Alex McCord

Alex talks parenting, redecorating, and relationships!

on Mar 17, 20090

Ooh, I’m on my fourth latte and hoping that it will make me write faster. Either that or I will shortly start spinning in circles and maybe turn into Martin Scorsese. That should be interesting.

So, the parenting book. First of all let’s clear one thing up. LuAnn seemed to think it is about child behavior by us as experts, which it is not. It’s a collection of stories about things we’ve experienced as parents -- the good, the bad and the downright ugly, and what we learned from them. For example, when someone insists you bring your children out somewhere you wouldn’t normally take them and there is the possibility that the evening might run overtime, you might be distracted and asked repeatedly to stay “just a little longer” when it’s clear they’ve had enough, just say NO to bringing the kids. This is made much worse when it’s being televised.

When your four year old writes and performs a song called “Putting to Death is Not Nice,” one parent might be horrified while the other thinks it’s hilarious, and agrees that indeed, putting anyone/thing to death is in fact not nice and happy to know the kid thinks so too.

Our book is lighthearted, fun and in places poignant. I was particularly inspired when pregnant by anecdotal stories from the trenches of parenting. In 2004 I began writing my own from an urban perspective, with both parents’ take, as we all know that moms and dads often have different views of an incident much like viewers have different opinions of our show. When your four year old writes and performs a song called “Putting to Death is Not Nice,” one parent might be horrified while the other thinks it’s hilarious, and agrees that indeed, putting anyone/thing to death is in fact not nice and happy to know the kid thinks so too.

160 comments
Cathy1956
Cathy1956

Hi Alex,

I honestly had no idea how much editing actually goes on during reality shows. I watch all of the "Housewives" shows for a laugh..the pretentiousness, the complete self absorbtion and the ridiculous idea that somehow having money makes one superior. I truly can't believe how genuinely some of these women think the world revolves around them. I wasn't particularly interested in reading your blog because the way they have portrayed you on that show is of a meek woman who "needs" to have her husband with her at all times. What a pleasant surprise. You are nothing like that at all. Doesn't it bother you when you see the show? You are extemely bright and independent and I haven't seen a hint of that fabulous sense of humor and wit you possess. I assume that because you don't allow yourself to be pulled into the drama and cattiness of the majority of your castmates, the editing room doesn't know what to do with a normal down to earth woman with a great sense of self. So..in order to create some drama..they portray you as "the little woman" so people can dislike you for that. How irritating that must be for you. Well, I just wanted you to know you have new fan who will be watching the show still for laughs, but also to pay more attention and see if they ever to allow you to shine. I wish you, Simon and the boys all the best. Cathleen Cole

Rosiegirll
Rosiegirll

Dear Alex, Of all the people on the show you show the least Ego. That is why you are gaining such popularity. Because you aren't always tooting your own horn, people like you. The other cast members have fallen into a trap of trying to build their credibility by talking about themselves and their products which is a big trap.Viewers get tired of this self promotion.Your technique of building up the other people in your life is wonderful.

Thea
Thea

Dear Alex and Simon,

I absolutely adore yourself and Simon! You both are my favorite on the whole show. I really get a sense that you both are very real and honest people. Which makes it so much more enjoyable to watch and enjoy these kind of shows.

I've never really been a fan of reality shows or anything in that nature but I got hooked on this show because of you both. I think you both have a wonderful relationship and it shows. You both seem like you love each other very much as well as it shows how much you love your children. You both seem like great parents. I love the fact that you aren't about having TV's in the kids rooms! That is just great. I'm sure your children will be so intelligent and creative because of you not sitting them down in front of a TV.

As for what some people are saying, everyone is going to have their own parenting style and everyone will most likely think that theirs is the best way but I don't think there is anything wrong in your parenting. I think you are teaching your kids that they can be all that they can be. I'm sure if they told you and Simon they weren't enjoying something you wouldn't force them to keep up with it. You seem to have a wonderful family.

