Teresa Giudice

Teresa Giudice opens up about Joe's phone call.

on Aug 20, 20120

And we're both trying. I don't think anyone on TV doesn't watch themselves and cringe at what they thought would be a funny joke at the time that just comes out sounding terrible or awkward. I know I do. But you also can't over analyze it or you'll go crazy or start faking your way through everything. I would rather be imperfect than fake. Or crazy for that matter. But, I'm not going to lie, it does hurt.

My husband disrespecting me on camera happened a year ago, but I just found out about it, and I'm trying to process it. I seem to always be the last to find out things, huh? People's pasts keep coming out and they admit their dirty deeds to me, like my own family contacting Danielle to try and "take me down," but I only find out about it months or years later. They say they're sorry, they're not that person now, and what can I do? I forgive them. I forgave my brother and Melissa, and I can forgive Joe. But I'm not stupid. It does make me wary, it does make it hard to trust the people I love.

But that's how it is in grown-up life. It's not a fairy tale. Everyone I know has their own share of heartbreak. And to be honest, guys in Jersey aren't the most refined in the world. I look around me and I see other guys treating their women the same as Joe treated me and worse. I don't like it; I don't think any woman does. It's weird that we put up with it when we're so strong and smart in so many other ways... But I'm sure it's the same with guys in a lot of places.

They're different animals. They are animals. They think it's funny to show everyone their buttholes. Women aren't like this. We have our own kind of ugly that men don't understand. But we have to work it out and live together, don't we? I don't really want a guy that acts like a woman. I'd rather not have Joe talk to me like a perfect gentlemen and go to his mistress' apartment every night either.

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Jozdev
Jozdev

What happened to you in your past that makes you live in such denial? With you it's either deny, lie or justify. It must be so exausting for you to keep up with what you say, what you say you didn't say and how you need to turn around and point the finger at others. I just watched the reunion and it's pathetic to see you deny everything you say and do until you are forced to admit something (because they have it on tape) and then get right to denying it happened or blaming someone else for doing it in the first place...and if that doesn't work,...you say they twisted your words, don't want to talk about it or bring out someone elses actions which you think justifies yours.

grammie22
grammie22

Teresa...please wake up and smel the coffee!  I see the love in your eyes that you have for your family and your girls.  I do believe there is good in you...but I know and the world knows and YOU know that your husband is a cheating!  Look at what has happened to your life...I saw the tears in both your eyes and Joe's and the intense love that is there...be an example to your girls like Caroline said, show their how to be a survivor in this world, not a victim.  I shudder to think about what those children have had to witness, and those are just the things that aired!

Blood is thicker than water Teresa. I happen to believe you didn't know about the set up, I do believe you made peace with Melissa and I enjoyed seeing you both with your children.

Don't let your cheating, con husband steal the person you are and bring you down with him.

 

The only shame in the words I'm sorry is when it goes unsaid!

kaytwright
kaytwright

I remember watching you during the first season you seemed like a strong woman who didn't take crap from others. Then adversity struck your family. Instead of you taking the high road, you mentally shut down and lost the spark you once had. You knew what being on a reality show meant very little privacy. Hey, everyone on the show gets paid to be on it so there is no expectation of privacy. When giving interviews, the magazine prints YOUR answers not made up stories. I'd like to think the stress of family problems has not made you lose basic common sense. You really need to let go of your jealousy of Melissa. She has not stolen your brother from you. 

