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Hi Baby Dolls!
First of all, thank you all so much for supporting my third cookbook, Fabulicious: Fast & Fit! I think it's my favorite book so far -- 70 all-new, healthy Italian recipes with full nutritional information in the back: great for gluten free, veggie diets, and Weight Watchers. All the recipes are super quick and easy: less than 10 ingredients and 30 minutes start-to-stove. You can see the entire list of recipes and read the first chapter here: http://amzn.to/zWk87P.
Second, it was my birthday this past week! Thank you all so much for your sweet wishes and wonderful presents. I got so many pretty cakes -- including a giant cannoli from Wendy Williams and a pink Prada purse cake from my agent Susan. And fans even decorated my mailbox! But my favorite gift of all was the homemade cards my girls made me!
Then I ended the week at the Celebrity Apprentice live finale and after-party. It was really such a great experience -- Debbie Gibson and I hugged it out and Aubrey is back to being a blonde and looks fabulous! I had such a great time with my buddy the beautiful . Lisa Lampanelli as well! I know everyone on the show wasn't always portrayed in their best moments, and none of us are perfect, but I can honestly say I love them all and walked away with 17 new, amazing, smart, wonderful friends. I thought both Clay and Arsenio deserved to win, but since I was on Arsenio's team, I was really, really happy he won. Arsenio is very creative and I am sure we will be seeing him on television again very soon.
Last night was also a personal celebration of the exciting new chapter I am starting in my life. I am in a really good place now and just want to wish everyone the best. I think we should all celebrate each other's success, and I am so happy for NeNe, Dina, Lisa, Jill, Bethenny, Kim, Kandi, and all of the other Housewives or reality stars that go on and do other great things! It's hard sometimes to put yourself out there in the public eye and face the criticism, but in the end if you are a good person who does the right thing, good things will happen to you.
I'm sorry. I really believe that Caroline and Jacklyn hate Teresa so much for causing a rift with Dina that they set up Teresa. Check the facts. That bald guy us friends with the Manzos...not the Gorgas.
Teresa, you are too forgiving. Stay away from Caroline, jac, and Kathy. They belong together and deserve each other. You try so hard to stay friendly, don't bother. You are not a Bully or trouble maker. Sunday's episode made me sick. Kim set u up, keep away from that one completely. I hope and pray that Mellisa and your brother realize what has been done to you, and that you're not at fault. I know how much u love your brother and that u want his family close again. I worry tat Caroline especially poisons Mellisa mind. You are a strong women, a great mother, and a really nice person. STAY AWAY FROM the four of them.
Personally I dislike how Jo talks to you, but also your brother thinks he is perfect but he isnt an angel from god! And I watch the show Melissa does put things in his head if she wanted to keep piece she would keep things to herself. Mow for Caroline dislike big time she thinks she is the godfather no wait the godmother!
Just watched Gia's first bra shopping experience. I'm old enough to be her Grandmother and I still remember my own "first bra experience" and how embarrassing it all was. I think I said "MOM!!!!!!!" about as many times as Gia did. She is so cute, and spunky, but I could tell she was mortified. With my own daughters, I realized the first bra isnt about NEEDING a bra....its about wanting a bra, because some of the girls have developed earlier than most, and those chics with the boobs at an early age, TEASE you if you arent wearing one yet....Even scummy little boys say stuff...So, for Gabriella, your next Daughter....get her one when you see her classmates might be wearing them, or when Gia loans her bra to Gabriella. I had to loan my bra to a friend, two years older than myself, because she didnt need one yet, so her mom wouldnt buy her one. Girls talk, and sometimes moms need to be aware of the conversation! young girls, your kids age really CARE about his stuff. I hated it when the bra store lady brought out that HUGE bra and laughed.... Seriously, I think girls would rather get money from their moms, and go with their friends, or by themselves to buy a bra. Now, your next step is buying feminine stuff...for the periods!!! I did it this way, I bought one box/bag of each kind at the store, and brought them home. Told the girls they could try them all and let me know which one they preferred. They were so happy to do that, because so many horror stories from their friends had them scared!!! Instead of MOM!!!!!!!! I got....oh thanks Mommy!!!!
