?! Evil, self centred, petulant child.

MzizTee
MzizTee

You handle Teresa's bad behavior very calmly--better yet passive aggressively. How can you be the glue to something you have purposely broken. You sowed discord and now you got what you want and you're still unhappy! Drama, drama!

Euroepan1217
Euroepan1217

Melissa you so right about Theresa is insane....Theresa is jealouse of you and she try to break up you marriage...don't let her to do it....PLEASE... Theresa marriage is NOT working and she hate to see you and Joe being happy....Theresa is a snack...avoid her as much as you can....

Valerie Wagner
Valerie Wagner

Melissa, when you said no children were around when u brought up the jail thing...hello...you said it on national TV!!! As for your husband and Tre saying they don't trash each other...Joe trashes Tre quite often. Don't you people watch your own show, if you did you would learn something. The thing Tre did wrong was confiding in Joe, knowing that he and her did not have a close relationship. Now Tre's husband trashes all of you guys! I know you won't respond...u never do!

Robin S
Robin S

at first I was on your side I know what its like when The inlaws dont like you but it really looks like you all have the digs into Tre. YOUR THE BULLY YOU AND YOUR BROTHER! will never Buy your Music now. Your A JOKE TO THE SHOW YOU and JOE

GG1979
GG1979

Hi Melissa, I think you are a hot, wonderful, loving, and caring mother and wife. The only thing I would say, I dont know if I would have said anything to my sister n law. Well let me say this, a few years ago, I wouldve said something and checked her in the same form you did (yes you checked her boo) but now that I look back, today I wouldnt say anything, I would keep her at arms length and assure my husband that he will never have to worry about that issue. I would leave it up to him to check his sister. I have been through this before with my husband telling me snide remarks his brother has made about me, and it boils down to jealousy; he doesnt understand that I come first now...so with that being said, live life to the fullest for you and Joe and then everyone else....I read some of the remarks under your blog....some people need to tone the language down and would be the first ones to ask for an autograph when they see you..Ah well, what would life be like without haters! #Go girl!

504HOUSEWIfE
504HOUSEWIfE

WELL MELISSA IF YOU CAN HIT BELOW THE BELT, THEN YOU SHOULD BE ABLE TO TAKE BEING HIT BELOW THE BELT! IJS! SOOO SICK OF YOUR LITTLE MISS "I DIDN'T DO ANYTHING" ACT...pahlease, get over yourself!

Viewer and Fan
Viewer and Fan

Teresa is very jealous of YOU, Melissa. I don't think you're ever going to be able to work things out with her if she can't take her own aging better than she is. I've seen her start to look older in the last two seasons and it's because her heart is so dark and her intent so evil. Leave her behind and move on.

I think YOU need your own show.

maria o
maria o

Melissa you are the cause of all this problems because you have two sisters that is why you did not care about Teresa and you keep acting like the victim because when your husband is not around you are a very mean person. Teresa is not perfect but you are always trying to play the victim when your husband Joe and other people are around. you need to tell Richie to shut the HELL up and mind his business because all the nonsense that comes out of his mouth doesn't make him look good at all rather it make him look like the monster he looks like. Melissa this is coming from love not hate you have a lot of working out to do between your husband and your sister-in-law and tell you sisters and their husband to mind their business because i'm sure they have a whole bunch of other nonsense going on in their life's instead of them whispering in your ear because they are making it worst. unless you don't want anything to do with you sister in-law you should just keep moving and call it even

gigi58
gigi58

Some advice to your husband. His sister will continue to act like a spoiled 10 year old who wants the world to revolve around her. "I want it be be like before you were married", I want my old brother back"... I am going to cry now because things aren't going my way. Hey, we grow up, have families, and we share our most intimate life with our spouse. Teresa doesn't want that for her brother. I used to feel sorry for her, now I am just bored out of my mind with her constant blaming of her issues/problems on everyone else. It always someone's fault that she isn't happy. Run from her.

Gina V.
Gina V.

Your husband is so mean to his sister Tre. How can you live with a person like that? He is a egomaniac. It is disgusting to watch him on TV how he manipulates situations and constantly twist Tre's words and makes excuses for his and your poor behavior. Like anyone really believes you or him. Thank God Tre is too smart to fall for his excuses and manipulating ways. I have seen this in families when they say a son is a son until he takes a wife. Your in laws don't associate with you. I guess you are stuck with him since he pays the bills like a lot of women out there.

Laura Theresa
Laura Theresa

Hi Melissa... I just want to tell you that I give you so much credit for holding your tongue this long with Teresa. She needs a life coach because she has no idea how to manage the relationships in her life and never sees her own faults. As a viewer it's hard to tolerate her crazy mood swings and ridiculous drama.. Idk how you do it but I respect your reasons for it. It is evident that you love your husband; trying to keep Teresa in your lives for the kids is honorable but a person can only take so much. I think you are a beautiful, strong woman... Don't let her bring you down!

