Jacqueline Laurita

Jacqueline opens up about Nicholas' struggle with Autism.

on Jun 2, 20130

Hello again! Some of you doubted I would return for Season 5. Many of you requested I come back and use my platform as a way to raise Autism Awareness. After much consideration, my family and I made the decision to come back and continue to open up and share our lives with you. Please understand that "Autism" is NOT my "storyline." "Autism" is our "reality." We live with it everyday. There is no way around it. A few ignorant people may call it "exploiting" my son, while I call it "raising autism awareness." It has become our mission to recover our son while helping as many other families as we can. I am proud of what we've accomplished so far.



During the filming of Season 4, our son was regressing in his milestones. I didn't bring attention to it while filming, because we didn't have a diagnosis or even a treatment plan in place yet. I didn't want people speculating on what my son's issues were, so we decided to keep it quiet until we had an actual diagnosis. It was a very difficult and devastating year for our family. I think you all have witnessed how I kept breaking down. I cried a lot that season. I still cry when I get overwhelmed at times, but it makes me stronger and ready to take on the next challenge.



Soon after filming Season 4, my son was diagnosed with Autism as we had suspected. As much as we prepared ourselves for that diagnosis, nothing could have prepared us for when we heard those words and we saw it in black and white on a piece of paper. It was heartbreaking.

233 comments
Smookiewb
Smookiewb

Jac I feel for you my grandson is also autistic he is on the high end spectrum he is now 19 and a great loving kid when he was little they did not know enough so he cannot read that good does not know how to make change at the store please keep working with your son he is so cute and you both are great parents and I can see he will be fine

lae2175
lae2175

Dear Jacqueline......I wanted to suggest something for you to checkout for your son. Neurotransmitter testing. I'm looking into this now for my 12 yr old son. I'm currently working with Duke University for other treatments for my son....like EMDR just to name one. My son has been suffering for years after many doctors, misdiagnosis, medication failure I had enough of circles. I'm looking for results and healing for my son and family. I will continue to pray for you and your family. Know something, they have the cure.....it will never be released due to money and politics.

wendy2013
wendy2013

Good morning Jacqueline. I remember a movie about autism that I think you should see--- "Son Rise: A Miracle of Love". It is an old movie but is about a mother who takes "different" measures to recover her son from autism, and succeeds. ALso, have you read a book by Jenny McCarthy titled "Louder Than Words" about her son with autism?? I think you might like both of these. I soooo admire you and I cried right along with you when he said "I love you" to you at the poker party. Your husband is definitely a keeper. Keep the faith.

Mary_S
Mary_S

Hi Jacqueline,

I really hope this posts.  I am a mother of two children with autism.  Watching you last night, saw your pain and worries for Nicholas' future (I have been in that moment so many times).  I wanted to write to you to give you a bit of hope.  When each of my sons were 2 years old, they didn't speak, they didn't communicate, they got so frustrated they couldn't communicate, they had many meltdowns.  Thankfully, with many years of therapy (speech, OT, RDI, etc.) they are well functioning teens now.  My older son is 16, he just finished his sophomore year in high school, where he is mainstreamed (with aid support) for 90% of the day.  He made the High School JV baseball team.  He is doing really well.  My younger son is 12, he is attending summer camp with typical peers this year, again with adult support to help him with some social skills...but overall, he engages independently with others.  He has made many friends in middle school.  He is now singing and playing the piano, also had his first dance recital (jazz and tap).  All I wanted to tell you is keep the faith.  You and Chris are incredible parents, you have wonderful support around you, you are willing to try to do all you can to help Nicholas and above all else, you LOVE HIM!!!  That is the most important thing that you can do for your son.  There will still be days when you worry about him and his future, but know that it will get better, and the good days will be outweighing those difficult days as he grows older.  I wouldn't change my sons for anything, they allow me to appreciate all those moments that I might have missed, if they weren't who they are.  I always say to myself, God sent me these children for a reason, and he never gives us more than we can handle.  God Bless you and your family.

