I’m racing to get this blog in before Simon and I meet Derek at Design on a Dime for Housing Works, which, if you live in NYC, is a GREAT place to get home furnishings at very reasonable prices, where the proceeds all go to help end the twin crises of AIDS and homelessness. This weekend the chums and Simon and I will be in CT and Boston for book signings – if you’re in the area, please come and see us as we’d love to meet you!
At the Cocktails and Couture party, I was happy to bring along a few dresses, including one of my Cavalli gowns. I was greeted by LuAnn, who wondered why I delivered Bethenny’s message to Jill and stated that I shouldn’t choose sides. I was surprised by her statement as LuAnn definitely chose sides herself – that was a “do as I say, not as I do” proclamation. Although I was conflicted about having delivered Bethenny’s message in front of the other women, I don’t think LuAnn has ever expressed remorse for passing Jill’s feelings to Bethenny, for lurking on speakerphone or for telling Jill’s story about my boys at Ungaro. Nor did I ever ask LuAnn who made her God after any of those incidents. Bizarre. I agreed that I’d be willing to talk to Jill about it.
More people arrived and Bobby pulled me aside. Out of the whole group, Bobby is the one whose opinion of the situation would have held the most weight, and I was completely open to hearing him out. Having done so, I reiterated that I would find Jill and speak to her.
Let’s be clear. I did understand that I had embarrassed Jill in front of the group. I was not sorry about relaying B’s message to her, but willing to accept responsibility for the way in which it came out. With that, I approached Jill later during the party. She didn’t want to talk. For those who have been following this whole mess online, Jill commented at one point that sometimes when someone offers to talk “she doesn’t want to make up yet.” Personally, I don’t play that game – it’s passive aggressive. You either want to talk, or you don’t. She didn’t.
Your attack on Jill doesn't make sense. All of the Housewives have made belittling comments about your family, including Bethenny and especially Ramona, why single out Jill. She helped you with your curtains last year, she came to your party, she donated to your charity. I mean, this is what was on camera and I seriously doubt that you all spent much time together outside of the show. It was obvious that Jill and Bethenny were two friends going through a very bad time with each other. As with all arguments - neither is all right or all wrong, other people understood that - Ramona understood it.
Alex, I have so much more respect for you after watching this episode. I am so glad that you called Jill out on her gossiping about such a tragic event and not allowing her to brush you aside. I wish you all the best and you are a true class act.
Great job tonight Alex. You are real and genuine, and Jill is a trainwreck...I'm so tired of listening to her play victim, instead of her listening to why people are so VALIDLY upset with her. I don't understand why anyone could side with her immature selfish ways.
if i come to the boston signing of your book can you please write "SUCK IT JILL!"? I can't say enough how eloquent and awesome you are!
I am a huge fan of yours - you know how to communicate without getting defensive. You are so gracious! The other ladies could learn a lot from your skills!
alex your my favorite housewife!! your so real and such a good friend. You and bethennys relationship is great. &+ i appreciate what you did with jill. i agree she needs to shut up and think about other people. you are such a good role model.
Stay strong and classy Alex! I am proud of you for standing up for yourself and to Jill, the gossip is sooooo poisonous!!!!!!!
I may not agree with the way you relayed the message (and I think you took a joke a little too seriously) but I respect you for having the balls that you do. Someone needed to knock Jill off her pedestal, one way or another. I really can't stand her this season. I like you, though :)
Alex, as much as the blabbermouth drama queens have caused me to dislike your show from week-to-week, I have grown to totally ADORE you more and more. BRAVO for telling Jill how it is. I'm SO glad that she's been hearing it from you, Bethenny and Ramona. The truth hurts and frankly, she deserves to hear the truth.
The NYC housewives used to be my favorite, but I am not enjoying this season so far. I watch for entertainment not to get upset. All these vicious fights and ganging up on people are stressful to watch. Jill is out of control! (She reminds me of Nene on season 2 of Atlanta believing her own hype). Jill (and Countess Crackerjacks) ARE mean girls. Yuck. Alex you are the voice of reason here. I hope you aren't leaving the show.
For the past two season, you were one of my favorite NY housewives. I am so sad to see your recent behavior. Its aggressive and intended to hurt someone else. I thought you were better than that.
Still love your husband and those beautiful boys.
It's sad that your children were caught acting up, you were called out on it, and you just can't get over it. You live in a million dollar home in Brooklyn by choice and complain about ho w you're trying to survive. If you truly want the real "Brooklyn" experience, live in a cheaper home in the section of Brooklyn where the real people live. "I work." Big whoop. Be grateful you have a job and live in an extremely nice home. Get over yourself. You went over to that poor woman's house just to transform yourself into the housewife who is trying to no longer appear "boring" so they don't boot you off of the show. Last season you had integrity. That sad thing is you've become the mean girl. You grew a set about nothing. Talking loud and saying nothing. You beat people when they're down like a scavenger. This season you let the show go to your head. :(
Alex, All I can say is how proud I am of you for saying that to Jill. She deserved all of that, if not more! Can we start a new Show for Jill...Counting Down the days til production kicks her off... I love all of you,its sad Jill has ruined the show for me and probably others.
Yeah Alex....Yeahhhhhhhhhhh..... My heart was beating soooo quickly when you were speaking to Jill at the Cocktail party. I kept thinking " please don't allow her to break you down and interrupt your thoughts" GOOD FOR YOU!!!!!!!!!!
I love you , love you, love you. people like jill will never get it, all she can see is herself not what is around her. so just pray for her and keep your balls big. sissy
Bravo Alex. Way to stand up for what's right. Jill needs a wake up call. I'm absolutely amazed at how combative she is. It's unbelievable to watch. She will dish it out, but definitely can't take it.