I've been sitting back trying to stay objective about the rift between you, Caroline, and Jaclyn. This episode sealed the deal for me--Caroline and Jaclyn are out of control. I love you and think you are an amazing wife and mother, strong and doing what's right for your family. Caroline is a bully, and Jaclyn just can't help herself--if she doesn't follow what Caroline says--she will get bullied also. I actually feel sorry for Jaclyn. I loved when you said Caroline is keeping score? What else is new? LOVE LOVE LOVE it. Going to get your new book today--best of luck with you and your family going forward. I hope you and your brother can find some peace.
Teresa, imagine if you talked to Lauren about her weight problem. Caroline would f-r-e-a-k out. Caroline was in the wrong with Gia.
Hey Tre, why is it you are never wrong? Your husband talks that way and its a Jersey thing old school Italian thing. No its someone who has no respect for you or anyone and its about the 10th time you make excuses for him. So its your brothers fault that he talks like that cause your brother will make it a tv drama. While every other week your selling another story to the magazines. I am sure this wont get posted I havent had one posted cause its not I love Tre reply! You and your husband need to watch the shows and look in the mirror and see how you can get better and move on with a positive light. Why would your brother be jeoulous of you? He actually has money and is the bread winner unlike your husband. Good thing you can keep selling articles and stuff.
Teresa - watching your husband talk to you that way was worse than anything your brother has ever said to you. And that's the complete truth. I have been there - i know how it hurts. It's not defendable. He belittles you the same you - the same thing he is accusing your brother of.
your right , and Teresa you do need to go to therapy with your brother i think it'll do the both of you good. iIf you really love your brother like you claim you do than you'll do whatever it takes to put him in a better place. Beleive it or not you do need it .
Teresa, I would stay as far away from toxic Caroline and Jacqueline as you can... knowing you are under contractual obligation to appear in scenes with them. But clearly they are not your friends, do not like you or your children. Nothing good can come from being around self-righteous bullies like those two. Caroline has stated more than once that YOU will stop at nothing to tear your family apart just to get rid of Melissa... when in actuality we see Caroline stopping at nothing, not even cornering and bullying a little girl, to try to do that very thing to your family. She's nuts. Steer clear of that lunatic.
Melissa has issues and so does your brother but they are family. Bite your tongue and just be a good aunt to those kids. Let your selfish brother stew in his hate and resentment. One day, if he has any brains at all, he will see the way he has allowed his wife to manipulate him and hopefully will be a man and make amends.
Hang in there Teresa. You have so many fans that love the CELEBRITY that you are.
Please keep your kids away from those two women! It's sad because you know it's Caroline making Jac hate you. Just listen to your husband-you don't need them!
Totally correct Teresa!! No one should treat a child that way and for either of them to do that to Gia is unbelievable!! If you had done something like that to their children- both Caroline and Jacqueline would be freaking out! and I know Caroline will say "My kids don't act that way"- NO they are only the type who run around gossiping and talking about people who are going to be showing up at a party soon and making crude remarks. That's classy, isn't it? Gia shows more common sense than all of them put together.
Rise above T!! Good luck with the new book- I made the Chicken Bruschetta and it was delicious!
HANG IN THERE, YOUR FANS ARE WITH YOU AND LOVE YOU.. AGREE, AGREE, AGREE---CAROLINE AND JACKIE SHOULD NEVER HAVE ACTED LIKE IDIOTS TO GIA----IT REALLY WAS HARD TO WATCH AND UNDERSTAND WHO THE CHILD WAS. lAUREN AND ASHLEE HAVE THEIR OWN PROBLEMS SO MAYBE JACKIE AND CAROLINE SHOULD CONCENTRATE ON THEM INSTEAD OF ATTACKING YOU OR GIA. GIA IS AN AMAZING YOUNG WOMAN (LIKE HER MOM), AND WILL GROW STRONGER IN TIME. TAKE CARE OF YOUR GIRLS AND JUICY AS THE VULTURES HAVE COME OUT TO ATTACK. THAT BEING SAID, IT'S SAID THAT SOME OF THE VULTURES ARE FAMILY MEMBERS---MELISSA AND JOEY REALLY ARE JEALOUS AND WANT TO BRING YOU DOWN (HAVE YOU FALL AS JOEY PUTS IT), SO I WOULD CUT TIES WITH THOSE TWO, THEY HAVE NOTHING GOOD TO BRING TO YOUR LIFE OR YOUR GIRLS. I'M STARTING TO THINK THAT MELISSA IS OBSESSED WITH YOU AND WILL SOON BE IMITATING GIA..... ALL THIS NEGATIVITY BROUGHT BY THE MANZO'S, LAURITA'S AND MELISSA AND JOEY IS GETTING SO DEPRESSING. GOOD LUCK WITH YOUR NEW BOOK.... TEAM TERESA & GIA......................