KCPottery
KCPottery

You are doing great- keep up the good work and keep your hope alive. I work with students in a public high school who have autism. The work you are doing daily will help him DOES make a difference....I see it every day. Keep your expectations high.  Sending blessings~

madeline.warshaw.73
madeline.warshaw.73

I too know the journey , my son , Jacob has autism , and he has come along way ! He is verbal, but he still struggle with everyday challenges . He has good days and not so good days. He receives therapy for speech, ot and has a TSS worker as well as a bsc. He is also my greatest joy . He never s ceases to amaze me and I fight for him everyday. I fight teachers who can't see his true beauty to the stares when he gets overstimulated, our kids are worth our fighting! Look for your son's strengths and you will find them! We are in a unique club, only the strong R allowed to join and believe me when I tell you, our boys r worth it ! God bless you and ur Nick !

Deez
Deez

I am so excited you and your family made the brave decision to come back to the show and share with all of us how you all are learning how to work with your son and helping those of us out here who also have Special Needs children how important it is to find out what is best for our children. My Grandson, Kellan, is 8 years old now but when he was 6 months old we were told he would never sit up, crawl, walk, pull himself up or talk. My daughter was devistated but she decided to start finding out what exactly wrong with Kellan. So here we are now 8 years later he has been diagnoised with Cerabal Palsy and the Doctors also say he shows through testing he also has Angel Man Syndrome. Now for the past 4 years our little man has had many procedures as well as 3 surgeries. His first surgery I was for his hips the second was his tonsils and the last one was for his stomach. You see Kellan has showed the earlier Doctors wrong in some of their diagnoises. He does sit up, crawl, pull up to furniture but he does not talk but he has said mama, dada, go go go, emit, and hi. Kellan has a lot of problems with throwing up so the newest surgery he has had was to cover up part of his stomach so he cannot throw up anymore, I'm sorry I can't remember the name of the procedure. He also has a GTube in his tummy to help him burp and at first to feed him but now he is eating and drinking on his own. My daughter never goes all in when a Doctor says we need to do this......she does a lot of research as well as gets at least 2 other Doctors opinions. I am truly amazed at the families, especially the Moms and Dads, that go through raising a Special Needs Child. I have always believed that they are a special blessing from Heavenly Father and we are all thankful for our little man Kellan everyday. Thank you so much for what you and Chris are doing I think you are a truly strong family and you are all truly blessed with your son. Dee

Jeannie50@
Jeannie50@

Hey! Today I saw your struggle with your baby boy & cried with you! You guys are doing a good job! I wish I knew you to help you but anyway Im sending you this site which I hope you look at my friend runs it it's awesome! God bless you! iahp.org

trenny.fuller
trenny.fuller

Dear Jacqueline,

 

I want you to know that your son, Nick, is such a precious little boy and you and Chris are doing a wonderful job parenting him.  You are giving him all of your love, the most important thing you can give him.  You are a blessed and beautiful family.

 

I am an educator and I attended a seminar about a year ago led by a man named Dr. Robert Melillo who is the author of the books, "Disconnected Kids" and "Reconnected Kids."  Dr. Melillo has done extensive research with children affected by autism and he is also the father of a child who struggled with autistic behavior.  He developed a wonderful program called Brain Balance that has been quite successful in "resetting" and "balancing" the brains of children on the autistic spectrum.  Autistic children have an over-active left brain and an under-active right brain.  Dr. Melillo's program has proven to have great success with some children.

 

I believe he is located in New York and you should be able to search the Internet to find a program using Brain Balance near you.  I just wanted to share this information with you in case you did not already know about it.  The Holy Spirit prompted me to write you because you are such a wonderful lady and my heart goes out to you and your family.  I appreciate the kind person you are on your show and I pray that you and Chris find solutions to your struggles as you try to help Nick.  God gave him to you for a reason and I believe that you are fulfilling work for His Kingdom as you bring awareness to Autism and learn how to guide and restore your amazing  son. 

 

Thank you for sharing your lives with us.  I am sure you are inspiriting countless people as you educate them and give them hope.  May the Lord bless you and Chris and Nick and the rest of your family in your journey to wellness.