I'm female, and in my 20's and just love you. You are smart and stylish, and it's great to see a woman like that on TV. Simon is just as stylish and smart as you are which is just like an added bonus to a viewer like myself!

Basically, you seem like a great mother, a beautiful wife, and just an intelligent/empowering woman. Thanks for being so real and honest on the show. I'm glad that even with cameras and being on basically a reality show, you both are yourselves.

Julie
Julie

I appreciate the calmness that you bring to the show. I can always count on your segments to bring us back down to earth. You have debunked the stereotype that people with money are snobs and high-strung. Of all the housewives that I would like to spend a day with, you would be the one. Good Luck on your book, I look forward to perusing its pages.

wendy london
wendy london

alex i love you and your husband you're sogrounded and real people i really admire you and your family when i saw your house i was so surprise an d proud that you ppl are geniune ppl on the show i wonder how american are hush and rude openly but i think they're jelous of you and your family keep it real

Bonnie
Bonnie

Alex, You have come a long way since season 1 and I'm glad we've seen a softer side of you.

I was so impressed by your honesty when you told Bethanny how you and Simon met. I wasn't crazy about you until then but your vulnerability in sharing that information changed my mind. And what you told Simon on your wedding day was so sweet! You two really seem in love and that is so refreshing in today's "love 'em and leave 'em" society. I can only hope to find a loving relationship like you and Simon have.

Ramona is a wierdo so I hope you and Simon can ignore her. Looking forward to the next season.

Viewer
Viewer

Hi Alex,

I wish I had someone that I could really have as a partner in all things the way you and Simon are. It may seem odd and stifling, but after really seeing through the veil of media editing, I think you are united, but also have your own identities. I hope I find that same mutual, deep love soon in my life.

Deb
Deb

As far as the details of your home, you are right it does not matter if it is a 5th avenue home or not. I thought the moldings were beutiful and different. My husband and I are also into remodeling. I can't wait to see your finished home. As for Jill she is such a snob, she needs to get real. You and Simon are the only ones on the show who keep it real. Ramona is the worst, she is so insecure with herself that she is threatened by Simon. She has to bad mouth others to make herself look better.

james
james

Like other viewers, you and Simon have definitely grown on me and I find the two of you far more interesting and real than the others. I think your personalities are a little unique and I can see how the little 'bytes' from last season could be presented in a way to make y'all look slightly loony. I think I'm seeing through that transparent screen and seeing y'all for who you are. I also like Kelly. I hope you don't turn on her like the other snarky two-faced shrews.

Me from NC
Me from NC

Alex and Simon.....I truly think you two are the most kind and honest on the show. I have never seen either of you mean to any others, even when they try to provoke you by being downright rude, mean and unkind. I love your quote from last year, Alex, about things being "their issue" and not yours and Simons's. Heaven knows if any other of the housewives--or their family members---had been treated by you the same way they have treated you, there would an UPROAR! If Ramona's behavior is representative of class, then I don't want to be classy! Even after the hullaballu (sp?) over your house last season, I just LOVE that you didn't hesitate to show us your work-in-progress this year. Way to go! You know your priorities, and they aren't in wood and plaster. BTW, I couldn't believe last week when Ramona and Bethenny are walking their dogs, and Ramoma says she always tries to make people feel comfortable!! WHAT??!!! Is she kidding? The way she treated you guys last season at Jill's was INEXCUSABLE. Does she think that the viewing audience has a memory that short? Anyway, hang in! You guys are so refreshing in your support of each other! My husband died very suddenly just after my 40th birthday, and Alex, you sure brought a tear to my eye last week. Kudos all around!

Viewer Ellie
Viewer Ellie

I like you and your husband. Fight back, verbally. They will never respect you otherwise. Stop putting up with those mean people and get mad.

Liz
Liz

Hi Alex --

I was watching a kid's show on PBS today and you were the desk clerk! Was that shot at the hotel?

