Melissa Gorga

Melissa opens up about her marriage and the argument with Joe.

on Jul 1, 20130

Hello, again! Hope everyone is planning a fun July 4th weekend. I’m going to be in Orlando, Florida for the holiday. I’ve got a big performance with the Jonas Brothers. I’ll be singing my new single “Never Let Me Go” in front of over 150,000 people! I’m rehearsing my butt off, believe me. If you’re near Altamont Springs, come by.
 
I got a little choked up watching the scene in this week’s episode with me and Antonia talking in my bedroom while I was working on Love Italian Style. I’m proud that she sees me writing a book about having a great marriage. I really do plan on giving her a copy on her wedding day. The advice about how to have a traditional-yet-modern marriage will totally hold up for Antonia, and for her own daughters one day. I’m just so excited that my love story -- good, bad, and sexy -- is going to be in print in only a couple of months!
 
My mother, aunt and sisters brought me old photos to put in my book. I’m grateful for that, and for their being understanding about my decision to tell the whole story about my childhood and my father. If at any point my mother said, “I forbid you to talk about it on camera or write about it,” you would not be seeing or reading a word on the subject. It would not have come up. But my mother gave me her blessing. My family supports me in what I’m trying to do. It’s not always comfortable or easy to speak the truth. But it is necessary and important for me to do it in my book.

566 comments
thomasena.crawford
thomasena.crawford

joe melissa and your kids come first not your sister she chose to start all fights

momma_j
momma_j

Melissa keep your head up girl!!!! I'm seeing all theses blogs about what people are saying about you and I'm like WTF,!!!! It just makes me realize how many more Theresa' s there are out in the world........ooooooohhhhh scary!!!!! 

rustyrusty123
rustyrusty123

Yep throw T under the bus so you can get your 15 min of fame.  Now lets throw your family under the bus!!! No class

rustyrusty123
rustyrusty123

Marriage book Melissa, ROFLMAO how long you been married?  All we see is lust and sexual discust.  Talk to us in 10 more years on how to have a great marriage.  Does it include how to turn ones brother against his sister.  How in the world can watch the show and think that you should be writing a book about Marriage.  JOKING!!  How to use sex to controll your husband is what it should be.  You two are discusting!! God fearing woman you are.   That is a Joke!!  You realizie your husband disrespects you constantly on the show.  Its all about lust.  Marriag goes allot further then that.  Marriage includes getting along with his family to make him truly happy.  He is obviously unhappy about his sister and your relationship whit her.  Fix that make your husband happy.  Then write your book.  Marriage is not all about sex and suduction.  Looks only last so long. Book just as bad as you Singing Terrible

vickynki
vickynki

Good Job Joe. Finally you stand for your sister. Open your eyes. There is more.

AEG
AEG

Every person has done things that have added to this ridiculous family drama.  The biggest problem I see is that no one is willing to admit and accept their part in it.  TOO MUCH PRIDE! By Melissa reacting the way she did in the last episode did not help the situation but instead escalated it with Teresa's reaction of saying her brother should be loyal to his "blood" family, which is totally nuts.  Melissa is the person he should be loyal to NOT his sister.   arsheley08 is right, once you marry, the spouse is the most important relationship a person has.  Would Teresa push aside her husband to keep her brother happy?  I think not and in any case, that would be wrong (unless there was spouse or child abuse).  That said, this whole situation is so over the top when it shouldn't be.  

arsheley08
arsheley08

There have been several times when Teresa has said that once her parents are gone, her most important relationship should be between her and her brother.  That's not how it works! Once a man marries, his most important relationship should be between him and his wife!! Which is EXACTLY what Joe Gorga is doing.  He loves his wife and his children and will do anything to defend it.  Joe and Melissa are a team, husband and wife! Teresa is delusional and believes that she should be Numero Uno in her brothers life. If I were Melissa, I don't know how much more trash I could take!

ArtistElaine
ArtistElaine

Joe should stick up for you not his crazy sister.   When a man chooses family over his wife he is not a man

armywife75
armywife75

Wow you people are so funny love the show

Jettexas
Jettexas

Melissa, its obvious that Theresa was at places where people gossiped about you, but its also obvious that she isn't a participant of it. Maybe you deserve it! I do believe that Kim D is the common denominator of the vitriol between all of you. I think you might be jealous of your sister in law.

getreal2013
getreal2013

I think U all should just get over it all and be adults. Melissa U r a joke and your marriage is too. And I agree with most off these ppl act your ages and stop with the blame game this is the real world not High School!!! I understand some of this makes the show but the on and on stuff is sickening. Let Tre and Joe be brother and sister and stay out of it. How would U like it if Joe got in your sister business and in between your sisters.  Think ...Life is to short for all this stupid shit...gl

leahdevon
leahdevon

Just not enjoying you this season. I think viewers are getting to see the real you. It's a little disappointing. I think you should be ashamed of yourself for allowing so much insanity to continue between your husband and his family. It seems like your quite the instigator. Shame on you!!!!!!

