Here's the deal though: you're only ever paid for photographs. The magazine has to pay for photos no matter what: either they do a photo shoot with you, or they pay for shots from a professional photographer who just happened to catch you walking down the street, or god forbid, the paparazzi. Here's how I feel about that: if the magazine is going to run a story about you anyway and you have no control about what the story will be, what will be on the cover, even how they might twist your own quotes or use ugly pictures of you, why not get paid for a professional photo shoot? I love, love, love photographs... especially of me and my girls. You've seen my Christmas cards; I go over the top with photographs. Now suddenly magazines are offering to give me gorgeous photos (that I get to keep) and they'll pay me. If I say no, they're going to do the story anyway, but the photos will probably not be pretty, like the recent cover of US Weekly with my arms crossed when I look all mad. Who wants that?
So Jacqueline and I were all excited to have beautiful shots of us and our babies in In Touch and get paid for them! And that one actually was a pretty nice story, no drama or crazy cover tags. But maybe that's because we never made it to the cover. We got bumped for a story about Brat Pitt and Jennifer Aniston. No need to have a dramatic cover sentence for us because we weren't the cover.
It's weird how it works: you don't always get paid even for photo shoots. People magazine doesn't pay for instance (unless you're Brad Pitt I'm guessing). But when I was asked to pose for a photo shoot with my girls in their playroom, for back-to-school clothes with Alex McCord and her boys, and with my girls for Halloween in People magazine, I did them all for free because I love taking pictures! You don't have any say about the photos of course, and they can still pick a bad one, but I still think taking pictures is fun, especially when I get to keep them for free.
At some point the photos of me and my kids must have been selling well because I started to get asked more often, and started to appear on covers I was never asked about at all. And of course, the stories about me got crazier. To date, I've been on the cover of over 25 magazines. That's just crazy to me; I know actors and models would kill for that much exposure. But I didn't ask for it. They put me on the cover because apparently magazines sell really well when I'm on them. I'm not sure if that's flattering or not since the stories aren't typically very flattering.
Jac sounds like she's trying to help Tre just the way she was "trying" to help Gia. Remember, it's still her version of the truth. She's gonna kill herself being a people pleaser...actually she's the worst kind. Check it out....just what is it she gets out of being the fixer all the time. She gets to be the "hero" or the victim. She gets a "reward" either way...as a hero, she's the saint...as thevictim......everyone rallies around poor Jac. Sometimes people resent your help, cuz they can never claim progress on their own...but then if they take your advice & fail, they resent you & let you wallow in your victomhood. Maybe a bit less Pollyanna / DarthVader(Caroline).
You are my fave fave fave! Love that you pointed out that you do have a college degree! But don't worry, those jealous Housewives will find a way to downgrade that achievement too. The jealousy is unreal at this point.
I hope I am as positive and happy as you are!
Keep shining brightly and doing your thing. I am very proud of you and how you are handing the situation. The other ladies constant snipping behind your back is really disturbing and getting strange. Don’t they have anything else they can talk about?
PS, LOVE LOVE LOVE the new cookbook "Fabulicious: Fast & Fit" and your and your sparkling wine Fabellini. One problem though, I can’t decide whether I like Raspberry or Peach better.
Best wishes, Jason Kelly
Still love, love, love YOU! When is somebody gonna finally see how good a show with just you and Joe would be?
Teresa they are just jealous because nobody is putting them on covers. Seriously, anyone who read the article KNOWS they used Caroline's own words! She's upset because they repeated what she said?! Please. It's so old watching her.
Melissa was only worried because they used an ugly picture of her. She had no other issue than that.
Jac's own hubby had the best reaction, "Good for her." Only that was not was Jac wanted to hear. So, she pretends to be your friend to you face while talking bad about you during her interviews. You are better off without friends like that. Jealousy is an ugly thing and anyone watching can see the other women foaming at the mouth everytime you get any attention. Enjoy it, Teresa. Let them lose it while you're smiling. Only makes us love you more.
Thanks for breaking that down Tre. You're one smart cookie girl friend. Don't soil your loubs stepping on those haters when you can clearly step right over them, as you have.
Teresa, I hear directly from Melissa's quotes some of the ugly things she says, and her jabs at you. I'm not saying I'm completely your fan but that girl is vicious. Claiming to be anything but is just as fake as the articles put out there in those magazines. I know most people ridicule me for being on your side per se but how can anyone not see right through Melissa's phoniness??? Seriously!! I'm not jealous of her, i think she is gorgeous and her kids are too, but seriously, she is thirsty for fame and attention. I think the problem here is you like the fame too. And no one wants to give it up. i think giving it up is what will truly solve yalls problems. Ps... you really need to consult with a PR agent, some of us have a hard time expressing our thoughts in a conscise and understandable manner. You're not very articulate when you're on TV, and that is not something you can help, most of America is this way! Just advice.