Michelle
Michelle

You are grounded and real. Ramona is just jealous of you and what you have.

linda
linda

Alex, I love how grounded you are! I respect you. I'ts hard not to be angry about how stupid people are but you pull it off with amazing grace. I admire you.

ladymom1967
ladymom1967

Ironically, you and your husband have been the most charming, sophisticated, gracious, and honest people on the show. Like the others you are both imperfect humans. Unlike the others you don't try to mask it.

Angelia
Angelia

Dear Alex & Simon; you two are my favs, i love the edge you both have. I don't think that either of you even need to climb the NYC social ladder to be known now. I don't have any problems with your co-dependancy, only Ramona does, do you see how her husband looks at other girls? I would have slapped my husbands face if I ever even thought he was interested in anothers looks, she's not just bi-polar, she's tri-polar. What do you do for a living? Good luck with your show and your life in NYC's social circles. I think that helping others and just being a good person is so much more important than any amount of money or material items. So long for now

jono
jono

Alex,

You are truly the only who is so grounded. You dont' waste your time on gossiping about the other women.You are all about your family. Your best friend is Your husband and there's nothing wrong with that! You seem more lay back and not uptight and phoney like the others. You dont' waste your energy and time with such trials and tribulations. Good for you!

Viewer
Viewer

Alex - I think you and Simon are the best. You carry yourself with more grace and class than the rest. You seem to be honest and very open minded. I think that Ramona is jealous of you and "The Countess (please) has the WORST manners of all. It just shows money nor Title can buy class and tact. You rock - and best of luck. I wish I could meet some women out here in the West with your personality. We would be great friends.

Cat
Cat

Alex...You are a very good writer! I was a bit put off with you and Simon last season (still not 100% on Simon, but he's growing on me). This season, I see you as good people who just want to make the most of your lives and when in Rome, do as the Romans! Nothing wrong with that! I would definitely read your book as opposed to the Countesses' book on etiquette!

As for internet dating...I have done some of that myself as a divorced 40 yr old. I am now engaged to British ex-pat and he is wonderful!!! I think you are brave for telling your story because people who have never tried internet dating sometimes tend to judge others harshly. But these days, it's actually one of the best ways to meet people.

Good luck with the remodel - can't way to see the finished product!!!

Meryl in Brisbane Aus
Meryl in Brisbane Aus

Hi Alex, we renovated a house here in Brisbane Aus (Paddington, ask Simon, he will know where that is lol) and we have four kids (including two under two) and we lived there there the whole time, so I feel your pain LOL :) We love you down here, I am sure if we ever met we'd get along famously, I love my husband too and he me. Good luck to you both, we love you down here in Australia :) xx Ps - I love your clothes! And Simon's too, tell him there's no way he'd be able to buy pink loafers back here!

A NEW SUPPORTER
A NEW SUPPORTER

HEY ALEX, I WAS A LITTLE PUT OFF ON THE FIRST SEASON BY YOU AND ALEX. NOW, THOUGH, I THINK YOU TWO ARE THE ONLY ONES WITH ANY CLASS. I AGREE WITH "PAM THE VIEWER",YOU ARE THE BEST-MANNERED OF THE BUNCH!

Viewer in Indiana
Viewer in Indiana

LOVE your photographs that you've shared with us .. simon's lost massive weight .. good for him .. how'd he do it? I imagine having kids probably helped .. in keeping up with them will take the pounds off quick .. I think you and Simon make the sweetest couple and good luck in the renovations!!!! I watch ya'll EVERY week!!!!

Viewer
Viewer

I think that you're parenting skills is not good enough to write a book. if ever your book is published I won't buy it. you, and Simon are so full of it, pretentious and delusional. one thing that really puzzled me is that if you own a hotel, why are you still staying at your town house during the renovations? that is not a safe place for kids and Jill was right! perhaps if you didn't spend so much on clothes you probably have some money left.

principal
principal

alex, LOVE you adn SIMON. Why...my husband and I really enjoy one anothers company and spend quite a lot of time together, shopping, fine dining, traveling to various resorts...and we are happy. Others call our love and friendship "codependency". No...Ramona has been married how many times?????? Go with your spirit love your man, your chldren. who you are.

