Cast Blog: #RHONJ

Kathy Speaks Her Mind

Kathy shares her thoughts on equine therapy and Rosie's intervention on her behalf.

Hello friends!

Labor Day weekend is usually the final celebration of summer. Normally a bummer, but not in the Wakile house! We played in our back yard, our favorite place, with friends and family. We had the best time, because we were surrounded with people who know and love us unconditionally -- it was awesome and the feeling will last several months at least! Just wanted to say thank you for watching our show as it continues into this season's final episodes and thank you all so much for your support!

Heading into this week's show, the journey to find balance continues. How do you think we're doing so far? Some of us were really receptive to finding more about ourselves and some not so much (as usual).

This journey of self discovery also included learning about one another. As my favorite cowboy, Wyatt Webb, helps us figure out, these exercises are not only about us as a group but each other as well, and understanding one another is the best way to sustain healthy, long-term relationships. To be there and experience each other's vulnerable side; what makes you weak, what are your fears, what makes you feel triumphant. These were group exercises to help our family and circle of friends heal our hurts and mend our relationships. As you'll see, the effin horse proved to be smarter than all of us! He was smart enough to feel each of our energies and call B.S. on those that were not being authentic and were still holding back...letting your guard down is the first step of making progress.

Rosie's experience was breaking my heart, and I just wanted to get up and hug her pain away. It was nice to see Chris, Jacqueline, Al, and then Caroline show their vulnerable sides, which the horse validated. Heck, even Joe Giudice got his guard down after a bit, and the horse heard. See, being real, honest, and true is something that is noticed more than anyone thinks!

As for Rich and I, Rich makes jokes; that's one of the things I love most about him. His jokes have helped get us through some of the toughest times in our lives. Sometimes he makes jokes when he wants to ease the tension and other times when he doesn't want to deal with something. There are some times, however, when he has a short fuse and unfortunately doesn't use humor -- he reacts to a situation by getting loud and, in the end, this hurts him as much as it hurts those on the receiving end. I become the sounding board and am the one to help calm the situation. When this happens I hurt for him, because I don't want his goodness to be overshadowed by the outbursts and I want him to enjoy life more evenly. Patience in reacting and patience for life helps you to enjoy each moment in life and get the most from every experience. I know he's aware of this and is working at it...another one of those things that I truly love about him!

Anyway, during the session with Wyatt, I was able to be calm and strong; the horse acknowledged it and felt that it was no problem for me, and that is the same way I am with anything life has to throw my way.

At the drum ceremony Rosie once again feels like she has to come to my defense. Of course I appreciate it, but she doesn't realize that I let a lot of stuff go because I really don't care for conflict, especially when it is not really a big deal in the big picture. Normally I might talk to Richie about it, but really I barely give those types of things a second thought. However, if someone brings it up -- like in this case -- I would say something about it. The bottom line is a rule of thumb I live by: do unto others as you want them to do unto you. One caveat though, you can't express your feelings to people who don't have the capacity to understand. Or don't really care to understand.

So, after Rosie brought it up, I figured I needed to speak my mind and was glad that it was acknowledged by some. Others who missed it, like they did the horse...well...the universe has a funny way of keeping things in balance, and if you don't see the signs or really listen when people are trying to help, then growth and change can never happen, and that is a real shame. Being open to learn more is what it is all about...even the Bradys in every episode come together as one!

See you next week as you see us climb to new heights on our quest for personal growth.

Keep it sweet,

Xoxo Kathy

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Dina: "The Reunion was Very Hard to Watch"

Dina Manzo opens up about her comments regarding her family and why she kept quiet for Teresa Giudice.

This reunion was very hard to watch. What most of you don't know is I went in there with the intention of keeping silent on my family issues, as I have for the past four years. An incident happened at the reunion, and I won't even give that person the attention they crave, but it set me off to tell my truth. Well some of it at least. I felt I was very P.C. this whole time, but now I had enough. Some people will push you because they know deep down inside you won't push back, but being "zen" is all about setting boundaries, and learning that has been part of my spiritual path. 

I don't want to go into much other than saying my answer about Nic came out very cold because there was more to it. I wish it were that easy to get to know him, but unfortunately it's not because of my relationship with his mother, and I'm just being honest. He is not missing me nor does he know what is going on with this family because of NOTHING more than his age. Anyone who is trying to make people think otherwise, especially his mother, should be ashamed of themselves. The Mother Theresa comment was about people comparing how I raise money for children with cancer yet don't help him. I went on to say how blessed my brother is to live in a county in New Jersey that people actually move to for the autism programs offered. How I see joy in him because of the progress he is making. He is a happy, beautiful child that is on his way to recovery, and although I know it's a struggle for parents of children on the spectrum, there is NOTHING wrong with seeing joy in them instead of sorrow. I appreciate all the parents of children with autism for their emails, tweets, etc. understanding and APPRECIATING that I see Nic as a 4 year old beautiful boy and not labeling him as anything other than that.

Kathy and Melissa should not have challenged me about "family values" if they don't want to hear my side. I kept quiet for the most part for TERESA, not wanting to bring up old wounds when she was dealing with so much around her sentencing. It was a hard position for me to be in. 

I have no words for my sister on WWHL. She could have answered the no engagement question and left it at that. The lies that followed after were extremely hurtful and must have come from the sheer frustration of having to defend her position on the engagement party. All of you have seen I have ONLY ever said positive things about her no matter what I was feeling. 

Please take a moment to watch this video I made on my truth about it all. I will post all the details on my look next week, but you can get to everyone involved -- from hair to dress  -- on my Instagram post on Sunday. Speaking of Instagram, I invite you to join me on a post a day for the month of November to share what you are thankful for. Showing gratitude for what you have in life just allows the universe to send you more to be thankful for! Trust me, it works!

Sending lots of love, 

Dina xo