Burning Questions

Get Dr. V's perspective on Melissa and Teresa's issues and why she thinks Joe Giudice is like a cannoli.

on Jul 26, 20130

Bravotv.com: Why was it so much harder to get Teresa and Melissa to see eye to eye than Teresa and her brother?

Dr. V: Teresa and Joe are siblings; that's a close blood-bond that's almost always present, even through the worst fights. The problem is the only blood between Teresa and Melissa up till now has been bad blood. We're not starting from a place of unconditional love...it's the difference between driving a Porsche to get where you're going or having to hitchhike. At night. In the rain. 
 
Bravotv.com: What do you think was the key to helping Teresa and Melissa meet each other halfway?

Dr. V: They finally figured out that their love for Joe is more important than their anger with each other. Which is good, because unlike Joe, their anger doesn't give a sh-- about them and is going to ultimately leave them alone and empty.

112 comments
moonwolf23
moonwolf23

Why not have bravo take some time for you and Kathy and Melissa to do this.  While we are at it Jacqueline too

llowery2000
llowery2000

DR V needs to be on the OCHW and make those girls face their faults, that would be worth watching for sure ! 

llowery2000
llowery2000

 

Dr V is sooo cool ! need to see more of her !

 

 

 

 

 

 

Pokadot
Pokadot

Dr V does have her own show on bravo !!! It's really good!

marialina1
marialina1

The Very Best Episode of all the NJ Housewifes! Thanks to Dr V!

MimiJae
MimiJae

I LOVE DR. V!!!!  SHE'S HILARIOUS!

hummingbrd
hummingbrd

I JUST LOVE THIS LADY ! I don't know if Bravo understands she is a show EVERYONE will watch !

I will say watching this wonderful Lady makes me want to get  help for my own issues ,Almost like (I too can be helped)  She is reality  TV ... She has a NO Bullshit way about her & I Love it !!!!     

gymowner
gymowner

It seemed like a setup for a new series immediately to me. Even her name, it reeks of Bravo's way of presenting the world a new show centered on a slam bang therapist who bypasses all the years of treatment and solves problems in the blink of an eye, "a super therapist". It will go over big with the "Mob Wife" crowd, as she could make a fortune just treating the current casts of their shows. I predict a slam dunk new show.

Cora38
Cora38

BRAVO to all those who commented that it's gonna take more than one session to solve these issues.  I don't care how great Dr. V is, if she solves issues in one session she's going to work herself out of a job.  We all know how well Teresa and Joe take to the advice of therapist or they wouldn't have gone to Nappa  on the word of the last one they spent a session with.

jomojo
jomojo

Finally, a RHONJ show that felt good!! I hope Dr. V gets her own show (or perhaps she could become the traveling therapist for the entire housewife franchise!). I though she was a straight shooter and was able to cut through the bulls.... I felt she validated how everyone was feeling both Gorga's and Guidice's. You can't argue with feelings and everyone deserves to be heard and their feelings respected regardless of past actions...it is the only way to heal.

 

The truth is that none of us knows whether Theresa spread rumors or not...including Melissa. It is all inference. You can choose to believe the worst or choose to believe the best...it is a choice and it will decide whether you can move forward or stay in the drama. If Melissa continues to believe the worst than she is choosing drama and she cannot blame that on Theresa. They all say they hate the drama, but every single one of them has perpetuated it in their own way. I hope for everyone's sake that Melissa can let it go and move on. She is the only one that did not seem invested in things improving (she wants things 'out there' to be different but she is not willing to behave differently).

 

I saw genuine pain and emotion with Theresa and Joe Gorga. That felt authentic and is something positive to build on. It looked to me like Melissa had trouble letting go and that she wanted to punish Theresa and not let her off the hook. If she can't let her off the hook, then she can't expect Theresa to want to support her in public situations where she is being trashed.When others are constantly telling you what a horrible person you are it is though you are under siege....no one can learn and grow under those conditions...it is only through love and people believing in us that we can let go of negative patterns and become better people.

 

Theresa seems to be in genuine pain. I think she truly wants to improve how she relates with Joe and Melissa. It looked really important to her. She has made mistakes in the past (I have never been a big fan) but how can you do better when others consistently tear you down? If you want her behavior to improve than stop relating to her based on past actions. It is the entire family that is keeping her stuck in the past. Give her a chance to do better and she might surprise you!!

yumyumgem
yumyumgem

I'd love to see a spin off for Dr. V. treating Teresa's family.  It would last more than 1 season with all that raw material.

KAYAKINGGIRL
KAYAKINGGIRL

I love Dr. V. I think it took a lot of courage to jump into that shark invested water and do some good. Emotional trauma is complicated stuff. This family might have made peace for now, but that is only on one layer of an onion like pathology! The layers will continue to be shed and they will continue to need help as they do.

cehemise
cehemise

Counseling doesn't work like that.  Multiple sessions, focusing on single issues is how it's done.  This seemed like crisis management more than anything else.  Not that it is a bad idea.  It is a good idea, but just the tip of the iceberg.

pms918
pms918

Interesting that the feud of 7+ yrs can be fixed in 1 afternoon. I call bs. There's no way that's possible. Rme.

