What a beautiful sunny week! Joe and I were in Miami for my Fabulicious: On the Grill book signings, and then we spent the weekend at the shore with our kids playing on the beach. Our shore house is almost rebuilt -- Joe did an amazing job! -- but we still don't have a TV there. This week, I was kinda glad though, since it was not an episode I wanted my kids to watch. It's not an episode I wanted to be in!
I do really, really wish that Kathy would leave my dad out of the show. I signed up to be on a reality show, my dad didn't. He's only appeared a few times for his children, but not for himself. He wants no part of this show, he doesn't even watch it (Thank God!), and I think you can see why. When my father is filmed with us, he doesn't talk about Kathy's family, and I would love it if they would stop talking about him. If I had known 5 years ago when I signed up for a show about shopping with my friends that people were going to talk about my father's private business, I would never, ever have joined. If you want to talk about your own father on TV, be my guest. But please, stop talking about mine.
The show is behind here in Canada - just watched the Gym scene and was impressed with brother Joe finally standing up and saying what we all have thought ! How on earth can Teresa not realize that having a relationship with her brother will involve NOT constantly talking about his wife ! It is ok for her to continuously be saying not nice things about Melissa, but Joe is not allowed to say anything not nice about her husband. It is true what he said - we all heard it on TV . . he called his wife a 'cun- ' and the reasoning she gives that its ok because he didn't actually say it to her face is ridiculous - saying it to his mistress on live TV is just as bad or worse than saying it to her face. /And hilarious her face when he said ' you can't cook' ! What a hoot . .that's what she is most mad about, since she is making a living selling cookbooks and can't cook !!!!! I don't think Teresa will ever learn, because she has a block in her head that will not allow her to see reality. And by the way, Kathy can talk about your father all she wants, it is her uncle. And isn't it ironic that it comes out that her own father does NOT talk to his own sister for years . . guess the apple didn't fall far from that tree. Teresa constantly talks about her father, and tries to USE him as a bargaining chip against her own brother. If she really did care about forgiveness she would stand up as a grown woman, mother of 4 and sincerely apologize to her brother and his wife for all the horrible things she has said, and allowing her husband and her children to do the same. Then perhaps this family can be healed.
I find it amazing that not once have I ever seen you apologize with sincerity to anyone on the show that you have hurt or offended. You seem to like to play the victim and I guess it works for you but, the rest of the world doesn't buy it. Your jealousy of Melissa is so obvious you can't even see through all the jealous blur in your head. Every time someone asks you a direct question about an incident that you had involvement in, you never answer, you just throw a question back. That is called the inability to face up to and admit your own faults in life. Stop trying to make Melissa out to be some kind of horrible person, she's reaching out to you this season and all you do is stab her and your brother in the back. The only reason you now can't stand Jacquilene is because she stood up to you and you don't like anyone that does that. If someone confronts you with the truth, well they forget ever having any kind of relationship with you because your type of relationships are filled with nothing but venom and jealousy of others. I don't know why you are the way you are, I just know you are not a genuine person or an honest one. You can pretend to be on camera if you like, but you have pretty much been exposed with your horrible inability to act.
swmell Finally, someone on Teresa's blog that looks at the shows as I do. Some of the people that on these blogs are such loyal fans to Teresa no matter what she does, it's still okay. The blaming everyone else and no taking any of the responsibility is getting old. Some people on Melissa's blogs asked why did Melissa get on her knees. Well, first of all Melissa and Joe are tired of going through this crap with Teresa. It must be exhausting. She even told Teresa she forgives her.
swmell I totally agree with you. Teresa she acts like she wants peace with her brother but without Melissa. It is so sick her jealousy that it really shocks me.
At the end of last season I was thought you went a little "loopy" But I still liked you ,Melissa on the other hand only had me for a short while, last season i couldn't stand when she was around her sisters that was awful, then i started to like her a little bit ,but so far this year I think everything I thought about her last year is coming true. she most certainly wanted to have your fame and would do anything to get it, trying to make everyone think she was this sweet girl who lost her father so young. I think because of her life she knows exactly how to make things look how she wants it to look. She is the girl that plans things so well she doesn't always get caught ,she is a little shady (poor Joe, can't see it) but when she does get caught she needs to backtrack fast like the thing with Caroline she didn't want her getting involved,I am sure it is because she has Joe eating out her hand and if another female gets involved and she is not there to keep things under her control she doesn't like it! You on the other hand say whats on your mind and is usually in the wrong place at the wrong time and looks guilty when sometimes you are not. I don't know I really like you especially this year you aren't loopy any more so far ,and now Jacquiline is stressed and she is loopy...imagine so much stress makes you loose it a little it is happening to them and now it is karma time I think,you don't have to do a thing. I don't wish bad things on anyone but I do think Melissa needs to see what a little stress can do to a person.....
