Alex McCord

Alex talks renewed vows, repaired relationships, and why she's NOT a pushover.

on Jun 9, 20100

It was so touching to have a moment with Ramona and Bethenny. Who knew that over a year we’d go from anger to second chances to shared experiences to friendship?!? I truly cherish my relationships with both of them.

Jill is ... Jill. Given what she has said in the press up until April of this year, I really don’t think she is all that concerned about repairing her relationship with Bethenny – her relationship with the public is another story. I’ll give her this; she is a phenomenal spin doctor - watch what happens at the reunion. I wasn’t surprised at all when she walked away from me; it’s typical.

From where I sit in my Brooklyn office in the basement on a wet, rainy Wednesday in June, I do not think that Jill and Bethenny will make up. And really, I wouldn’t mind if they did – I don’t like to see people fighting. However, I don’t see it happening.

This season has been such a wild ride. For myself, I learned that sometimes when you deal with people who just don’t or can’t listen, sometimes you have to hit them over the head with a verbal two-by-four in order to make yourself heard. In reality TV sometimes walking away from unpleasant situations causes people to get the wrong idea – ie that their behavior is acceptable or that you’re afraid to call people on the carpet when they do or say things that are not OK. I usually give people chances until I bleed, but eventually you have to change tactics if what you’ve done before isn’t working. I used to excuse myself. Unfortunately people assumed I was a pushover because of it, so the one thing I’ve learned this season is that if you don’t tell people what you think, they will make assumptions that are almost always wrong. Fasten your seat belts for the reunion!

111 comments
sugarlycookie
sugarlycookie

Alex, WOW!!! You really need to stop spending your time and energy worrying about what Jill thinks. Take that time and energy and focus on your children. Plain and simple, she doesn't like you. You are trying to make a point about Jill being a mean girl, being in high school, yet YOU are the one running around making grand announcements, yearning for attention like a 16 year old girl. Yes, Jill has her faults, all of us do. Believe me baby, so do you, your husband, and YES your kids! That's what makes us human.

South Carolina Girl
South Carolina Girl

Just watched Kate and Leopold...told my husband "That looks like Alex McCord from Real Housewives!!" Sure enough, it was you!!! So loved how you have come into your own this season on RHONY!!! Would love to run into you the next time I am in NY!!! Your hair looked absolutely fabulous during the reunion!!!

Tessa
Tessa

Alex,

You looked absolutely stunning at Ramona and Mario's vow renewal! I love the dress and everything about it. Can you tell me where to buy or what the name of the designer was you were wearing?

HJ
HJ

Alex,

I'm very glad that you are down to earth and not so 1979.

Congrats on your and Simon's book, I look forward to reading it.

sueangel
sueangel

Would definitely love watching Alex and Simons own show!!

Carolyn G.
Carolyn G.

Here's a little trivia about Alex. Did you know you can see her as an extra in the Movie "Kate and Leopold" starring Meg Ryan. You can see her towards the end of the movie in the ballroom scene. I was like, Hey that's Alex. Pretty cool.

Vera
Vera

Alex, I used to adore you and Simon, however watching you this season suck up to Ramona and Bethenny to stay on the show has appalled me. Jill, is twice the woman you and Bethenny will ever be. I'm sure Bravo will not post this comment I noticed Jill didn't start receiving positive comments until she launched her new web site, shame on Bravo.

Vera

Bonnie New ORleans
Bonnie New ORleans

Love the new attitude. Great job handling Jill. Keep it up.

Love you.

Quissy103
Quissy103

Alex, you are best.......I'm glad you have a relationship with Ramona and Bethenny......I like the Andy's right side of the couch!

alopez
alopez

Alex you are a horrible person! You really need to get off the show

RitaRight
RitaRight

Alex, I'm watching the reunion... you go girl I'm on TEAM ALEX!

love you
love you

I love the 3 Musketeers, Alex, Ramona and Bethenny! I do not like the 3 strooges, Jill, Kelly and Luanne!