WVWorkingWife
WVWorkingWife

Dr. V resembles Camille Grammer so much in her photos.  Not as much in video but a lot in photos.  It is uncanny.

myjoey2
myjoey2

Did anyone notice Joe's hair piece falling off and Melissa running with his hat to put it back on his head.  During the fight, she seems to run to her husband and put his "rug" back on??  

maria89
maria89

I wonder why Teresa and joe apologized,,,,,but then you didn't have Melissa and Joey apologize? Also, I don't think you understood what happened during the fight...you kept talking like joe guidance was the one who charged, when it was Joey, it almost seems like you are only seeing Melissa and joeys side.

davidt
davidt

You look like a damn fool in the bath tub smoking and  bathing in the filth of the cigarettes.  You are someone who so desperately needs attention.  You are so sad.  God help anyone who goes to you for help,

lorelye
lorelye

I wonder if the Guidices and the Gorga's are receving on going counseling by Dr. V.  One day isn't going to do it. This crew needs on going regular counseling to work through all their issues. This momentary truce between them is not going to last.  Teresa is still not thinking in a healthy way. When Dr V suggested they spend time together just the two of them she responded wIth I don't think he is going to want to....  Teresa has serious problems with taking ownership of her own feelings.  She needs a lot of help.   Unless they are recieving on going therapy this won't last.

lisarc
lisarc

that session was a joke...lets see how long it lasts...Melissa just seems like shes done and over it. And I don't blame her. If Teresa can continue to be responsible for her actions then it should work...but seriously we all know that Teresa is batshit crazy and only said what she had to to get Dr. V off her back

gymowner
gymowner

So when does Dr V's show start?

jucabr
jucabr

"Nip it in the butt" ? Really? Did Teresa graduate from high school? Is cursing a normal part of Dr. V's vocabulary or did she do it just to "fit in" ?

mrsdonut
mrsdonut

I didn't buy any of the hugs from anyone. I cannot believe this Dr. V is being called a 'miracle worker' after only one session. She should have stayed longer, in order to work through all the years of family turmoil between them. If Dr. V helped so much after only one session, imagine how much she could have accomplished with more time?!

homesick4louisiana
homesick4louisiana

Last night's episode of the RHONJ was by far my favorite ever. Outstanding job, Dr. V.!!!!  You should run for President. You have my vote! All hail Dr. V.!!

BarrioBabe
BarrioBabe

oh yea, doc. wehat about rosie the peacemaker. what's all the caro this n that? rosie the gal of the hours on the lake at the table and gettin hit on by mel... she deserves a medal.

Kristi0913
Kristi0913

Dr. V's cursing was extremely unprofessional. No excuses about speaking their language. Do your job as a professional clinician. And I don't think it was a balanced session. Why were Teresa and Joe the only ones to apologize? That was a joke.

BarrioBabe
BarrioBabe

joe gorga, your little cannoli, was the charging bull. melissa acts all sweet and done wrong, but is stinging and controlling. she's the one making little joe jump through hoops--move house, change schools, fight... tre is no angel, but she seems so less contrived. her avoidance mechanism is like her hub's, born of ignorance, what to do. they have come such a long way in self control dept. how's about getting mel to come clean on her past?

mholmestx
mholmestx

You can only do so much in one day.  Dr. V said in her blog there is much more work to do.  I like Dr. V and think she is very smart and comes from a good place.  She needed more time to access the situation.  Probably a lot more time.  She did get them to hug and it's a start.  Agree that Joe and Melissa should have also had to apologize.  Otherwise Melissa's head will just grow bigger and her heart more righteous.  I'm still a big fan of Dr. V and think she could do very well with this group if given more opportunity. They're a rough case. 

rustyrusty123
rustyrusty123

REALLY DR. V?   WHY DID THE GORGA'S NOT SAY SORRY FOR ANYTHING.  THIS WAS A LITTLE ONE SIDED.  JOE CHARGED JUICY AND ATTACKTED HIM.  NO SORRY.  CALLED HER SIS A SCUM! NO APOLOGY.  WAS ACCUSED OF SPREADING RUMORS SHE HAD NOTHING TO DO WITH. NO APOLOGY?   PLEASE

 

realdealkc
realdealkc

 @myjoey2 haha.  yeah...i laughed my butt off.  and he admits that's where all the 'black tar' came form.   his thickening spray...but melissa wasn't talking...."I don't know what that is..."  haha

 

evelyn6@shentel.net
evelyn6@shentel.net

 @maria89 Because Teresa is  the one that said, Melissa would leave Joe Gorga if someone with more money came along.

RaceyJ
RaceyJ

 @gymowner Where have you been ? She has already been on a Show as herself doing just this. She is a professional relationship therapist.. I believe because she's tough,smart and good at what she does. They called her because she is; just that good. When its that broken & you all really want to fix it you call someone that can do just that. I'm sure it has taken more then one afternoon sure does it matter ? really at least the family is back together.. God bless them all I wish them the best of luck. 