Love you Teresa! I admire the fact that through all of the BS, you are still doing the cookbook and expanding, way to keep it movin girl, HUGS!!!
I used to like Teresa, but I think she dug herself a deep hole that she can't get out of...She instigated the whole fight by telling her husband...Everyone needs to stop tattletaling...When you pass gossip on you are just as guilty as the person gossiping...I wish Teresa would just say sorry and take responsibility for all the problems she's caused...everyone needs to claim responsibility for their part...If you can't get along at least tolerate each other...It's like everyone has to have the last word at any cause...As Dr. Phil would say, "We need a hero here" I guess people would stop watching though, if they stopped making fools of themselves. Too bad though, families are so important.
Teresa last season was a different person,spiteful,vengeful, and extremely defensive. Teresa this season has put down her guard, approached her brother, spoke with her cousin, invited Melissa out, and even met with Caroline. The tables have turned.
Give her a little time. It won't be long before she starts flipping those tables again.
You weren't simply asking Melissa a question about when she visited your father in law, you were cowardly making a comment. Own it. The comment was "you weren't there soon enough." It she was there in 3 days, you'd ask why she wasn't there in 2. If she was there in 2 days, you'd ask why she wasn't there in 1. If she was there in 1 day, you'd ask why wasn't she there when your father was clutching his chest. The truth is, you don't want her there. You want the opportunity to throw her under the bus any chance you get. And it you don't get a chance, you'll make one.
Theresa, why don't you wake up to reality? You were spoiled by having your brother adore you and then he got married... and instead of embracing her, you were jealous of her. It is all in YOUR court, honey, nobody elses. And by-the-by your husband is of absolutely NO help to you, he's an A-hole.
Whenever Teresa is faced with a comment or situation that she simply can't, or is unable to defend, she will turn and leave. Case in point: when her brother brought up the name calling Joe did to Teresa. There is NO excuse for that. None. Teresa should have said, 'Yes, I agree he was wrong, and it hurt me deeply. But we've handled that privately.' And her brother might have been appeased. But Teresa can't think that fast, and she certainly doesn't have the temperment it takes to admit any fault. I feel sorry for her because, hey, no woman deserves to be talked to the way her husband does. And we all know he was NOT talking to a 'guy, a co-worker buddy,' that day on the phone.
I admit to being totally addicted to all the RH franchises, including Jersey. Gotta say, though, I find it more and more difficult to watch. Teresa hypocrisy and delusion are so acute, I can only conclude that she is putting on for the cameras to keep herself relevant. I'm thinking that the notoriety she received from that table flip was pretty intoxicating. But enough to sacrifice any scrap of dignity she or her family may have ever had? I just find that sad. If this ignorant and stupid (not the same thing) behavior is not deliberate, then she is simply reprehensible.
I'm not sure which is worse, but it's nauseating to watch, so I may have to beg off for a while.
Enough already Teresa...you called your brother "bipolar"...but I'm really beginning to wonder!?!? You tape the show...have you ever sat down to watch it after to actually see how you act and hear what you say? You are NOT the victim doll! Far from it. Hypocrite for sure...but victim, friend, sister, cousin or niece you are NOT! You always talk about forgiveness...about family having each others back...who's back do you have besides your own? You talk about Melissa always in your brothers ear, well seems to me that your husband always has something to say too. I never hear you sticking up for your brother to your husband...but that's different right? Ahh yeah cause you and Joe are allowed to do and say whatever you want and be forgiven! Your so good at keeping the crap stirred up. How about practicing what you preach...if its good enough advice for everyone else, maybe you should follow it too. You even allow your children to be involved in some of it. To make comments...how terrible is that! Grow up and be accountable! You should be ashamed of yourself! I'm not sure if its the fame that's gone to your head, but something has! You need to come back down to reality!! Eventually all the fame will end, it won't last forever...then your going to wish that you did things different. Sometimes you cause so much hurt that it's irreversible. And when your wanting to make things right, no one is going to willing to give you that chance!
worthy1 The problem is that she doesn't take any responsibility in this drama. It is somebody's fault. She plays "mother Teresa" script.."ohh.. I love my brother."" "ohh..I just want peace with the family"… really?? We don't see that! Just the opposite!