SkyAfonso1
SkyAfonso1

Team Melissa all the way! Keep kicking her (Theresa) down....don't let her spit her poison on your family!

ladielabelle
ladielabelle

Melissa,I don't usually comment too much on these blogs,but I can only understand all of the negative comments to be coming from either Theresa's longtime fans or very delusional people.I have no idea as to even what show they are watching.I see that Theresa is possessive and acts more like a jealous girlfriend when it comes to your husband.She seems to think that you are an insignificant party when it comes to your husband.She white-washes over her husband's bad behavior & dis-respect.If I were you I would totally put her on the back burner of your mind and let your husband deal with her on his own.Beware of folks that carry bones.Let the gossipers know up front that you don't want to hear it.I know it's frustrating,but you have to learn to not react in front of them.Sometimes that's all they want to see.You must realize that all of these people that are not part of the cast are camera time seekers.Keep your head up and put your energy into your book & your music.Accept the fact that Theresa will never accept you with open arms and move on to the next.

ktrygrl22
ktrygrl22

Was it the last episode of last season when Melissa and Joe were leaving Kim D.'s event and Teresa came outside to see what was going on...Melissa was in the passenger seat whispering to Joe to say "shame on you Teresa" or something of that sort? And Joe did it! It was so awkward to watch. I think that was just a snippet of the control that Melissa has over Joe. Her true colors are definitely starting to show, and even though I don't completely agree with Teresa, I think there must be SOME truth in the things that she's said about Melissa.

BarrioBabe
BarrioBabe

not such a believer in your innocent act but did you not notice your "friends'" faces at your lunch? they were neither pleased to hear about your upcoming book nor convinced by your claim to marriage expertise. you are clearly competitive and it is showing in every tit for tat endeavor you take on. As for your singing career, is it not enough to distinguish yourself from teresa? you begrudge and demean every venture she has. btw, the pole isn't the only one with expertise in the arena you keep bringing up more than anyone. if you want to change the rumor mill and silence the critics, then stop acting like that role is the only one you've got.  

southern_goddess
southern_goddess

You are soooooo into yourself it's RIDICULOUS!  After not seeing your "friends" for a very long time, the first thing you said was, "I got a book deal with such and such press!"  WHO CARES MELISSA?!  Why not ask how they were doing?  Everything with you is "I, I, I, me, me, me!"  GEEZ!  GET OVER YOURSELF GIRL!  You are TRULY your biggest fan!

LauraveronicaRojas
LauraveronicaRojas

Girl you seriously have got to stop playing the blame game! Your one of the housewives I love the most but just let trash be trash and live your life!

BewitchedMama
BewitchedMama

Melissa isn't a victim - she is a wolf in sheep's clothing! What she said about her book being real and how Teresa's books were just recipes and not real books was shameful!!

angela.trucchi
angela.trucchi

phony,phony,phony. wake up Joe! she is a big cause of the problems in the family. she only cares about getting famous. she is ruining your family with her negativity. just sayin

 

maryJB
maryJB

Here is how I see it: 1 - There is PROOF that you tried to contact Danielle when you denied it with a passion. ( no one said a negative word about it to you). 2 - There is PROOF that you say/write negaitve things about Teresa  - house is re-done, can't cook, DOESN't cook, (again no one says anything to you).  3 - There is PROOF  that you put negaitve things on twitter (again - NO ONE says anything to you). So I ask you this - why are you given free reign to say what you want and the whole group is getting their pitchforks ready when she says one thing.  It is called Hypocrisy my dear and it is what you all do. If you get mad at everything she says, why is it ok for you??  I just do not understand.  In the first season, T told a story about something you said at dinner when you and joe first started dating. - she said you said " I saw this man's house -I ain;t no dummy".  She was irritated about it because she was protective and felt you were trying to go after his "stuff" and not him.  But you SWORE you never said it.  In a later season, you admitted that you did say it but it was a joke.. SO in my book - you lied about Danniele,lied about the dinner story and that my dear is a pattern of compulsive lying. 

petras
petras

that twisted face woman telling Mellisa gossip about Theresa'''' LOL

lisazem
lisazem

the #1 thing is family! you should do whatever it takes so that your husband and teresa are in a good place.  you are like a thorn in the side, keeping them apart.  you clearly don't get along with his parents and as a result joe doesn't get along with them anymore.  you cannot blame teresa for that.  it is so sad to see the pain in your husbands eyes when he talks about his family.  let go and let love!