 

In Jesus' Name,

Trenny

motherbug
motherbug

Hi Jacqueline, I just wanted yo to know that I think you are doing a great job!! Your heart and love for Nicholas will lead the way! All my best to you and your family.

pob1961
pob1961

Dear Jacqueline,                                                                                                                                                What  you are experiencing with Nicholas is nothing new to me. My son Devin is 23 years old and is autistic. He is our soul. He will always be with me and my husband. He was 6 years old when we were told he was autistic. Between you and me,my husband and I knew this several years before.  The problem was he spoke! ( Shows you how much autism has changed over the years)  we placed him in special education when he was almost 3 . The school was saying autistic like tendencies. To me that is saying you are a little bit pregnant! You are or not! That was the frustration!                                                                                                        To get to the point, Devin"s class at Masera Learning Center in West Islip was the first class on the east coast to be trained in ABA. He blossomed and is the most vocal young man I know. When Nicholas hits his head is frustrating. Devin stopped when he was @ 12 years old and the intense programs at school helped him. Give it time! It will all work out! All the family issues put to the side, it does not matter! Keep the Faith!!

 

lkennedy1010
lkennedy1010

Jacqueline,

I know that I am just a commenter, However please just know that you are a great Mom and are doing so many great things for you beautiful son Nick. I to also have an autistic child and tonight's episode hit my heart the hardest because my son Ryan has also struggled with his words and in turn hits himself when he gets so frustrated. It is the most emotional thing you see your child doing because you just want to help them but how?? My son is 6 and all I can tell you is that I have been in you shoes and I can't wait for you to be where I am at now with my son. He is in a "typical" class room and actually he was tested and could of skipped Kindergarten but for the social skills reason I did not let him. I would rather him be ahead and be able to work with the social issues than have to work on them both. Anyways.... You are doing amazing with your son and I know that right now its so hard and there are days that you ask God why and just want to give in. But stay strong and just remember all the hard work with the therapy and diets etc. will pay off. In time you will be able to look back and think to yourself remember when my sons goal was to label 10 or 20 objects and now he is reading you a book. And always remember that you and you husband are doing a great job!!!   

heather.m.fowler.1
heather.m.fowler.1

Jacqueline, 

I just finished watching the show this evening.  I cried during your scenes.  Your son Nicolas reminds me of my son Joshua when he was 3 years old.  We tried all sorts of therapy, but I have to say the thing that made the difference in our son's life was the gluten casein soy free diet.  It was the hardest thing we ever did, but I can't imagine the life we would have now if we had not tried the diet.  10 years ago the GFCFSF diet was just something very few people had heard of, and many people laughed us off when we told them what we were doing.  Now our son is 13 years old, and he is virtually "unrecognizable" as autistic in society.  He was non-verbal, had multiple sensory issues, cried all the time, and was just a mess.  My heart aches for your family and your journey ahead, but know there are many of us out there that can help and appreciate the struggles of raising and recovering a child with autism.  I wish you all the luck in the future and will continue to pray for your family and your beautiful son.

 

Sincerely, 

 

Heather Fowler

El Paso, Texas

leba1211
leba1211

 I think you're doing an amazing job!  It takes time I believe with your love and kindness it will be ok.  May God continue to Bless you and your family.

LeslieP1110
LeslieP1110

Jacqueline,

My son has tested as having aspergers disorder. That is a diagnosis on the broad spectrum of autism. I was watching Dr. Phil last week and he had a Dr. Lawlis on his program. Dr. Lawlis does brain scans that show what portions of the brain is over active and what portion is under active and what portion is not active at all. My son is on disability and has been his whole life and our insurance would never pay for such an expensive test and we would not be able to travel to Texas to be able to receive the test as well as the treatment he offers at the "PNP Center" (which is "the leading center for autism in the country" according to Dr. Phil). I wanted to pass this information on to you because I know that you would do anything for your son and maybe just maybe you might be able to do some research to see if this might be something that might help you and your family. God bless and many prayers for you and your family. Leslie- From Arkansas

wendy18
wendy18

Listen, I started having auto immune problems as a child. I later developed RA and MS. I still had to take 2 buses to school every day.I memorized the numbers so I would not get the wrong one. Feeling sorry for myself was not an option. Do I feel sorry for you? No. Do I empathize? Yes. I never heard the words, "I love you" ever. Your kid is lucky to  have good parents.

mt-310
mt-310

Jacqueline, 

 

The scene with you and Chris where Nick tells you he loves you made me cry! What an incredible family you have and what an inspiring person you are. I wish the absolute best for you all and for your son to keep progressing. 

