Cast Blog: #RHONJ

Chris' Sock Story

Jacqueline talks date night and Chris' very personal coming of age story.

Before I write anything, I want to apologize to Joe Gorga and Teresa for my comment about them that was in bad taste. I'm talking about the comment when I told Chris that I hoped it wasn't Teresa that Joe Gorga lost his virginity to when he was 9 years old. That was my sarcastic sense of humor coming out. It came from me thinking back to the awkward flirty comments Joe and Teresa made to each other last year waiting for their therapy session together. "You smell good." and "Red is a sexy color." It was kind of an inside joke between us all that Teresa and Joe were in love with each other and maybe that is where all the jealousy was coming from. That comment really wasn't meant for public viewing, because it's something my husband and I would joke around about in private. We have even teased Joe Gorga about it before to his face and he laughs with us. Do I REALLY feel they slept together? Of COURSE NOT! Don't be silly. Moving on…

I LOVE date nights with my husband. It's our down time that is just for us to share together! It's when we can unwind and enjoy each other's company without disruptions from kids or household chores. We catch up on things we may have missed about each other’s lives during our hectic week, we plan our future goals, vent to each other, offer each other advice, reminisce, and flirt. Food is something we really enjoy together. I've known my husband since 1996. He was always my best friend and still is. We had one year off from each other while trying to date other people since we were long distance. When Chris came back around and proposed to me, I had no doubts he was the one. We are soul mates. We were engaged for a year and a half before we got married and we are still going strong! It's kind of funny that I never heard that sock story before though. LOL! I'm glad he shared that with everyone. Please note neither one of us were talking about our son. Chris was telling a story from his OWN childhood so "don't get it twisted."

It was bothering me that Chris kept bringing up Teresa on our date, but I get why. We ARE in each other’s lives. I guess Teresa and Joe kept bringing me up too. LOL! I know that a lot of people were telling me that Teresa seems obsessed with me because she keeps talking about me on the show, but you have to understand that there is a long history between us and we were both hurt by each other. We both talked about each other. It's what women do. We vent.

I remember feeling at that time that I hoped their family could all make amends and be happy with each other. I was also looking forward to not hearing about their issues anymore. I just really didn't want them to try to drag me into their love fest by attempting to get me to make up with Teresa too. At the time, I couldn't imagine Teresa being a part of my life again. I couldn't trust her sincerity at all after hearing her say she hated me hours after she hugged me and told me she loved me. I felt like she always said she forgave people, but then she would regurgitate the same story all over again and throw it back into your face while she secretly hated on you. I didn't feel good. I just wasn't trusting Teresa at this time, and I still felt very hurt by her. When you go through a "break up" with a friend or boyfriend, you go through stages of hurt and anger. I was still feeling both, but I was doing my best not to even think about her at all. It was kind of hard when people kept bringing her up. It was making our situation really hard to avoid.Keep watching!


P.S. Caroline gets my deepest respect for keeping her word and driving hours away from her own family to help heal theirs. You can always count on Caroline. When you need her, she's there.

XO

Amber: Is Dina Coldhearted?

Amber Marchese dishes on her first reunion and why Dina Manzo confuses her.

Hello Housewife friends!  Welcome to the jungle baby! My first reunion was a wild ride. Call me sick and twisted, but I had an unbelievable time at the reunion when most, I have been warned, dread it. I felt like it was “The Great Purge” and when I went home I was felt relieved of any built up tension. I don’t care if anyone has a grudge against me, my slate is clean and I harbor no ill feelings towards anyone. I love to argue my point, and I truly stood by all of my convictions this season, so I was ready to say exactly what was on my mind, and then some. 

I know the twins and I went at one another pretty hard, but that is what the reunion is all about. It is an opportunity to get it all out and potentially understand one another's position better. Then we can each make our own decisions as to where we want to go with our relationships. I am very much the type of person that can say some of the meanest things and sling mud, but hug it out at the end forgetting anything negative that was said. It just rolls off my back. I actually think it is healthier to say what needs to be said, and then move on.

One thing I did question after the reunion was if Dina actually has a heart or if I should start calling her the Tin Man. I actually have not figured her out yet. Is she really just a coldhearted bitch, or has she been hurt so many times that she has become warped and jaded. I feel I don’t owe anyone any reason as to why I call cancer “the cancer,” but I will give it once more anyhow. “The cancer” is “the monster” to me. It is a way for me to take away its power and to minimize it. “It” destroys lives, so “it” does not deserve a name. It is just “the cancer” -- it was “the monster” or “the dragon.” Although Dina claims to have an understanding of how devastating cancer is to a family, her actions and blatant lack of empathy proves otherwise.

In addition, I did not think it was appropriate for me to interject into family quarrels at the reunion; however, this is something that I feel strongly about. I have met Jaqueline and I have spoken to her on many occasions. In the very short time that I have gotten to know Jaqueline, I know and have empathy with the struggles she has caring for Nicholas. I felt that Dina’s interpretation of her nephew was callous and completely out of touch with reality. The only thing that keeps playing in my mind is, "You know nothing John Snow."  No, thank God, he is not hooked up to machines with cancer; however, what the Laurita family goes through is extremely difficult on a day to day basis that will continue on for a lifetime. It is emotionally and financially devastating. Although, Dina "visits" children with cancer, at the end of her visit she gets to go home, leaving it behind and goes on with her daily life. Since Dina does work with children with cancer, I pray that she can abstain from a self-absorbed lifestyle and become a loving, involved aunt.