During the scenes at Kathy’s BBQ, I was looking at my husband’s face watching the kids play and it made me tear up. I knew what he was thinking. He just wants everything to be normal and peaceful and have his nieces in his life. You could see it in his eyes. Joe wanted to have a positive conversation and to tell his sister to enjoy the day and to just let everything go. Teresa doesn’t want to hear it and kept bring up in the middle of his sentences, “your wife, your wife!” and the fact that Joe has changed since I came into the picture. Of course he has changed. He has a family now. How can Teresa expect to still be Joe’s first priority in his life?
It’s hard not to see why Joey gets frustrated. It’s almost humanly impossible not to at this point. He’s was trying to be positive, and she just doesn’t get it. There are all different kinds of love. Joe has enough for everyone, but those different kinds of love seem to be blurred with Teresa. The amount of attention she demands from him is a little strange to me. I don’t even require that much, but I constantly try to be patient until they can figure it out. What bothers me the most about their conversation is when she says that I’m a bad aunt to her children and in her interview that Gia hated me. If you watch the episodes, it’s right in front of your eyes. As they are talking, I was holding Audriana and helping her children out of the pool. I was cheering them on from the sidelines, and she keeps making the conversation about me. Why she tries to say these ridiculous things is beyond me.
Your husband Joe cannot make Teresa his 1st priority, but she should still be a priority. When Tre got married everyone admits she had her brother on a high pedestal ...I guess that's what she expects too. You can't blame her, if you really think about it. But Melissa, Joe's cursing at his sister was appalling ..he should have learned from the baptism to watch what he says to his older sister and women in general. Also, that remark you made about not being high maintenance after Tre asked if Rosie can make frozen margaritas was such a dig to Teresa. When you say stuff like that then you are no better than your claims to Tre calling you a gold digger.... think about it!
Melissa you have shown nothing but class throughout all of the episodes. It's too bad Bravo doesn't get rid of the Giudices. People don't want to see constant fighting and trash talking. There is enough drama in the world where it's just fun to watch these reality adventures. Teresa and Joe have the IQ of lab rats. Stay close to Kathy & Rich and all the other wives and husbands. Unfortunately you were dealt an extremely petty, jealous and classless sister in law. We enjoy watching you and your family as cute as they are!
That was pretty mean what Theresa said to Joe about him being so mean. I agree with the way Joe sticks up for you, he reminds me so much of my older brother and the way he loves his wife.(Always wanted to find someone like my older brother.) Theresa needs to realise that it's not about her anymore she has her own family and her brother has his. Can you still maintain a relationship with her brother yes of course. She needs a reality check. You and your husband are great no one can say you don't love him. Keep doing what your doing. Love the song you made for Joe.
Teresa isn't always right in what she says and she definitely needs to support both of you but your not innocent here either. You and your husband need to take ownership of your words and actions and make it right. Also there have been plenty of moments where your family members , caroline, jac, and the others have made nasty comments about teresa and her husband with you right there, so before you throw stones at glass houses you need to take some time and examine yourselves. You want teresa to move forward but theres no way that it will happen as long as you and joe continue to bait her and why do you pick times of being on camera to confront her? That is whats really bothering me. Your husband also picked a time where it was suppose to be about having a good day and your kids were there for goodness sake. How in the world is joey confronting teresa on anything whether what you say is good will benefit the relationship when it's already a volatile situation? Why not allow things to cool down and set up a dinner date or lunch, whatever when there are no camera's no family or friends and absolutely no children in the mix. All that happened on that day was drama was created on t.v. and in front of other family member and friends for all the world to see. As soon as there is a disagreement or fight people automatically start taking sides. So you can blog all you want about teresa, teresa, teresa and it does not matter to viewers who happen to be smart enough to catch on to what the real deal is here. Your brother taking that time to talk to teresa is shameful. There was an alterior motive there and it was all for the cameras. I can't even say anymore
You don't have to explain. We smart people understand that Teresa and her husband like to put others down so they can feel better about themselves. Bullies do that.
I just have two things to say about the last two episodes...the first is that it's about time that you spoke up to Theresa! Good for you for standing your ground and stating your point in a classy way. She should never have told her brother that story about you. Secondly, your husband made me laugh out loud when he said that old school Italians don't believe in therapy but just don't speak to each other for the rest of their lives! Coming from an Italian family, this statement is soooo true!
