This episode made me giggle. I remember the frustrations I felt at the time, because for so long Teresa had been out of sight, out of mind. Then all of a sudden her name kept popping up everywhere around me, and everyone kept talking about her and their family issues. Maybe it was because all of a sudden we were all together again. But who knows. I will try to take you back to how I was feeling at the time.
It just seemed odd to me that, miraculously, Teresa wanted to make an effort to resolve everything with her family, after I had been trying to make that happen for two years prior! Why now? I wasn't buying into the sincerity of it all. At the time, I felt like it was all for show and not for real. On top of that, I was getting increasingly annoyed, because I heard that Teresa kept talking about me behind my back saying I was stalking her at "her" gym and blaming me for all of her family fighting. It annoyed me so much, because I knew that I had done so much to try to bring her family back together, and not only was it not appreciated, I somehow became the a--hole, and I felt like Teresa wasn't taking any accountability for any of her own actions to cause the rift in her family.
When I heard Teresa on the phone say, out of her own mouth, that it was my fault she and her family were fighting, I couldn't hold back anymore. I grabbed the phone from Kathy and asked Teresa to stop saying that to everyone and to take some accountability for her part in that mess. It escalated pretty quickly from there.It got pretty heated and out of control on both ends. It was a ping-pong match of insults. I was imitating what Teresa said to me on the phone in my interview when I was saying, "You're a liar, liar!" When I was talking to Teresa, she kept saying, "La, la, la, la, I can’t hear you, la, la, la." LOL! Looking back, we both sounded and acted a little silly, but when you're in the moment, everything just flows out. LOL!
I was still so hurt and upset by the whole thing and my suppressed feelings and frustrations were starting to come to the forefront. I am sorry that Kathy got caught in the crossfire, but hey, I've been caught in theirs before as well.When I heard Teresa had been with those catty girls she called her friends talking about Melissa, I couldn't help but go back to what I knew last year. It appeared to me that Teresa was playing innocent again and letting her "soldiers," as I called them, be her voice, in order to expose Melissa or make up lies about her in a way that would ensure nobody would like her or buy her new book. I kept thinking that if Teresa knew that these girls were on national TV trash talking her sister-in-law with those defaming accusations that she would want absolutely nothing to do with these girls again. It's one thing to listen to them behind closed doors, but this salacious gossip was obviously being spread nationwide. Instead, it seemed as though Teresa embraced them.
Believe me, I totally get not wanting to get in the middle of someone else's fight, because that is the way I am. I may listen to people talk out their frustrations, but I try to stay neutral and fair while I try to understand both sides. I try to get each person to see each other’s point of view. I guess it confused me and made me wonder why Teresa remained so close with these girls when she was always preaching loyalty to family. It just didn't seem like she was playing by her own rules.
At Portabello's during couples’ night, when you see me pinching my nose, I was not insinuating that Kim D. was sh--. I plugged my nose, because when I heard Kim was there with some girlfriends, I immediately smelled trouble brewing and I was implying that I believed sh-- was about to go down. It was a surprise to all of us that they were there, and I wasn't sure if it was by coincidence or not.Teresa's bestie, Kim D., can definitely stir up trouble at times, but she will own up to what she's done when confronted and almost always apologizes for it. She's actually not a bad person once you get to know her. She can make me giggle at times. She has been through a lot in her life and she's always worked hard as a single mom. When you talk to her, you understand her. Every single one of us, including Melissa, still shop at her store, Posche.
Everyone was annoying me so much about going on this retreat! I felt like this was more about Teresa mending things with her family and I had no place going there. I would only be a distraction. I also didn't want to invite Teresa back into my life again at that time. I was consumed with other things, and I didn't want to get caught up in all the B.S. again. But it's so hard to avoid that when we were all in each other’s lives the way we were. Our paths couldn’t help but cross again. Stay tuned to see how it all plays out. I think you will be surprised.
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