Thank you SO much for explaining all of that Teresa, even though you didn't have to. WE as viewers support YOU! We see the phony, fake, bullies Caroline, Jac, Melissa,and Kathy. They are ALL so jealous of you and all that you have accomplished professionally. You're awesome, and I look forward to watching YOU every week. XOXOXOXO
Love you more and more every week. Just take care of your and your family and ignore the jealous people. They're just mad you're creating your own empire and their only storyline is bashing you. It's pretty sad. I'd love for you and the girls to get your own show one day. No drama, just a mama and her kids.
Go Teresa!! It's time to put these bullies in their place. They all live in glass houses and the stones are starting to crash through their windows. They thought the fans would be on their side, but they're not!
Teresa I have to admire they way you have managed to hold you head up & move forward, I wish the "OTHER" Housewives could do the same. Caroline & Jacqueline are @ this point, just making fooks of themselves, bashing you every chance they get. As for Mellisa I don't think people pay that much attention to her, so she has to make up things to get attention ! We Teresa fans can see through the smoke & mirrors don't worry chickie we got your back ! Can I also say on the wedding episode Joe ( your Joe) really showed several times what a teddy bear he could be, when he teared up @ the wedding I did too, & the comments on the butterflies ? He had me right there ! He can be gruff sometimes, but aren't we all ? Seeing the softer side of Joe really made the episode !
Teresa, I will buy a magazine with you on the cover because you are interesting. The other jealous women are not worthy of a cover.
I am so glad you are standing up to these bullies-I know you have many faults-as we ALL do, but I want you to know that we love watching you and your family! Never a dull moment! The others are pretty boring .
Hang in there Teresa! It's VERY clear to me that the Gorgas play up for the camera. It's just all too convenient. I just hope that others can see through that b.s. and that Andy is FAIR THIS YEAR ON THE REUNION SHOW!!! You are there to be a mediator ANDY, not a conspirator against Teresa! Is your pride that hurt over the push?? Come on Andy, get over it! She helped your career!!! Love Love Love you Tre!!! Bravo is a punk for not posting all comments!!!
Tre- What an eye opener for me about the magazine stories, thank you for sharing that info, that explains a lot. I enjoyed watching you on CA and I always watch RHONJ to see what you are up too! You are great fun! I wish you all the best! Marti
I have to admit, in the past, I didn't think very highly of you, but I think you've grown as a person since starting the show, and I'm very impressed with your resilience. Call me a convert, but I like your style. Stay strong, and don't let the others drag you down.
God Bless, Teresa. I hope some will read this with open minds and hearts. You have done nothing wrong. You aren't perfect, but none of us are. You have been very mistreated by your fellow Housewives, with Caroline leading the way. I wish you peace and only good things in your future. You deserve it!
I agree that it's not Teresa's fault what's published in the magazines. However, I do think it's Teresa's responsibility to call Caroline (or anyone else mentioned in the magazine) and explain it to her and apologize if necessary.
Don't put the other wives down because they don't do magazine covers. You say they make fun of you/tease you/bully you, but when you say equally rude things back, you are no longer a victim.
I remember when this "in Touch" magazine cover came out. The magazine used their quotes, so why are they upset? They are jealous for the fact that you are the breakout star of the show. Melissa as a lot of nerve to question your loyality when her husband or your brother has none. As far as therapy with your brother, it is a good idea if he was trustworthy, but hie is not.
love the new page wishing so bad your family would make up and be happy life is to short i had lost my 17 yr old son and if a didn't have a sister or brother just all my family i would not have made it so try really hard pride is not everything and u can see i care a less what my writing is like a loving fan for all of you
Teresa has come so far since the taping of this show. It's too bad she has to relive it all and defend herself against all the BS accusations. But I guess that's all part of the show. Love her or hate her, like Chris said, she does hustle.
What's funny is that at the beginning of this season I was ready to hate you! But as the episodes went on and I read the blogs and twitters I realized that the other women are pretty insane.
To be mad at you for what a tabloid said? Come on!! Ridiculous! Now, do I think that you're a saint? Of course not, no one is, but you are being berated weekly and daily on social mediums and it's getting old.
Teresa...thank you for explaining how it works. It just doesn't make sense to some of us why you would be trying to deceive us your fans....as you would be the one to lose the most. The other ladies are still clawing their way to the top taking no prisoners....banding together in numbers so to make their case.
There is money in the bravo franchises...and the only reason why Kathy and Melissa joined your show was so that they could make some money (get a piece of the pie as Kathy explained on The View..."it's a big pie...why can't everyone have a piece of it??")....they've admitted it as well. By taking you down and making themselves look better (so they thought)....it would bring more money in for themselves.
Anyway, you have the last laugh...no matter what Melissa and Kathy's supporters have to say. YOU are the star of that show and the harder they try to take you down in such a nasty and vicious way....the more you come out on top.
I caught Melissa's acting attempt at drying a fake tear ... she can neither act nor sing....it's all "on display". She's no "rockstar".
