Kathy Wakile

Kathy was glad that she was able to clear the air with her cousin.

on Jul 30, 20130

We are still in Italy, so grateful to be seeing friends and family whom we have not spent time with in over six years since Rich and I last took this trip. Now with Victoria and Joseph being older, words cannot describe how amazing this has been for us all -- check out my Instagram @officialkathywakile for my photo journal.

When we have met people from other countries that watch our show, as well as some who are not as familiar, it always takes us by surprise how we serve as catalysts to help bridge communication gaps. For instance, topics that have remained hidden and effectively created deeper wedges, separations, or silence in families for generations suddenly are no longer taboo and our presence encourages discussion and forgiveness...even some laughter! As always, thank you for sharing your stories and opinions; it really means so much to us and we have learned a lot. In return, we're so glad that our experiences have often been able to create positive change and growth in other families.

Now for this week's episode:
 
I love how the passion that runs deep in our family brings out the best in all of us. It was so surreal to watch this episode, since so many things actually happened during this Lake George trip that you, the viewers, never got a chance to see...but trust me, a lot of other stuff happened! Communicating, forgiving, really owning and taking responsibility to move us all forward as a family was a big emotional break through -- and, get ready, there is more! You have to keep watching. You will be amazed at how deep we really get with our relationships and learn how to communicate better with each other so we HEAR what each person is really saying -- each bit of effort we all gave is a step in the road to reach the long lasting goal of wholeness.

130 comments
Kittycatcom
Kittycatcom

You are full of it Kathy...If it wasn't for Teresa and Joe, especially Teresa, you would not be on this show...you are ungrateful poser's, you and that weird husband of yours... since the beginning you caused unnecessary division...be smart enough to know which side your bread is buttered on...or just quit the show...you really have no relevance other then "just a family member of a major cast member"... All said goes for the Gorga's as well...

kannm68@yahoo.com
kannm68@yahoo.com

I =am soo haPPy Teresa got it together :) soo now on with the show. I want to see fun, fun, fun like it use to be (even though your new) I mean it was a lot of fun watching the NJHW  living out their days together having fun :)) I would LUV to see more parties with you and Teresa cooking and baking for everyone and going out on the town. These retreats and fmly arguments were killing me :( I HOPE and PRAY Teresa is with us all for next year :) ..... I don't know whats going to happen next,  but I feel that you are around MElissa only because she is married to Teresa brother but I would like to see YOU and TERESA spending more time together.... I would like to think you and Teresa have a better relationship then TRE and MElissa in the future after all you two are blood:)   ....LUV, LUV, NJHW

irenesidley
irenesidley

kathy, you're a nice person, but naive. if you think you are OK with teresa you are nuts. she will turn around and stab you in the back just like she always has. beware!

piperbeau
piperbeau

Kathy watching the last couple of episodes I feel like you don't speak your mind! unless your speaking about Teresa! than you seem to have no trouble!! When Teresa mentioned the phone call where Jacqueline ripped the phone out of your hand you should of said to Teresa I'm sorry that happened Jacqueline was sooo out of line! what a b*tch! instead you get that dumb look on your face?! Geez have some loyalty..... I watch you week after week observe Melissa being a little instigator yet you say nothing?! Why?? you sure the hell would have no problem calling out Teresa!  Lastly you owe Teresa a huge apology for all the rotten things that get said about her in your household under your roof! Maybe try to start speaking your mind more! It would definitely make you more relevant than you are!! Because as of right now the only person your willing to speak your mind too or have conflict with is Teresa!! And that is getting really old.......

brownsugar22
brownsugar22

Kathy - you are an awesome lady!!!!!  I think that the only reason you are not a "cast favorite" is because you show so much class and restraint whereas the others just go for it.  It seems that every family on the earth (at least all the BRAVOTV families) is fighting, cussing, backstabbing etc.  Are there any normal people out there?  I enjoy the lovely family trips and adventures and little things, not the big fighting and carrying on. 

 

Anyways, stay sweet, civil and sophisticated.  Don't let them drag you down to their level.  Your husband is a clown and sometimes a little rude, but we love him anyway.  In his own way he loves his family and will do anything for them.  And when the going gets rough, he is in it to help and resolve.  Your kids are lovely!  Good job raising them.  Best wishes on your future endeavors. 

piperbeau
piperbeau

Kathy the only time you have no problem speaking your mind is when its about your cousin Teresa! Why?

piperbeau
piperbeau

So because you didn't like your sister's girlfriend you refused to socialize with them??!! WOW can someone please say hypocrite..

