Cast Blog: #RHONJ

Melissa: Amber was Looking to Argue

Melissa Gorga explains why she didn't trust Amber Marchese.

Hi everyone!

Let's just get right into the episode. I will admit sometimes I'm not a fan of writing these blogs, because you have to put yourself back in the mindset you had when these situations happened. I deal with a situation and move on. Life is too short, and when you feel there is someone around you that's not going to be a positive in your life, then why bother?

This is how I feel when it comes to Amber. I feel like she came back into my life with so many negative things to say about me and negative feelings. I don't buy that she just wanted to rekindle our friendship and make me "her friend of the year." I don't see her trying to be my friend at all. 

Amber wants to act as if I'm not loyal? Well, where is her loyalty to me? Was she being loyal when she came right off the bat saying that I married my husband for money? Is she being loyal when she came on accusing me of being a horrible friend, after not seeing me for close to ten years and accusing me of not being there for her when she had cancer? No, I don't see that as a friend trying to rekindle a friendship at all. I see it as an old friend coming around to try to throw me under the bus. And there is A LOT you didn't get to see, so no, I don't believe Amber has nothing but good intentions.

Amber has also been ranting in her blogs and on Twitter, trying to remind everyone how our family had so many problems and that MUST make me a bad person and somehow prove that she and her husband are justified in their actions. Amber, do me a favor and stay out of my family business. It has nothing to do with you and you don't know the true details. You were a guest at my wedding ten years ago and never even met my children. So the ONLY things you know about what has been happening in MY life is by watching our show as a fan for the past three seasons.

I welcomed Amber, I introduced her to my family, my friends, and I feel she intended to throw me under the bus from day one. I've said multiple times in my previous blogs that I accept the part I played in the situation with Nicole. I was ready to discuss it and move on. It just seems that Amber constantly wants to put the blame on me for all of this. It's obvious she's playing the blame game and it's a way for her to try and get people not to focus on the fact that she was a bad friend to Nicole and spread a rumor that "she heard through the grapevine" about her in the first place. It's very transparent and I'm not buying it.

As far as Amber, Dina, and Teresa going to the spa together right after that all happened... I'm a little confused as to what I saw there too. Amber apologized for her husband right away to Dina and Teresa. But I guess I don't deserve one? Amber was also so "emotional" and "teary-eyed" when she was explaining to the girls how "hurt" she was that I betrayed her. But when I went to talk to her about everything over lunch, she was acting very pompous, very rude, and was looking to argue. So which is it? Was she just trying to get sympathy from the girls? What are her true feelings? She flips around so much it's hard to believe anything is real. I feel like I keep meeting her for drinks, for lunches, keep trying to move on with her and she just doesn't stop. So I needed to let her know that I'm not sure what her agenda is and that I do not trust her. 

As far as Dina calling me passive aggressive, I actually found it kind of funny because I know throughout the season you'll probably see me call Dina passive aggressive too. I really feel like she gives a lot of mixed signals to a lot of people, especially Amber. She's constantly questioning her sincerity, her tears, her authenticity. She's constantly rolling her eyes at Amber and she definitely doesn't like her husband. So if I'm passive aggressive, then I guess pot meet kettle, LOL!

And finally I want to say that I am proud of my husband for having self-control with Jim. I know it probably wasn't easy, but I think he took one for the team for what it's worth.

There's plenty more to come! Hope you're enjoying the new season and see you next week! 

Check in with my website to see updates on everything and to check out my new jewelry line. 

Much love,

Amber: Is Dina Coldhearted?

Amber Marchese dishes on her first reunion and why Dina Manzo confuses her.

Hello Housewife friends!  Welcome to the jungle baby! My first reunion was a wild ride. Call me sick and twisted, but I had an unbelievable time at the reunion when most, I have been warned, dread it. I felt like it was “The Great Purge” and when I went home I was felt relieved of any built up tension. I don’t care if anyone has a grudge against me, my slate is clean and I harbor no ill feelings towards anyone. I love to argue my point, and I truly stood by all of my convictions this season, so I was ready to say exactly what was on my mind, and then some. 

I know the twins and I went at one another pretty hard, but that is what the reunion is all about. It is an opportunity to get it all out and potentially understand one another's position better. Then we can each make our own decisions as to where we want to go with our relationships. I am very much the type of person that can say some of the meanest things and sling mud, but hug it out at the end forgetting anything negative that was said. It just rolls off my back. I actually think it is healthier to say what needs to be said, and then move on.

One thing I did question after the reunion was if Dina actually has a heart or if I should start calling her the Tin Man. I actually have not figured her out yet. Is she really just a coldhearted bitch, or has she been hurt so many times that she has become warped and jaded. I feel I don’t owe anyone any reason as to why I call cancer “the cancer,” but I will give it once more anyhow. “The cancer” is “the monster” to me. It is a way for me to take away its power and to minimize it. “It” destroys lives, so “it” does not deserve a name. It is just “the cancer” -- it was “the monster” or “the dragon.” Although Dina claims to have an understanding of how devastating cancer is to a family, her actions and blatant lack of empathy proves otherwise.

In addition, I did not think it was appropriate for me to interject into family quarrels at the reunion; however, this is something that I feel strongly about. I have met Jaqueline and I have spoken to her on many occasions. In the very short time that I have gotten to know Jaqueline, I know and have empathy with the struggles she has caring for Nicholas. I felt that Dina’s interpretation of her nephew was callous and completely out of touch with reality. The only thing that keeps playing in my mind is, "You know nothing John Snow."  No, thank God, he is not hooked up to machines with cancer; however, what the Laurita family goes through is extremely difficult on a day to day basis that will continue on for a lifetime. It is emotionally and financially devastating. Although, Dina "visits" children with cancer, at the end of her visit she gets to go home, leaving it behind and goes on with her daily life. Since Dina does work with children with cancer, I pray that she can abstain from a self-absorbed lifestyle and become a loving, involved aunt.