Get 'em Teresa! 'bout time you started speaking your mind about your fake friends and family.. We knew this all along, but it's nice to hear you stick up for yourself. I don't know how you keep these awful people in your life. If it were me, I would have cut ties a long time ago.. xo
I love Teresa, she is so right. The other housewives (except for Kathy) are so jealous of you! Keep your head held high! - xoxo Kristina
Teresa, I work in magazines and know how it works. However, you voluntarily posing for the photos and agreeing to interviews just gives them more fodder to work with. Those tabloid writers are PROS at picking and choosing quotes to edit what they want to convey. Why would you want that? If you ignored them and moved out of the spotlight a little bit, they probably wouldn't feel compelled to put you on the "covers" all the time. You seem like a smart enough business woman to realize that your cook books are good enough to sell on their own (they are, look at their success!)
People aren't interested in reading about you as a person on the cover of these magazines, they love to see people in a downward spiral and with the way the magazines are twisting your words, yes, that's what it looks like. Again, why would you VOLUNTARILY participate in a publication that wants to destroy your image like that? I understand you need to make money: Celebrity Apprentice, your cook books, and whatever else were all good platforms for that. But you have to realize when other people are upset that you are allowing these publications to continue to prod and destroy your image along with your cast mates' images. You don't have control on what they say, but you should be smart enough by now to know that it's never going to be good.
Go Teresa! You are making a living & working, none of them work outside of the reality show. And they feel free to judge you. Lets face it there are millions of people w/ family problems , you're not alone. Not everyone gets along w/ their siblings spouses, I don't blame you one bit for being hurt that they joined the show. I just bought your cookbook from QVC , can't wait to try the recipes !
Teresa, I love love love you! Keep your chin up! Don't let the haters get to you. I too am going through some financial issues and have two kids, its not easy and if you haven't been there, then you have no idea! Do what you need to do for you and your family!
If you don't like what the magazines say about you, your friends or your family - do not associate with them. Pretty simple Teresa. Otherwise it's just 6 wasted blog pages of "it's not my fault [blink blink].
Teresa this is my favorite blog by far. I love it!! Thank you for finally putting the rumors to rest about the magazine cover. I cant believe how catty your family is. They are clearly jealous. You and Joe looked like you had so much fun at the wedding. It was beautiful to see the tear in Joe's eye. I know a lot of people don't get him, but I love him. I think he is a great husband and father. Wishing you the best. Look forward to buying more magazines...xoxo
Love Teresa more and more after each episode. Dislike the rest more and more after each episode. Epic fail Caroline, Jacqueline, Melissa and Kathy. BTW, if I did not care for my brother's wife, neither would my best friend. Period.
Teresa you are my absolute favorite housewife. Even if you did say the other ladies were bullies, it's the TRUTH, they are. They gang up on you, they pick apart everything you do and say and it is all because they are jealous. They are jealous of your success, they are jealous of the fact that without you there would be no NJ Housewives show. I am so happy your cookbooks are doing so well, you NEED your own cooking show so you can get off of this show. Trust me I don't believe a word any of them say and you are so right...Melissa's acting is just awful!!!!! Keep smiling T, you have many fans that LOVE you!!!!
Honestly, Theresa, everything with you is excuses. You have an answer for everything from your husbands disgusting behavior to your daughters' disrespectful antics to your own manipulative actions. You talk yourself in circles never owning up to anything, yet constantly pointing the finger at any and everyone else. Own up to your faults and maybe things will start to get better for you. Until then you'll just continue alienating everyone in your life. Remember one thing, is your brother or your pride more important to you?
Why is it different for Melissa to have pictures done by a magazine? You have just explained how it all works so you dont get to me mad at Melissa for doing the same thing you do unless you are a hypocrite. If you want to sell pictures of yourself to trash magazine than you are what you support.
Hi Teresa...All anyone who has a doubt has to do is look at Melissa's website to see how fame hungry she is. I for one will never like Melissa, just based on how she and Kathy came on RHONJ behind your back ( I also read your personal blog on your website for this week). I have always agreed with the fact that if there were problems with you two, then why join the cast, unless you have an agenda...Which from the first episode she and Joe clearly had.
Anyway, don't look back. As always I wish you and your family peace and happiness. XO
I believe you, Teresa. There's no way you have someone helping you wright, no one could screw up grammar like you.
When is Bravo going to give Teresa her own show so I can completely avoid her presence on my television?
Love you Tre! My heart does ache for you as I am sure it is terrible to watch people who you considered family say such terrible things about you. Just keep your head up- have you considered talking to NeNe for advice ? Her friends really turned against her when she was on Celebrity Apprentice. Jealousy is so ugly.
Great blog, Teresa! I have always understood how the tabloids work, but I know some people believe them word for word. Caroline, Melissa and Kathy all know also, they just wanted to play stupid for the sake of making you look bad. I don't agree with all you do, however, Caroline is a green eyed monster, Melissa is only looking for fame and to bring you down. I hate the turn this show has taken. I really do believe you are becoming a positive person, but you need to have all these negative people out of your life. I wish you the best in the future.