MAHernandez
MAHernandez

Life isn't all about drama. You do fine. You've told Richie you want input. Hang in there. Good luck with your business.

backfires
backfires

When I saw you in the store shopping with Jacq the only thought I had was that you were Teresa's cousin and profess to love her so much yet you are with her ex-best-friend who talks so viciously about her.  Jacq actually pulled the phone from you and started a tirade of hate on Teresa.  You're blood.  I wondered instead of rolling your eyes why didn't you get angry and grab your phone back.  I don't believe you ever have Teresa's back.  You are not as helpless as you appear.  Loved when Rosie had the balls to talk in a real way to Teresa.  They fought and made up and it was cool.  

happigirl
happigirl

Rosie, I am a lesbian woman and I can tell you that you have to meet alot of losers in order to find the rose in the weeds. With your larger than life personality you will find that someone and I hope all happiness for you going forward. 

sonnyboy
sonnyboy

You always act like a little baby when teresa doesn't mention you when she is thanking certain people.  Everyone was getting along and talking and here you are at the table rolling your big ass eyes and sighing...you just hate when there isn't any drama!  Teresa is right in ignoring you!

atlantahousewife
atlantahousewife

Kathy,

 I'm glad you and the family are having a wonderful trip to Italy, there is no better education for your kid's... It was really heart warming to see you and Teresa cooking together at the retreat as a united family. (Melissa standing to the side doing nothing but pounding down drinks, spoke volumes)  You are obviously a very talented chief and I'm glad this experience on Bravo has parlayed you into your desert business, and I wish you all the luck in the world...

 

 With that being said, I must admit that I am among the very many that feel it is time for Bravo to " Clean House" with this entire NJ cast. The majority of Viewers are completely OVER this boring family drama. Everyone knows what Melissa did to get herself on the show and how you managed to hitch a ride on her skirt tail to get yourself on the show...

 I suspect you may have some regrets taking sides in the ridicules feud because had you taken a different stance and stood your own ground, I think you could have become a more beloved member of the cast instead of just       "Melissa's side kick"... I think you have substance, it just never came out!

 

 Your sister Rosie is awesome! She has that "IT" factor that stands out just like Teresa has. (Bravo, Rosie should have her own show, she really should!!!) If somehow this cast could get revamped and onto another more enjoyable and Positive story line, I wouldn't mind seeing you all stay. But at this point if it dosen't change, and Teresa is unable to continue with the show I will no longer watch. ( I stopped watching housewives of NY a few seasons ago) If it does go on please do yourself a favor, put a muzzle on that husband of yours, it is so embarrassing to watch his disrespectful behavior. It might be that he is just trying to be Funny, but he's not, he just looks like a Jerk...

puffamuffin
puffamuffin

Saw you in Atlantic City last month and must say you look much thinner in person, not to say you look heavy on TV, just that you are a slimmer girl in person.  I saw Teresa one time at a casino book signing and she looked about the same size as how she appears on TV and very tan.  You are both very pretty!

beachyk
beachyk

Do you think you can mail cannoli to "the big house"? Yikes !

WhatACrockItAllIs
WhatACrockItAllIs

I have to say that the show is full of drama and a lot of things we could all do without. I don't see a blog for Rosie but I can tell you, she's my favorite out of all of you at this point. She's honest, open, kind heated and seems to want to keep the peace. I was a bit disappointed in her when she started yelling at Teresa after the comments made about fathers. Comments were thrown out from both sides, so how could only ONE person be wrong? Kathy, you and Teresa were both wrong to talk about each other's fathers and I was glad that apologies were made and that Rosie eventually got with Teresa to help sort out the trouble. Keep up the good work Rosie!

Ellenor1
Ellenor1

Kathy, Richie's behavior is deplorable. I was utterly appalled watching him grope Rosie. And I just can't with this fool anymore. How dare he objectify her in this manner. How dare you allow it. Rosie is NOT just one of the guys. She is a woman who deserves respect. Doesn't matter if he was kidding. Doesn't matter if Rosie can take it. It was too much. You people drink alcohol too much and too often...and your behavior while drunk is gross and disturbing. Seriously. Enough already!

critic
critic

The Wakile's are good people....Rich just needs to stop trying to get attention by some of his remarks.

