I go to school classroom observations and meet with therapists. We both go to IEP meetings and doctor visits. Chris has taken over a lot in the cooking department while I take Nicholas in his daily Hyperbaric Oxygen Therapy treatments. Chris handles all paperwork for insurance company billing and I make sure the therapists are paid. We both speak at Autism events and conferences to spread Autism Awareness. We both take the time to learn as much as we can from others. Our amazing niece/babysitter, Sarah, picks up all of our slack when we can't be there.
We both work hard but we always make sure that we take the time for each other. Chris is my rock! We also have to make sure we dedicate special one-on-one time with our son CJ so he gets the attention he deserves as well. With all of our new responsibilities to juggle, mixed in with our usual everyday demands, I think we do a pretty darn good job working as a team. It does get stressful at times, but we will stick it out and fight for our child. We will never give up. It's a joy and a challenge every single day!
Neither Chris nor I want to see any of our kids struggle, so it's very painful to see how hard Nick has to work everyday to reach his goals. We've learned to appreciate and celebrate Nick’s accomplishments no matter how small it may seem to others. The moments that parents of typical kids often take for granted are the moments that we cherish the most. Those moments give us hope. It shows our child is progressing. It's what we pray for.
Jacqueline and Chris. I am an autistic parent of a 16 yer old girl. From about age one I new something was wrong. But no one would listen to me. My daughter would screech an scream. shred paper into little pieces, and she could no comprehend the simplest things. It was not until about age 12 when we moved to Florida that one of her teachers said to me, have you had her seen by some one. I said n one will listen to me. I just thought this was how she was going to be. The first time we seen some one they said she had bi-polar I thought ok makes since because it runs in my family. After a year the doctor told me no she has autism. I thought finally some one is hearing what I am saying.We did a bunch more testing and found out that she was a high functioning autistic child. She will not touch hangers or anything plastic. we could not figure out for the longest time why she would not touch plastic toys, like the little tiks stuff. We also found out that she had o.d.d. bi polar and inattentive adhd. Relief for us. she started a proper dos of medication in home therapy and sticking to a tight schedule. Autistic kids do not at all like surprises. They do not understand jokes and have a hard time with things we find should be normal. Now my daughter is 16. I got my first hug from her since she was about 1. So I know how it felt for Nick to say I love you. I cried for hours that my daughter hugged me. After she hugged me she did the same to my husband. Her dad and I were so excited. Of course you still have the every day battles of wetting the bed, if she is in a bad mood every one knows. And when she is not comfortable in a situation she makes a noise that sounds like scooby doo. But we now know how to handle things better. We have joined a support group here in Florida and recently I have become on of the board members. So that I can help put it out there that people need to know what autism is. It does not mean jut that the child can not talk. Also using the I Pad is amazing. Apple has alot of apps out there that are very helpful for autistic children. I wish I had the money to be able to afford one for my daughter. But in due time. Any way I just wanted to lt you and Chris know that you are not alone. We both have handled this so well and from a mother i KNOW HOW IT FEELS. Much love from Florida.
Jacqueline, I am an inclusion teacher with a degree in special education. I have taught for 36 years many of those years I have worked with special education children in an inclusion classroom. When I saw how frustrated Nick was when he couldn't tell you what he wanted it broke my heart. I just wanted to give you some info to discuss with Nick's doctors. When I have an autistic child who is nonverbal we sometimes use sign language. We always say the word we are signing and we limit the signing to things that seem to frustrate the child. For example I had a child that couldn't let us know he needed to go to the restroom so we taught him the sign for restroom. He would make the sign and we would repeat the sign and say the word restroom. It helped this child stop hitting his head in frustration. Please check with Nick's doctors before you try this because I don't know all the info about Nick and I wouldn't want anything I suggested to get in the way of his progress. Good luck with your precious angel. I love that you are remembering to take time for your other children and your husband.
Hi Jacqueline, I have followed you guys since the beginning and i feel like you guys are family. I am so sad that you are going through this Nicholas. My nephew was just diagnosed with Autisum and it is very hard understand why these poor children have to go through this. But you are an awesome Mom and just know that I am praying for you and your family. You are so sweet and just know that God will help you through this.
hey Jacqueline when Nic gets upset try singing his favorite song to him or distract him with something he does like to get his attention back to calmness and focus on the immediate situation or you...