Alex, you are not interesting. No matter how much drama you try and create between you and the alpha female of the group, you will never be interesting.
You looked like a possessed animal during your "confrontation" with Jill. Who walks in and says, "I got your text...how could you"?
It is laughable to read that you are not interested in the high school antics. Your behavior on this last episode was just that...high school.
Catch a clue and get a life.
Well done Alex!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Get away from Jill, Kelly and LuAnn---THEY ARE TOXIC!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! That "circle of friends" is not a good circle hon- better get out of it vamooze!
ouch...this is no longer enjoyable to watch. All of you have shown your true character and none are impressive. Except I really like Sonja...keeping my reality tastes to MTV, its more adult!
I support you all the way! You're the only person that makes sense on this show. You make me proud to be a New Yorker.
As the seasons go on, I find myself liking you more and more! I think you got a raw deal in the first season! I appreciate that you are not cookie cutter people like some of the others. I so admire you! You are truly yourself, no matter what!
Bethenny asked you to do her a favor, and you did. I would not feel guilty about saying anything in front of the group, as they did the same thing to you in many situations! There is only so much you can take before you have to give a little back!
Keep being true to yourself....You are awesome!
BRAVO BRAVO BRAVO Alex, You were awesome, its just too bad the "Countess" was not included. Jill deserved everything you said to her. I loved when you said you were working in Brooklyn. I jumped off my couch and yelled "Yes, one for the working moms." Did you notice the camera went to Sonia rolling her eyes when you said this!!! Thats because Jill and Sonia are two woman who got ahead marry rich men. You on the other hand are what we middle class working moms can relate to!!! Thank you Thank you thank you. you made my day!! Carol
BRAVO to you, Alex, for standing up to a bully (Jill)!! You have more warmth and class in your little finger than Jill will ever have. She has made so many contradictory remarks on the show that my head spins when she talks. I honestly find it hard to believe that she doesn't know how awful she treats those she claims are friends. You and B are so much better off without her (or Luann for that matter) in your lives. You two are the only REAL people on the show and I applaud you for toughing your spine and giving it to Jill...I only wish you had thrown your wine on her like she deserves!!
Alex,I'm not sure Jill is right. But I absolutely think you are wrong. I tend to be a very outspoken person, but I have to work very hard at not hurting peoples feelings. I believe with all my heart you hurt Jill's feelings. And I know that could not have made you feel good about who you hard. Unfortunately I have lost a lot of respect for who I thought you were.
Wow. Just wow! I'd have said the same thing you did this week. It wasn't cool last week how you told Jill what Bethenny said, in front of everyone. But this week, yeah - you had to say what you said.
And Jill's response made me want to puke. I agree, time to walk away from that!
Speaking of not hearing- you didn't hear word Bobby said. You don't want to believe that Jill heard you- but we all did- we just didn't like what you said.
Right on Alex! Jill is mean spirited and she deserved what you did! She wouldn't even hear you out. Why must EVERYTHING be on her terms? She really needs to get over herself!!!
Alex, kudos to you for attempting to stand up to jill!! too bad she is incapable of accepting your intent as she lives in some parallel universe in which she is apparently the queen of the world. i have never been one to write to a show on tv, and NYC housewives has always been just a guilty pleaser...until now! jill has created such a histrionic character (that's the only way i can describe her without using inappropriate language) that it's almost unbearable to watch anymore. thank you (and simon and bethenny) for bringing humanity to the show!!
Loved it!! Even though Jill can never seem to shut her trap - she still got what you were trying to say and so did everybody else. She knows she is in the wrong and is hanging on for dear life. It is great how you have stayed true to yourself and have managed to stay a "good" (in the RHNY world) person with all that circles around you. Be strong and dont let Jill scare you. She is a bully who needs to be taken down!
Bravo Alex. You've been showing your true colors and they are consistent and beautiful. Stay strong.
You did good. You gave a good lesson is staying true to yourself and sticking to your guns! You go girl!!!! Have a Happy Mothers Day Weekend
Alex, you are the best!!!! I am so tired of Jil's attitude and fake innocent act. She won't listen to you because you are right and she knows it. I think you and Simon are wonderful together and I wish you and your family all the best.
so proud of you! you were spot on with what you said to Jill and I give you credit for being the only person to actually tell her the TRUTH to her face! ugh...she is in High School!!
Way to go alex, unfortunately Jill will no learn from anyone, she will simply move on to others that she can 'Direct' along her path of jills way or the Highway.
Alex,Your a wonderful friend to Bethenny,I Hope she knows that.Dont feel bad about what went on between you and Jill.Girl YOU HAVE BIGGGG BALLS.
Alex, thank you for telling Jill that she is in highschool! What happenned to her? All she does is talk about everyone- she needs to be told to grow up- thank you! She's the toxicity in her own life- little does she know b/c she thinks the world revolves around her!!!
Hooray for you Alex. You are my hero. For all the gals who have been afraid to stand up to women like Jill, I applaud you. I hope to come to Georgia, SC or NC. Would love to see you and have you autograph my copy of your book.
Alex, you ROCK. Thank you for telling mean gossip girl Jill off. I have been waiting for this since the 2nd or 3rd episode. How dare countless Luann tell you not to take sides when she's been doing it from day 1. Way to gooooooooo.
I think this season is your best season yet i just would like to see you home more with the family life i really enjoy you with your kids !!! Everything you said to jill was spot on and im glad you tried your best to get your poing across considering jill is a child and doesnt like anyone talk. Stay the way you are , you are a good person and a very honest person!