IT was soooo great to see your brother to FINLLY to stand up to you!!!!! I loved it when he said "just like you cooking"!!! Can we say priceless. And though I wish your father many more years I can see WHO YOU TAKE AFTER... Your father will not see his sister because of a disagreement OR SHOULD I SAY because she will not lie her life the way he wants her to and since your brother will not dance to your tune you make I life miserable Apple does not fall far from the tree does it Teresa.
See the thing is that you can talk about everyone elses father or family and it is okay...no does not work that way. ALso because your father is clearly taking sides and just siding with you it is important that we hear that side of the story.
I totally can see why T & Joe (brother & sister) act as they do. When I was 11 and my only brother was 8 our mother passed away. Our father passed away when my brother was 15 and I was 18. Basically we were orphaned at a young age. My brother and I were all each other had. I married when I was almost 19 and had a child a year later. Three years later I had another child. All of this time my brother lived with us in the house that we were raised in. 3 months after my second child was born my husband was killed in a accident. As before my brother and I were alone and had only each other, but now I had two children. He stepped in and became a "father figure" to my two children.
Fast forward 5 years and I remarried. One year later my brother married a girl he had been dating on and off for about 4 years. When he married I found it very difficult to accept this girl as #1 and now I had to take a back seat. Slowly I realized that my brother was now married and someone else came first. It was tough going, but slowly I realized that I had been very fortunate to have him in my life and my children's lives. As time went by and he started to have a family I always shared in the joy..Not as his sister but as Sue's sister-in-law.
This is what Teresa needs to see. She needs to see that no matter how close she once was with her brother, there comes a day when you are not #1 and you have to let go. You need to have respect & love for your sister-in-law, your brother and their children. As hard as it is, he now loves another woman and you have to take a back seat to his life..NO MATTER WHAT. He needs and deserves a life with a wife and family. Teresa, I hope you can come to this conclusion. Your brother is not your husband, nor your children's father. Don't you think that these kids have eyes and ears? They see and hear everything you do...Don't waste valuable time. You can all be a big, happy family..Tell your husband to shut up and your brother needs to put his wife in the same place. That way you all can move on..
Good Luck, and take some advice from one who's been there..
Your story is inspirational! By far, the best and most balanced post I've read.
Positive energy to you and yours as it's well deserved!
God bless you, CathyC. And thank you for your post. It's the best post I've ever read. Your brother, sister in law, and children are lucky to have you!
I agree totally Crazy... Thank you for sharing your story. Your Brother is lucky to have such a loving & caring sister..
Did anyone notice in the scene with Rosie and Teresa in the bar having their discussion, Teresa's brother in law (Joe's brother) was sitting at the bar. He was watching and holding his cell phone. The camera switched to him a couple of times. He must have been on duty as the "body guard". Teresa remember when you flipped the table? or the reunion show when you were out of your seat? Not a good feeling to be on the receiving end of someones threats is it?
So let me get this straight... You want everyone to stop mentioning your father, yet you can berate Melissa on camera about visiting your father in the hospital? The double standards you have for everyone are mind-blowing! You can talk all the sh*t you want about anyone, but when they do it back to you, they're disloyal and out of line. Can we say hypocrite? How about taking some responsibility for the part you play (which would be the majority part) in creating family drama and dissension? But no, not Teresa, she's perfect and does no wrong.
Teresa is as dumb as a stump & a bit of a sociopath as well. NO rules apply to her...Melissa has the right idea about fleeing!
If she got rid of kim d, it would be because she is replacing her with someone else to do the same dirty crap on her behalf.
Teresa, you brother isn't whipped. Sorry. I'm sure it's easier to think that. YOUR brother's jealousy over you having fame and cameras was just as strong as Melissa's and not only did they both want your fame and the money opportunities that comes with it, they wanted to ruin you in the process. That's how cruelly jealous they were. Both of them. That's the problem that no nature workshop or niceties will ever fix. You can't take back history and you'll always know deep inside what they did for fame. They know it too, ad that's why they are spinning and spinning. You just continue to play offense and they work it against you. Its starting to become clear--FINALLY. I've been on to them both for a long time. Kathy too. The odds of having 3 people in one family who wanted fame bad enough to manipulate a family member into hell is shocking. I hope one day you just realize it is what it is,,,,they aren't good people. You are self centered, but you're not dark. They are sitting in their beds.