Alisha
Alisha

Oh my gosh! I can't believe that you and your husband can drop thousands of dollars on clothes but you are too cheap to go and get a hotel while your home was being renovated. I thought the conditions were not fit for your kids. I totally agreed with Jill. You should have left the apartment while it was being renovated. Other than that I like you and Simon. But sometimes I think you both are in denial on somethings.

maryViewer
maryViewer

Love The Show and I love all the house wives it goes to show how many differant presonalites are aroundd or maybe how differant people react differantlly. Alex what i woul d give if my husband of twenty years(who loves me very much in his own way ) would go shopping and dote over me as Simon does you. It is not all men can do this. tAnd you are so both so non judgemental. Not shallow, anyway i enjoy all aspects of the show.

Viewer
Viewer

Alex and Simon,

You actually show an example of a loving couple and great parents. No one else on the show has such a strong, supportive relationship. I think it's great that you are partners, and it's too bad that others are so rude. Stay strong together.

Cara
Cara

Alex, I tpically don't spend too much time doing things like this (with an 18 month old running manic, as I am sure you understand), but I actually felt compelled to tell you that I think that you are ver decent person, and I feel like if we met we would be great friends. I am not the type of person to speak negatively of others, but I think that someof the other women (Ramona) are rude, indecent, and need to focus more on their own lives instead of trying to bring other people down so that they feel better. I hope you truly never let it bother you the things they say, and continue to be the good person that you are.

FanFare
FanFare

Dear Alex,

I think the time you spend away from your "Siamese Twin" is time well spent. You show a more independent side. You show a wiser person who can think and speak for herself. Consider doing more things without Sir Simon. The viewers get to know a bit more about your own personal thoughts and life experiences. When you are only with him, you appear like an unsure wallflower. Is that the image you wish to project? 'Not sure about your upcoming book plan. Raising boys in Manhatten is nothing ground breaking. Frankly, you have subjected them to enough exposure to publicity already. You don't want to create a monster (or 2)...

jessica the Minnesota viewer
jessica the Minnesota viewer

Alex & Simon, you are awesome. Even though I'd have to say Bethenney is my favorite on the show simply because she reminds me so much of myself, you two really have it going on. Don't listen to the haters. The two of you really seem to have the ultimate relationship. And who cares if your always together, isn't that what marriage & commitment is all about? And despite bad BravoTV editing, I believe that your children are two very well mannered, smart boys. The VanKempen (I think that's the name that flashed upon the screen) clan and the way you treat eachother is precisely what I wish to have when I decide to marry and start a family. Stay true, America loves you for it. XO.

PS: If it's not possible for neither you or Simon to be physically IN the apartment during the renovations, I'd recommend that you at least get a friend or neighbor to stop by a few times a day and check on the process.