God your a better person than I am, with the patients of a saint. It's actually pretty sad, and very disappointing to see how intimidated Teresa is by you. The jealousy is incredible, and this is coming from a person who was a big Teresa fan and when you came on the show I thought I was going to hate you. My have the tables have turned. You've brought out the ugly in her and it's sad.
That being said....I was the child in your situation, and it hurt like hell. I don't know where you guys are in your relationship now but continue to be the best aunt and uncle you can be because the kids feel it. I felt it when my shows were missed, and even now as a married woman I felt it when my wedding was missed and when my babyshower was missed. I know how hard it is to keep facing her and wanting to ring her neck knowing you can't cause it will make things worse. I love the relationship you and joe have, I love the way you support each other and I don't know any healthy marriage where a husband and wife aren't best friends who tell each other everything. Joey was absolutely right in telling you what she said and you have every right to react. She will always be his sister, however you WILL always be the mother of his children and she needs to respect that but she never will. She's scarred by pure jealousy.
Franklin Lakes is a beautiful town, and if I could afford to live there I'd live there myself, so good luck with selling the old house and getting a new one. Change is always good!
PS....any chance you're going to have an estate sell? Cause I can use some Chanel Bags and Louboutins :) lol
Melissa, Enjoy the ride. If everything was perfect,, it would be a very boring show. Its your time to shine so take the stage and do what you do best.
Melissa, although I think everyone should just make up as life is too short, it seems that you are trying to copy Teresa on everything. It also seems like you are trying to take her place in her own family. Those are her parents, her cousins and her brother, not yours. I understand you are married now, but from the outside it seems like you want to replace her.
LOVE...LOVE...LOVE YOUR BEAUTIFUL FAMILY!!! I FEEL FOR YOU AND JOE. REMEMBER THIS, YOU CAN NEVER MAKE SENSE OF SOMEONES ACTIONS WHEN THERES ENVY, GREED, AND SELFISHNESS ARE INVOLVED. KEEP TRUE TO WHO YOU ALL ARE, AND GOD WILL BLESS!!! XOXO
Melissa, I love watching you and Joe together. Your love for each other is so obvious and heart warming, what a great example for your children! Good luck selling your house and congrats on your success.
Melissa, I am happy to see a young, cute, successful (due to hard work) family on the housewives. I hope you all have continued success and are able to remian humble at the same time. What we all saw on the first season has come back to haunt us as viewers in such ugly circumstances. Please, don't disappoint us. Use your platform to do good for yourself and those in your community. Wishing your family the best.
Melissa, I love watching you and Joe together! Your love for each other is obvious, what a great example for your children. Good luck selling your house and congrats on all of your success!
Melissa..You are doing a great job trying to navigate these waters. I admire your restraint and composure and maturity as well as your husbands. I think at some point you have to just turn the page and allow Teresa to just follow her own path. She is a very troubled person and its sad to see her brother trying to do the right thing and she just keeps acting ridiculous. There is no self awareness there or self reflection. I hope you just move forward in life and if and when things repair themselves, so be it. I am all for turning the other cheek, but God does not call on us to be doormats. I wish you the best and hope that you find peace away from Teresa. She should be BEGGING for your forgiveness and I hope it happens.
PLEASE, PLEASE STOP WITH THE "I'M APPALLED", VICTIM ROUTINE. WHY WOULD JOE NOT SAY THOSE THINGS AFTER YOU HAVE CONTINUALLY STOKE THE FIRES AND BURNED TERESA SO MANY TIMES, AND PROVOKED ARGUMENTS. YOU COME ONTO THE SHOW AND AIR DIRTY LAUNDRY FOR FAME, YOU ARE GROSS. AND LOVE THE WAY YOU AND TERESA HAVE DIFFERENT VERSIONS OF THE SOLTICE PARTY EVENTS----TERESA'S WAS MORE TRUTHFUL, YOUR'S WAS NOT, YOU EGGEG JOEY ON AND PAINTED THIS VICTIM ACT AND SENT HIM TO ATTACK TERESA BECAUSE YOU ARE JEALOUSE OF HER SUCCESS AND YOU EVEN MOVED CLOSE TO TERESA, NOT FOR THE COUSINS TO BE CLOSE, BUT FOR YOU TO COPY TERESA AND GET A WHIFF OF HER FAME..YOUR AND JOEY ARE VULTURES....NOT BUYING WHAT YOUR SELLLING....YOU ARE NO STAR, NOT EVEN CLOSE......