2exzited
2exzited

Alex stay tough. Loved you this season. Can't wait for the sitdown with the group. You showed Jill when you delivered Bethany's message; I would have done it privately, but hey it worked for me. LOVE THE DRAMA.

Kara530
Kara530

Alex, I just wanted to say that I was watching the Reunion takes, you look amazing! you're hair looks gorgeous that blonde.. Beautiful

musicmama
musicmama

Alex, you have proven yourself time and again to be both savvy and diplomatic. While others on the show pass judgements and criticisms with no concern for repercussion, you observe. I admire your fortitude and restraint. And, I enjoy watching the fun you and Simon have with one another!

Looking forward to the reunion shows!

Midwest Girl
Midwest Girl

Alex, you have a very good head on your shoulders. You're very rational and reasonable. I've enjoyed your calm presence. Your dear Simon is a lot of fun, too! I enjoy your sense of humor. Just know that you are right and Jill is wrong. I hope Jill will stop with the meanness. She says everyone else has been mean to her but, sadly, she has been awfully mean this season. Really sad when she made Bethenny cry and wouldn't give Bethenny a chance to make up with her. Oh, well, I guess that is life

Hannahbanana18
Hannahbanana18

Yuck Alex! Just admit you inserted yourself into the drama to stay on the show. Watching you confront Jill over and over was super uncomfortable; worst part of the season. Be yourself!

pscomments
pscomments

I never comment on these things, but I have to do so in this instance.

Alex, in prior seasons, I thought you were a total push-over; I cringed to see the way you handled yourself in difficult confrontational situations. I have to say, though, you have redeemed yourself in my eyes. Continue to be true to yourself, to your emotions, and never ever be a doormat.

SF Fan
SF Fan

LOVE you Alex! Some people (Jill) are trying to spin it in the press that you are just being more aggressive to desparately save your spot on the show. I can see right thru that. I"m the kind of person who is non-confrontational to a fault, but if you push and push and push, I will attack back. I can see that's EXACTLY what happened here. I am so glad you don't have to deal with that (Jill) for at least a few months and I can't wait to see you back on the show next season!

scarlet
scarlet

Good for you Alex ! Love the way you stood up to Jill. I couldn't stand her snide remarks & digs with that smug grin she has when she thinks she has gotten away with it. I also love the friendship that has developed between you, Ramona & Bethany. Add Sonya to the mix & it is a fun group. Can't wait to see Pt#1 of the reunion tonight !

I do miss Simon's blogs & found them very interesting & funny. Please let him know we miss them

Peace & happiness

scarlet
scarlet

Good for you Alex ! Love the way you stood up to Jill. I couldn't stand her snide remarks & digs with that smug grin she has when she thinks she has gotten away with it. I also love the friendship that has developed between you, Ramona & Bethany. Add Sonya to the mix & it is a fun group. Can't wait to see Pt#1 of the reunion tonight !

I do miss Simon's blogs & found them very interesting & funny. Please let him know we miss them

Peace & happiness

LindaLou2
LindaLou2

I agree with Nancy 708. Last year you were my least favorite but I must say that this year I watch it because of you. I logged on today after reading somewhere that you would not be on the show next season. If there is truth in that shame on Bravo - Kelly & the COUNTESS should go Those 2 were the fuel behind the crazy Jill fire this season and made her my least favorite. Good Luck to you both Alex & Simon

k217
k217

can't wait for the reunion!

Tricia - Upstate NY
Tricia - Upstate NY

Ignore any comments against you regarding Jill. You have been more than gracious!!!! Go ALEX!!!!

kikz
kikz

I have made a complete turn around on my perception of you. The first couple of seasons you and Simon came off as a couple of self-involved clothes horses. This season you have stepped up at all the right times. You have actually been the voice of reason in situations that are completely out of control. If most of these women reviewed tapes of the show, and were honest, they would see themselves saying the things they later deny. I haven't found that to be true for you. Sure the all the sniping makes for fun televison but some of the women are in extreme denial about their authenticity.

Kwane28partyof3
Kwane28partyof3

You are one of the few people that i watch the show for. Dont let Team Jill get to you. Continue with your life, jill needs to get out of the mind set of shes living her life always in high school.

