Are you all surprised to see the way my conversation ended with Teresa after you saw the way it started? Teresa and I never got to the root of our issues during our talk that night, but at least we got to a place of peace. The goal was to be civil, not friends. I was afraid if we started getting into all the deep stuff, we would just end up arguing. I had to keep reminding myself of the goal. We agreed to disagree.
I felt hurt by Teresa, because I felt that she never appreciated all my efforts in the previous years in trying to help her mend things with her family. I resented that she got upset with me, pulled away from me, and started talking behind my back when I wouldn't call out her family, agree with her, or take her side on specific things. She didn't consider me a loyal friend because of all that. It was frustrating for me. I felt there were times she was making things worse for herself and/or the situation, and I was just trying to give her my honest advice as a friend. I cared about her a lot. I only wanted the best for her. I was her biggest supporter. Sometimes you need a friend who will tell you the truth when you are doing or saying things that could hurt you. I honestly loved Teresa. My intent was not to hurt her. She had really disappointed me. I was very hurt.