Small correction to your story - you did in fact have your brother ' all to yourself' when you ran into him at the Gym. And what did you do ? What you always do . . . criticize his wife ! You don't see your brother for a year and the first thing out of your mouth is something stupid that his wife tweeted. You still don't get it, not sure you ever will. Your brother's priority is his wife and his family - not you. Your husband gets into a physical fight with Joe Gorga because of what he said to you - so how is this any different. And let's get real here, if you really wanted this to be about just YOU and your brother, why on earth did you invite everyone else. This situation will not be solved with everyone else sticking their noses in all the time. You need to stop talking about your brother's wife - simple as that ! And one more point - Kathy can talk about your parents if she wants ..they are related to her and she is entitled to her opinion. You say your parents have nothing to do with this, but in fact you have said 100';s times that you want to make amends with your brother - for your parents ! But I think the fact that your father does not talk to his own sister for years tells us all a lot in itself. Guess that apple didn't fall far from that tree !