Cast Blog: #RHONJ

Watch Your Language

Melissa was shocked by some of Joe and Teresa's comments this week.

First and foremost Happy Mother’s Day to all the gorgeous mommies out there! I hope you all enjoyed it with your beautiful families! There is nothing in the world like being a mommy. My children are the reason I hold my head up high every single day. I live and breathe them, and I thank Jesus for them every single day! Like I’ve said before, I was born to be a mommy, and I wouldn’t change a single thing about the life I’m living! I’m blessed and I know it.

On to the episode. And the saga continues… Well I have to say, this episode was very discouraging. I am and always have been that girl who is very optimistic. I give second changes, and I believe in wiping the slate clean and starting over, especially with family. I am known for that among my friends, my family, and everyone who truly knows Melissa Gorga. I think it’s obvious in this episode that it is not going to be that simple.

After Teresa and I argued at the solstice party, I got everything off my chest and I was just hoping I got through to her. Watching her recant the story to Joe, I clearly didn’t. This scene was hard for me to watch, and to be perfectly honest without sugar coating it, it was disgusting. I couldn’t help but sit back and think, “What happened to these people?” This is a man that Joe and I made the godfather of our first born child. To see him speak about me in this repulsive manner made me sick. Calling me a “tramp,” a “gold-digger,” and “horsy face” among other things on national TV. Is this man for real? I just don’t understand how Teresa can sit there as her husband calls her family names. Kathy is a “frog face,” Rosie is a “butchie boy.” Joe Giudice has no limits, but what I find even more appalling is the fact that his wife laughs as he says hateful things, and the only time she stops him is when he calls her brother a “bitch.” Joe Giudice is lucky my father isn’t still alive. He would never tolerate the way he treats and talks about women. During the scenes at Kathy’s BBQ, I was looking at my husband’s face watching the kids play and it made me tear up. I knew what he was thinking. He just wants everything to be normal and peaceful and have his nieces in his life. You could see it in his eyes. Joe wanted to have a positive conversation and to tell his sister to enjoy the day and to just let everything go. Teresa doesn’t want to hear it and kept bring up in the middle of his sentences, “your wife, your wife!” and the fact that Joe has changed since I came into the picture. Of course he has changed. He has a family now. How can Teresa expect to still be Joe’s first priority in his life? 

It’s hard not to see why Joey gets frustrated. It’s almost humanly impossible not to at this point. He’s was trying to be positive, and she just doesn’t get it. There are all different kinds of love. Joe has enough for everyone, but those different kinds of love seem to be blurred with Teresa. The amount of attention she demands from him is a little strange to me. I don’t even require that much, but I constantly try to be patient until they can figure it out. What bothers me the most about their conversation is when she says that I’m a bad aunt to her children and in her interview that Gia hated me. If you watch the episodes, it’s right in front of your eyes. As they are talking, I was holding Audriana and helping her children out of the pool. I was cheering them on from the sidelines, and she keeps making the conversation about me. Why she tries to say these ridiculous things is beyond me.

The end of this episode is what is truly sad. Joe walks away cursing and frustrated and Teresa drives away using a word that no women should EVER use. WOW! I really just wish it would stop for the sake of all of us.

I promise that the season does take a more positive turn. It’s so hard watching these episodes and seeing what was said when you weren’t around. I’m not saying I am completely innocent, and there are times that I make digs. Sometimes it seems like it’s impossible to just meet in the middle.

In other news! Our house is up for sale! I want to clear some things up about it, and it’s totally understandable that a lot of you have questions. Just like Lisa Vanderpump and Kyle Richards sold their houses and moved to other ones, that is all we are doing. Joe is a builder, and we have done this before. Yes, we will build another house from scratch very similar to this one. This is how we actually made a lot of the investments in the buildings we own today. Thankfully Joe and I are better than ever and own more properties than ever. We have gotten lucky to make good investments. I always tell Joe he should write a book and tell everyone how we did it. I think it would be such great advice for everyone to know.

