Joe Isn't "Whipped"
Melissa opens up about her marriage and the argument with Joe.
Hello, again! Hope everyone is planning a fun July 4th weekend. I’m going to be in Orlando, Florida for the holiday. I’ve got a big performance with the Jonas Brothers. I’ll be singing my new single “Never Let Me Go” in front of over 150,000 people! I’m rehearsing my butt off, believe me. If you’re near Altamont Springs, come by.
I got a little choked up watching the scene in this week’s episode with me and Antonia talking in my bedroom while I was working on Love Italian Style. I’m proud that she sees me writing a book about having a great marriage. I really do plan on giving her a copy on her wedding day. The advice about how to have a traditional-yet-modern marriage will totally hold up for Antonia, and for her own daughters one day. I’m just so excited that my love story -- good, bad, and sexy -- is going to be in print in only a couple of months!
My mother, aunt and sisters brought me old photos to put in my book. I’m grateful for that, and for their being understanding about my decision to tell the whole story about my childhood and my father. If at any point my mother said, “I forbid you to talk about it on camera or write about it,” you would not be seeing or reading a word on the subject. It would not have come up. But my mother gave me her blessing. My family supports me in what I’m trying to do. It’s not always comfortable or easy to speak the truth. But it is necessary and important for me to do it in my book.If I hear the phrase “pu--- whipped” one more time, I’m going to have to break something. A whipped man would never call out his wife if he thought she did something wrong. Joe wasn’t happy about my Chanel bag tweet. Meanwhile, anyone who says he never sticks up for his sister should be eating their words right now. In my own defense, I posted it in reaction to Teresa retweeting a link to a nasty blog about me. I was pissed off, and I impulse tweeted in retaliation. We’re constantly going tit for tat, and we’ll never get anywhere that way. Joe told me I was wrong to do it, and I agreed with my husband. I shouldn’t stoop to her level. It only gives her something to complain about.
That’s our marriage in a nutshell. Joe will defend me to anyone. But when we’re alone, if one of us has a problem with something the other did -- even something as minor as tweet -- we talk it out. Sometimes, we yell it out. Joe and I have a real marriage. We argue. We struggle. We don’t put on an act like we’re happy and laughing all the time. That’s not who we are, or what we want to represent.
Re: mind f---ing, I don’t take that back. I do think Teresa was up to something. She said things to Joe about me behind my back. Last year, it was that I would leave him for a richer man. This year, it’s that he’s pussy whipped. Anyone would look at this situation and think, “She’s trying to break them up.” Why does she do it? Joe and I have three kids. We have a life together. Why would his sister intentionally cause tension between us? I certainly haven’t tried to cause tension in her marriage. She said I controlled my husband. Why is she worried about that at all? I just don’t get it, and I’m fed up with the negativity.
I thought it was revealing that while Joe was sticking up for Teresa, she and her husband were laughing about Joe in public. That soccer mom’s face said it all. It was shocking and gross -- but typical for them. She said that if Joe agreed with me, he had to be brainwashed. That’s a harsh comment. Does she really think Joe isn’t in his right mind because he loves me? Or that I’ve got him under a spell? He’s just being a good, loving husband! No witchcraft. No voodoo. I don’t think Teresa can wrap her mind around that. He’s not a cult victim. He’s in a healthy marriage based on mutual respect, trust, and affection. Breaking news: When a husband treats his wife well, it does NOT mean he’s been mentally tampered with.
Kathy and Rich have a real marriage. They’re having a power struggle at the moment. I’ve been through something similar. It took time and effort to strike a good balance. I know Kathy and Rich will work it all out. How much do we love Chris Manzo? He cracks me up. He doesn’t want any kids? Famous last words! I bet he’ll wind up with five of them.
The scene with Jacqueline and Nicholas was really hard to watch. As Joe put it, “God bless this woman.” She’s an inspiration.
Rosie and Joe’s conversation was an eye-opener. No sex for six years, Rosie? We’re going to have to fix you up! Obviously, these two cousins have a lot in common. They’re passionate, love to laugh, have strong opinions and are not susceptible to brain washing. Rosie and Teresa’s conversation was very . . . loud. I do agree with something Rosie said -- we should be lifting each other up, not bringing each other down. Clearly, we’ve got a lot of work to do.
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