Viewer
Viewer

I really like you and Simon and think you are trying to be good parents. However, you two aren't doing anything new/anything that most parents are already doing/trying. Buying them books beyond their age levels/scope of interest is not good for anyone but you to have on your bookshelf. Your kids are too young and you two have not had enough experience, yet, to say what does/doesn't work..Write a book when they are past their teens and you have some "real" parenting experiences/successes and pitfalls!! Enough of the books and infomercials on this show. No one but Bethenny has any education/expertise in any area to write a book. Ramona is already hawking her jewelry on QVC, Jill sells tee shirts, her fabrics, and LuAnn has no business writing about etiquette/manners. All of you are starting to look like cash cows/stalkers for using this show to "sell" anything you can. Don't follow this crowd. Spend time with your kids until you have been parents long enough to have any experience/educated opinion on how to raise kids.. Every seems to know" what kids need when their kids are little and they are in total control. Work on your kids' behavior and manners and see how they fair after 4th grade or so when teachers, etc., start to really see which kids have absorbed any knowledge/experience/transference/generalization/application of learned behavior.. when they have to start critical thinking. Many kids look brilliant/smart when they are little sponges and that can change when they pass all of those critical window stages and have to start applying what they know. Ask any teacher/most parents. That's when the true IQs and intelligence starts to show..Letting your kids have a lot of creative play and good children's literature and reading TO them is the best thing you can do right now. Forcing them to speak many languages and read books they have no interest in will just turn them off to learning. I have worked on Child Study Teams for 30 years..believe me.. I have seen it all. Pushing kids/filling their heads with things to memorize,etc. doesn't help them. Follow them/listen to them and their interests and present them with the appropriate tools/toys and creative and cooperative play with others.. And read/cook/talk WITH them.. Your time is what they need and want most right now..and time to play with other kids their age.

marge
marge

Alex: My kids are electrians that do work on $$$$ dollar homes and I'm very proud of them. However, everything they've told me is you never leave and let contractors alone at your home. Stay on top of them or they'll take advantage of them. If you're the general contractor. Be the general contractor and take CONTROL OF YOUR HOME. good luck and be firm with these guys. You can do it.

patty
patty

I adore you Alex and your Husband. How lucky you are to have such a caring and compassionate man. I don't know how or why the "gay" rumors started regarding Simon but I find him absolutely charming and adorable. How refreshing to see a man that is so comfortable in his skin that he spends time at the Spa, with his wife!!

Alex, you have such a talent for writing. Reading your blog is refreshing and so enjoyable. I can't wait for the book! I must admit that I was horrified when I saw the mis-behavior from your son in episode 1. I now understand that it was the intention of the producer/editor to hi-lite that scene for obvious reasons...it created reactions...lots of them!

Good luck to you and Simon with your home. I will certainly be checking out the web site.

Tina
Tina

Seriously, you and Simon are the only real ones on this show. Even when you have been pushed in a corner not once have you verbally bashed the others as they have you. You and Simon should also write a book on how to be a decent human being since it appears that you two are the only ones on the show!

Ozzy Girl
Ozzy Girl

Your honesty about how you and Simon met is refreshing and beautiful. Thank you for being a real woman who is not ashamed of owning her own pleasure. Right on!

I see Simon treat you so wonderfully. He speaks to you with respect. How nice it must be to married to such a handsome gentlemen.

Peace 1st - Oz

midclasswife
midclasswife

Alex, I love watching another couple who are best friends! My husband and I do everything together. We do not have "girls night" or "boys night" yet we have every night - together night! You and Simon are well read, well spoken people, which I believe sets people who not on the "inferior....defensive" - viewers and other housewives on the show, included. I understand that you are both working full time and bringing up children; this together is a very hard job, yet keeping your husband and wife relationship - high up on your to-do list - is quite a challenge - and your score.....Bravo!

Lucelle
Lucelle

Last season, everyone made fun of you guys for being social climbers. Myself included. This season, I think you both are AMAZING people and oh-so entertaining. Down to earth, articulate individuals and you've gone from 0 to 100 in my book. Can't wait for next week:)

Pam the Viewer
Pam the Viewer

Alex, I find you refreshing. You seem honest and have great manners. You don't seem as much as a barracuda-gossiping snippet like a couple of the others. I would ignore Ra-MOAN-a who is teaching her kid to be a creep. I mean, really, putting a kid that age in those shoes? Stupid.

Anyway, you keep plugging along. You are the best-mannered of the bunch.