melnms
melnms

Teresa It is way pas time for u to wake up & realise you're pushing away the wrong people in your life. Your Bro. has vowed to b there for U & his nieces. I don't know who u r listening to for advise but it is obvious who is jealous between u & Melissa, who is an excellent Mother, & wife to your brother& your nieces. If its Kim def. wrong 1. It is often hard for people to accept the fact of who the problem is but when everyone else can get along & there is only 1 that is having total h n their life the answer is there. Caroline maybe but she is a very caring & Loving Mother. U could take alot of her advise & learn from it. I hope u find the courage to stand up for you & your daughters  & realise that the fame can leave at any moment but FAMILY & FRIENDS will b there thru your darkest times                                                 

ftllady2
ftllady2

Teresa,  you've got to get your head out of the sand and really see what's going on around you.  You are no longer one of my favorites, basically because you trash everyone else to make yourself look good.  It doesn't work.  Why do you think everyone else on the show has distanced themselves from you.  Can they all be wrong?  Don't friends tell their closest friends just about everything?  I understand why Jacqueline asked you questions when she read the items in the magazine.  If I were in trouble and heard things about myself - whether true or not, my best friend would be the first one I'd go to.  One of the comments below was about how wonderful your husband is as a husband and father and how much he loves you.  That's BS. The way he speaks to and about you to others is unconscionable.  I really feel a little sorry for you and your blindness, but have hopes that you will see the light in the not too distant future.  For all the success you've had with your books, etc., you really have nothing.  That's very sad.

jetsgrrrrl
jetsgrrrrl

EXCUSES. EXCUSES..LEAVE THE BUM!!!!!

orvalbear
orvalbear

How sad that you have chosen to overlook your husband's affair and abuse. You could confront and heal. instead you  bury your head in the sand and make up excuses and try to make those around you as miserable you you are behind close doors.

kitchey
kitchey

t, everything he said on the phone fits you to a T

BLenore
BLenore

It was more than calling you a name. He said that the person on the phone didn't speak English, but clearly they did. His tone did change a lot once you were there. Those are not little lies, he got away with something that day. Maybe we will find out in later seasons. I'm sure you love him, but he seems like more trouble than he is worth. 

krissylynn7
krissylynn7

ok...but what about the way he changed his voice and acted all shady?  Um...is there an elephant in the room?

Maggietish
Maggietish

In response to Gingeer13 - so I guess you're saying Dina is an idiot that anyone can sway to their way of thinking.  Did you watch the past 2 seasons ast all.  I'm not a fan of Teresa but I don't condone the bullying that took place - and continues to take place.  She's a survivor because she didn't just give up when her whole world fell apart - even Jacqueline passed a "good" comment about how when Joe got in trouble Teresa got right out there to support her children - so that makes her a survivor.  If there is any wedge between the sisters its all Caroline and nothing but Caroline.  Dina has her life together - good marriage, successful career, good Mother who hates all the drama.  That's not bad in any persons book.  So I guess you think Dina should join the I hate Teresa vendetta just because she doesn't want Caroline to be angry with her???????  Teresa may not aticulate they way you apparently feel she should since you are sitting in judgment of her - but she's the one, articulate or not, who has made a success of her books, Celebrity Apprentice and now the wine.  Why women attack other successful women, instead of wishing them well, is beyond me.  Also, I guess you don't recall that Jacqueline called Teresa scum and threatened to twitter information she obtained from her good friend Kim G (you know the one who wanted Danielle to presecute her daughter) had gotten from a Private Detective Kim G had hired to follow Teresa's husband Joe.  One can only imagine who put Kim G up to that - Jacqueline perhaps?  That's not anyone idea of friendship.  The surprising thing is that Jacqueline actually acted offended that Teresa didn't invite her to her party launching the wine--she really can't be serious.  And too, wonder how Jacqueline's daugher feels knowing that her Mother has betrayed her by befriending (again) Kim G - the woman who wanted her prosecuted.  When Teresa flipped the table she was defenidng Dina and the Manzos - guess you forgot that.  The show needs to go off the air - too much hate - it isn't entertaining any longer.  If they all don't want to bother with Teresa - so don't bother - why do they continue to use any and all social media to keep on trashing and attacknig her? 

ggmiami
ggmiami

Teresa please...