JJNewton
JJNewton

Shame on you for your decision to deliver Bethenny's get-lost message to Jill. You had a lot of (rightful) pent of anger towards Jill and rather than confront her privately with it you blasted her in a way that made a fool of you. That was high school. Learn from it and move on.

lollipop
lollipop

Alex this was all for TV the way that Bethanny and Ramona especially Ramona talked about your family and you forgave them but you want us to believe that Jill is the monster, All of you play to the camera you have not taking the high road, you have jumped on the same express as everyone else .

weezy
weezy

Alex, I just watch the clip of you and Jill,I must say Romana and Bethany have said many things through out all 3 seasons ,who are you kidding.Luann is the one who said things about your kids not Jill,so why are you not attacking her?I liked you before but now you are speaking and living through others.

Liz Neuch
Liz Neuch

Alex, you need to give "The Countess" and her court jester, Jill, some etiquette lessons!

Snarky S
Snarky S

Alex,

For the most part, I have always liked you and Simon. I was happy that this season Bravo did not put so much emphasis on what we have seen in the past - social climbing. I grew up in Brooklyn and always found it a wonderful place and close enough to Manhattan to get my dose when needed.

To all those who question how Alex, Bethany and Romona became such good friends when in the past there was no real friendship.....ummmmmmmm.....what's your point? People grow and friendships grow. I have seen Alex be such a good friend to Bethany this season - way before her blow up with Jill. Did I think she needed to deliver the message to Jill from Bethany the way she did, where she did it? NO....I wish it had not gone down that way. I think Alex had reached her boiling point and just let the words spurt out and there was no stopping her.

Maybe Jill will look at herself before the next season starts and realize that she needs to filter...needs to be a better person...a better friend. Seriously - - look at some of the things she said to 'the Countess' this season. If Lulu could go with anyone else, I think we would have seen her slowly disengage with Jill and Kelly.

Anyway, best wishes to you Alex and your family!

Tampa Housewife
Tampa Housewife

Alex

I guess everyone has their own point of view so no matter what you do, someone will find fault with you. In my opinion, you're a wonderful person and you've handled all the difficult situations you've been in this season as best as possible. Good luck and best wishes to you, Simon and the boys! Oh, and I agree with the viewer who said she'd love to see a show about just your family. I love the few scenes from the show with you and Simon just hanging out at home.

LOVE, LOVE, LOVE to you!

nancyjax
nancyjax

Alex, You and Simon were so refreshing this season! I really enjoyed watching your journey on the show. The next book that you should write is about life lessons on a reality show!

Viewer_in_N_AL
Viewer_in_N_AL

Alex,

Love you, love Simon!!! Really hope that you two are featured on Bravo in the future sans Jill, Kelly, and LuAnn.

Please Bravo: more Alex, Bethenney, LESS LuAnn, KELLY, and JillZarinJillZarinJillZarin (sound check)

CThousewife
CThousewife

You go girl!!! from the preview for the reunion I LOVE the way you let Jill have it... refreshing to hear the truth... thanks Alex.

Jamie NC
Jamie NC

Definitely most sincere, along with Ramona.

Alex, I would watch a reality show about you, Simon, and the kids. I think I'll pass that word on to the execs at Bravo as well.

Well done. Reality TV is not easy, but you've kept your class and sense of self. Brava!

Kimmie2
Kimmie2

As someone mentioned before, the longer the seasons go on--and I pray RHONYC ends, except you will go over to Bethenny's show---the more the viewer gets to see the personalities. You're a class act. Think back to the beginning episodes and the beginning of Season 2--your husband had Jill's number all along. He saw right through her to see how common she really was, regardless of Bobby's money.

weezy
weezy

Alex, I liked before but you have become someone who doesn't speak for herself.ALL the other housewives have said worse about your kids and family, and that is fine with you. Stand up for yourself and not anyone else.

ruth47
ruth47

Alex, I have always found you to be smart, funny, pretty, and real voice of calm in some of this craziness. I like Simon too. Your kids are normal, too bad Jill and LuAnn do not understand what 2 small boys find interesting. I look forward to the reunion show and the next season. I want to see more of you, Simon, the kids, Ramona, Mario, Sonya, Jen and her kids. I can do without Kelly forever, Jill and LuAnn in small doses only. Poor Bobby, he seems so nice. Well, keep up the wonderful blog and have a great summer.

