Jacqueline Laurita

Jacqueline how she managed to conquer her fear of public speaking.

on Sep 16, 20130

Autism awareness is something that I am extremely passionate about. I have been asked by countless organizations, event planners, high schools, and colleges to come and speak for them and to share my family's journey with Autism. I wanted to do it all, but my fear of public speaking was holding me back and I was feeling horrible about it. Instead, I was spreading as much awareness as I could through social media, countless blog interviews and magazine articles as well as supporting many Autism fundraisers as a special guest. I even started to put together all of my own resources and information I have gathered throughout my Autism journey to share with everyone on my website www.JacquelineLaurita.com. I even answered many emails from families needing advice. I do what I can do.

I knew that to be an even better Autism advocate, I needed to get over my fear of public speaking. My husband knew that as well, and he believed in me, so he put me up to speaking at "The Knock Out Autism" event at House of Sports in Ardsley, NY. The event was benefitting Generation Rescue. I wanted to do it so badly, but I was terrified.

Generation Rescue was one of the first organizations my husband and I reached out to for help at the beginning of our Autism journey along with Autism Speaks. We knew that Jenny McCarthy was involved in that organization, and since I had read her books about her and her son Evan's  journey with Autism, I really wanted to ask her some questions about how she recovered her son.

138 comments
jhiggs1940
jhiggs1940

Jacqueline, I will say the same thing that I have said to Kathy.  You are beautiful inside and out.  Get out of this circus.  You are better than that.  Go home and hug your handsome husband and your kids.  So many people have so many worse problems.  I am confident that you and yours will survive anything because good things happen to good people, like all of you.  Close this chapter and move on.  I wish nothing less than the best for all of you.  You remind me of myself, that you will continue to stick your neck out for anyone, and never expect anything in return.  What I have learned, is there comes a point where Enough is Enough.  Peace Out Sista!

 

be@ch
be@ch

I have a hard time figuring out how Jac and Teresa could ever become Lucy and Ethel again.  Maybe its because I became estranged from a close friend that some serious stuff went down with.  I still love her, I miss her, but I am walking slowly and treading carefully - hope she does the same.  Also think it was interesting that Jac didn't say she was lying about the secretary/babysitter, just that she shouldn't have gone there and didn't want to again.   

tobybailey
tobybailey

Jacqueline, I can't wait for tonight's first reunion!! Nicholas is such a precious little boy, and I know with you out there in the autism community, things will go well for you and your family. I also want to tell you that you are one of the few housewives who doesn't flaunt what you have . You live in a gorgeous home and have it all, but you never act that way. Good for you!!!! More people should follow you. I am also glad that you are friends with Teresa again. She is  a dear friend to you now. Work at that friendship-it's worth it. And Teresa is going to need ALOT of support in the next few months and a lot of supportive people..

Macey2
Macey2

I love Jacqueline. Nick is so precious. It is obvious they are working hard with him. It is so generous of Chris and Jacqueline to share the challenges they have faced with Nicks autism. I wish them all the best. Especially for their adorable little boy.

Siena-in-Seattle
Siena-in-Seattle

Dear Jackie, I think i just saw you giving Nicholas some BLK water. I'm a nutritional therapist and know that we seldom get natural-sourced trace minerals from our food anymore, so i was delighted to see it promoted by Chris and think it's likely to be a contributing factor to your son's health. Keep up the good and important work you're doing in your son's behalf. Sincerely, Siena in Seattle

cehemise
cehemise

Your speech was touching.  If you speak from the heart, any public speech you make will be just fine.  You did that in fine style.

mag42
mag42

It's been said that you have been reduced from a housewife to a friend now.  So sad, but at least I can still see you.  God Bless your family and your work with Autism. 

 

NABNYC
NABNYC

Jacqueline:  you and your husband both seem so nice.  Good luck with your son.  I'm sure everybody in the country is hoping that there will soon be better treatment available and (even better still) maybe they can figure out what is causing this, and stop it from happening in the future.  Good luck to you and your family.

Beamheart
Beamheart

Jacqueline, first your speech was so heartfelt. Anyone who sees it any other way is a fool. It appears some on the show have vendettas against the families and have their own agendas. Talk is cheap. Facing the fools can give them what they want so the camera can focus on them. Plus, if people don't truly know you, how can they judge you. Remember you can't argue with ignorance.

LuvBravo.
LuvBravo.

I know your husband and Rich wanted to bust a gut laughing when Melissa was singing live.  Come one, spill it Jac, what do you think of that performance?