- Laura Theresa

eyes wide open
eyes wide open

Did that man just say he is an Angel..It is nothing worse than a dummy that believes his own nonsense.

Lana1
Lana1

Good possibility that Teresa has a distorted perception of Joe, Melissa's husband. Its as if Teresa wants to be married to him. I know it's so weird and sick but because there is so much co-dependence and insecurities with many of the adults on this show (especially Teresa), it's not a far fetched thought. Who puts their sibling before their spouse??????.....OMG! That's so crazy!!

Dina2
Dina2

Hi Melissa, I am sorry to say this but your sister-in-law and her husband are very jealous of you and your husband from what I can see from the episodes. I would never tell my brother that his wife would cheat on him if a richer man came along. Theresa was okay when Housewives first started. But I think the fame has gotten to her. Sometimes money can change people. All I can say is stay humble and true to your family and stay prayed up because I don't think she wants you with her brother and she is trying to mess up your relationship because her household is not right. Keep your head up!! There are some rotten people out there and it is unfortunate but they can be right in your own family.

So Gone
So Gone

So proud of you Melissa...girl you stood your ground..and made Teresa look like the fool she was...talking in circles like she always does..not making any sense what so ever. Now let it go girl...move forward with your singing career and your family...Kim G is wack..so love Rosie!!

K.Chanel
K.Chanel

Melissa, You have a beautiful family and I love the connection/friendship you and your husband share. Hope you had a wonderful Mother's Day!

Gail Creech
Gail Creech

Melissa, You set these scenes for the cameras. 1. Amazing Grace Scene or should I say the "wretch scene." That one backfired on you. 2. The cookbook scene...this is the scene that your brother acts like he knows nothing about Teresa's cookbook. 3. The scene where you let Joe hear the auto tuned song for the first time. You want us to believe that he knew nothing about the song. 4. The scene where Joe tells you about what Teresa said about you leaving for a richer guy. I read somewhere that you said that he came home that evening and told you and cried. It makes me angry that you think that the people that watch RHONJ are either stupid and beneath you in some way. Guess what we are neither.

Unique71
Unique71

I still say you have a hidden agenda when it comes to Teresa. I am no longer a fan of Teresa, Caroline or Jacqueline but feel that you as "family" would handle your disagreements differently. It has gotten so old seeing you burst onto the screen and start drama. OVER IT!

A real New Jersey Housewife
A real New Jersey Housewife

Melissa your toilet looked disgusting in the episode where your husband was showing your son how to pee! YUCK!!

Molly Haynes
Molly Haynes

I am on Melissa side, I think Teresa likes to start all these fights between you to. I think Teresa wants to be just like Melissa!

iheartyr
iheartyr

Melissa, As a viewer from the beginning, I won't deny Teresa has behaved badly, or said some hurtful things. That being said, I think it would behoove you and your husband, to take some responsibility for your actions and statements.

Teresa may be wrong at times, but no one is 100% responsible in these situations. And what she said about you to her brother is definitely hurtful, but not something he should have shared with you. They were speaking in confidence as siblings, and I would imagine Joe has said plenty of things that might be considered insensitive to his sister. Besides which, it's already been written by another viewer, but bears repeating: we know Joe set up the moment he told you what Teresa said. You guys really seem to love amping up your victim-hood!

Neither you or your husband are perfect, yet you seem to like to present yourselves as if you are. You joined a show Teresa was already involved with, despite whatever family issues were looming. Did you think joining up on the show would cure your family matters? Or did you just want to get on the show no matter what, the consequences be damned? (Or just Teresa be damned?)

Melissa, you are as conniving as anyone else; because you have aligned yourselves with the Manzo Clan, its as if you can do no wrong and the only people deserving of any social punishment are your in-laws, Teresa and Joe.

You probably think after you've presented yourselves in this manner, and, in turn, have presented Teresa in another manner, that you're right in the sweet spot--nestled snugly with the Manzo's and having their stamp of approval, and presenting yourselves as innocent victims, shielding yourselves from the evil Teresa.

The truth is, not everyone sees you in the light you've aimed for. As a fan, assessing Teresa's behavior honestly does not prevent one from assessing your behavior honestly. Just because Teresa's been wrong before, doesn't mean you've been right. And you'd better behave yourself with the Manzos; you never know if Caroline will deem you unworthy and send you packing!

db23
db23

Teresa is crazy! Keep standing your ground your doing a great job. She just keeps making herself look bad with all of her outburst.

Viewer1960
Viewer1960

Melissa, I just read about your current financial problems and just be prepared that Teresa is going to take this and run with it. I can just see her laughing now. Try to ignore her, keep your head up and just go on. Things will work out for you.