Jacqueline - I am watching you and my heart is breaking for you and your son. I teach kids with autism and, with all the support I have from staff, teaching these kids can be totally frustrating. I too shed tears and wish things could be different but the best thing you can do is love your child enough to see that he reaches his greatest potential in life and not coddle him because he's different. You are doing the right thing - stay strong and you and your family are in my prayers. I feel your pain.
I just watched the episode of you working with Nicholas and he began to hit himself, it broke my heart to watch how much it was hurting you! I had a daughter who use to hit herself due to being frustrated, she was unable to speak and get her point across to anyone. My daughter had C.P. something totally different, but I wanted to let you know what helped us in communication. I thought the doctor's were crazy when they mentioned it ... but it really helped! We would use picture books of different foods, toys, clothes etc. In addition we also used "C" Sign Language - this was such a hugh relief for Kendra. She was able to get her point across finally! She was not deaf, she could hear just fine..... she just couldn't talk. Nonetheless, you are not alone in your everyday walk! Keep up the good work! Everyday is a gift. I understand the heartbreak, my Kendra passed at the age of 10. I LOVE the fact that you are paying it forward to help out soooooooooooooooo many other people who are in your shoes! You have a strong, loving, wonderful family of which is giving others hope as well! God bless you!
Hi Jacqueline, I felt a need to reach out and tell you to be patient with the process and you will find your way through with your son. We have a son who is now 16 with Autism. There was a day when he did not have any words, no eye contact, no affection and no ability to relate to the outside world. Through years of hard work, we have made amazing progress. He is still very affected by autism but he is so much better than he was.
I spent countless hours in therapy, moving him forward. You are doing all the right things. We did hyperbaric treatments as well as a GFCF diet and some metal detoxing. He used to bang his head against the wall, it would break my heart to see the pain he was in. After changing his diet, he was potty trained (at 5years of age) and started sleeping through the night. We didn't think we would ever see that day!
Now he does not have all the language we would like for him to have but he understands everything we are saying and if he really wants us to know something or has a question he wants answered, language comes flooding out! Motivation is huge. Animals in any form were huge motivators for him (books, toys, etc.) Music and his Nook (which I see you have an IPAD). IPAD were not around when we started with him but are motivators now. We tried to stay away from the food motivators as much as possible. He reacted to sugar strongly and with his special diet, it seems prudent to stick with other means of motivation. He used to self limit his diet to all the foods that contributed to his difficult behaviors and frustration levels. Little by little we were able to grow his diet to include meats, veggies and better round out what he was eating. Now he eats everything! The only thing he doesn't like are onions!
Consistency and patience will bring your son back to you. It can be done, I know parents whose kids are fully recovered. They are the ones who were able to get early diagnosis and full treatment plans in order. Unfortunately for our Matthew, we were not able to get him all the treatment he needed till he was about 7 so we have a long way to go still but each year I am encouraged that someday he will emerge from his shell fully.
I will pray for you and your family. Your efforts will make a difference.
Jacqueline, I typically don't post on blog sites. I am not an avid watcher of your show, but catch it when I am not working as a full-time nurse, going to school, or taking care of my two sons. I have to say, your story about your son, Nick, touched me. Collin, my oldest son, was diagnosed with autism less than a year ago. He is 3 years old and my world fell apart with that word....autism. I recently watched your episode about the struggles you had with your son in attempting to teach him vocabulary skills, such as "I want..." We are currently in the same place! Collin lost language at about 18 months when he stopped advancing. My brother is a teacher at a school especially for kids with autism and he encouraged us to get him diagnosed. We knew something was wrong, but didn't really want to be confronted with it. With his diagnosis...I got seriously involved. We made sure he got the best therapy and education he needed. It is NOT easy!! There are days I am frustrated and sad with the fact that I can't help him. It is a slow process, but I see so much hope in him! My son said "Love you" for the first time the other day and my heart almost dropped. I never heard such sweeter words! Autism is not a life-threatening diagnosis, but a diagnosis that will affect all of us for the rest of our lives. I pray for your Nick like I pray for my Collin. That they will be accepted for the men that they will become and find a purpose in life in which God intended! I truly believe that with a supportive and involved family, children with autism can accomplish anything!
i am so touched by ur story...that was a tear-jerking episode!!! i think u r doing tremendous thigs w ur son n his condition. he is just a beautiful little boy...n u went thru sooooo much just 2 have him. u r so blessed 2 have such a wonderful husband (can i clone chris???) n CJ looked like quite the big brother.... stick 2 ur guns, stay out of the BS n keep ur focus on ur family like u have been. i really hate 2cu upset over that petty crap that's swirling around u...
p.s.... i still have hope 4u n teresa's relationship...u guys were so good together but u know whats best 4u :)
xx hugs xx
Just wanted to add that there wasn't a dry eye in the house when Nicholas said I "I love you"!