Liznorris
Liznorris

Kathy I have to say, I normally really like you. I feel your intentions are always really good and you do just want everyone to get along. I was online looking to purchase your cannoli kit when I came across a quote you made, something along the lines of "I see skinny people and they just look miserable, have a cupcake, indulge it won't kill you" obviously that was not the exact quote, but very similar. I am a naturally thin woman and believe me I indulge big time, I just don't put on weight like other people do. I was a little taken aback by that comment. I hope you didn't have any bad intentions when you said it. I had to seriously think twice about order your kit after I read that. I just felt kind of hurt after reading it wondering why you would say something like that, and of course it makes me wonder how you would look at someone like me if you were to see me in public, I think you should know that saying something like that can really hurt feelings and possibly alienate a huge portion of people. No one would ever say "I see fat people and how unhealthy they are, indulge a little bit less it will make you live longer." Because it's just flat out rude. And it goes the same way for thin people. Believe it or not but not all thin people are anorexic! I hope you read this and hopefully understand where I am coming from.

deborah.randall.58
deborah.randall.58

Kat, your the sweetest housewife on all the shows. You and Richie are too funny. I don't find you boring. What do some viewer's want. Just do you

vikilyn
vikilyn

jury is still out with the way I perceive you...good/bad good/bad....not sure yet...but you do need to get off the Melissa/Jac train...it's on it's way to derailment...

realdealkc
realdealkc

first of all, I don't think you needed to have your panties in a wad about not getting called back to work with Dr. V.  It was Dr. V's call, it looked like to us viewers.  And you said what you needed to say, and Teresa was gracious in accepting the criticism and your apology and apologized herself.   I'm glad for you both.  I hope you both moved on from there.   You have to stop letting Melissa stir the pot.  

cranberry40
cranberry40

Kathy - you the only sane one in your family. Luv you. Hope it all holds, but truthfully, I'm not so sure Theresa 'gets it' or ever will.  There is a part of her that cannot se past her own fanny and/or grow up - take your pic.  Good luck to you in all you do.  You are a true success story here, hte real deal.

shannah74
shannah74

So many people bashing Richie! Of course no one enjoys Rich's attempts at humor, however, it is so obvious that he has a very good heart and when help is needed Rich is always there. When Rich puts aside his wisecracks and speaks seriously he has lots of insight and shows true wisdom. He is not a shallow man. The love he feels for his wife and children seems to be beyond measure. Also, Rich does not seem to be in financial trouble and that cannot be said about any other husband on the program. The Wakile's have a beautiful home, a stable and secure family, apparently the money for very nice cars, wonderful travel vacations, children that respect them and show respect to others. Common sense says that Rich had a great deal to do with all of that long before RHNJ ever existed.  Rich is a good man, Kathy is a lovely lady. May they be happy and prosper in all they do. 

pasquale
pasquale

Kathy, you are a good person with a kind heart.I understand how in the heat of the moment one can get carried away. You were decent enough to apologize to Theresa and leave it at that.Theresa is digging her own grave, and whatever happens is her own fault.I know you want more for your family but it is what it is. I love Rosie, and all that she tried to do to bring your family together again.It wasn't Theresa or Dr.V, but Rosie who did it all,as far as Richie goes, he's a guy from the old ways, and grabbing Rosie's breasts was like him grabbing a guys. I don't think he was disrespectful at all and Rosie loved it.Sometimes he gets carried away but hey that's Richie.We only see a little bit of him, you see him 100% of the time, so don't let anyone tell u to leave him or whatever.Be happy Kat.

Perry2
Perry2

Love you on the show. Rich could use a filter sometimes but it is really no reflection on you. (He can be adorable in his lack of progression into the 21st century! and clearly he loves you!) Would love to taste your food. I must say, you are more gorgeous NOW than in the 80s!

FanViewerNJ
FanViewerNJ

 @irenesidley

After what Kathy did? Coming on the show to get a piece of the pie VIA helping Melissa facilitate the Teresa must be ruined storyline is, was, and forever will be unforgivable in my book. Kathy knows exactly what she did and why and so does Teresa. It will never be the same...Shame on Kathy AND Melissa....and little man Joe helped his wife as much as humanly possible try and destroy his big sister cuz HE wanted fame and Mommy and Daddy's attention JUST as bad,,,please...

kannm68@yahoo.com
kannm68@yahoo.com

 @piperbeau Teresa treats Kathy like she is the scum beneath her feet (and they are fmly) so why would Kathy feel like she needs to stick up for her?? That was one thing (phone call) Teresa couldn't deny saying:/   I know I would be on the other end of that phone QUICK saying "what the what did U say I did, smh give what you get..