LuvsU
LuvsU

@ intellHH , I HAVE A SERIOUS CRUSH ON U!! You wasn't a 100% right. YOU ARE A 1000% CORRECT!!!!

nuch2
nuch2

Melissa, Quit complaining about Teresa. She loves her brother, and so do you. You have planted so many bad thoughts in Joey's head over the years about his sister that now he overreacts to everything. LET IT GO, and if you really wanted to bring the family together you would have brought the gifts to Joe and Teresa's home, but you didn't.

lalaw
lalaw

melissa, wanted you to know that as far as i can see on the show, I think you handle Teresa and her BS very calm. In fact, I have taken what you do in your situations and sewed it into certain situations that I have. No, my drama level is not as high, but, any stress on someone is hard. I had to learn to pick my battles and let things go and for me that was hard. Just watching you has helped me. I just wanted to say thank you. I think you and Joe are precious and your children are adorable. I have a 21 year old in college and a wonderful husband myself. Hope this is not too corner and I also hope you read this..... a fan

jazz53
jazz53

You have been too tolerant for too long. Theresa deserves to meet her match. She has no class. You are too good and love your husband.

sasha31111
sasha31111

So glad you are on this show!! Great example as a wife, mommy, sister, and woman in general. Really glad you stood up for yourself this episode, and did not react and throw insults/attacks when you were most definitely baited. I feel badly for your nieces, and I hope Teresa gets a counselor or a serious reality check. Hate it when people play the victim, and curious as to why there are so many who support/sympathize with Teresa on this site. She comes off as incredibly fake whereas you and the other wonderful 3 on the show, come across as sincere, vulnerable, fun, and just overall likable! Misery loves company, glad you aren't giving 'it' any! Best wishes to you and your family, love watching you and Joe, so cute and funny! Sorry u have to deal with so much bs!

JCritchley
JCritchley

Melissa...I think your great and have a good ethic. Teresa is a lunatic..... God luv ya......

Tati132499
Tati132499

Life your life, and all will come in to place. Just remember family, good friends and good times is al life is!!

missmaryc71
missmaryc71

Melissa; I love you and your family very much.. I am so proud that you stood up to Teresa. She should have never discussed bad things about you to Joe and to try and blame him for telling.. She is insane.. I really see the true teresa..Everybody can see that she is jelouse of you and Joe being so close..Everything yall do she is jelouse of..shes jelouse of you being hotter than her, everybody saw that..she thinks she is miss beauty queen...I think you and Joe have a beautiful family and im glad to see you two happy..you are always being bad mouthed by teresa and i no it must be hard on you and joe both.. i just wish teresa would open up her blind eyes and see how much she is destroying herself and everyone around her..im happy that everyone is finally seeing her for what she is...you and joe are one and need to continue to stick together...I LOVE YOU AND GOD BLESS YOU AND FAMILY

Monica
Monica

Love you and your family Melissa! YOu are a beautiful lady and I think you handle yourself and your crazy sister-in-law with such class! Keep on keeping on!

Ali234567
Ali234567

Melissa I really look up to u. I'm 25 and although my mom says I'm pretty I don't always feel it. I just want to say thanks for saying sometimes girls in their 20s have to find themselves, I thought we were supposed to already by this age.

SheHoldsTheKey
SheHoldsTheKey

Melissa, I hope you read this.... You are a stronger woman that I would be in your situation! You've handled yourself with restraint when you've been completely disrespected. Teresa, sadly, doesn't seem to be stable. She seems to have deep and serious emotional issues. She's clearly in an abusive marriage, with a man who belittles her, breaks the law continuously, and is facing financial ruin. ALL of her time and energy should be devoted to solving her own problems and creating a stable, loving, calm environment for her children. I agree with you completely that she's projecting all of her issues onto you. You have in Joe what she wants to have in her own marriage, and instead of working on, or leaving her marriage, she just tries to tear yours down. It's really so sad to watch. Her arguments are illogical and border on delusional.

Is she going through a hard time? Yes. But, why? She's chosen to stay in a marriage with a man who continues to break the law...steal, lie, drive drunk, etc. Yes, hard times fall on us all, but it's also true that we reap what we sow. She needs to take responsiblity for a lot of the turmoil she finds herself in.

Yes, family does need to be treated specially and we put up with more than we ever would from friends. HOWEVER, I don't agree that you have to put up with her nasty rumors, lies, and negativity just because she's related to you. You have every right to put up a strong boundary to protect yourself and your family from her harm. It blows my mind that anyone would consider your marriage as less significant or meaningful than a blood relationship. Marriage is a sacride and the foundation of all families.

I admire your strength and patience. You should be proud knowing that one day your children will see all of this footage and they'll be proud of how classy and appropriate their mom always was.

Good luck to you!