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Jacqueline's Response to Joe Giudice

Jacqueline shares her thoughts on Joe's comment about Autism.

As I said before, I had no business going on that retreat. I would have only been a distraction from Teresa and her family getting to the core of their issues, which had absolutely nothing to do with me.  I felt like I had nothing to gain from going. I was not part of Teresa's family, and at that point, I had no desire to try and mend any sort of relationship with Teresa. I heard that she was constantly talking behind my back, and it was obvious to me that she had no desire to mend things with me either. Being dared to go on the trip isn't exactly extending an olive branch. It sounded more like she was waiting to beat me over the head with it.

I felt like I had enough on my plate without adding a pile of nonsense to it. That last phone call with Teresa was a reminder of how she brings out the worst in me. I didn't need extra stress in my life. My focus needed to be on my own family and their needs.

Right after the nasty phone call with Teresa, I was so annoyed that I let her get me upset again. I decided to tweet: “When you argue with a moron, you become a moron. You have to rise above and remember who and what is really important in life. Some things don't matter. Let it go.” My tweet wasn't directed at Teresa, but, it was most definitely inspired by her and her people that were hate tweeting me.It was a reminder for me not to let Teresa get to me anymore, to stop reacting to her ridiculous accusations, and to keep my focus on more important things that matter in my life.  I may react impulsively at times, but if I feel a certain way about something or someone, I have no problem expressing how I feel and owning it, publicly or not. I've noticed that a lot of you tweet impulsively too. LOL!

As far as Teresa's comment about my having time to tweet, when your child is in school and therapy 9 hours a day, there's time to tweet...among other things. Just pointing that out.

Teresa may not have tweeted derogatory things about me, but I believed she was still voicing her strong opinions of me through other avenues and would get mutual acquaintances to be her voice for her. We are both guilty about having talked badly about each other. If you're honest, some of you are just as guilty of talking badly about people in your own life. You even talk about us and you have never even met us. LOL!It's hard to explain to people what it's like to raise a child with special needs. The Autism spectrum is so wide that everyone has their own unique struggles, some more, some less than others. One thing for sure is that we all face our joys, our challenges, and some heartache every single day.

My response to what Joe Giudice said about Autism is simply this: Autism is a developmental disorder that requires a LOT of extra time and special attention that sometimes parents of typical kids find it hard to understand. Google it.

It is true that many children on the Autism spectrum are geniuses and become talented artists, musicians, and other great professionals at the top of their fields. I think it's because many have amazing memories and can keep an extreme focus for long periods of time on things they are passionate about. Kids on the spectrum need to be given the right early interventions and tools for learning, structure, consistency, attention, love, patience, communication, and socialization skills, special diets and supplements among many other things in order to progress and thrive. It takes a lot of love, patience, understanding, and perseverance to guide them. Raising a special needs child is not an easy task, but it is very rewarding. I am very proud of Nicholas, as well as I am with all of my children. They are truly a blessing.To hear more about our Autism journey, and other happenings in our lives, go to www.JacquelineLaurita.com.

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Amber: Is Dina Coldhearted?

Amber Marchese dishes on her first reunion and why Dina Manzo confuses her.

Hello Housewife friends!  Welcome to the jungle baby! My first reunion was a wild ride. Call me sick and twisted, but I had an unbelievable time at the reunion when most, I have been warned, dread it. I felt like it was “The Great Purge” and when I went home I was felt relieved of any built up tension. I don’t care if anyone has a grudge against me, my slate is clean and I harbor no ill feelings towards anyone. I love to argue my point, and I truly stood by all of my convictions this season, so I was ready to say exactly what was on my mind, and then some. 

I know the twins and I went at one another pretty hard, but that is what the reunion is all about. It is an opportunity to get it all out and potentially understand one another's position better. Then we can each make our own decisions as to where we want to go with our relationships. I am very much the type of person that can say some of the meanest things and sling mud, but hug it out at the end forgetting anything negative that was said. It just rolls off my back. I actually think it is healthier to say what needs to be said, and then move on.

One thing I did question after the reunion was if Dina actually has a heart or if I should start calling her the Tin Man. I actually have not figured her out yet. Is she really just a coldhearted bitch, or has she been hurt so many times that she has become warped and jaded. I feel I don’t owe anyone any reason as to why I call cancer “the cancer,” but I will give it once more anyhow. “The cancer” is “the monster” to me. It is a way for me to take away its power and to minimize it. “It” destroys lives, so “it” does not deserve a name. It is just “the cancer” -- it was “the monster” or “the dragon.” Although Dina claims to have an understanding of how devastating cancer is to a family, her actions and blatant lack of empathy proves otherwise.

In addition, I did not think it was appropriate for me to interject into family quarrels at the reunion; however, this is something that I feel strongly about. I have met Jaqueline and I have spoken to her on many occasions. In the very short time that I have gotten to know Jaqueline, I know and have empathy with the struggles she has caring for Nicholas. I felt that Dina’s interpretation of her nephew was callous and completely out of touch with reality. The only thing that keeps playing in my mind is, "You know nothing John Snow."  No, thank God, he is not hooked up to machines with cancer; however, what the Laurita family goes through is extremely difficult on a day to day basis that will continue on for a lifetime. It is emotionally and financially devastating. Although, Dina "visits" children with cancer, at the end of her visit she gets to go home, leaving it behind and goes on with her daily life. Since Dina does work with children with cancer, I pray that she can abstain from a self-absorbed lifestyle and become a loving, involved aunt.