 

 

annette73975534
annette73975534

My son was like all children  until he had to get some vaccinces after some month's he stop talking and commicating with use ,so we went to children to find out what as going on ,we was told are son has Autism in 2010 ,I struggle also ,but with therapy and working with my son very day he is talking more very day also doing butter he is my miracle child he is 9 yr he is my life I thank god for him. in time you will see it get butter to ,thank you and your family for comming out with you child with autism because it will help other folk;s ,I wish y'all the best and ya;ll will be in my prayer .

pjtommy16
pjtommy16

My son was exactly like yours, he started saying a few words and then stopped communicating with us completely- it was like he was in his own world.  He paced back and forth constantly.  Well, he is now in 8th grade and has made the high honor roll every semester for the last 2 years - so have faith.  I know that its really hard now (I cried every day back then) but all the therapy now will pay off in the future.  I believe my child is a miracle!!  I wish and your family the best

cajun-mommy
cajun-mommy

I cried my eyes out when Nick told you that he loved you. It was amazing! You are a very strong woman, and I'm glad to see you focusing on your family and not all the drama. Keep up the good work!

linds727
linds727

Please look into the GAPS diet, it cures and heals children with autism. It has been my miracle and my life savior ..... http://www.gapsdiet.com/

TNoahsark
TNoahsark

I so wish I could have a conversation with you.  My son had a very rapid regression and  for us it was very easy to identify what happened and before I knew it I was welcomed into a club I didn't want to join.  My son was diagnosed right at 2 and he is now 13 and please hear me, they told me when he was diagnosed that I would have to "place him" at 14 in an institution as he would likely never speak again, would never recognize me as his mother and always be in diapers. I can happily say he is now is a "TYPICAL" 7th grade class and is even on the honor roll. :) I became a leading supporter in our community because I was fighting to find a cure and I wouldn't take no for an answer (ever).  Well 11 years later and while there is no "quick fix" please, please do yourself a favor if you haven't gone to a "DAN" conference. You will find more support there then anywhere else I have found.  We did everything, ABA/Greenspan, speech, occupational,sensory, (including a home program that I hired girls from our local University to come in from the "special education and speech" programs.)gluten and casein/soy free diets, Secretin (was MARVELOUS) a host of supplements (27 at one time at least including amino acids which was 1 of the 3 best things I ever did) and lastly and MOST IMPORTANTLY the DAN PROTOCOL.  While I have seen great things with just ABA I always explained it to the parents I consulted with (I did pro-Bono for awhile) it's like trying to start a car by adding gas which is great you need gas to go, but if the engine is shot you're not going to get that car to go anywhere. I credit more then anything else the "DAN Protocol" with saving my son and giving me back who he actually was.  You CAN DO THIS if I did it way back then with less resources then you had I know you can do it. :) If you would like more info on what we did and to prove I'm not a nut (you will run into those claiming false promises, we saw someone once who said if I put Noah in a tin foil room for a yr or so. (wtf?) that he would be fine.... ) seriously...  The Bellingham Herald ran an article on our journey on Sun. Feb 9th, 2003 it ended up causing quite the uproar in our community. My only intent was to get the word out to other parents that there were things they could do and plenty of them. My son was making amazing progress and I wanted that for other parents as well. I had said all I want is to hear Noah say "I love you mom" just like you. :) Now he's a typical teen yelling at his brother. (all too often if you ask me, but I would never trade it for the silence :)  If I could recommend anything 1. DAN seminar take your husband find a sitter.  It's HUGELY beneficial. 2.  I would recommend Dr. McCandless's book "Children with Starving Brains"  it can walk you through bit by bit.  3. make a homeprogram doesn't have to be fancy just keep someone with him so he can't isolate and work on small tasks. (YOU CANNOT do it all alone, you will burn out please don't try) 4. Start a supplement program overseen by a DAN doc or a Nautropath, or an MD with a background in Autistic Entercolitis and Yeast/Bacterial/Heavy Metal detox.

