Melissa Gorga

Melissa shares how difficult it was to write about her father.

on Jun 24, 2013

The scene with Kathy, Rosie, and Zia Maria was a bit uncomfortable to watch. Maria and her brother (Joe’s father) haven’t spoken in a while. It’s a sad situation for everyone involved, and a parallel to what you see with Joe and Teresa. I truly wish that all of these relationships can be repaired, or that they can call a truce and be civil. As you can see, this family does hold grudges. Some people get so used to holding the grudge it seems easier to cling to it rather than laying it down to rest.

Teresa said in her blog last week that I used “her parents publicly.” I’m going to have to disagree. As you can see, other people chose to show themselves going to the hospital. When Antonia and I went to visit Nonno, you did not see it. I didn’t want to exploit his illness on the show. Teresa is the one who kept and is still bringing up her parents. Publicly… on Twitter, in blogs, etc. Again, I’m being accused of something that someone else is guilty of. It’s as predictable as the tides. 

For the record, soon after my father-in-law got out of the hospital, he and my mother-in-law came over for dinner. We cooked together and had a wonderful meal. My father-in-law said nothing at all about any bad feelings. Afterwards, Joe and I were sitting with my mother-in-law, and I asked, “Are you mad at me, or upset at all? Have I done anything wrong?  Have I hurt the family in any way?” She looked me in the eye and said, “No. You’ve done nothing wrong.” Joe was right there. He and I know the real deal.