selena78
selena78

Why would you blame Teresa for what your "best friend" was saying about you?  And you call Teresa a pathological liar? I don't understand how her being in the presence of someone else talking crap about you makes her a liar.

txrhwfan
txrhwfan

Melissa you are something else! You once again blamed T for talking about you having an affair, clearly she didnt! You were told she didnt say it, Yet you told everyone who would listen that it was all T! What is wrong with you?? What the hell is wrong with Jac??  Also, you say you don't talk about T in a bad way, yet you said she should read your book on how to keep a man happy- since she needs the help! I'm sure if you weren't married to her brother, T would never ever talk to you again. I am so blessed that I don't have a sister-in-law like you.

rockymountainmom
rockymountainmom

Melissa, Its brave of you to include the details of your father in your book. The relationship a girl has with her father has a huge impact on her future relationships with men and your readers will need to understand your backstory to fully appreciate how and why your marriage to Joe functions the way it does. While it appears that you have a solid marriage and you and Joe seem genuinely happy together, I can't help but notice his occasional condescending attitude towards you, as when he said that as your husband he was going to "educate" you. You aren't a child and in a healthy, equal partnership between adults neither one needs to "educate" the other. Obviously, if he disapproved of your behavior, the two of you should discuss it, but saying he was responsible for teaching you how to behave was disrespectful. The Jersey men talking down to their wives/women seemed to be a theme last week. Richie's comment that he "married a housewife not an entrepreneur" was incredibly offensive. If he doesn't start treating her with more respect, he may have married a housewife but will be divorced by an entrepreneur. There is no way Richie would treat a male partner the way he treated Kathy, without consulting them before making serious business decisions. She is smart and capable and should have an equal say in decisions affecting her business. But, at least Kathy objected to his behavior, unlike Caroline when her son Chris made the most incredibly demeaning comments about the prospect of having female children. He was trying to be funny, but his remarks about how for the first ten years he only needed to keep "the thing" alive, and for the next ten he needed to make sure "it" didn't become a whore, were beyond the pale. I thought his strip car wash idea was a sign of immaturity not misogyny but now I'm having second thoughts. What kind of a man speaks about women in this manner, even in jest? And in front of his mother and sister no less! Caroline had a perfect opportunity to educate her son on the value of women and the point I hope you make in your book - how important a father's love, approval, acceptance and respect are to imparting his daughters with a healthy sense of self esteem and personal value and self worth, and how the absence of a father's positive influence can damage a girl for life. But Caroline didn't even blink. Instead, she engaged in a tounge-in-cheeck debate as to whether her own daughter had been a "fat girl" blow job queen. Seriously, mama Manzo? Maybe Caroline should have pointed out to her son that the best way to prevent his daughter from becoming a whore is to treat her with love, dignity and respect and teach her that she is much more valuable to him than a "thing" that he only needs to keep alive. Is this condescending, machismo attitude towards women so prevalent in Jersey that it doesn't even raise an eyebrow among you "tough" Jersey women? You suggest in your blog that you found Chris' comments amusing. What is going on here? The way Teresa has handled her husband's mistress phone call seems to typify the Jersey women's attitudes regarding how they expect their men to behave. Just brush it under the rug, ignore it and pretend it isn't happening or laugh it off. C'mon ladies, stand up for yourselves and the rest of your gender!

Marinewifewith4
Marinewifewith4

Melissa you DEFENTLY need a reality check... I use to love this show until you came on... I still watch the show every week,, and I Love Teresa,,, and from what I can tell, you are going to do everything in your power to not make things right... You have spoken bad, and said some evil things about Teresa... But as soon as you think she has said one thing about you,,, or listened to someone say something about you,, you round up the troops so that you all can have a LET'S BASH TERESA PARTY!!!!! That's sick!!! You are all sick and twisted!!! You and your husband are doing the most to keep that family divided,,, and that's wrong!!!! GOD forbid if one of you don't wake up tomorrow!!! Can you say you tried everything to get this family back together!!! NOOOO!!!!!!!

ibis
ibis

Why would one of your friends "best friends"say things about you, she was talking on camera willingly and ifwe all watched the same thing Teresa did not say anything

ittybittyone
ittybittyone

Why is it that you all always think that Tre has something to do with everything? Sometimes people do bring "dirt" to the already dirty situation (just as Tre said).  There are some miserable people who love to see others unhappy, beefing, etc.  If they don't bring it (dirt) to Tre, it'll come to one of you.

 

I think that YOU get a kick out of KEEPING Tre and (her brother) Joe apart.  I think that YOU get a kick out of bringing nastiness upon Tre's name when you're among the new BFF gatherings that you guys do w/o Tre.  You "have to" mention all of this "dirt" that Tre is always doing (in your opinion) when everyone is there; smh.