With that said, please don’t believe any of the rumors that we have a balloon payment due, that our interest rate exploded, or that we can’t pay our bills. Our mortgage history is all available in public records, so I would never say that if it wasn’t true. We have a 30-year fixed mortgage with an interest rate of 5% and have never once missed a mortgage payment in the whole eight years we’ve been married. It would make no sense that now we couldn’t afford this house. We own four buildings and have many other investments that would allow us to stay in this house forever if we wanted to. Montville is such a beautiful town. I absolutely love it and the school systems are incredible, but we just truly want to move back to Franklin Lakes. That’s where we lived when we first got married. It’s closer to where Joe works and sometimes you just have to make changes that are good for your family. The kids are getting older, so we want to be settled in now where we are going to be for the long run.For the record, we sold our last house in Franklin Lakes for $2.45 million to LaVar Arrington (formerly of the Washington Red Skins and NY Giants) and bought in Montville so we could be closer to Teresa and the cousins. We moved into our current house in 2008 and didn’t sign on to the show until 2010. So obviously we did not just move into the house because we got on the show. We were approached by the producers two years after we were already living here. It does however kind of stink to be looped into the negativity surrounding everyone else’s problems, but I get, so that’s why I’m explaining it to you. Also, to all of you asking about my studio downstairs -- it’s just a room, and all the equipment is coming with me! Yes there will be a new studio in my new house. Mind you, if we don’t sell this house, we aren’t moving anywhere. We will still be here! Sorry, it’s not juicier than that.

I can’t explain how much your support means to me through all of this. I wish I could personally thank each and every one of you.

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xoxo,
Melissa
 

Amber: Is Dina Coldhearted?

Amber Marchese dishes on her first reunion and why Dina Manzo confuses her.

Hello Housewife friends!  Welcome to the jungle baby! My first reunion was a wild ride. Call me sick and twisted, but I had an unbelievable time at the reunion when most, I have been warned, dread it. I felt like it was “The Great Purge” and when I went home I was felt relieved of any built up tension. I don’t care if anyone has a grudge against me, my slate is clean and I harbor no ill feelings towards anyone. I love to argue my point, and I truly stood by all of my convictions this season, so I was ready to say exactly what was on my mind, and then some. 

I know the twins and I went at one another pretty hard, but that is what the reunion is all about. It is an opportunity to get it all out and potentially understand one another's position better. Then we can each make our own decisions as to where we want to go with our relationships. I am very much the type of person that can say some of the meanest things and sling mud, but hug it out at the end forgetting anything negative that was said. It just rolls off my back. I actually think it is healthier to say what needs to be said, and then move on.

One thing I did question after the reunion was if Dina actually has a heart or if I should start calling her the Tin Man. I actually have not figured her out yet. Is she really just a coldhearted bitch, or has she been hurt so many times that she has become warped and jaded. I feel I don’t owe anyone any reason as to why I call cancer “the cancer,” but I will give it once more anyhow. “The cancer” is “the monster” to me. It is a way for me to take away its power and to minimize it. “It” destroys lives, so “it” does not deserve a name. It is just “the cancer” -- it was “the monster” or “the dragon.” Although Dina claims to have an understanding of how devastating cancer is to a family, her actions and blatant lack of empathy proves otherwise.

In addition, I did not think it was appropriate for me to interject into family quarrels at the reunion; however, this is something that I feel strongly about. I have met Jaqueline and I have spoken to her on many occasions. In the very short time that I have gotten to know Jaqueline, I know and have empathy with the struggles she has caring for Nicholas. I felt that Dina’s interpretation of her nephew was callous and completely out of touch with reality. The only thing that keeps playing in my mind is, "You know nothing John Snow."  No, thank God, he is not hooked up to machines with cancer; however, what the Laurita family goes through is extremely difficult on a day to day basis that will continue on for a lifetime. It is emotionally and financially devastating. Although, Dina "visits" children with cancer, at the end of her visit she gets to go home, leaving it behind and goes on with her daily life. Since Dina does work with children with cancer, I pray that she can abstain from a self-absorbed lifestyle and become a loving, involved aunt.