Try loosing a $40 an hour job, your home, your marriage, your health in 9 months and surviving it all and not be on meds or drugs, instead continue to struggle to survive! Try living off $700 a month with a preteen! Once you do that you can see you are a survivor...

tbaer3
tbaer3

 

If you are fighting with everyone on the show.. do you not see that the main denominator in the equation is you?????

jennylynnrice
jennylynnrice

What you said about marriage and husbands is so true. I am so glad y'all are in a better place now. Men do stupid things all the time, and I admire you for being able to forgive Joe. I think he's a great daddy and really does love you, he just has no filter (for anyone!).

Lcoop75
Lcoop75

Wow! He should have just told you he was joaking..haha and see if that got him the same forgiveness you thought you deserved from Caroline.

 

 

 

 

RayMcNultyNJ
RayMcNultyNJ

Teresa, I don't know you personally and I get that "reality shows" might not have set scripts but they can (& do) use editing to create storylines & can show things out of context or use soundbytes out of order or clip them to have a person say what they wanted them to say. I do understand...but there comes a point where the excuse wears very thin and when everybody around you is telling you that you live in a dream world, you are delusional, and it becomes not just 1 person you have issues with but everybody...I mean hearing you talk in your confessionals...when you and your brother went to the shrink...hearing your husband constantly telling you to shut up, who cares, being incredibly rude & nasty...there comes a point where you have to acknowledge it might be you that has a problem and stop playing the victim card. I've heard you blame Bravo, Various Magazines, Danielle, Melissa, Jacqueline, Caroline, and so on and so forth down the line for all your problems...but I know alot of entertainment magazines might bend the truth or stretch it to the point of almost breaking but because of lawsuits & credibility issues they don't flat out lie or fabricate a story. Yes they might not check their sources 100% of the time, but I've read some of the articles and having seen your confessionals & the way you talk about everybody behind their backs..I can totally hear you selling out your so-called friends to make a few bucks. That quote from your cookbook about Caroline being 1/15 Italian...if it was a "joke" as you claim...it was underhanded and from a place of mean & nasty not "light & love." To make it ever sadder...for most of the time you have been on the air Caroline & Jacqueline often defended you and had your back, even though you often didn't deserve tit. IF you have to follow a joke with "JUST KIDDING" on some level you know what you said is wrong and u are trying to do preemptive drama control to make yourself feel better. You have a dynamic personality...and your loyalty to your husband is admirable...but he totally doesn't deserve it. It doesn't matter who he was on the phone with, the fact he would refer to you as his "bitch wife" just shows he is a NASTY human being. NEVER do you refer to somebody that you love in that manner...and how can you sit back and watch things on TV, seeing what was said when you weren't around, and NOT realize that the girls tried to hold on to their friendship with you, give you the benefit of the doubt, and have your back FOR such a long time (even when you totally didn't deserve their loyalty) or see your husband for what he is...he bitches, he moans, he talks to you in such a demeaning fashion. Watch your show and how Albert, Christopher, Richie, and your brother talk to (and about) their wives than compare that to the way your husband talks to you (and about you when you're not around). Verbal abuse is just as destructive as physical abuse...you just don't have to tell people you fell down the stairs or walked into a door to explain bruises or broken bones to explain away bruises & broken bones. Anyways this is much longer than i meant it to be...and if you won't listen to your brother, sister in law, or "friends" I doubt you'll listen to a gay guy from NJ but then again maybe hearing it from an outside source who has nothing to lose or gain by throwing it out there might get the msg across...who knows. I wish you the best

reallygetrealgal
reallygetrealgal

Teresa. Carolyn is just jealous that you were mending fences with the others and she didn't want that so she made it about her and is a disgusting person for that.  I used to like her but her family is so high on themselves.  She needs to spend more time trying to fix her family than interfering with YOURS!  God bless you lil mama.  You have many fans who ADORE you!  And Kathy needs to butt out and stop being such a baby.  Ugh.

cece.duvall
cece.duvall

I genuinely believe Teresa does the mags for the money. It seems like she is the primary breadwinner and they have four kids and are living in debt. So, if she wants to turn to this money making opportunity so be it. Jacqueline's father had it right.

terithen@aol.com
terithen@aol.com

Well it is what it is. Joe made a fool out of himself again. Poor choices. It seems Joe prefers punishment. Carolyn needs a tune up. For the most part the whole family s scales are tipped.

