I think when you truly speak from your heart comes across genuine. You have a great family and a husband that loves you. I also loved seeing your parents they seem so down to earth. I think your parents saw a great big change in you after season 2. I can't say what women should get or have done to them self to make them feel a certain way, but I truly thought you were beautiful inside and out on how you portrayed yourself on RHoNJ season 1&2. People can have all the work done in the world, but if a person is not happy with themselves inside nothing by getting work done.
What attracted me to RHoNJ was the family and friendship dynamics then it start going downhill like the other Real Houses.
Again, I wish you and your family the best.