I'm glad to hear the lollipops are "organic." I wish you and Nicholas' therapists might consider trying to get Nicholas to be rewarded through fresh organic fruit, or some other "raw food" treat. But I'm very happy for you. My younger daughter took a long time to speak, but when she did, she began talking in whole sentences, at three. Her younger son, my grandson, had to have some speech therapy, during pre-school, but now he's doing wonderfully in school, no learning issues at all.
I'm not sure what the exact definition of Autism is, but hopefully Nicholas has a more "mild" challenges, and will grow out of them. You and your husband are doing a wonderful job of providing him every opportunity. Sending you all healing currents of love <3
Hi Jackie, Let me start by saying Nicholas will get better with time. You and your husband are my favorite housewive/husband. I am a mother with a 21 yr old autism son. I have two sons, my autism son is the oldest. I too like you would shy away from family gatherings because how our sons isolate themselves as we'll as are uncomfortable outside there enviornment. Although he is someone use to different outings, there are some likes and dislikes. We make the adjustments accordingly. Through therapy and wanting my son to be somewhat normal we would weather the storm at some turns making sure one of us would always be by his side. Moving forward, my son attended public schools (grade, middle and high school) of course in special classes. Within time my son was able to change classes like the other kids. I gave my son swimming lesson through the YMCA. Now swimming is a daily sometime weekly outing, I live in Florida so the weather is great year round. My son learned all his personal information (telephone, addess, parents name, his name) and to this day he still know it. He his verbal more answering simple everyday life things, he know how to dress himself, shower himself, feed himself, brush his teeth, separate the laundry, swim, love to work on the computer some websites from school i addition to "Barney". He is addicted to Barney, so I ask you to limit the Barney time. Also my second son has taken on the older brother role and now watches over his big brother. Once your family and friends learn about "Autisum" the better life will get for you. You will also have to do some soul searching and come to realization that your son will always live with you the tears will be few and far. Jackie you are on the right course, study all there is to know, but also know each autistic child is different and they will always love their mother. Take care!
dear jacqueline,hi my name is jacqueline im from a small town in australia,am currently watching an episode of housewives,where you are talking about how hard it ws to first hear of your sons autisum.I have a 5 year old grandson who is non verble he is the most amazing little angel just wanted to tell you that he started school this year and is doing so well he has speech theropy and interaction theropy little by little he is starting to talk.I to cried and cried when we first heard the news of his autisum both parnt are young and i wondered how they ever would cope but they have and have done a beautiful job and i wouldnt want him any other way today for the first time he spoke to me i heard im say nanna he gifted me in a way that only an angel could.just wanted to reach out to you as i felt your pain and to tell ypu that thrue love and undertanding hopfully awhereness for autisum will be realised and that kee smiling because god only trust angels with another kind regards and blessings.jacqueline kerr
Blessings to you and your family. Thank you for being so open about your journey. I wish you nothing but good things.
Jaqueline, I am so happy for you that your son is beginning to talk again. My son, on the autism spectrum, was slow to develop speech but at almost 6 years of age now, he talks MY EAR OFF! Yay! Some of it I credit to speech therapy, and some to maturation. Nicholas will get there too. You and your husband are doing everything in your power to help your son and it will pay off. XOXO
I cried when your son said "I love you'. My son is 7, is autistic, blind, has brain deformities....and can not speak. That is amazing for you. The things I have learned for myself it that I do the most I can for him, but I also need to take some time for me. De-stressing is so important. I have learned not to expect, so when it happens it is wonderful, and when it doesn't I'm not crying and disappointed. I haven't cried in years! My son is a joy, a blessing, and I love him to pieces. I wasn't even supposed to be able to have children....3 later. :)
TERESA DOES NOT OR DID NOT ASK ANY OF YOU TO GET INVOVED WITH HER AND HER BROTHER..DID YOU REALLY JUST SAY THAT.???
Wow! There is finally a truly loving scene on this show and you have throw this on the blog????