So Jacqueline reading a book to your daughter is wrong but you can placed judgemental comments about Caroline's children in a cookbook. You are a hypocrite!
@Avid Viewer Caroline's kid are adults. Teresa mentions them wanting to open up a stripper car wash, which Caroline condones. Gia is TEN years old and upset by the behavior of the adults. Duh!
Ah....how nice you are taking the high road with Caroline and Jacqueline and all their negative remarks and issues they have with you. Awfully convenient that in doing that, it also means you have to take absolutely NO responsibility for anything you say or do. Wow....you are such a shining example for the other ladies (sarcasm, sarcasm, sarcasm). Stop playing the victim and look in the mirror. You play a BIG role in the problems you are having with your family and friends. Buck up....grow up!!
Teresa, I have to say last night's episode was extremely uncomfortable to watch, which is saying something considering some of the doozies that have occured in the last few seasons. For the first time, I completely understand where you are coming from and I agree that both Jac and Caroline crossed a line. Do I think your children are the best behaved? Nope, but I don't think poor Gia deserved what went down that day. As a parent, I would have been pissed and I think you handled it well. I do think, however, that you are not someone that is willing or maybe not capable of taking accountability for your actions, which is pretty much what has been your downfall. Do the right thing and just be a little humble and admit any wrongdoing (and there has been alot). Most of all, change your behavior. You obviously are not a bad person and are a good mother, but you are a little bit self centered. Hey we are who we are, but sometimes you have to change the things that are bringing strife into your life in order to get where you want to go. Your family will be the only 1 true thing that you will look back on and be thankful for.
Great blog! I understand Joe's frustrations because my husband and I have experienced it in our lives. It hurts me when he hurts and vice versa and the frustrating thing is you can't "fix it" for them. Stay strong, keep smiling and keep being Teresa. You have lots and lots of fans and family that truly love you and want what is best for you. Gia is an amazing little girl and those tween years are very emotional. You are going to need a LOT of patience and prayer.
I agree with you Teresa - what happened to Gia was NOT ok. I felt ill after seeing Jacqueline and Caroline with her. I hope she knows that you are not the only one that felt it was WAY out of line. She's such a good girl and I don't blame her for being upset about Melissa taunting or Jacqueline/Caroline's "discipline". If I was her mom I would be ANGRY. I understood where Joe was coming from. My husband rarely loses his temper but when he does, it's not great. Hope you are having a happy May :)
Teresa, I do agree with you...your daughter you should of handled it...but then you had to say how you felt sorry for ashley at the end....You are amazing...you focus on everybody doing wrong and that they are not perfect you forget you are not perfect either. Gia was a typical 10 year old, I dont think she did anything out of the ordinary...Just remember sometimes people try to do whats right but they forget it may not be right by others...People have forgiven you time and time again for doing things that were not and should not be accepted. Teresa I loved watching you bra shop..that is the teresa that I love the funny corky Teresa not the drama mutering Teresa. As far as Joe talking to you like that....Ya no that was horriable..and please do not point your fingers at the other husbands...this was about you and joe...no woman should take that I dont care!!!! And for you to try to mirror the reflections on the other husband is not cool on your part! I have seen him season after season be just rude and you allow it. I am sorry that you have become who you are becasue you were one of my favorite housewives until you became perfect..I can only hope the girls that watch the show do not use you as a role model
I've never heard Joe Gorga talk to his wife the way your husband talks to you. He doesn't have to love your brother, but he shouldn't ever disrespect you.
Gia was 10, not 3, she is old enough to know how to mind her manners. Having known Gia most of her life I don't think it's out of line for them to check on Gia and try to calm her down.
That said, both Carloine and Jac should have noticed how upset Gia was and that a few words from a family friend wouldn't work. Gia needed time to calm down and I'm surprised neither woman recognized the signs. Caroline's kids are older; maybe she's forgotten how to deal with a 10 year old. Jac's boys are younger so she responded as if talking to a much younger child. Neither woman handled Gia as an individual. I don't think Caroline and Jac had bad intentions but both women made the wrong decisions.
