Cast Blog: #RHONJ

Melissa and Joe's Deflection

Teresa explains why she thinks everyone wants to blame her for the rumors.

Hello Baby Dolls!
 
Another roller coaster episode, right? I loved seeing everyone together again. I wish it could stay that way forever! Unfortunately when you're on TV, people want what you have. They want to be on TV too and they'll do anything to make it happen or they just want to take you down because they're sick of watching you. I get it. I've seen it happen now on every season of every Housewives show in every city. It's not fun to be the target, but it comes with the territory. The problem is when newer cast members join and get attacked, they can freak out like Melissa and Joey were. You have to stay united and refuse to let any strangers break you down. But I get that it's hard. It shouldn't be hard for family to believe family over strangers, but...
 
I'm definitely not happy to see where this season is going based on how Melissa and Joey are reacting to the rumors. It's all my fault again. I get it. It's easier to blame their own sister/sister-in-law than it is to blame a stranger. It sounds strange, but here's why.

First of all, blaming me takes all of the emphasis off the actual rumors. Instead of anyone looking into those, they're all busy looking at me. Fine, deflect away. I'm here for you.
 
Second, going after family is safe. They know I will never do anything to them. With a stranger, you can't be so sure. They don't want to go after Penny because she might take it to a whole new level. Easier to befriend her, right? I wouldn't be looking to make BFFs with someone who was talking to my ex-boyfriend and threatening to expose rumors about me, but that's just me.
 
And third, family will always forgive you, and they know it. Family will always be there. To save themselves, they feel like they have to throw me under the bus. I don't like it but I can't do anything about it. They are going to believe what they want to believe. Their beliefs make no sense to me -- they don't believe Penny one minute and the next they do. Pick one! They already confronted Penny at the Youthful 8 Milania Collection launch party and she told them I had nothing to do with it. But it wasn't enough for them. They had to keep going after her. Why? And when they did, suddenly Penny changed her mind that I had something to do with it. Why would she suddenly do that? Why didn't she say that when I was right in front of her?
 
But it's how they've chosen to deal with this and I can't seem to stop them. I've done everything I could possibly do, and now I'm done. Done.I was very happy to go support Kathy at Dylan's Candy Bar with my 4 daughters. They had a great time! Love to see people's success!

I was also so happy Jacqueline asked me to help her with her speech. It wasn't as random as you might think because in November I had just given my own first big speech at the NephCure Countdown to the Cure Fundraiser at Capitale in NYC (www.nephcure.org). It was a black-tie affair with tons of press and I was so so so nervous. But I worked it out and was excited to help Jacqueline work hers out too.


 
I love Nicholas and so does Joe. Since Nick and Audriana were born so close together, Joe always looked at Nicholas like sort of a son too. We missed him a lot.Finally, did you see my new Skinny Italian food line? I loved the visit to the showroom with my husband, mom, and mother-in-law. I'm so lucky to have such a supportive husband and parents. I love them so much! I'm so excited for you all to try Skinny Italian Foods! It's all imported from Italy and so so amazing! We have 7 different artisan pastas -- the closest thing to homemade pasta you can get. Our Extra Virgin Olive Oil is harvested exclusively from Calabria, and you can get a beautiful mix of Mediterranean Olives (Calcidica Sweet & Salted, Nocellara del Belice) as well. The Skinny Italian Balsamic Ketchup is perfect for marinating the flank steak recipe in my "Fabulicious! On the Grill" and it's great on hamburgers, hot dogs, chicken nuggets... once you try Balsamic Ketchup, you'll never go back to regular! We also have a home-style fresh marinara sauce that you can use instead of the Quickie Sauce in all of my recipes. Go to http://www.skinnyitalianfoods.com/ to order some today!
 
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Thank you all so much for your support! It means the world to me!
 
Tanti Baci,
Teresa xx
 
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Twitter: @Teresa_Giudice

Dina: "The Reunion was Very Hard to Watch"

Dina Manzo opens up about her comments regarding her family and why she kept quiet for Teresa Giudice.

This reunion was very hard to watch. What most of you don't know is I went in there with the intention of keeping silent on my family issues, as I have for the past four years. An incident happened at the reunion, and I won't even give that person the attention they crave, but it set me off to tell my truth. Well some of it at least. I felt I was very P.C. this whole time, but now I had enough. Some people will push you because they know deep down inside you won't push back, but being "zen" is all about setting boundaries, and learning that has been part of my spiritual path. 

I don't want to go into much other than saying my answer about Nic came out very cold because there was more to it. I wish it were that easy to get to know him, but unfortunately it's not because of my relationship with his mother, and I'm just being honest. He is not missing me nor does he know what is going on with this family because of NOTHING more than his age. Anyone who is trying to make people think otherwise, especially his mother, should be ashamed of themselves. The Mother Theresa comment was about people comparing how I raise money for children with cancer yet don't help him. I went on to say how blessed my brother is to live in a county in New Jersey that people actually move to for the autism programs offered. How I see joy in him because of the progress he is making. He is a happy, beautiful child that is on his way to recovery, and although I know it's a struggle for parents of children on the spectrum, there is NOTHING wrong with seeing joy in them instead of sorrow. I appreciate all the parents of children with autism for their emails, tweets, etc. understanding and APPRECIATING that I see Nic as a 4 year old beautiful boy and not labeling him as anything other than that.

Kathy and Melissa should not have challenged me about "family values" if they don't want to hear my side. I kept quiet for the most part for TERESA, not wanting to bring up old wounds when she was dealing with so much around her sentencing. It was a hard position for me to be in. 

I have no words for my sister on WWHL. She could have answered the no engagement question and left it at that. The lies that followed after were extremely hurtful and must have come from the sheer frustration of having to defend her position on the engagement party. All of you have seen I have ONLY ever said positive things about her no matter what I was feeling. 

Please take a moment to watch this video I made on my truth about it all. I will post all the details on my look next week, but you can get to everyone involved -- from hair to dress  -- on my Instagram post on Sunday. Speaking of Instagram, I invite you to join me on a post a day for the month of November to share what you are thankful for. Showing gratitude for what you have in life just allows the universe to send you more to be thankful for! Trust me, it works!

Sending lots of love, 

Dina xo

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