I have always liked Jacqueline. I cried during the Reunion show. I have worked with Autistic children. You do break thru for an instant but it is devastating when the autism rears its head. I do not think Teresa knew what a great friend she lost. Jacqueline was genuinely worried and Teresa could not see that. I would be proud to call Jacqueline my friend. I actually really care about the entire cast. Hurricane Sandy happened and I wondered how all of you were. Caroline is right--there is too much pain for there not to be a lot of love. Peace
Look up the connection between autism and GMO foods.
Watch this. It is free tonight. geneticroulettemoviedotcom/Movienight/ I had to write "dotcom" because they don't allow urls here.
Like so many others who have commented about your adorable son Nicky, I would like to tell you my story. I am a proud parent of 2 grown boys ages 25 and 24. Our oldest son was 18 months old when I had his younger brother. At the time, he stopped talking completely. (this was back in 1989-1990. ) We had him tested by many doctors, but they never really found a reason for him to stop talking, they just said he does not know how to talk, how to say words. And we started him into a special school at the age of 2 1/2 yrs old. He always had special education classes when he was in school even tho he was basically an A student even in his "normal" classes. He was diagnosed with A.D,D in the 10th grade and was put on medication for it. He graduated high school with 4.35 G.P.A. (he had some college classes that raised his GPA). And he graduated from a technical college too.,
It was not until this year when they really started talking about Autism on the news and everywhere. So we researched it and discovered he had/has a lot of the symptoms.
Thank God for all the news this year about Autism otherwise I would of never thought he had it
Just keep loving Nicky and teaching him and he will always make you happy with his love even if he is unable to say the words. :)
Jackie...there was not a dry eye in our home during the I LOVE YOU scene! Remarkable! But what I find very disturbing is that Melissa Gorga did not have tears coming down her face or tears in her eyes....she pretended to be crying when she picked up her hand to wipe off those crocodile tears! we froze the frame and there were no tears...When the camera pan over to Rosie and Kathy...there were no tears at all...so sad and you call those loons friends! Teresa would have been boo hooing!
You are the real cause of Joey and Teresa not speaking to each other right now. You always have to have some sort of drama going on in your life. If not with Danielle, then it's punching Caroline in the face, then it's Ashley and now causing trouble between Teresa and Joey. You really pushed the issue at the fashion show. Ashley used to talk about how immature you are and boy was she right! (Never thought I would ever agree with something Ashley said) You really do owe Teresa an apology for the way you acted at the reunion and pushing the issue at the fashion show. . Grow up, apologize and focus on your son.
Your story hits so close to home for me and I cannot watch you without getting emotional myself. I know exactly what you are feeling. I am the mother of an amazing 13 year old son with autism. He was diagnosed at age 2 with sensory integrative disorder, and at age 3 with autism. I know I don't have to tell you how lucky you are to have all of the support, especially your husband Chris. My husband was in denial and still is and unfortunately we divorced. I am so glad you are sharing your story with the world! God bless you and your family!
Love, love love you on the show. You are without a doubt the funniest one and the most entertaining. It was moving to see you with Nick, you really are a great mom!
Hi Jacquline, it truly brought tears in our eyes too when your said, I love you. God bless you and your family. The love you have within your family it will heal anything autism. You have a good husband on your side, and you two will pass this, and we love you and your family. Just keep the negativity away from you as much as you can. You really don't need it right now. xoxo.
Jacqueline, My heart goes out to you. You are dealing with so much right now. I cried with you when I saw the last episode. You and your husband are such a nice couple and I wish you the best. Stay strong and positive, you are wonderful person.
I have been a housewife watcher from the first episode of the oc. I am not a stalker or even a crazed fan, I am a normal middle classed housewife of 43. I watch the housewives shows solely for the entertainment, in fact I was a close childhood friend of one of the NYC housewives. I had to share with you and your husband how much my heart goes out to you, not only because of what your son must struggle with, but the determination that you have. I have three children, 2 daughters from my first marriage, who are now adults, and a son with my present husband, my son is now 10 years old, this is my husbands only child. About 9 years ago my son was diagnosed with a rare disorder called 18q chromosome Deletion ( at first they said Cerebral Palsy), but the stubborn women I am, and the love I have for my children, begged to differ with them, grew his cells at a local hospital and found out different. His 18q comes with many issues, they told my husband and myself that my son would never sit up, crawl, walk, talk etc.. 5 days a week, since he was 2 years old, I have gotten him Occupational therapy, Physical therapy, speech and massage therapist. The moral of my story is, my son may not talk as clear as the next boy, he may have a stigma shake in his eye, he may have to get Botox shots in his legs, wear braces and walk with a walker, but he does all the things they told me he couldn't. Even though your son has his diagnoses, don't let anyone tell you what his capabilities are, your sons capabilities will be what you want them to be. I know times will be tough, and your heart will find moments of sadness for him, but those will be the moments that you will gain more strength and determination to do more. I saw that look in your eye when he said "I love you".....