Melissa keep your head up, you are doing a great job as a mother, Aunt, and wherever your career may take you stay positive..Just remember you can't fix crazy!
Melissa just keep your head up and stay focused on the positive. Just remember one thing, you can't fix crazy!...lol
Mellisa, In watching Teresa this season I am sure that she is near nervous breakdown. She reminds me of women who have been mentally abused and refuse to accept the fact that their reality is not their fantasy. What I’m trying to say to you is that while she may get on your nerves and say things that are very hurtful…understand that she is in a lot of pain. Her husband is a real live jerk /bully and needs therapy. He has lost his way and is leading his family down the toilet feet first and poor Teresa is doggy peddling to stay afloat. I wish I could shake her at times and tell her that this b.s. that Joe Giudice is putting her and those girls through is not acceptable; and she needs to lay off of you and Joe. She is taking out on Joe Gorga what she should be taking out on Joe Giudice….he is her brother—not her man.
Great blog Melissa! I love your honesty & I really believe that you are trying your best to keep your cool. It seems like your a great mom, wife, aunt and singer ;) ! Hopefully one day Teresa can see you for who you really are and mend your relationship. Best of luck - A RHONY Fanatic!
Melissa, I didn't like you at first, but I have come to love you! You're a strong woman who loves her husband and children. Teresa is jealous of you. The way she and her Joe talked about her family is not acceptable. It's not funny or cute. She doesn't want people talking about her and her family, yet she and her hubby treat people like this? Give me a break. As one estranged from her family because of jealousy on the part of my parents and sister, you're really better off without the drama. She isn't going to change and her parents should be stepping in and letting her know that her brother needs to take care of his own family and her husband should be taking care of her.
Melissa, Stay encouraged. You have a beautiful family and I pray that your husband and sister will once again be close and bring your two families together. You are a bright spot on the show!
Melissa, you are beautiful inside and out. If you can't be teresa's friend thats o.k. The one thing you can be to lots of women is an example of a happy woman,wife,mother,friend, you are!!! your a real "girls-girl" I'm sure your fans spersedes teresa's. This must kill her. You go girl!!!!
I'm sure you don't understand because you're only seeing it one sided. What ALL of you need to realize is each of you are individuals and handle each situation individually. Once you ALL stop trying to change each other and accept one another for who you are good or bad, you'll be much happier. The mistake you are making is THANKING JESUS for the wrong things. So happy your investments turned out right for you financially, but he true important things in life are lost. Sorry to say Melissa, but I understand why people are saying you are materialistic; and maybe those people just don't want to surround themselves with someone like you. Accept it and MOVE ON.
Melissa, you DO NOT have to explain yourself about your home. People are soo nosy and jealous it's sick. I am liking you A LOT! Keep your head high, positive and good things will come to you! I love seeing your relationship w/ your husband because it reminds me of mine w/out kids. You both make a lovely couple! Keep strong!
Melissa, I don't agree with Teresa's husband Joe calling you names and saying mean things, but never once have I ever heard you say anything to Kathy's husband Richie when he makes mean comments about Teresa (you know, your husbands only sister). I don't think I have seen one show where he has been on and not said something awful about Teresa. Does "burn the bitch on a stake" sound familiar?
Melissa - I think you are a breath of fresh air on this show. Don't compromise or change for anyone or anything, you and Joe have a marvelous life. Best wishes to you always!
Melissa...Again, If you had previous issues with Teresa, why did you join the RHONJ. Why don't you answer what we all want to know? What Joe Guidice said behind your back still isn't nearly as bad as what Joe Gorga called his sister, Teresa, in front of you sisters. Remember? He called her "Garbage". Joe Gorga seems to set the tone of the start of each season. This season he had to expose a private conversation he had with Teresa four months earlier and funny when the cameras are rolling, he can't control the urge to keep it inside anymore. what a horrible actor. He's a master manipulator and he wants to control his sister and you. The way he treats Teresa...He'll do the same to you one day.