Dusty73
Dusty73

I do like Teresa. She just been dealing Joe's nonsense and to be honest I don't think Joe deserves Teresa. Then there is Caroline who is always runnig her mouth. Caroline and her nasty talk and it's getting tiresome.

mangojuice
mangojuice

You really need to stop making excuses for Joe. 

sue702
sue702

Well said! Teresa is not the reason for any seperation of Caroline's family. Dina has repeatly said so. Caroline has an unlying reason for hating Teresa and is using any excuse to lash out against her. To me, Caroline embarassed herself at the way she went about trying to make Teresa look bad at the vineyard when it appeared everyone had a good time in the hottub and she didn't join in. Why, who knows. She came at Teresa out of nowwhere with attaching her and really I don't think she even knows why she's mad at her. When Teresa's family didn't join in she didn't know what to do. I'm glad it was on so we all could hear for ourselves what a mean and hateful person Caroline truly is. Joe, you were great.... but I thought you should have said to Caroline you didn't appreicate what she said to Teresa and not just say you were going to bed! Anyway...... it's finally out in the open and you have said it all. Thanks.......

cherylindayton
cherylindayton

I don't think even Caroline knew why she was arguing.  She didn't express herself too well.  But I think she didn't have specific  problems as much as she meant  she was  tired of you in general.  Tired of the way you treat people and conduct yourself with friends and family.   She should have said she simply doesn't like you anymore and wants to disengage with whatever friendship you might have had. Seems to me she has been annoyed with you since your trip to Italy. 

Live_Lorinda
Live_Lorinda

Teresa, 

 

It seems you are not in touch with reality.  While I believe you have a good heart with good intentions and certainly are not deserving of the abuse you receive from you husband; you are afraid to face truth.  For the sake of yourself and your children, spend some time looking at the episodes your behavior around circumstances and everyone's reaction towards you, everyone just wants you to face truth, take responsibility and deal with the truth.  He is abusive, your children are disrespectful and you have the potential of being better and whole and it doesn't mean you are a failure when you look at stuff for what it is.  You will get more support, and you need it, get the help you need.

ldematteo165
ldematteo165

Teresa...

Your blog was really good!   When you made the toast at Caroline's birthday,  I took it as you did that it was Caro. birthday and you were happy to be making up with your brother and sister n law.  God, everybody on that show gets themselves all worked up with anything you say!  That is really their problem... from now on I wouldn't mention a thing about them to the press or in an interview!  Because anything you say will come back to bite you!  Hang in there and just enjoy your family!

selina612
selina612

Teresa, I see something good in all the ladies on NJ. But you are an inspiration to me. You have done well with yourself in spite any problems, what other people think, etc.

 

I only hope to half as strong as you are! I wish you much happiness and success!

gladys.brown.777
gladys.brown.777

Teresa just stay away from Kathy, her hasband,caroline and her family and u will be just fine.

 