I PROMISE YOU, it will be those moments that will be remembered most, not the struggles and frustrations from the hard work ahead . My heart and prayers are with you.
SINCERLY, HUNTER'S MOM...
Hi, please check out the National Ability Center in Park City, Utah. They provide recreation programs for people of all abilities. I used to work there and many of my friends are rec therapists. The work they do is amazing and I have personally seen incredible results from the care and interaction between the staff and clients. Participants have traveled there from all over the world. It is a non profit and no one is ever turned away due to an inability to pay. The whole family can ski, ride horses and have fun together. May be the place for a great family getaway. Hugs.
I applaud you and your husband having the courage to come up and talk about the ups and downs of raising a child with special needs (i.e. autism). Although I am not raising such a youngster myself, I have several friends who are raising children who lie at various points on the spectrum so I am familiar with autism somewhat. Most recent statistics show that about 1:50 children are diagnosed with autism, and that rate may be higher in New Jersey (where I live too). Thanks for sharing your story and I wish you and your family the best. Hang in there and keep up the good work! Amy in New Jersey
hi jacqueline i found out my son had autisum at 8 years old and i didnt know how to handle it i was told he would be delaied in school his language would never catch up i never got the chance to get him early intervention and thought i lost his chance to learn and catch up even with the social skill problems and the lack of maturity he is now 17 and going into seniour year of high school he is going to penn state for physcial therapy and sports medicine and is a singer he has tried out for x factor and americas got talent he is an amazing child after watching the last episode i relized we had alot more in common then just having a child on the spectrum, i had 6 miscrages befor having him at 4 weeks i was told they reard no heartbeat and i was loosing this pregnency he was a beautyful healthy happy baby till he turned 2 1/2 and in hindsight all the signs were there but i didnt know what i wass looking for after watching you and your husband with nichloas what amazing progress he is making i just want to let you know there is light at the end of the tunnel it took my son 11 years to make this progress you have a much better chance to speed the progress up since you have an earlyer start best of luck with much love to your family from lucille and benjamin.
Jacqueline, Loved watching Nick say I love you! I know, it's hard, I have a daughter that has Down syndrome. It's a busy and rewarding life. You are a good mom. He is a lucky boy. God bless you and your family. I'm glad that you gave no attention to the drama on this show. It's a nice break from what has become the norm. I wish, the show could go back to the lives of women in NJ. Instead, we get the Guidice/Jorga show each week. Wish they would get their own show and recast housewives. God bless!
I've been a fan of yours ever since Season 1 and you continue to be someone I enjoy watching. It's been obvious since the beginning that you and Chris make a fabulous team, whether it's dealing with Finger Lakes drama or being the best parents you can possibly be to Nicholas (and CJ and Ashley!) This last episode is one I won't forget -- to watch the guys downstairs playing poker and hear Chris tell them what he had planned for you really warmed my heart and gave me goosebumps! You guys are amazing; keep up the great work -- and regardless of what happens in the future, you'll always have that special moment to look back on and watch over and over. Let it give you hope and optimism even when the going gets rough! It seems like you guys are handling this the best you can with what you have and it's really admirable to me. Looking forward to the rest of the season :-)
Wow, the bleaching sentence was really uncalled for and really icky. Why did you end your blog with that? It was going so good until...
SylviaS randrew True, if Teresa would have done that all her fans would have found it "soo funny and she is just being cooky and real". I think the one who is being the most real on this show is Jac.
Mallie.N SylviaS randrew Teresa owns her goofiness and doesn't pretend to be something she is not.
This is a proud moment for you. I child that has faced all odds has said the most famous and precious words, "I love you." Cherish each moment with him so that when he grows he knows that each challegene is a gift for him to face. I know that little is going to be something great, because his mother is the best mom in the world.
Thanks for sharing that great moment with us.
I have a daughter with Autism. She was diagnosed at !8 months . She behaved very similar to your son.