I have learned time and again that you cannot judge a book by its cover. I have learned this lesson again by watching this show. The first time I saw you, I thought you’d be a fake, a flake, and a troublemaker. How wrong I was. You are actually very much the peacekeeper, trying not to cause trouble between your husband and his sister, even to the extent of keeping things inside instead of venting to your best friend, who is your husband. Teresa, at forty, still has not learned that once a person gets married, they are no longer a singular unit, but a unit of two. You have to realize that you are not just telling one spouse, you are telling both. I do not tell my sister anything that I don’t want her husband to know. Another thing I have to say is that I had to laugh out loud when Teresa said talking to you was like talking to a brick wall. Talk about the pot calling the kettle black. There are some people in this world who just don’t get it – and never will. Teresa is one of those people. Case in point #1: She tries to put you down by telling you that if you’re so hell bent on being a family, why do you drop off presents at the kids pre-school – and when you respond, well, you don’t bring presents at all – she calls you materialistic because you brought up presents. Case in point #2: She says this whole argument started thanks to her brother, who told you about the horrible comment that she made under the guise of “looking out for him”. She even tells the camera “Thanks, Joey”. Warning: Do not bang your head against the wall when you’re trying to get something through to Teresa because you’ll give yourself a concussion. Accept the fact that she doesn’t get it, and never will. I have surmised, however, that the fact that she doesn’t get it is the one thing that probably got her through her whole ordeal. She lived through utter humiliation – nation-wide, mind you - and just picked herself up and dusted herself off and kept on keeping on. She wrote books, schlepped to book signings, sold her soul to tabloids and did what she had to do to keep money coming in. To be honest, I don’t think she would have gotten through it if she WAS one of those people who “got it”. Lastly, I am very interested in why people are the way they are. What is in their make up to make them the people who they are today? I now know why. That conversation with her brother at the pool – she said she doesn’t have anyone, just her brother and her parents (by the way, when she said in the cookbook that her sister in law copies her and she said that she wasn’t talking about you, and that she has more than one sister in law – how can that be when she has only one sibling? Does she know what sister in law means?) Anyway – from that one conversation with Teresa and your husband by the pool, you can tell that she was brought up in a household where she was extremely spoiled and all attention was on her, all day long. So it is a sad fact that this forty-year-old wife and mother wants that Joey back – the one that was there for her every beck and call for years. Especially now when she’s going through such a tough time. But Joey went and got married and now his focus is on taking care of his wife and family, and Teresa still gets help every now and then when she really needs him, but Teresa is no longer the end all be all of Joey’s life and that’s how it should damn well be. Teresa doesn’t realize this because of her upbringing and all she knows is she lost her brother the day he married you. I don’t think she’s even conscience of the fact that she wishes Joey were single again and that every act towards you and him stems from that fact. But anyway, the way to deal with the situation is to keep her at arm’s length and let everything she says roll off your backs and don’t pay any heed to any of it. You’ll drive yourself crazy. Oh, and p.s. I think you have a great voice.
Good to know that Joe Giudice has no right to speak bad about you, but that Joe Gorga does that right to speak bad about Teresa. I think it's funny you didn't deny sleeping with many men that Joe Giudice knows. It's good that you didn't because we all believe it to be true. How's that music career working out superstar?
Keep your head up. You are a great mother, aunt, wife and I am sure all around person. Breathe deep daily and you will be alright. I don't even want to mention the negativity you have to deal with but you do it with class so keep it up!
Try and be more understanding to Teresa. She and Joe don't seem to have a good relationship together so she needs to lean on her brother. Never try and come between siblings. They are blood and if something were to happen to either one of them, you would be the one that they would end up resenting.
Melissa, you are a very nice person and sometimes i think people need to hear that, Teresa is just crazy and needs to come down to earth and just say wow did i mess up, i thought she was very close to that on last nites episode. Keep on being you and loving your husband & children, Hope you had a wonderful Mother's Day.
Melissa, you always handle yourself with dignity and grace. God bless you and your family. You can truly see that you guys have a wonderful relationship. I'm sure many more good things are to come. Family drama can be so hurtful and my heart goes out to Joe. You are so blessed to have one another to get you through the rough times.
I have come to love and respect you. You are a good wife, mother, friend and sis-in-law even if Teresa doesn't recognize it. Please know a relationship between a brother and sister, especially in Italian families is very complicated. I am speaking from experience. The boys are treated better than the girls which causes bad feelings. Unfortunately Teresa hasn't learned that or grown up and past it like most people do. Believe me honey, you are lucky to have sisters -- I was the first girl in 30 years in an Italian family. Also do you see how Joe Guidice treats Teresa? I think she is geloso of how well Joey treats you and of the other womens great relationships. Keep you head held high -- you are a good girl!