 

Speaking of these BFF gathering that everyone is doing on the show now (trying to stay relevant by bashing Tre during this time)...why do you guys feel the need to do this gathering as BFFs? You all look stupid; especially when all you guys do is talk about her when you're in "special BFF gatherings". 

 

I see that you got it going on now, thanks to the show!!! You got your singing career together (exposure) and now a crazy ass book.  Thank Tre later!!!

hannah79
hannah79

You are the cause of the riftt between your husband and his sister.  Go back and look at all the scenes that were shown to us; and, own your part.  You are not an innocent victim you are just manipulative.

Lulu89
Lulu89

Melissa your true colors have shown. You and Joe want nothing but fame, you should stop with all the lies. You knew Teresa hasn't said anything about you, yet you lied to everyone knowing the truth. These poor attempts to bring Teresa down will only backfire on you, Teresa is what makes the show. You will never be the start of the show and all you do is play the victim card. Teresa's husband is hardly ever in the public eye or showing off, unlike your husband. You just want to make Teresa look bad to benefit yourself, but people can only cover their true colors for so long. I hope you get kicked off the show, you're evil in everything you do. Stop trying to follow Teresa's footsteps, you will never be able to overcome her and her fame. Peace. 

rhonda06
rhonda06

Just because you get married it does not mean you for get about your blood. Teresa loves her brother as he does her when you marry it suppose to add not take away.

miabella12
miabella12

 @arsheley08

 honey Melissa is a trouble maker not a peace maker it so obvious she is a gold digger don't you see this?

diannantexas
diannantexas

 @arsheley08 Right and Melissa can have all her family there.. but Joe can only have melissa.. RIGHT!!!

rustyrusty123
rustyrusty123

 @Jettexas I see no reason why Teresa should fight your battles!! She cant' help your past or people that dont like you.  For god sakes your Best Friend sold you down the river.  You were not even mad or call out your best friend.  You just couldnt WAIT to go trash T as if she is the one setting it up.  How dare you make such a comment when you do not know it is true!!!  Thats your brothers Sister. YOU NEVER speak out or stick up for T.  All you do is bash her every show everything that comes out of your mouth is TERESA bashing.  Hipocrite.  If i was T  i would let them speak.  I would want to here what they have to say.  I would want to protect my brother.  You have no class what so ever. Your the one that set TERESA up with your best friend to talk crap about you.  The only way you could keep things stirred.  After all Teresa is the only thing that keeps you relevent on the show!!!> All you want is Aplogies for things you have accused her of whith no proof what so ever.  Why she should aplogise for somthing she did not do.  Your victim roll is comming to a end.

littlemsdivadiva
littlemsdivadiva

 @Jettexas i agree, let's not forget melissa pushed to be on the show...why would she want to be on a show where her sister in law is a part of? why if supposedly teresa was so mean to her...she's ridiculous. her victim role is expired

littlemsdivadiva
littlemsdivadiva

 @ktrygrl22 yes and remember at teresa's house warming she gave her a card that said: "Congratulations on your RE-DONE home"...she's not such a victim, she goes after teresa also but just likes to play victim. this season she's so arrogant its annoying to watch

Thetruthofthematter
Thetruthofthematter

 @carmen.carrasquillo.505 You nailed it on the head! I'm not sure why Teresa wants to reconcile with her man-child brother? The way he has treated her is so disrespectful to their entire family. I do understand family loyalties, but when someone clear is not willing to make it right, it's time to move on! Besides some of the things Joe Gorga has done to Teresa are unforgivable and certainly are unforgettable!!

DixieDarling
DixieDarling

@maryJB , I agree. There's example after example showing who MeGo truly is. Or should I say,"WHAT you are?"

Viewer.n.miami
Viewer.n.miami

@selena78 especially since Mel surrounds herself with people who talk ish about Tre constantly and NEVER stops it.

rustyrusty123
rustyrusty123

 @ibis Because Melissa and her best friend set it up to make Teresa look bad once again.  So she could play her poor victim roll again.  This happened after T set up the retreat.  Dont you see if T and her brother make up.  Melissa is no longer relevent!!!!.  The only attention she gets is playing the Victim!!!! Poor me.  She didnt even confront her best friend to find out the truth.  Nope blabber mouth couldnt wait to go tell everyone.  Think about it.......So obvious she set the whole thing up with her BEST FRIEND>  After all she says Teresa sets it all up.

SkyAfonso1
SkyAfonso1

@ALasVegasHousewife - Nobody is more filthy than Teresa or stoops any lower than Teresa!Go Melissa!