She is now 21 yr...... She talks, drives , graduated high school with a full diploma, is taking class for food prep, volunteer at humane society.
THERE IS A ROAD MAP!!
2. Speech Therapy
3. Occupational Therapist
4. Physcalogyst and Physicist
Remember you are his Mom......NOT HIS TEACHER ....If you try to do it all you will have a break down. Been there done that!
You live in a area where there is a lot of help around you. In Maryland, they use Lovvase, a behavioral system in the schools. Boston houses the one of the biggest research hospitals.
I belive that God gave me her to teach me how to grow and be a better person. If you believe in miracles watch and you will see one right in front of you .
cyn.walker Amazing, I love to hear what a mother's love can do for someone else's child. God Bless you and your family.
My son was diagnosed 18 years ago as being severely autistic. A lot of what you are going through, I went through as well.
At first we wanted it to be us. As his parents, you don't want anything to hurt them. Then we saw it as a blessing. We had to slow down our life because of him. It made us see each other in a different light. His sister was happy to teach him sign language to relieve the pressure of his not verbalizing his wants and needs.
Just to give you hope, we took my son to two Catholic healing masses and my daughter's Girl Scout would open every meeting praying for him. Today I am proud to say that he will be graduating from High School and has been accepted into College for a Political Science/Engineering designed program. He still has an occasional issue, but he knows how to study and was in several AP College Courses. Recently he began having seizures. We aren't sure what they are from. But my son has eliminated artificial sweeteners and stress from his life. I will pray for your beautiful son to be healed and that you become an even stronger family.
Please check out the relationship between food allergies and autism. Early intervention is important.
I have no idea if this message will be read by Jacueline or not, but I had to write. My son Joe is 28 years old. He has a form of Autism. We did not know at 3 years old if he would ever talk or function well as an adult. Well he has thrived. Please keep at it. I think yourr son will blossom like my son did. I am not an expert, just another Mom. I wish I could talk to you personally. I am on the other side of the mountain that you are just beginning to climb. I want to give you hope and tell you alot is possible with our kids. You have a loving husband, and that helps alot. I will keep you in my prayers. If you would like to read an article about my son, it is at Pride Industires Roseville CA. Our article is "A Miracle in Disguise" Please read it and know that there is alot to hope for.
Jacqueline I believe you mentioned the show one time in your blog of what 8-9 pages come on. If your not going to participate in the actual show why are you there? Surly you have more than you can handle without the show. you appear to have this sense of entitlement that it's ok to not take responsibility for what you have done. Poor Jacqueline . BS. Talking about things that Teresa told you in confidence at the reunion. You didn't have to bring any of that up and telling Joe you hoped he would be convicted of everything! You were terrible at that reunion you acted just like Ashly I see where she gets it. You and caroline laugh at Teresa saying you owe an apology and you do. Your not close to being perfect. What were you doing at the fashion show talking or texting to producers and then accuse Teresa of setting up Mellisa look at what you were doing.
@Jlh1109 I'm sorry but I'm glad she didn't talk more about the family drama on this show. This show is suppose to be about the lives of 5 women in NJ, not the Guidice/Jorga show. That's what it has become. I'm tired of it. She didn't need to bring it into her blog. She isn't associating with Teresa so why should she comment on things she isn't up to date on. The reunion is over, what was said is over, why go back? All these women use this how as a platform for their businesses, charities, personal interests,etc. Why shouldn't J use her blog to inform others about Autism. That's her life. No one ever said any of these women were perfect.
Jlh1109 I'm figuring that this has got to be Teresa posting this! Aside from all of the issues you're rehashing from last year, you're upset that her blog is about her family, and not trashing fellow castmates?
What got me to really dislike her was that, I'm sure we don't know the true reason she is mad at Teresa, but whatever it is it can't be that bad so for Jacqueline to reveal personal things Teresa told her while they were friends about herself and her family is really wrong and unforgivable. You can choose not to be a person's friend anymore, but respect their privacy and what was talked about when you were friends....I lost respect for her for that. And for her to have Teresa's family over her house like she just replaced Teresa and Joe with them is also very strange to me. If Teresa did say bad things about Melissa to Jacqueline...it was in private to a friend and I'm sure she never knew Melissa would join the show or ever get that close to Jacqueline. We are all guilty of gossiping to friends and Teresa gossiped to the wrong friend. With that said...I love little Nicholas and I can't even imagine what she, as a mother, must be going through.