MendhamMom
MendhamMom

 The phrase 'Blood is thicker than water' sounds good but it's a sad fact that family will do you more dirt than friends or complete strangers. Teresa doesn't Kathy's friendship, blood or not. Not once did she have Kathy's back or tell her husband to stop the nasty comments he made about her - on or off camera. Teresa is getting exactly what's coming to her.

nuca_K
nuca_K

@sonnyboy lol so true

piperbeau
piperbeau

 @Robson  exactly!! crickets over here in Kathyville... ZZZZZZzzzzzzzzz BORING! I enjoyed watching her and Teresa cooking together! But Kathy can't seem to be nice to Teresa long enough for them to even get together for a cooking session!! Its too bad if Kathy would just open her eyes she would realize she has more in common with Teresa than she does with Melissa!!!!

mscgibbs
mscgibbs

 @Robson I agree with you and I also disagree hahaha but really I know what you mean about Kathy.  I believe that she has to be the level headed one in her marriage and she is a good balance with her sister and that is what I like.  She should bring fire!

CrazyKoolaid
CrazyKoolaid

 @Robson

 I like your comments.  Very sound and reasonable. 

One opposing thought on the topic....Teresa (whom I'm not a big fan of) is correct, "Joe is Joe".  Yes, can a partner help, discuss and disagree w/the other's actions,  most definitely.  Doesn't reflect on a marriage,  rather individual & self responsibility which lies w/Rich. I believe Kathy has tried to discuss those very issues.  Bottom line, I can help my husband but don't have the power to control/change him.  I can only control myself.    

Cyn44
Cyn44

 @Robson

 You are being kind in your description of Richie.

Missmarch
Missmarch

 @raisinlove 

Who are you?  How is she great?  How can you think that bore is "funny"?  I feel sorry for all the children on these shows.  They are being exploited and exposed to ridicule.

Motorcitymom65
Motorcitymom65

@Ellenor1 Good Lord. Rosie didn't seem to mind. Was anyone upset last year when first Teresa, and then Mel started feeling each other up?? It cracks me up that anyone is watching these shows with the expectation of seeing a lot of behavior anyone would want to model. These folks routinely pee along the side of the road, flip tables in restaurants, physically attack each other on camera, talk about anal sex and their "poison", and some of them actually have sex right in public with the camera filming away. The funniest part is, of course talking about Richie "objectifying" Rosie. Considering the way we heard Joe Gu speak about his wife last year, the bar on treatment of women has already been set very low by this crew. Who is seeking a role model out of this lot??

Gizmoboy
Gizmoboy

 @Ellenor1

 AMEN!   Also, I like Dr. V highly but still think if Joe had taken the other man's advice that he and Teresa talked with last year, that things may have gotten better - but Joe did not take that advise even though Joe was paying for the appointment with the doctor.  He should never have rode in the same bus with Teresa and they both need to walk away when things are not being stated the way they'd like.  Dr. V's appointment with you all will not do anything different unless you listen and step forward with action.  And plus, I think Teresa apologized and steped forward some on tis because she's the one who got Dr. V to come - so she can say "tops to herself" and not give brother any support with this.  YUK!

SoOverIt
SoOverIt

 @shannah74

 Richie is an instigator.  Nothing more.  He kept up as much BS as Melissa did.  He even admitted it.

viewerlainie
viewerlainie

 

 @shannah74

 Do some research. He lost his gas station and owes a fortune to Exxon. He is hideous in looks and behaviour. There are times when he is on screen, that I really must look away. 

jh102289
jh102289

 @shannah74

 That was well said  I agree with your comment I don't think people get his cense of humor people need to stop judging them and read your comment because it speaks the truth.... The are a real family that don't live beyond their means and are just trying to raise their children and live life,,,

MelindaK.
MelindaK.

 @Perry2 How can you say it is no reflection on her?  I am a reflection on my husband and he is on me.  I would have told my husband a long time ago about his chauvinistic, vulgar behavior, if he behaved like that, and trust me it would have stopped.  He is not clever or funny, he is vulgar and perverted in every episode--it is not okay, and who better than to call you out, but your wife.  I can't imagine that his children aren't embarrassed too-I would be.

Motorcitymom65
Motorcitymom65

@MelindaK. @Perry2 It is an interesting comment, and I am not sure how I feel about it. Of course, this topic has been frequently visited on this site over the years. For the last 3 years Teresa and her fans have been assuring us all that Teresa has no control over the vile things that Juicy says, and that they certainly don't reflect on her.