Portiafromgeorgia
Portiafromgeorgia

Alex, Hope this gets posted-mine never do!!

I have never considered you a pushover-ever! I think you have always spoken up-you are just not a reactive person. Just my opinion. Best wishes.

M3
M3

Oh no Alex, what happened? You went from being muy simpatica to antipatica in the time it takes for you to break out in hives.

As articulate as you are you have not been able to logically convey why forgiveness for some but not for others.

If the rumors of your departure from RHONY are correct then one must suppose this was simply the manner in which you preferred to exit.

Looking forward to the first part of the reunion tonight.

Andie
Andie

Alex, I used to dislike you and Simon in season 1, and then when he partnered with Jill to play tennis with Ramona and Mario, he won me over with his kindness and charm. I know he had the flu that day, but he gave it his all and was dignified in the face of their obnoxious behavior. You're lucky to have such a wonderful husband and I wish you and your adorable boys all the best. Love from Andie!

Viewer from OK
Viewer from OK

Alex - have you noticed that Jill does this hanging on to people to make the camera notice her - danging something for attention - just like you play with a cat? Season one and two Jill had B to back her up. When she was saying something or did something - that we are seeing this year - I don't think she is really any different this year as before - we are just now seeing what or who she really is.

Have a good summer and if you get so busy I have a daughter who is just working part time let me know.

Tiger77777
Tiger77777

Team Alex/Bethenny/Sonja/Ramona! Can't wait for the finale tomorrow!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

KathrynC
KathrynC

Alex, You are a talented writer. I enjoy reading your blogs, they are cohesive, interesting and comprehensive. I knew from Season 1 that both you and Simon were good people and was offended when people were critical of you. Yes, there was a lot of the status stuff but you both came through as good folk underneath the superficial. You are a thoughtful person and that seems kind of lacking in many others in reality tv. I too was a fan of Jill last year and if I were to put myself on a team it would have been hers. I actually found Bethenny annoying - well things have changed. I know appreciate Bethenny and find Jill to be petty, calculating and desperate (just not likable) and I just don't trust her. Anyway, carry on and thanks for showing us your family.

Alexie
Alexie

I love you so much. You and Simon are so classy. I cannot believe Jill's behavior for this season. My favorite momment this season was when you and Jill got into it at Jen's house, you sure told her (YOU ARE A MEAN GIRL AND YOU ARE IN HIGH SCHOOL!!!) LOL I loved that and by the way you always look HOT in everything you wear you are so beautiful. LOVE,LOVE,LOVE you. P.S your sons are so adorable.

Lots of love from St. Croix U.S Virgin Islands

LG
LG

Alex-please explain how Bethenny and Ramona were forgiven for outright dehumanizing your family yet Jill's little digs caused you to declare war on her? You just said you don't beleive in fishing for camera time. Then what do you call focusing all your anger on one person when the entire cast doesn't think very highly of you? Let's not forget how desperate Bethenny thinks you and Simon are to be Manhattan socialites. Does the A/C comment ring a bell?

JY
JY

Jill made mistakes but they at least they were honest mistakes. You may even believe everything your saying because it's all working out pretty well for you now but even my Mother who watched Housewives for the first time the other day said she couldn't believe that Bethenny can't see through Alex. You lashed out at Jill at the party then you try to talk to her at Sonja's event then you can't stand the sight of her on the island then you try to talk to her at the wedding - I mean - whatever.

rhoal
rhoal

alex, as we've come to expect, another articulate and interesting blog from you. please tell simon that we miss his perspective SO much...what happened to his blogs? if you both aren't back for season 4, i'm not watching! ps...took your book to the beach and finished it in an afternoon. loved it.