You will get him back and if you ever have any questions (I know I'm just a commoner lol) I would be more then happy to answer them.

Sincerely,

Noah's mom Toni Taylor

 

brenwen94@
brenwen94@

Jaclyn,  I know what you are going thru, I am he proud mother of an Autistic family, my husband has Asperger's syndrome as well as my 16 year old son and I have a 12 yr old boy who was diagnosed with autism.  I remember how hard it was for me to hear that my son Patrick might be autistic and when the school counselor stated he had Asperger's syndrome, I thought I was going to die because I remember saying to myself how come my son had to be diagnosed with this and it was difficult but when I had my second son which I wasn't even aware I was pregnant with until I was about 5 months along and let me tell you I was feeling very guilty because I felt it was my fault because I didn't know I was pregnant and what didn't I do and what did I do wrong!!  It killed me, until I came to the conclusion that it wasn't anything I did or my husband did this is what we were blessed with and yes I said blessed with because my family has it's strengths and weaknesses just like every other family out there.

spedteach
spedteach

Have you tried the Prioywoods.com app?  Great stuff for cause and effect!  Also, the Ipad is okay, but be careful of him becoming dependent on it for reinforcment!  Great job!

spedteach
spedteach

You are doing an amazing job  with your son!  I am so happy to see you using PECS and ABA!  Keep positive.  I've been working with kids on the spectrum for 20 years, and cried the first time I heard a child say "mom"!  I cried tonight hearing Nicholas say I love you!  Keep up the good work!  Much love to you and your family.

smedly151
smedly151

the people around you aren't toxic but you sure have stirred your share up.  give up on toxic habits.  you have brought some in and let them simmer.  you have bigger concerns.  

smedly151
smedly151

Jac, Your journey is so public.   I have said it before and I will say it again; all of your children are beautiful. The moment they are born they begin their journey and we guide them.  Their destiny is not in your hands but God's.  God will do right by you.  

Please do not take time away from those who mean the most to you.  You were SSOOO involved in someone else's fight, you were just plain ugly and Melissa and Kathy are just not worth it..  You have known Teresa for who she is for a very long time.  She is fun albeit self-absorbed but just not your concern.  I think the biggest part of that was pain and it was difficult to see you not ever take the higher road.  You cannot take the victim role, focus on your family.

 

  It is a long road and thousands of parents are on the same journey, at least you are not alone.  Parents years ago did not have a diagnosis and their children were outcasts.

  You all want to fix Teresa, she is on her own journey...let  her be for goodness sake.  We like her.

krfone
krfone

Jacquiline, thank you and Chris so much for opening  up and sharing your autism journey.  I have a nine year old with autism and it is a struggle that affects every area of my life. It is so beautiful the way you and Chris are dealing with it. I know it can't be easy to open up and share the way you have, but you are giving the world such a wonderful gift, namely autism awareness.  You are educating those who don't have experience with autism and letting them know what autism is really like. You are the voice for those of us who do have children with autism. Rarely does tv capture what autism is really like and how it affects the parents, but you guys are doing a great job of showing that. Thank you so much for sharing.  God bless.

alansheila92
alansheila92

I was so moved tonight when I heard nick say I love you to his mother.  Autism is a scary issue.  My 19 year old daughter is dating a young man who has autism.  They have been together since they were 15 years old.  He has struggled but he was at the top of his class in high school.  Once adult hood hit, he had a hard time finding a job because he feels uncomfortable being the center of attention.  After trying and never giving up, he found a job at Sears as a manager and I am so proud of him.  We are not close as I would like us to be, but he is a good man, my daughter loves him and I hope one day he will be able to open up to me and we can begin to merge our families together more than what we are now.  It is a slow relationship but I am patient and I will accept him and his family with open arms.  So as a final thought, Jacqueline my prayers and faith are with you and please try not to worry, your son will grow up to be very bright and you will grow with him no matter his path and you both will walk that path together with confidence and love.  All my best.