Thinkbeforeyouact
Thinkbeforeyouact

I hope this isn't too soon to say this but I am so glad to see you back with Teresa. It's just so much fun to see everyone getting along. I also find your relationship with Chris much more interesting than the stirred up fake drama between the Gorgas and the Guidice. You are real and honest and I appreciate that.

kat1129
kat1129

You need to be in therapy too!

Ksfan
Ksfan

I love seeing the old Jacqueline! And I enjoy seeing you back with Teresa. Please watch past episodes, watch the big picture - Kim D. is sooooooo jealous and set on getting a perm. role on the show she is using her peeps to take Teresa and Joe Guidice down. I believe Teresa after watching so much, yes she might have said a few things along the way in confidence to Kim D, but the manipulation, the "gotcha" crap is all Kim D! She is using Penny and her husband to get rid of Teresa. Stick with your friend. And you're doing great with your kids and your husband, but I can tell he needs a little attention, date nights!

Sparkle1908
Sparkle1908

Jac - People in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. You can't deride someone for spending their day tweeting nasty comments, when you have spent the last few years doing the exact same thing. Makes you a hypocrite. 

mibasho
mibasho

Jacqueline: I am so proud of you. I live in Santa Fe, NM and 20plus years ago our friend had a child with autism. Back then the family and friends didn’t understand what it entailed. They took him everywhere, and didn’t hide it. Although many didn’t understand we were very comforting and loving to him and his parents. I saw this was a full time job. He was withdrawn toward many, but he did choose selected few and would hug them out of the blue. I was one that received a hug. I felt so proud. You’re  an amazing woman, and you have an outstanding husband to stand by your side. Chris displays his strong love for you. That is a great foundation for your children. The best thing a man can do for his kids is love their mother.  You have made the right choices in distancing yourself from those that are negative.  Good luck to you and your beautiful family. Ashley, I’m proud of you girl. Moving to California was a good thing -your very talented keep it up!  GOD BLESS!

tldittmer04
tldittmer04

I too have an autistic son with ADHD. He is six, and I can tell you that, with therapy, your son will improve. Trying to work with these kids is hard (I'm also a behavior therapist), but they all have strengths and your son will amaze you. It is hard, but keep following the therapists advice. It will pay off. Remember you and your husband are great parents, you just have to parent a different way. Right now it feels strange, but soon it will be second nature. Good luck.

 

Goldiecoo
Goldiecoo

Jacq, It's a struugle to raise a child w/ autism, but remember-you can talk about it all you want...not many parents can afford to have someone help train and raise thier children with autism. So, as you speak, you should promote some type of financial assistance so that others could have the luxury you have...imagine yourself alone with no help to raise your child like so many others. If there was more help available for parents of autistic children then perhaps there would be more mothers out speaking just like you.

bittersweet4
bittersweet4

WWHL - very interesting that sweet, innocent Ashlee has a job "blogging" and works for US Weekly.  Ashlee as we all know, hates Teresa & will do anything to promote Melissa.  What a wicked web we weave when at first we practice to deceive. 

rosyposy
rosyposy

Penny's husband (and Penny) are obviously low life scumbags to go online and trash you and Chris over your child's Autism.  How low can a human sink?  You need to get a lawyer and go after them.  The remark that you are capitalizing off a "fake" illness is actually slander.  Put them in their place.  Teres'a borderline personality disorder may have started this whole mess, but they took it to another whole level when they went on line and slandered you.

Reba39forever
Reba39forever

Great Blog- Beautiful Family- Thank You for focusing on others and promoting awareness rather than forcing a product down our throats.  The Housewifes always pushing a product is getting old.  You are refreshing.

Eva18
Eva18

I couldn't have been the only one laughing my ass off while you and your husband talked about morons on Social Media. You, Jac, are the queen. 

LoveableLibra
LoveableLibra

Jacqueline I was so impress with your role in the movie BAD PARENTS omg  you looked awesome and BLK really to shine in the movie as well. I see your growth in the Housewives and trust what is done in the dark will come to light. Teresa has not learn much yet cause she still throws SHADE in when it clearly needs to come to and end. Stay strong cause you are special and Nick is lucky to have you and Chris. I have an friend here in Saint Peters Mo and she is strong with her son and they take so much from the fact that their son has this same illness and it breaks my heart when I see the pressure she and her husband has with their son. Much to the you and please tell Caroline she is strong like me and if she ever need help I got her. <3

shellbie0318
shellbie0318

I feel that this Penny chic or her husband is all kinds of wrong for making any comments about Autism and / or you and your family .. Let God take that anger.  I feel that the is something that Teresa might have said in anger during your fights but I feel strongly in saying that I would find it hard to believe she would hurt you or your family. Hang in there and please do not stop spreading the word .. You may even save the life of a child by your good intentions... :)

