Cast Blog: #RHONJ

Joe Needs to Ignore the Rumors

Teresa explains why she didn't want to rehash the cheating rumors.

Hello Baby Dolls!
 
Last week's episode got me all fired up, but I'm not going to beat a dead horse. It is really frustrating to watch the episodes sometimes -- it's hard to relive things and hard to see what other people say behind your back. But we move forward!
 
I loved seeing my brother and husband joking around and hanging out like they have since we were kids. They have a long history together and my Joe was the big brother that Joey never had long before we were married. Great to see all the guys getting along and enjoying the resort.
 
Zen tennis wasn't very zen for me because I'm too competitive. I think we all are! And I've never played tennis before in my entire life. Swear! But it was fun and great exercise -- a full body workout! I really like it. Maybe when Audriana goes to school, I'll take lessons or something.
 
The high wire test.... O. M. G. I have never been so scared in my whole life. It is so much harder than it looks. You stand on the ground and watch someone and you're thinking, "Just walk faster!" but when you get up there. First, it's really high up, and even though you know you have a safety harness on, you can't really feel it until you fall. So when you're walking up there you don't have that safety pressure holding you up. All you can see is the damn, hard ground! And the wires move like crazy. The muscles in your legs are burning so badly just to try and find your balance and then the other person with you moves and throws you off and you're supposed to walk! The only way to really do it is to zone out, forget about the ground and the wire and just go. And if you have someone you can really connect with and look into their eyes, that's what you do, you distract each other and encourage each other. It was a very cool experience and I'm very glad I did it.It was great to watch everyone try it in different combinations. I think my favorite was Joe and Rosie! I didn't want anyone to miss out on it so I was trying to get Caroline and Melissa up there. I'm glad Melissa finally did!


 
The high wire thing was exhausting, and I was so looking forward to just relaxing and having a drink that night. I should have known that was never going to happen as soon as I saw Caroline wearing that Karma sweatshirt from the gift shop! We were all in a good place, we'd done therapy in Lake George with Dr. V, we'd worked out physically in Arizona, I just wanted to relax a little and enjoy my friends and family. I'm not sure why Caroline was so interested in stirring things up again. I didn't want to. Not because I don't want to get everything out, but we'd been doing that for months! Sometimes you have to move on to heal. If you keep opening old wounds, they will never heal. You have to stop picking.When Caroline doesn't want to talk about her family issues, I respect that. I wish she would respect my wishes. It's not my place to butt into how she deals with her family issues, and I don't think it's her place to butt into mine, especially when we're good!
 
I hate seeing my brother so upset about rumors. That's another reason I didn't want to bring everything up again. We've all faced terrible rumors. Every husband in that room has had to hear bad things about his wife. Some husbands (and moms!) have to see those rumors on the front cover of magazines every time they go to the grocery store. We've all learned though that the best way to deal with it is to ignore it especially when the rumors are ridiculous. If you don't give a fire air, it goes out. The more attention you give to a rumor, the less likely that it will die. That's what we were trying to tell Joey, just ignore it. If you spend all your time and energy trying to hunt down every rumor in the world when you're on TV, you will not have a happy life.
I'm happy to say my life is very happy right now. The kids start school this week. Hallelujah! I hate to see summer end, but there's good things about every new season. Thank you all so much for your hilarious and heartwarming messages. You make me smile every day.
 
Check out my website for recipes from my cookbooks, information on my latest appearances, and where to get my favorite things: www.teresagiudice.com.
 
Tanti Baci,
Teresa xx

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Amber: Is Dina Coldhearted?

Amber Marchese dishes on her first reunion and why Dina Manzo confuses her.

Hello Housewife friends!  Welcome to the jungle baby! My first reunion was a wild ride. Call me sick and twisted, but I had an unbelievable time at the reunion when most, I have been warned, dread it. I felt like it was “The Great Purge” and when I went home I was felt relieved of any built up tension. I don’t care if anyone has a grudge against me, my slate is clean and I harbor no ill feelings towards anyone. I love to argue my point, and I truly stood by all of my convictions this season, so I was ready to say exactly what was on my mind, and then some. 

I know the twins and I went at one another pretty hard, but that is what the reunion is all about. It is an opportunity to get it all out and potentially understand one another's position better. Then we can each make our own decisions as to where we want to go with our relationships. I am very much the type of person that can say some of the meanest things and sling mud, but hug it out at the end forgetting anything negative that was said. It just rolls off my back. I actually think it is healthier to say what needs to be said, and then move on.

One thing I did question after the reunion was if Dina actually has a heart or if I should start calling her the Tin Man. I actually have not figured her out yet. Is she really just a coldhearted bitch, or has she been hurt so many times that she has become warped and jaded. I feel I don’t owe anyone any reason as to why I call cancer “the cancer,” but I will give it once more anyhow. “The cancer” is “the monster” to me. It is a way for me to take away its power and to minimize it. “It” destroys lives, so “it” does not deserve a name. It is just “the cancer” -- it was “the monster” or “the dragon.” Although Dina claims to have an understanding of how devastating cancer is to a family, her actions and blatant lack of empathy proves otherwise.

In addition, I did not think it was appropriate for me to interject into family quarrels at the reunion; however, this is something that I feel strongly about. I have met Jaqueline and I have spoken to her on many occasions. In the very short time that I have gotten to know Jaqueline, I know and have empathy with the struggles she has caring for Nicholas. I felt that Dina’s interpretation of her nephew was callous and completely out of touch with reality. The only thing that keeps playing in my mind is, "You know nothing John Snow."  No, thank God, he is not hooked up to machines with cancer; however, what the Laurita family goes through is extremely difficult on a day to day basis that will continue on for a lifetime. It is emotionally and financially devastating. Although, Dina "visits" children with cancer, at the end of her visit she gets to go home, leaving it behind and goes on with her daily life. Since Dina does work with children with cancer, I pray that she can abstain from a self-absorbed lifestyle and become a loving, involved aunt. 

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