twit2morgan
twit2morgan

I just viewed Nicholas saying "I Love you" and I can't stop crying. I am so happy for both of you.

angeliz
angeliz

I have worked with disabled individuals for over 5 years as a Medicade Service Coordinator at Nassau AHRC (in Nassau county, Lond Island).  My role was an advocate for these individuals and their families, and to make sure they had the supports they needed.  The  agency I mentioned also has a special program for children with Autism, which is located in Brookville, NY.  Also, I don't know if you are aware, but there is something callled Fragile X Syndrome ( a genetic disorder), which has the same  symptoms as Autism, and unfortunatly, many children are misdiagnosed.  This might be something may want to explore for your son.  There are many ways children FXS can learn and start to speak after they stop for while.  My younger sister stopped speaking at the age of two, and was diagnosed with FXS later in life.  She is 31 going on 32, and is a true success story.  I was also diagnosed with FXS, and ove came the struggles FXS has on someone... went to college at NYU, I've been married 7 years, and  I'm a guidance counselor.  I hope you the information I gave you helps you in someway and gives you the strength during some of those difficult days. 

fyffer
fyffer

OMG!  How beautiful i was tonight to listen to Nicholas say "I love you, mommy".  It was so sweet to see.  I am happy for all of you.  Keep doing what you are doing and Nicholas will learn more and more; my son has.  They are all such beautiful children!

Goochgirls3
Goochgirls3

Jacqueline, I am so proud of you and your family for bringing attention to your families struggle with autism. I think it's incredibly brave of all of you. I thought there was more to your storyline that season other than Theresa. If there is any kid of fundraiser or anything that you choose to do I hope you would announce here or to certain people you feel are truly wanting to be involved.I live in no on the bay. I'm not sure where Franklin heights is but I would love to help you in anyway. I can do a lot maybe not financially but you know. I also wanted to tell you that you are my all time favorite from the beginning,but I do have one problem. You not thinking you are an amazingly beautiful! I just don't get,your gorgeous Jacqueline please please get counciling or something. Believe when people tell you this. I would give anything to look like you,not the money or big house but just to have your face an your body! Also all of your talent ,compassion and patience. The whole package that is what you are. Ok sorry everyone for going on an on but I just had to tell her these things. Love and god bless to you an your family

cbennett1
cbennett1

 You have a great husband and family and know that is all you need in order to be happy.  When I watch your husband,  I say to myself that I wish I had a husband like yours.  He is humble, confident and caring.  What more can you ask for in a man.  Your son Nicholas will overcome his autism to be a great man like his dad. God has blessed you.

greekgirl
greekgirl

So glad you returned this season. Ignore mean people. Don't even acknowledge them in your blogs. Stay strong and trust your instincts! Love you and your beautiful family! Best wishes!

Starr8731
Starr8731

Jacqueline, I was exposed to autism at a young age, as my mother was a special ed teacher.  I'm not going to suggest any treatments or therapeutic options, because I'm sure you get an overwhelming amount from well-meaning viewers already.  What I will say is that watching you so far this season and on last season's reunion, I saw a sweet, strong mother devastated in her grief over an illness that she didn't completely understand who nonetheless fought like a lion every moment of every day to bring her son back to perfect health.  Watching you share the effort with your husband and CJ was heart-wrenching and beautiful.  You are an inspiration to other parents out there who are ready to succumb to their own despair.  Keep fighting.  I don't know the severity of Nick's autism, and I only see a tiny fraction of your family life through the show, but his progress looks very encouraging.  There are autistic children out there who can and have broken through the walls that separate their inner world from the people around them, and they can learn to communicate again and live wonderful, "normal" lives.  Even if this ideally doesn't happen, you are right that first and foremost, your son is a joy.  He's lucky to have such a large, passionate Italian family who love him and will fight tooth and nail for him.  When things look dark, remember all the encouragement and inspiration you've given to others already just by sharing your struggle.  Good luck. :c)

repper
repper

I have watched your advocacy for your son with humility and an awareness that all this hard work WILL enable your sweet child to emerge and grow. I have worked a similar road with my own son. This was in 1997 when the knowledge, strategies and understanding of development disorders was limited to say the least. I did what you are doing. Knowing that the route we are on differs from child to child I can assure you that your voice speaks for him.