KAYAKINGGIRL
KAYAKINGGIRL

 @gymowner 

Dr V was on LA Shrinks. It ended a few months ago, maybe catch it on reruns or hope for season 2. She was my favorite on the show. She was also the most educated and trained out the the three professionals. I think she could hold her own show :)

24hrhousewife
24hrhousewife

@jucabr It's her vocabulary. She doesn't put up with any BS. Did you not watch, LA Shrinks?

JustLiz
JustLiz

 @jucabr You must be new to the show.  Teresa speaks a malapropism a minute.  She's well-known for her slaying of the English language.

24hrhousewife
24hrhousewife

@mrsdonut We only saw that short bit. We don't know how long she was actually there.

24hrhousewife
24hrhousewife

@Kristi0913 If you had watched LAShrinks, you would've known a little more about her personality. She was exactly the professional they needed. She wasn't intimidated by them or who they were.

ESinAZ
ESinAZ

 @Kristi0913

 I know...I didn't understand why Melissa and little Joe didn't need to apologize for all the name calling and sh!! stirring they have done. It just confirmed to them that they were without fault.  At least Kathy apologized for her rotten comment.

lisarc
lisarc

 @Kristi0913

 no if she had come in there scared and meek like the first couple that tried to help them they would have railroaded right over her. she had to get on their level to be able to  put them in their places.

 

mrsdonut
mrsdonut

@mholmestx ....Totally agree!! Why couldn't Dr. V have stayed for more than one day? Therapy is a process, not a temporary, quick fix!

charliesmom1951
charliesmom1951

 @rustyrusty123

 No one knows for sure that Teresa had, as you claim, "spread rumors she had nothing to do with". You don't know that, since she was always present when garbage came down, and never seemed surprised. But, for the sake of argument, let's say she didn't have anything to do with any rumors Ask yourself this. If she was the loving sister to Joe, and S-I-L to Melissa, why did she not only continue to hang with people who seemed intent on bringing Melissa down, but she never once stood up for her S-I-L, she never once told them to shut the heck up, never once had her back. Whether or not I like my S-I-L, she is my brothers' wife, the mother of my nieces and nephews. I am not going to sit by and allow people to trash her, no matter what I think. Teresa has grown progressively worse this past season, but one thing is sure. Her husband backed her no matter what and she expected that. Her brother backed his wife no matter what and Teresa went nuts. She did indeed owe her brother and S-I-L an apology. Melissa, had she been the bigger person, would have continue to take the high road, as she has in the past, but in her shoes, I cannot honestly say I wouldn't have lost it myself. As for forgiving Teresa, I think they should, as for rebuilding trust in her, she has to expect that to take a long time. And BTW, I am not a Melissa fan, I actually like Kathy better than either Melissa or Teresa, but right is right and fair is fair and Teresa has been neither.

gracielibra
gracielibra

 @rustyrusty123

 

Maybe Dr. V could see through Teresa, as a lot of us do, and saw Teresa needed to do the apologizing.  Just face the facts.  Melissa and Jacqueline have been wronged by Teresa and T continues her clueless act.  Take off the fabellini colored glasses.  Teresa is no peach.

24hrhousewife
24hrhousewife

@RaceyJ @gymowner I loved LA Shrinks, hope there's another season. I think, she was perfect or this family!

anaserene
anaserene

 @JustLiz  @jucabr Yes, she does but English is not her first language. She was born in Italy and grew up speaking Italian.

Kristi0913
Kristi0913

@lisarc Cursing adds nothing constructive to the conversation. Assertiveness does not require bad language. As a professional clinician, the bad language should have been omitted. This was all for the show, and certainly not an accurate depiction of an actual therapy session.

Softsbeam
Softsbeam

 @gracielibra  @rustyrusty123

 Dr. V needs to watch the show through all the years to see what she's really dealing with.  Teresa will only be able to change temporarily.  It's just all she's got.  Then her little switch will flip and she'll be seeing red and be spreading evil across the land far and wide.  And Joe Cannoli will be spreading his inner creaminess to as many women as he can.  Cannoli is a perfect definition. 

Get ready for years of therapy for the NJ gang, Dr. V.  You really should just move there and drop all you other patients.  They'll be able to keep you busy in NJ.  And you've done well.  You cracked the exterior with your first stroke.  That's a massive accomplishment.  I bow to you.

JustLiz
JustLiz

 @anaserene  @JustLiz  @jucabr No, she was not born in Italy.  She was born (and raised) in New Jersey.   

 

I wonder who wrote her book?  Whoever it was, I hope they gave all of the proper recipe "ingrediences".   ;-)  

 

 

24hrhousewife
24hrhousewife

@Softsbeam @gracielibra @rustyrusty123 I can agree with you some what, however, if she had watched the show, viewers would be accusing her of taking sides.