Melissa, Love watching you and your wonderful family on the show. You and your husband's relationship is inspirational and a great aunt and mother. Keep doing what you are doing and rise above all the negative comments to include those of Teresa.
Melissa, you are so in love with your family and it shows.It is nothing but a shame that Teresa is so jealous and can't control her outbursts and selfish behavior. Unfortunately Teresa and her husband got themselves in big financial trouble and the only way out for her is to sell stories to magazines and turn what could be lovely cookbooks into trash. Her actions are a result of her self loathing. Keep standing up for yourself and your family, you are a perfect example of how a wife, mother and friend should be. Good things happen to good people, you can tell that you are truly grateful and have an enormous heart. You have an amazing husband that knows he should honor you, and your marriage will survive because you also honor him....Best of everything in your move, and for your beautiful family!
I love you, Melissa! You seem like a terrific wife and mother. And when it comes to the family drama, you always take the high road. Unfortunately your sister-in-law is very jealous of you and wants all of Joe's attention. It's very sad. But you keep doing what you're doing....cause it's working for you!!
Hang in there Melissa and hold your head up high. You've done nothing wrong and the ones that have hurt you, have said negative things about you and your husband, give it to god, don't stoop to other's level or say something that you can't take back no matter how many apologies are given. Remember the 3 R's" Repent, Remorse, and Reconcilliation. You must have all 3 to be able to totally forgive someone and to move on. I wish you and your family the best! God Bless!
I think you are wonderful Melissa! I am a single gal and Joe's and your relationship gives me hope that I will meet my soul mate/best friend and that love like that does exist. You guys are absolutely adorable and I am a huge fan of you two, Caroline, Kathy, Jaqueline and especially Rosie!
Melissa - I have to say that I was previously Team Teresa at the start of Season 3. However as Season 3 went on and after following you on twitter and seeing you cope on Season 4 - I have completely turned 180 degrees and I am now Team Gorga. I think you are honest, mature and accepting of the fact that you and Joe have been in the wrong and that you are willing to apologize for your part in it and try to make amends for the sake of the kids and the family. I am shocked to see that Teresa just keeps on attacking you as a mother, an aunt, a wife, a friend and a sister in law. Caroline was right when she said Teresa is Jealous cause you're a "prettier, younger, nicer and more real version of Teresa" and that Teresa won't be happy till there are divorce papers. Teresa needs to get a grip and start realising that you have been far too kind to her and let a lot of crap slide !! She needs to stop attacking you and start trying to make peace.
Also I think it is sad that you have to verify your housing situation and confront the rumours of you being in debt. You shouldn't have to tackle anything!! Why do people have to make stuff up ?! Why can't people just let bygons be bygons and not try to drag others down into the dirt with them?! Actually I don't like internet rumours about anyone (this includes teresa) and I think it is cyber bullying when this happens as it is meant as an attack on your credibility and honesty as a person and a family. So for the people who make the stuff up or even try to publish past things/experiences - shame on you !! Don't judge someone till you have walked in their shoes! But thats just my opinion !
Keep holding your head up high - you are a fantastic mother and wife and sister. You also looked great with your nieces at the pool party ! I don't see how you can be a bad aunt! Anyways ! Keep being strong and know that the truth will come out and people will see the real story soon and you will be proved right !
Lots of Love from Dublin and wishing you lots of Irish luck x
I applaud you Melissa....the way you have conducted yourself is Gracious....always attempting to take the high road but not liking the 'sin' in others....willing to forgive and move on - if they choose to take a high road as well. But I have learned that sometimes people will choose badly - and that doesn't mean you continue to put yourself/family/children in the company of people that are not of God....that choose to be swayed by evil. So pray about it....forgive and don't let their behavior change who you are inside....Joe and you are happy.....and if there is a bit of jealousy there that comes from the pit and the attacks will continue until Joe Giudice and his wife come to terms with what they are putting out there....you reap what you sow.....So you keep Sowing GOOD things....positive things....
I just want to let Melissa and Joe know that I think they have handled themselves very well. I especially think Joe did a very good job TRYING to get through to his sister. Teresa does not think she is ever wrong. I would like to know if she ever watches the show and realizes what she is saying. I think her husband is repulsive in his name calling on the show and she doesn't even say a word. I think they call that bullying. I have been watching the show from the beginning and Teresa has changed especially after all the things going on with her husband. It's terrible she has to go through that but, do not take it out on everyone else.