No one knows your child better than you do. During this you will find a strength you did not know you had.

Surround yourself with people who truly"get it". Seek out the best of the best and settle for nothing less.

My son now is entering his second year at a large university in New York City. He is articulate, funny and a gifted writer. I say that not as his Mom, but as an educator of over 30 years. He has no memory of those days, but I do. I am a better teacher because of it and choose to advocate to children who do not have the "voice" to understand the complexity of the educational process.

I will keep your family in my prayers.

MamaBear0f3
MamaBear0f3

My oldest son has Autism. His form is called asperger's, he contracted it when he was 3YO's.  He went from being my little love bug with a huge personality to being locked inside of himself.  He stopped speaking, walking, making eye-contact and didn't want any physical contact with anyone.  It was devastating as a mother to watch my son lose so much of himself.  I decided to go the all natural route.  I have not had cable and have not been able to watch so I am not sure exactly what form of Autism your son has...but if you would like any information or just need someone to talk to whose been there...I'm here.  I will tell you that there is hope and that your son can still reach for the stars and achieve all he wants to.  It took a long time, dedicated teachers and an amazing principal but my son is fully integrated into public school.  He just finished 6th grade and during this past year, he did HS pre-algebra, algebra and geometry.  He was chosen to be part of the Congressional National Youth Leadership Council.  Keep the faith and stick by your son as you have with all of your children.  You'll be in our families prayers.

 

From One MamaBear to Another,

Heather Aston

 

ps: my email is my user name @live.com if you would like to chat.

Magnet
Magnet

Thank you for opening up about your son's diagnosis.  Autism affects so many and does need more awareness.  I am pleased to see you engaging him in activities like PECS so young; he will most likely gain so many skills at such a young age!!!

lindacook1992@hotmail.com
lindacook1992@hotmail.com

Jaclyn...  thank you for sharing your family struggles, it's beautiful to see you & Chris with your son.  God Bless...

mrsexyab46
mrsexyab46

I am an African american woman who has been raising my 19yr old son with autism, he was diagnosed at 3yrs old wnat was unique about my situation was the night before i just happened to be watching a program on tv and I kept saying wow that's my child so when I went for the assessment and afterwards the lady said well I hate to bring you this bad news I was like what bad news it was not a surprise all I did was leave that place and immediately began to find everything I could get my hands on about autism to educate myself about how I could help my son and my other kids to understand how we could be a healthy family together and now that he has grown so much I wouldn't want it any other way, now my only concern is what will happen once I am no longer able to take care of him he has 4 older siblings who love him and understand about autism and are very much protective over him as I am so with the proper legal paper work in order he will be fine, now on a funnier note he is more organized then they were I couldn't get those kids to keep their rooms cleaned and I constantly fussed with them about chores but with my son who has autism he is so clean and neat and his room is never out of place lol I never have to fuss with him to bathe he is just so low maintenance it is a joy and I am so overprotective of him because unfortunately we do have really ignorant people who don't know how to deal with people with autism they stare and all the ignorant things above for instant when he was younger and would have a tantrum most stupid people would say oh my god that child needs a spanking are etc. Not even knowing that this child has autism so please people don't assume that you are seeing a spoiled rotten child that child could be disabled so keep your comments to ya self so with that said Jacqueline I hope your journey with your son is the best it could be and never get your hopes down. Best luck to you and family on this journey remember keep educating yourself it will only get easier. Cheryl

ejr1212
ejr1212

Jacqueline. I watched your show and was surprised to find out about your son having autism, and am very sorry. my granddaughter was diagnosed with autism and we researched it and found a doctor in los angeles, ca., that we now take her to see, and he believes a very high percentage of children that are diagnosed with autism are truly not autistic, after seeing him she is doing much better and is starting to live a normal life! yes I said normal!!! if anyone wants info on this doctor contact me at ejr1212@yahoo.com

tjoy310
tjoy310

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time.  All those with healthy children should take note as we never know what tomorrow will bring

AlfaBRAVO
AlfaBRAVO

It was wonderful to see you with Nicolas and see that he is progressing.  I absolutely had tears when CJ kissed him for saying "iPad."  I have to admit that while watching the show, I was thinking "why are they giving him an iPad to play with?"   And not because of autism, just because of his age.  But now I know there are apps after reading your blog so I thank you for educating people like me who do not have day-to-day actions with autistic people.  