Maggietish
Maggietish

In answer to a blog I just read - here's the breakdown.  The first season Teresa did flip over the table when Danielle insulted her to "pay attention please."  Teresa was defending her friend Dina and the Manzos at that time.  Second season Teresa was defending and supporting Jacqueline (something Jacqueline seems so willing to forget) when Danielle went after Ashley.  Third season Melissa, Joe, Kathy and that goof ball husband of hers Richie came on the show and each and every episode they attacked, demeaned and ridiculed Teresa and her family.  Even Melissa's sisters never stopped.  Kathy's Mother even corrected Kathy about it saying they were family, etc.  Plus Melissa had contacted Danielle and was supplying her with information against Teresa - so if she didn't have a "hate agenda" against Teresa, why would she have done that?  That's not being the "warm, cozy, innocent" that she claims to be in anybody's book. I actually cringe when she blesses herself to Jesus - does she think her behavior is condoned by our Lord?  Would Jesus treat Teresa or her that way - of course not.  She is such a phony and its insulting to those of us who believe that she does that - what a hypocrite.   I can honestly admit that I wasn't a big fan of Teresa until I saw what was going on all season long with Melissa & the gang.  I was beyond appauld at the last reunion show when they all attacked her and saw how absolutely ugly Caroline really is.  Jacqueline has a lot to say behind Teresa's back but didn't have the guts to come on the reunion show.  She has  very short memory - Teresa always had her back and always supported her.  She has beocme Caroline's puppet and will throw Teresa under the bus whenever Queen Caroline tells her to do it.  That makes Jacqueline a snake.  What really surprised me is that Andy didn't step in at all - he allowed the public beating and bullying and almost encouraged it.  Its well know that Andy doesn't like Teresa - but he shouldn't be conducting the reunion show since he is so biased against Teresa and can't separate that and simply mediate as he should have done.  He never once corrected them, asked them to explain, or stopped the public slaugter they tried to do to Teresa - it was a disgrace.  But he had no problem at all tring to intimidate Teresa about anything.  Agian, he shouldn't be conducting the reunion show.  The fourth season we have Queen Caroline who is angry with Teresa for God only knows what.  I think if she could blame her for global warming she would.  Dina and Caroline haven't been speaking (along with other of Caroline's siblings) - so she's blaming Teresa.  If you're having that much trouble with your siblings, most people would question themselves - but she just blames Teresa.  The fact is that she is so over the top jealous of Teresa that she can't stand it.  Her vile, mean, despicable, bullying behavior is actually hurting the sales of BLK and her daugher's attempted business.  But she doesn't care - its all about Caroline.  Last week's show was a disgrace - Caroline looked like a big bully and fool.  Bravo needs to dump her - she is a detriment to the show and if she stays on, I will not watch it.   

mpaigemax
mpaigemax

You need to keep Joe in the basement while you work to support your family.

JulesG.
JulesG.

Sorry and heartbroken for you. We all see how hard you try to make him feel special and desired. I have a feeling she is not the first. Short man syndrome is a man who doesn't like himself and is never going to stop acting like the big dog. He could take some cues from your brother. He is a real Jersey man. He loves his family and you so much.

sharon.hollewestphal
sharon.hollewestphal

Teresa your statement from above: I felt like I'd been kicked in the stomach. Well That's what us Californians/fans felt with your actions in the vineyard and your hubby talking smack. I have been to NJ and it smelt like a garbage dump, dirty has hell & people rude to the max. Your family & gang need to stay in NJ with the garbage & not return to California because you will never apologized for your actions. Get educated about the Golden Gate! It doesn't matter if this happened a year ago you need to make a public apologize.

Joannelizz52
Joannelizz52

 @Maggietish

 Well put! Teresa may not be the friend you count on to save you a place on a lifeboat, but Jacqueline isn't any better. What was her excuse for grilling Teresa about all her money troubles anyway..something about Teresa  not being "real" with her..please. It seems like Jacqueline and her husband keep patting themselves on the back for being such great friends to Joe and Teresa, mind your own business Jacqueline and don't be so quick to get in the middle of every issue. Maybe Jacqueline needs to write a book or bake some deserts, she has way too much time on her hands.

Xprssgirl15
Xprssgirl15

@tbaer3 Yep... Teresa is the common denominator.... So sad!!