Here comes the Teresa stans countdown. One question for her stans though have you notice Teresa takes NO responsibilty for her actions, its always the other person?
Wow. Again you are the pot calling kettle. You & your husband says things that would never even occur even in anger. Also, he is far more guilty of driving wedges between your brother and his family than Melissa is... In fact, Melissa isn't bad at all. Also, your treatment of her is atrocious and your baloney stirring by insinuating she would cheat or leave your brother has no basis in substance. It was strictly cruel. You have zero ability to take responsibility for squat.
Your brother has said horrible things - but he is direct about it. You have done horrible things and you are sneaky about it.
Last, J overstepped a bit with Gia, but for the right reasons.
As far as Melissa's short shorts, who cares? You wear low cut items often so shut it.
Teresa I absolutely love your family. Joe is probably my favorite person on the show, cause he is the most honest, and he reminds me of my dad. An amazing husband, and father, but has a terrible mouth, lol...Last nights episode was the first time i smiled watching this season, you and Gia were so cute when you were going out training bra shopping. I couldn't stop laughing. Tell Gia "thanks" for allowing all of us fans to share that moment with her. I really want to keep this comment positive, but honestly you are a far better person than me for letting Jac and Caroline attack Gia. How dare they take out their anger on a 10 year old....I wish your family nothing but happiness, and i look forward to watching the Guidice's every sunday.
I wish you would stop making excuses for your husband. He said to you if anyone defended your brother including your parents he would kick them out. He also said he would leave you if you even tried to make him hang out with your family..not just your brother..your FAMILY. He is isolating you and always talking down to you.
I also think you need to look in the mirror a bit more. You love to point the finger about how others talk about you and Joe but you take no responsibility. This episode you talked about Jacqueline's parenting and basically called her a bad mother saying that you feel sorry for Ashley. You made these comments and others before you even knew what was said on the show. You are very good at pointing the finger and calling out others for their behavior, yet you take no responsibility for your own.
I think it all comes down to you feeling threatened that the real Teresa is going to show now that your family is on the show. You like to rewrite history regarding your family and deny any wrong doing. You need to stop trying to isolate your sister n law and get others against her. Focus on yourself and start giving your life an honest look and you might find that you have some real support in Melissa and Joe. I hate to say it but you would be way better off if your husband went to jail so the negative influence in your life would be gone. I doubt you read any of these comments or dare take any of them to heart, but after seeing the way Joe really treats and talks to you I wanted to comment. I will say nice try though on saying that Joe and Ritchie speak to their wives the same way to draw attention away from your horrible husband. I do hope you can finally see the poison in your life and become a happy person again.
Love you. Stay strong. Try to work things out with Joey and Melissa. You can see how much he really does love you.
Love you Teresa! Caroline is looking for any and every way to bring you down, it is very sad actually. Just keep on keepin' on, can't wait for Caroline to be gone!
Hi Teresa! Happy Belated Birthday! Welcome to the 40 club! I have always liked you and I even liked Caro and Jac once upon a time, but they are wolves in sheeps clothing. Caroline is so hell bent on making you out to be the villian, that it is actually backfiring. What she and Jac did to Gia was disgusting, plain and simple. They can try to spin it, weave it and bless it with holy water and it was still wrong and disgusting. When she spoke like that to Gia, it brought me back to season 2 on the cruise ship when she was watching your girls, and she pulled that same disgusting tone with the little ones then. You were right to insert what you said about Ashlee, because Jac was quick to tell you that at this age is when she started having problems with Ashlee. Everyone is clearly out to get you. I hate how they assume your feelings, your motives and when you receive text messages! Don't apologize anymore Teresa. Just write them off as they did to you. I can't even speak on Melissa and Joey. Love You Teresa. Really, keep on being the decent human you are!
I'm so confused! Were we watching the same episode? Will you ever take ownership of your part in the feud with your brother? You always act like you're the sweet, innocent victim but it couldn't be further from the truth! Hopefully some day you'll understand....
what the ladies did to gia was wrong..but you running your mouth about ashley wasnt much better...you are suck a tit for tat person...GROW UP!!!!! admit when you are wrong and learn your lesson the first go around...my papa said first time shame on you second time shame on me 3rd time...i am a fool..these ladies are fools to even listen to your bs
I know you've said that you don't read the other blogs. You should know that Caroline, Jacq and Melissa are all being slammed about Field Day and how Gia was treated. They were SO in the wrong.