 

I want to give you a pass for your actions last season since I now know all the stress you were under during that time.  But I really cannot excuse everything you said and did, especially the Posh fashion show fiasco.  But I won't go into it now...I'm just going to watch the season unfold and hope that as we see time go by this year, you will be less stressed and feel more comfortable and empowered as you learn how to cope with Nicholas and his needs.  

 

Also, if there is another Posh fashion show this season, I will never, ever watch again.

kingkongsmomma
kingkongsmomma

Also, to add to my post, my best advice to you and any parent is READ, READ, READ to your child everyday, no matter how tired you may feel. Read several times a day- let them choose the book. Reading with your son will expand his knowledge and vocabulary- even if he is not communicating. It will feed his imagination and help him to process thoughts and hopefully be able to express himself one day ( by retaining words with pictures and making that connection). Reading to your child is a wonderful gift for the both of you and even his siblings,( and not with E-Books). Let him actually turn the pages and look at the pictures. It is a physical / mental interaction that he can actually physically connect with the book.

phillipsmrs1
phillipsmrs1

Jacqueline...you are so brave to speak out your son.  I know personally the feeling of heartbreak when learning your child is not 'perfect'...my husband and I found out while I was still pregnant with our first child that she would be born with Cystic Fibrosis (for more info and become aware of the disease, go to www.cff.org).  CF is a genetic disease with no cure either.  It's heart wrenching to have your child not be the image of what you thought - but know this...no matter what's wrong with your son (or my daughter, or any other child with issues, difficulties, dissabilities, or issues) as parents, it is our job to ensure our child has the best in life. Push them to be better than they even believe themselves to be...encourage them to achieve lofty goals...help them live the best life they can - and with all that, don't spoil, don't baby, don't cave into their demands - and in the end, when everything is said and done, you know you did your job...and that is when your son (my daughter, other children) will know - a parents love.

rbaro
rbaro

Your boys are so cute.  God Bless you and your family.

MomOfSam
MomOfSam

Jacqueline,

I wanted to write the exact same letter to you that Mary_S did, but since she said it so beautifully, I will just say, "Believe what she says." I am the mother of a 23-year old amazing young man with autism. But it wasn't always that way. It was filled with years of tears and doubt and worries about what would become of him. And what's "become of him" is that he is beautiful, successful, working and happy. For many years, and despite the ABA and one-to-one attention, I felt like the only thing that I could really do for Sam was to love him as hard as I could. And like Mary said, that is the number one thing you need to do. I see that love in you and your husband and know that your son is a very lucky little boy. (I am Italian too, and they haven't figured out yet that all that "Italian Love" is a great treatment. lol)  Anyway, just needed to reach out to you and tell you to hang in there. The grief you feel will lessen but it will always be there. Just give yourself some time and remember to take care of yourself so you can take care of him (best advice I ever got).

Blessings and keep the faith! All the best to you, J.

 

Denine T.

cajun-mommy
cajun-mommy

 @TNoahsark That is an amazing story! I hope he continues to thrive and prove everyone wrong!

FlutterBy
FlutterBy

@AlfaBRAVO I wouldn't miss the Poshe event.....I never miss an opportunity to see how Kim D. is going to embarass herself .. also, the extensions she had last season are probably still there and I for one would like to see what else she has accumulated within that weave since last time....it could have used a good comb out and looked like my puppy's hair at the end of a day romping in the yard...i find small sticks, grass clippings etc...wonder what she has accumulated in her weave? She was probably hiding the big bald guy after his comments to Melissa, in that mop, which explains how he got out of there so fast....