Julia C
Julia C

Alex, I love watching the show. I was so relieved to see how many other viewers agree with me. The relationship you and Simon share is truly inspirational. After seeing the two of you interacting with your boys, it infuriates me to hear Ramona say that you 'have no depth.' She should be looking in the mirror when she says that. She could take a lesson in etiquette from the both of you. I may not be rich, but even I was raised with better manners than her. I guess her parents never taught her that sometimes it is better to keep your opinions to yourself. She looks like a fool when she spouts off. I love the way that you put family first. My husband and I are very close and have been married for ten years. Some people don't understand why we want to spend so much time together, but we don't care. Keep up the good work, and hopefully some of your character will rub off on others.

Viewer from Georgia
Viewer from Georgia

Hi Alex,

Finally I think people are beginning to see that you and Simon are nice people. I thought the editing from your backyard blow-up pool to Ramona's pool was fabulous. Ramona thinks your fake??? LOL! What could have been faker than that scene in Ramona's pool? There you and Simon are happily cooling off and Ramona is faking a Simon and Alex scene. What a riot. Love you and your family. Good luck with your renovation.

Anne
Anne

Alex, I think you and Simon make a great couple and seem so genuine whereas the other housewives on the show drive me nuts. I was shocked how rude Jill was when she came to see your renovations! I can't wait to see your townhome when it's finished. I think Bethany is two faced and LuAnn needs to read a book on "class" if she really wants to be a countess. The scene in the taxicab was TOO MUCH! But, it all makes for good entertainment and I love watching the show!

Viewer
Viewer

Who decides what is normal? Society does. This as you know starts from way up top of the CEO and Goverment, all the way down to the street venders. I am proud of you for living a life that you enjoy. It is yours Alex. The way you do not conform to what the others wanted you to be like is wonderful. If we all relaxed and were ourselves more, think of how life would be? Isn't that part of the problem for single people? They act the way others should see them based on what society has been taught was the best, or suitable for you? When we do let our guard down and be ourselves, we find that if you take the roof off of everyones homes, we all have the same issues. It is how we deal with them that shows class and character. I commend you and Simon on being good people in the world, and helping our country prosper. Best of luck to you both, and I hope that people find out that you started the book in 2004. I would have loved a contemporary view of raising kids insted of just Dr.Spock. All great books, but it is so repetitive. Anyway, just my two cents...

EWard
EWard

Alex

You are more grounded and humane than the other housewives. I've grown to respect both of you as a couple. Ramona is mean-spirited. You showed a lot of class at the fashion show by brushing off Ramona's rudeness. You, go girl!!!!

Anne
Anne

Alex,

I watched the bonus video clip where Francois goes to his first day of school and it seems like you have a realistic view of your son. I actually have a daughter the same age, (really- same birth month/year) and I could totally relate where you said he's ahead in some things, behind in others, and it doesn't seem right to judge a child's abilities in kindergarten. How true when they change so fast at this age!

You seem to have received a lot of grief about your children. I'm sure the cameras purposely caught your kids acting up, and if you disciplined them, they didn't show it. You and Simon definitely seem like caring and involved parents.

Mi
Mi

Wait, I swear on the first season Alex told how they met... and it wasn't online, I thought it had something to do with business... I'm sure I am right.

Eric Fluellen
Eric Fluellen

I believe you and Simon have a strong sense of yourselves and a personal depth of one another that I admire, and if Romona or anyone continues to speak bad of you and Simon, just tell them they have right to their personal opinion and walk away.

Viewer
Viewer

Alex,

Why do you want to be in a reality show? Is it for the 15 minutes of fame? Is it for trying to break into the NY social scene? C'mon - this is silly. Live your life outside the spotlight and be normal. All those crazies are not for you. Be real and I mean R E A L.

Kate
Kate

To be honest, when the show started and throughout the first season I thought you and Simon were a big "off", but as the second season progresses and we see more of the human side of you both, I read the blogs both of you write (good writing, by the way1), and see the others for what they really are as well, I'm thinking more that you two are the most real and the most relateable.

Thanks for being real!

Viewer
Viewer

Alex you are my fave out of all the housewifes. You and your husband seem to be the most real out of several catty people...