How can your husband say that you brother suffers from "Napoleon Syndrome?" Has he looked in the mirror lately? They are both about the same height, as proven when you guys went to Punta Cana and they were measured right there at the bar on the beach. So how can he say that about your brother? He is no perfect, tall male model..that's for sure!! And why do you continue to say things that don't make any sense? When he made that comment, you said "oh you mean bipolar." Are you on another planet because you seem to say things that just don't seem quite right? Why can't you take ownership of anything? It's always everybody else's fault, never Teresa's!! I think it's disgusting already! Get over yourself and grow up already!
I was wrighting on LisLwr Post but got sidetracked and what I Was Trying to say was If She Was That Great WHY Don't Andy And anyone else that has something to say about who's on who get's canned Give Her Get This Are You Ready???? HER OWN SHOW????????Anyone ,Anyone Sorry But Just Had to Put That out There But I Know Why Do You?????
@murphy1 The more of your comments I read, the more I conclude that you are as nutty as Teresa. Good luck with all that.
@murphy1 Listen, I don't usually reply to 12 year old girls, but since your mommy apparently lets you use the computer I will make an exception. Teresa IS nuts. A lot of folks who love her to death will agree with that. It doesn't mean she is evil, just that she is a little crazy. I will own up to thinking that everyday. What separates you and I is that you actually seem to want to see the other ladies fail or be unhappy. You will never read where I have ever said anything except that I wish Teresa all the luck in the world. I hope she sells millions of cookbooks to get her out of her financial mess - her sweet girls deserve that. Does that mean I like her - nope, but I hope all of her dreams come true, which is what I wish for every one. The terribly mean things that you say to Mel and particulary Kathy - mocking her new endeavors - is just incredible to me. Call them out on their behavior or the way they treat others, but it takes a special kind of disgustingly sad individual to want to crush someone else's dreams.
OF COURSE "Tre" thinks her brother crossed the line. OF COURSE she does. "Tre" never does anything wrong!! It's ALWAYS someone else! She's just the innocent victim. Maybe "Tre" could screech about that some more....there are still a few dogs in my neighborhood who aren't barking...
At this point it seems like it's "tit for tat". You can't go around being nasty to people, and expect them to kiss your butt (at least where I'm from). It seems like Teresa says something hurtful, and they turn right back around to say something to hurt her. The blow up at the gym could have been easily avoided. Joe was trying to explain to her that Gia (a child) was going around mocking Melissa saying she lip sync. Whether Melissa does or doesn't lip sync is not the point. A child should never disrespect their elder/aunt like that. But, as always instead of saying you know that is wrong and I apologize she says, "Everyone knows Melissa lip sync". This is why it has taken so long for this family to makeup and move forward. The same goes for Kathy. You said something hurtful about her late father at the reunion, but when she said something about yours the whole world has come to an end. It is time to start taking responsibility for your part in this mess.
Nikki2389 Exactly! There's also clips of the family on a bus with a pole. Gia is on the pole saying that she's pole dancing "like Aunt Melissa." Teresa also had a chance to make peace when Melissa went to the birthday party. Instead, she chose to grasp the opportunity to attack Melissa again. Melissa shouldn't have gone to the hospital, at all. She was fighting a sore throat and her husband had the stomach flu. Even if Melissa had no excuse and never went to the hospital at all, if Teresa loved her brother, like say claims, she should have kept her mouth shut and been happy that Melissa showed up and brought the girls to the party. Then, after she attacks Melissa, she says "If you can't ask a person a quesiton, what's the world coming to." It's just more Teresa. She's like nails on a chalkboard.
@Nikki2389 Thank you for pointing out that Teresa was the one who said a hurtful remark about Kathy's father first at the reunion. Some people need to rewatch the reunion episode before they comment.
FOR REAL! I honestly can't believe so many women support Teresa. Her hypocrisy is mind blowing. "I wish Kathy would leave my Dad out of the show". Uh, okay. But it's fine for TERESA to talk smack about Kathy's Dad, right??
It's okay for HER CHILD to make nasty comments about Melissa but nobody better dare say anything about Teresa and her (lack of) cooking.
Unfortunately, as shown on the show, Teresa is lacking in the intelligence department, and she's a huge hypocrite, so she'll never understand, or admit, her part in all this.
Poor "Tre" is prepared to be a victim until her dying day....
Well said Nikki. I used to like Teresa. I thought she was very funny and entertaining, but now she just seems jealous of Melissa and delusional. I hope she can turn it around. This story line is getting so OLD!
Nikki2389 Melissa and Joe criticized Teresa's cooking skills long before Teresa ever said anything about lip synching......
@piperbeau @Nikki2389 They didn't criticize her cooking skills; they pointed out the fact that she didn't really cook very much, so it was strange that she would do a cookbook.