You go Gir! You handled yourself beautifully! Your Gia needs to proud of her mother. I hope Caroline gets her come-upence. Always talking and never listening to anything...always offering her advice when its not asked for. Caroline is the total opposite of what she claims to be! You are what you are and I think you are a wonderful person. No wonder Dina and Jacqueline (at one time ) have issues with Caroline, She needs to do as she says and stay the hell out of EVERYONES business. Jacqueline is so influenced by Caroline it is pathetic.....give her time...I think she will see through Caroline. I don't know if she has always been this way or just now getting into everyones business since her children are grown and gone, but she needs to take off those fogged up glasses and re-access her act!
First off, I have never seen your brother speak to Melissa the way your husband speaks to you so I don't think that comment was deserved in your blog. Secondly, no matter what your husband does, you continue to support his behavior and make excuses for him. Neither of you can ever HONESTLY admit that you are ever wrong. You're always the victims. Do you see a pattern here? I think your husband is repulsive!! There is no problem with venting your frustrations and being angry but the stuff that comes out of his mouth is beyond disrespectful. He has diarrhea of the mouth!
As for the scenes with Gia, I do agree that Jacqueline and Caroline handled the situation inappropriately from what I can tell by what was aired on TV. It wasn't their duty to go fetch you when Gia was having her meltdown. Gia could have easily gone to find you but I did feel they were making the situation worse. With that said, I am still Team Laurita & Manzo!
I have to laugh when you say that the way Joe spoke to you in the car is how Jersey guys talk. I'm sorry, but I'm from NJ and so is my husband and he would never speak to me the way Joe did. I understand you said it's Joe's way of letting off steam but disrespecting your wife and telling her to shut up is just wrong. This is not the way "guys from Jersey" speak, this is the way you and your family speak. Don't generalize because you and all the other women on the show are a poor example of people from NJ and an even worse example of Italians. Sorry, but it's true.
Teresa, you are a terrific mother. I loved the way held your ground with those two spinsters, Jaq and Caroline. Noone, I mean NOONE should reprimand another woman's child. Caroline is pissed at you and she took it out on your daughter. Gia Disrespectful, my tush!!! Caroline was so condescending and got even more infuriated when Gia was asking for you and for her and Jaq to stop. Reading a baby book, who does Jaq think she is?!?! I watched it and couldn't believe what I was seeing. You don't need em'! So happy you are in a better and happy place. You are so right how you got the "talk" from your mom about puberty and such. I'm 37 and when it happend to me at age 11 my mom was the same way. You never used a tampon, God Forbid! HAHA! You got your period, she showed me a pad, this is where it goes and be done with it! So true. That is old school for ya. You are an amazing woman and god bless you and your family!
Teresa, It was heartbreaking to watch Caroline and Jacqueline do that to Gia. I don't care what the situation is if a child is telling someone to get their mother that is exactly what they should do. I felt that Caroline was once again trying to stir up drama and Jacqueline always from another planet was trying to intimidate Gia. Who is she to discipline your daughter when her track record in parenting is subject at best.
I watched Celebrity Apprentice and was so very proud of you.
Keep the positives flowing...don't let C&J enter your life....
Oh, poor Teresa. Everyone gangs up on you. Forget that you constantly say things about them and get in everyone else's business. You completely turn everything around. This is just the first episode that you weren't COMPLETELY wrong in so you're taking advantage of it to show everyone else's bad side. You're completely hypocritical. Whatever makes you look better, right?
Love your blog again, Tre. You are so right about Gia and, honestly, I am impressed that you can be so calm about it. The footage of what Jac and Caroline did was upsetting for me and Gia is not even my kid! I know you are furious with them and are a true classy lady for expressing your displeasure with them so well. Keep it up!
Teresa, I totally agree with you that Caroline and Jacquelyn handled the situation with Gia wrong, it was horrid. It IS insane that these women are so obsessed with you and have nothing better to talk about, they want to know every detail of your life and then discuss it with each other. It is creepy to say the least.