Tracirk68
Tracirk68

I really enjoyed you and Teresa shopping together and having fun.   Her family joining the show brought out that ugly that Danielle used to bring out in her.  The two of you together seem to just have fun without bringing all the drama into it.  I really like all the ladies, though have been very disappointed with Teresa, though she does seem to be stepping out of what ever insecurity she had about her family coming on.  I mean, Melissa did admit she was out to get her to begin with but I pray they continue standing strong together and moving toward resolution.  My son is not autistic but he is special needs and I know some of the heart ache, guilt, and joy at the smallest achievement you are feeling.  I am loving your story line, some may say it is boring but I, as a special needs mother, feel a kinship to what you are going through.  You do not have to be all about the drama, there are others more than happy to cover that on this show.   Please continue showing Nicholas and how he is progressing and every achievement you can, I cry with you in both joy and frustration.  Peace and love to you, your family and the families on the show xoxo

terry244
terry244

jacqueline u r a amazing person and a great mom keep ur head held high we love u

threesistersx3
threesistersx3

This was a refreshing blog from you.  Finally only mentioning Teresa once.  Glad that you are not so focused on her.

Keep putting your energy and attention to your son.  When you have a child with special needs you should never sweat the small stuff or people who are draining.  Nice to see your attention where it belongs. 

bzshannon
bzshannon

Jacqueline, what a beautiful young woman you are. Of all the ladies you are the one who should write a book about how to be married and stay that way. You and Chris are blessed. You have each other and what a beautiful family. It is hard to watch Melissa try and proclaim her happy household when it was founded on deceit from the start. Her book cover says it all. She's the only one on it and it's an egoistical presentation of her true feelings about her marriage. She grants joe access to her body and he is so grateful he's a fool.

susanzavagli
susanzavagli

You are the only HW who is not promoting herself in the Bravo opportunity pool......you are helping others and bringing awareness about  Autism as for the other HW everyone deserves a chance to be noticed but it is gettin to be too much .......how  can you stomach Melissa

jennylynnrice
jennylynnrice

Great job on your speech! Glad to see peace w/ you & Teresa. Loved the scenes w/ Nick & Jen.

CRJStudent1983
CRJStudent1983

Jacqueline, I think are you very brave for being an advocate for autism speaks and I have been a fan of the RHONJ for years....Watching the show has helped me deal with my own diagnosis.... I love the progress that Nick is making and I wish you the best for you and your family....

Liznorris
Liznorris

I've always loved you and your husband. I think you two are so cute together. The love between you two is very very evident. It seems a lot like me and my husband. I couldn't help but laugh hysterically when Chris started laughing about Teresa helping you. It was so cute and I could tell it was completely harmless, he was in no way trying to be mean towards Teresa by it. It definitely was contagious though! Haha. Good luck through your journey Jac, you are doing great and you have such a beautiful family, keep it up! :-)

jimswife
jimswife

Jacqueline, may I give a suggestion for your next speech? The 1st one you gave was awesome. From the heart. That's what it should be. I sorta wrote one for when you talk to a group of people with $$$$$$.----I'm here today to tell you about my son. He is fabulous! He's loving, bright, smart, active and eager to learn new things. He has so much knowledge inside his little head that just can't get out! He has so much love inside his little heart that just can't get out! It's there. We just need to find a way to open a portal and let all that knowledge, curiosity and love pour out. He makes strides a tiny bit at a time, but with research it can be done so much faster and he doesn't have time to wait. He wants to learn NOW! I'm talking about MY son.....and yours. Whether it be your son, daughter, aunt, uncle, cousin, neighbor's child. It doesn't matter. They all have so much inside them waiting to come out but they just need to be shown how! It takes money. LOTS of money. That's where YOU come in. (giggle) We need the biggest donation you can possibly give. These autistic people; whether they be children or adults, NEED you. They need you NOW. Know this. Your money will be better used to help these people than anything else you could do with it. So, help my son open his little mind and his little heart and let all that is inside him out. Donate big! Donate big! We need you!! (smile and bring nicolas onto the stage with you and have him say 'i love you'........and then help him wave to the audience.)

GOOD LUCK!!! no, your speech giving is none of my business, but this just went through my head and i couldn't control  myself. use it. make money with it. keep us posted. 

juliaXX
juliaXX

Sad to say but you are sooo boring.  Bravo needs to find new housewives with some fun storylines.  You and Kathy need to go away and leave us all alone.

ymgarcia2003
ymgarcia2003

I have a 12 year old autistic boy, Thomas.   I just receiveed a picture from his teacher today.  He's is teaching an art class today.   Imagine that, an autistic child standing in front of his class, teaching other students.  I'm thrilled and I thought if anyone could appreciate it, it would be you.

