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Meeting Teresa Half Way

Melissa explains how Dr. V helped her to have a breakthrough with Teresa.

OK. Did you ever think this would actually happen?!
Thank you Jesus for Dr. V!  She really is as incredible as she seemed. The woman was born with a gift to cut through the bullsh--. When I first came in, I was completely fed up, but Dr. V was able to break down our walls. She looked each of us in the eye and said, “Sit down, shut up, and listen.” She got right down to it. She was 100% correct that we need to communicate better, listen more, yell less, and discuss our issues face-to-face, not behind each other’s backs. 
Dr. V. told us that our family should be a unified front and not to allow outsiders and non-family members to tear apart what we are working so hard to rebuild. I was honest when I told Teresa that I was willing to meet her half way. We have both done things wrong. All Joe needed was to hear his sister say that she did do some things to hurt us. He was done after that. We were both ready to move on, and I am glad we did.

Dr. V reiterated that our whole family should trust and rely on each other as we have in the past. In Season 3, when Teresa felt uncomfortable that Monica was at our Christmas party, we asked her to leave. No question. No explanation. Done. During the trip to California last season, when Teresa and Caroline were having trouble and Teresa wanted to leave, Joe and I left with her. Again, no question. At the end of the day, trust is going to take more time to repair, but we have to have each other’s backs, and Dr. V reminded us of that.
Watching this episode put me back to that day and I want to hold on to that positive feeling. When people hug and make up, for me, it’s done. The slate is clean. You can’t forget everything that happened, but you start from a new baseline each time. A new beginning is a new beginning. When at peace, there’s nothing you could do to make me start up again. As Joe said, “She’s easy.” Peace is my natural set point. If I’m forced out of that place, I don’t feel right until I can get back there. As soon as we finished our session with Dr. V, I was ready to have some fun. I drink to celebrate. The fighting was over! Let’s party! I might have had a little too much vodka that night, but I was happy that we all made up. I just wanted everyone to have a good time. I can’t believe the conversation I was having with Rosie at the table! I don’t think I’ll ever look at a peach the same way again. Joe and I laughed watching this episode. Laughing is SO MUCH better than crying.

I have to say that Caroline showed how much she truly cares about our family. Driving all those hours knowing she was coming into a bad situation.  Even though she ended up just spending time with us, we all appreciated it. It really showed her character and devotion as a friend to our family. Thank you, Caroline, we love you!  So glad to have turned a corner on the show. I hope that this episode is a good reminder to everyone on what we need to be doing to stay in this good place. We are family. And family is what matters most in the world.

We are getting closer and closer to the release of my book Love Italian Style, out officially on September 17, 2013. I just announced the dates for my book tour in New Jersey, New York, and Connecticut on my website with lots more to come. Keep checking back! And follow me on Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram.

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Dina: "The Reunion was Very Hard to Watch"

Dina Manzo opens up about her comments regarding her family and why she kept quiet for Teresa Giudice.

This reunion was very hard to watch. What most of you don't know is I went in there with the intention of keeping silent on my family issues, as I have for the past four years. An incident happened at the reunion, and I won't even give that person the attention they crave, but it set me off to tell my truth. Well some of it at least. I felt I was very P.C. this whole time, but now I had enough. Some people will push you because they know deep down inside you won't push back, but being "zen" is all about setting boundaries, and learning that has been part of my spiritual path. 

I don't want to go into much other than saying my answer about Nic came out very cold because there was more to it. I wish it were that easy to get to know him, but unfortunately it's not because of my relationship with his mother, and I'm just being honest. He is not missing me nor does he know what is going on with this family because of NOTHING more than his age. Anyone who is trying to make people think otherwise, especially his mother, should be ashamed of themselves. The Mother Theresa comment was about people comparing how I raise money for children with cancer yet don't help him. I went on to say how blessed my brother is to live in a county in New Jersey that people actually move to for the autism programs offered. How I see joy in him because of the progress he is making. He is a happy, beautiful child that is on his way to recovery, and although I know it's a struggle for parents of children on the spectrum, there is NOTHING wrong with seeing joy in them instead of sorrow. I appreciate all the parents of children with autism for their emails, tweets, etc. understanding and APPRECIATING that I see Nic as a 4 year old beautiful boy and not labeling him as anything other than that.

Kathy and Melissa should not have challenged me about "family values" if they don't want to hear my side. I kept quiet for the most part for TERESA, not wanting to bring up old wounds when she was dealing with so much around her sentencing. It was a hard position for me to be in. 

I have no words for my sister on WWHL. She could have answered the no engagement question and left it at that. The lies that followed after were extremely hurtful and must have come from the sheer frustration of having to defend her position on the engagement party. All of you have seen I have ONLY ever said positive things about her no matter what I was feeling. 

Please take a moment to watch this video I made on my truth about it all. I will post all the details on my look next week, but you can get to everyone involved -- from hair to dress  -- on my Instagram post on Sunday. Speaking of Instagram, I invite you to join me on a post a day for the month of November to share what you are thankful for. Showing gratitude for what you have in life just allows the universe to send you more to be thankful for! Trust me, it works!

Sending lots of love, 

Dina xo


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