I really do get Joe, I've known many men like him. I think it is obvious that he loves you, hurts for you and what you have to go through with your family and feels helpless in doing anything about it. It IS all such foolishness and I'm sure he has more serious issues in his life that is on his mind. Hope everything works out for all of you. Much love... xoxoxoxoxo
Hi Teresa, You were amazing on Celebrity Apprentice! To watch you go almost to the end and be able to hold up under such pressure made me see you in a whole different light. Up to this week I wasn't a huge fan of yours, because of some of the family situations that have been going on. I felt that you could've handled certain things between you & your brother differently. Knowing that we don't see all that goes on, I reserved my comments till now. I watched Sunday's episode with hope that everyone would get along on Field Day. It looked like fun until Gia broke down. It was heartbreaking, because we all know that she was at the pool party when you & Joe had that arguement. She was hurting from that and it carried through to the competition. There's a kid that sees too much. I hope everyone realizes that she is a ten year old & should be treated as such. I wasn't paticularly impressed with the way Jaclyn and Caroline handled Gia. In my opinion, they should've called you down the second they saw your daughter upset. It wasn't their job to teach her a lesson about sportsmanship. I hope as the season progresses, that everyone resolves their differences and the healing begins. I know it's difficult when it comes to family. There's usually a history. But, life can be short & before you know it - something happens & everyone regrets all the BS that could've been avoided. Good luck on all of your ventures. I wish you & your family much success.
Teresa, they took the feelings they had for you out on your beautiful daughter. That is never okay. You're right, can you imagine if you had done that to one of their children...it would be world war three and they know it. It was awful to watch. Made my stomach turn. Two grown women picking on a 10 year old who was obviously upset.....made me sick. You handled it a lot better than I would have. lol
Your hubby, old school. Anyone watching for longer than five mins understands what you wrote. He's watching you get put over the coals everytime you see them. Why wouldn't he be upset?! I'd be worried if he wasn't upset. Thing is, it's your brother which makes it even harder for him. If he says something....your brother will sit in front of a camera and say, "Look, look Joe is getting in the middle!" He's in a no win situation. He loves you and can't stand to see you getting hurt....it makes total sense and it's something that my hubby would do too. If someone is hurting you, stay away. Easy to understand why he wants to protect you.
Keep on smiling Teresa!
I do not know how you always keep your head high but a ton of respect for that action alone. I am surprised by this season because it seems that is centers around you and you being attacked and criticized at every turn. Whatever happened to having fun and showing the love?? I think that the situation with your daughter should have been yours to handle. If not then they should have maybe comforted her the way Kathy did and the way you did. Many times my boys especially my 7 year old will have a meltdown like that and I will comfort him at the time and talk to him later. No child wants to be embarrassed like that in front of adults they spend time with like they are family. I really used to love Jacqueline, and Caroline but I am disappointed with the cattiness this season, I am disgusted by the way Caroline's children speak of you and your family. Adults or not they do not want to be bullied but they are allowed to bully?? Makes no sense to me!! There are ways of giving your opinion without being a bully but I guess you learn from what you see and hear. Lastly, I hope you and your brother make up, I would love to see all of you having fun. Despite what happens I think there is a time where you have to let all the past go.. It does not matter anymore, start over from scratch and let all bygones be bygones. I know it takes effort and it seems like there are alot of hurt feelings all around so my advice to all of you is to let it all go and start new. Get to know one another again and keep it light and fun, you will feel better and so will your children!! Good Luck!!!
Teresa, I know you say you are in a good place. That is part of who you are. But, as a viewer, I find that hard to believe. I know we only see a small portion of what really goes on. From season one you have always wanted to be in the for front and over the top. I never saw that as endearing. But, in your struggles I have seen a human being, taking it day by day. I still don't understand your marriage because Joe seems in a dark place most of the time. However, you have other pots in the fire that I think it is time for you to move on. This show is effecting you children. Other children can be so cruel and I am sure Gia has dealt with a lot. You should think long and hard about continuing on.
Teresa-great blog. I was horrified to see what they did to your daughter and have lost respect for both of them. And for Caroline then to comment on Gia's behaviour! Gia is 10! Funny how moments later, when her own daugher (an adult) went off, she didn't say a thing or comment on what a "poor sport" she was being. You handled this very tactfully-both now and at the time. Keep your head up girl, I admire you for all the challenges you are going through and how you remain strong, hardworking and positive.