Jennwilkey
Jennwilkey

@RayMcNultyNJ Very well written. I can not believe how much Teresa has changed. I loved watching her in previous seasons now I just feel sick. At first I was thinking editing was involved but at some point you have to ask yourself-why doesn't Teresa like anyone? Family or friends? Makes a person wonder. I think Teresa needs to sit down with a therapist and listen. Stop talking and just LISTEN!

ggmiami
ggmiami

 @reallygetrealgal

 Caroline would be jealous of what if I may ask? Is it jealous of Teresa low class actions, or perhaps her mouth or perhaps her constant lying on national tv and in magazines!?!?!? why would Caroline be jealous o Teresa?

ggmiami
ggmiami

 @cece.duvall

 Somebody has to pay for that type of lifestyle even if she has to sell stories to mags

ggmiami
ggmiami

 @Dusty73

 Seriously, Carolines mouth?!?!? are you watching the same RHoNJ?

RayMcNultyNJ
RayMcNultyNJ

 @Dusty73 really?  Caroline is the nasty one?  It's not Caroline spreading gossip about her friends & family to magazines for paychecks, it's not Caroline who blames EVERYBODY else for her problems but herself...Caroline used to always have Teresa's back until she realized what I've realized in my own life...you can stand by a friend, you can have their back...but don't tell them they're right if it's so incredibly obvious that they're not.  Caroline actually always seemed to be very careful how she worded things when she talked about Teresa.  

ftllady2
ftllady2

 @sue702

 Did you watch the same show as I did?????  Caroline is not mean and hateful at all.  

Josie57
Josie57

 @Live_Lorinda I think you are right on with your comment. I totally agree with you.

jusyjudy123
jusyjudy123

@gladys.brown.777 Look Kathy and all the rest need to stay away from her because she is posin

Luvmybravo
Luvmybravo

@Maggietish What planet are u on? Jacqueline is the most kind hearted person. Teresa is the bully, her kids are brats and so disrespectful of adults. Where do you think that comes from? Apple doesn't fall far from the tree! Teresa's body motions speak volumes...watch how she bats her eyes a hundred miles an hour when she gets caught in a lie. She's is such a phony and knows how to play the media. She causes the commotion on purpose. The more controversy she causes the more money in her pocket. Luv luv luv, she over compensates so it appears fake. Always trying to make everyone believe she's having all this sex. The saying goes ...the ones that have to talk about it are the ones that din't get it! Jacqueline was a real friend to Teresa. Too bad Teresa sucks as a friend and a human being. She's a disgrace to us real Italians.

valcat
valcat

 @Maggietish Okay,we get it-you love Teresa.By the way,though,regarding Melissa contacting Danielle,etc.,Melissa came clean about that to Teresa and took full ownership of it and gave a very nice(and sincere)apology for it.

jusyjudy123
jusyjudy123

@Maggietish Maggie they need to dump thersa for all the lying an deciet she cause.

RayMcNultyNJ
RayMcNultyNJ

 @sharon.hollewestphal

 Sharon...OUT of line...alot of people judge NJ from the industrial area they see flying into the airport but there are lots of beautiful/amazing parts of the state...up in Sussex county...down in the pine barrens...cute little towns...I grew up in NJ, hated it...loathed it...then moved down to FL and found myself having to always defend NJ and I hated myself for doing it.

Yes Jersey people tend to wear too much black...and part of the state have a ridiculous accent (wudder instead of water, dawg instead of dog, etc..) but the majority of the residents are not like that.  Quite frankly it's shows like Jersey Shore and people like Teresa & her husband that make me cringe and sigh whenever they hit the airwaves because they show NJ in such a horrible embarassing light.  When it comes to other cast members the Manzos I don't think are bad at all...I think that they show an amazingly strong & loving family unit.  Also remember that alot of what we see on TV is the work of editors...

Mamboo
Mamboo

@Ginger13 best post!!

RayMcNultyNJ
RayMcNultyNJ

 @Ginger13  @sue702

 why is it all those who seem to swallow the teresa ade they see things through Gudice colored glasses and everything is everybody's fault BUT Teresa's...GIMME A BREAK