 

Stay strong, Jacqueline, there's light at the end of the tunnel.

 

Sincerely,

Yvonne Davis

cheryldarg@hotmail.com
cheryldarg@hotmail.com

We as mothers of all children on the spectrum need to have voices. No one knows the heartache, struggles, laughs and the need to be protective of our children anymore than us. My son Michael has been diagnosed with NOS-PPD and Aspergers.. Depends on which doctor you talk to. He is now 9 yrs. old. I left my son's father on Valentines day (most people go to dinner !). All of this is so difficult for my family. Meltdowns, getting stuck, loosing your child to a brief time of what I call emptiness. I wish we could all band together and form a real organization of parents to let people know it's ok. I know parents that are embarrassed, ashamed of their situation. We all on occasion ask, "What did I do so wrong that this was done to my child". The answer is nothing, we learn to raise our children differently, cry when we need to and love them with ever bit of our fiber and beyond. You are giving a voice for us! I wish I could be heard and help people understand. I want to answer questions for people, especially other children who don't understand. I will give my support to you and am thankful for your voice. Thank you

WandaP
WandaP

Ur amazing, great job, to face ur fears is tough, I had to speak on a forum of hospitality management. I actually had people, say my story wasn't the norm .. But while nervous, they peeved Me off, so I stood tall( for the little hotels) , and in front of 1000 managers, owners, developers.. I spoke w assurance and got a standing ovation, after I was done.. Moral , nEVER back down, even if haters are saying different ideals, we r all allowed to speak, and be a voice .. As for T, helping u write ur speak, sorry not buying it # keeping the PEICE !

zocola
zocola

Jeez. Your family never ceases to amaze me. Shame on Chris for making fun of Teresa. He needs to take a look at his own family, namely his nephews, before making fun of anyone. Shame!

AvengefulAngel
AvengefulAngel

Just wanted to pass this along to you Jacqueline..its called a mothers courage: talking back to autism on Netflix streaming. I watched it and i think it might be helpful to you.

Cindell
Cindell

I just want to Thank You, for bringing awareness to Autism. I am a grandmother, raising two grandchildren, that are Autistic. It has been a very difficult road. But we as parents, can NEVER, give up on our kids!!!! Again, Thank you for bringing awareness, and know you are not alone.

judy@london
judy@london

 @bittersweet4

 Wow,What does Ashley working for US Weekly have to do with ANYTHING?Some of Tre's fans are so PARANOID.

Mar51
Mar51

@bittersweet4 I am impressed. I didn't think Ashley could write, or read for that matter.

Sparkle1908
Sparkle1908

 @rosyposy 

The Laurita's would have to show proof of the nefarious tweet.

 

Something tells me they won't have it.

belindaj
belindaj

 @Eva18 That was very funny coming from them.  Eva18 I was laughing along with you and many others I'm sure.  Jac must think we all have short memories.

Debbieinmissouricitytx
Debbieinmissouricitytx

 @jimswife

 Not to knock your speech, but how about this one....My family and I are taking a spiritual journey and I believe and have faith that Jesus is going to heal my son from Autism and restore his health and restore everything that Autism has stole from him....We are attending church every Sunday and learning the word of God and standing on the word of God....please come join us on our spiritual journey and if there is an offering that you would like to give to our church and Autism...please do so...Jackie you cant go wrong there...please stop boxing yourself in a corner and leaving yourself no exit....Jesus has the power to heal your son and your family. There are testimony's all over the world that Jesus has healed children with Autism and so many people from cancer...Have faith! And BELEIVE!

Aussieviewer
Aussieviewer

@juliaXX You are SO RUDE! If you don't have anything constructive to say, then ZIP IT. Go and read the other blogs- no-one made you read Jaqueline's.

ssajewski
ssajewski

 @ymgarcia2003 I am an art teacher. I appreciate what Thomas did in class AND how you cherish his accomplishments. I have personally seen many of these success stories in the visual and performing arts in public schools for many children in the spectrum. I am confident that the entire class that your son is in has a knowledgeable awareness of autism that they can share with their parents. All they have to do is ask.

Please know your children are not in a dark tunnel in their school day; there are aware and compassionate teachers, staff and peers illuminating your child's way with every step he takes.

And know this: your child illuminates our lives as well.

Shine on Thomas, shine on<3 

judy@london
judy@london

 @zocola

 He HAS laughed and rolled his eyes when talking about his nephews,I don't think he meant any harm.Let's face it,Teresa MANGLES the English language.

As1helper
As1helper

@zocola Teresa is a word jumbling moron. I don't blame him for laughing.