This is an example of the way Jill plays. Jill is a mean girl, not a stupid girl, and she knows exactly what she is doing. Every time she goes on the attack against me or anyone else, she says something that she hopes will damage her target’s life or career. It’s really, truly dirty. She attacked our book. She has attacked my husband. She attacked our children. I have never once said a word about her husband, their businesses or her daughter. Not once. Ever. Have I ever been condescending to her? No. I have not. Over three years I have always been the one to be dragged back against my will to make up with someone who is underhanded and downright cruel. She has said we were never friends, but I have tried, on camera, off camera, I have invited her to events, etc. Jill is seeing red because I’m no longer willing to be under her foot like some of the other women, to be silent while she freely leaks stories to the press. On the same day a few weeks ago, Jill wished me well on Facebook while also calling a reporter and screaming at him because he interviewed me without her permission. When I called her out over Amazongate in Boston and posting under the pseudonym Susan Saunders; she denied something she wasn’t accused of (being J. Samples) in order to confuse people. In this same blog post, she went after Bethenny again and please note that her post was written after tonight’s episode, complete with teary hug, was filmed. This is hypocritical, and standard Jill Zarin.
Want some examples? Let’s review. January 2010 – Simon told a reporter who asked that he didn’t know why Jill was at Sundance. Less than a week later, even before season three was on the air, a blind item by the same reporter said Simon and I were off the show. Is her name on this one? No, but the reporter who wrote both is a friend of hers. Previously, an article in New York Magazine contained a comment by Simon that Jill felt was unkind. Shortly thereafter, she attempted to crucify him professionally by making up a story that sounded believable enough to cause him trouble. As she said on season two with a snarl, "If you hit me, I’ll hit you back." If you throw a spitball at her, she aims an AK47 at your entire family and livelihood. I remember when we filmed the skating event with Johnny Weir in CT - Kate Gosselin’s bodyguard wouldn’t let Jill into the bathroom until Kate came out, making her wait. A seething Jill came back and whispered the story in my ear, finishing with "I’m gonna ruin her." Because she had to hold it for a few minutes? This is the same Jill that told me not to film with Kelly in season two. Yes, Bethenny said it too, but it came from Jill first. This is the same Jill that told me not to film with Bethenny in season three. This is the same Jill who successfully made Teresa from NJ think that Ramona was attacking her one day, when Jacqueline and I could both see Jill was stirring the pot. It’s unfair, it’s nasty and it’s typical.
In St. John, had Jill acknowledged my presence whatsoever, I would have tried to find a way to salvage the situation. She strode in and shouted "Surprise! Hey, Ramona! Surprise!" She walked over to my chair and stood with her back to me. She said I was "butting into her business" and I still don’t know how – by my existence that she didn’t acknowledge? At tonight’s reunion, she said leaving St. John was the worst thing that’s ever happened to her. Worse than cancer? Worse than losing a family member? Really? No. Not really. But typical.
I have no doubt whatsoever that Jill will try every trick in her playbook to get me fired – she would love nothing more than to crush me, Simon and the boys because that’s what she likes to do to people. She’s put down the gauntlet already. As I’ve shown this season, I won’t sit silently anymore, and I hope that her playing dirty doesn’t pay. Watch what happens. Follow me on Twitter and feel free to tweet Andy and Bravo your thoughts about all this. To keep up with what we’re doing in the off season, including appearances on Bethenny’s Getting Married? , add us on Facebook. Have a great summer!
Yeaaa Alex -- I am so pleased to see you clearly know what Jill is up to. She is a mean girl and she probably has some viewers snowed but not me. She seems to be chanelling (wink) all of her negativity to you. I think she thinks you are an easy target - now THAT is what a bully makes. Blech. Keep your chin up. Your family is beautiful!!
Hi Alex, All I can say is WOW! What a season. You are very classy and I do not think u will be fired. I have had friends like some of your star mates,so I know how you feel. Enjoy life with your hubby and handsome two sons and take all you hear with a grain of salt. Life is too short for all that drama. Have fun on the show promote your charities,book and anything else you and Simon create. The best to you and your family always and come to Aventura Florida. LUV,LUV!
Girl,Alex you are spot on!
Kelly is a complete psychopath. Every time she opens her mouth, nothing but confusion spews out.....
Jill is a hypocrite to the fullest. The only time I believe what she says is when she speaks to Bethenny. I also find it amusing that she calls her actions "MISTAKES"! There is only what you do and don't do. No such thing as a mistake. Precalculated actions are not mistakes.
LuAnn, she really does have class.
Have a great summer Alex!
IT'S SO FUNNY THAT JILL CAN'T TAKE YOU STICKING UP FOR YOURSELF. ALL OF A SUDDEN YOU ARE MEAN AND EVIL. IT CARCKS ME UP!
Alex, you spent too much time talking about Jill. It comes off paranoid even if it is all 100% true. Keep your head up high, continue to raise your family and rise in your career.
I am happy to see you speaking up and saying it likeit is You always look as though you would want to but sort of was too nice to express directly.
Will there be a Season 4, hope so it adds a wealth of fun, knowlege and learn new things every week.
First let me tell you that I just feel horrible for you, the way jill treated you this season, and for the way she and kelly spoke to you at the reunion. You have done the right thing, and you are not the problem. It is clear that Jill wants something from betheney, and she knows betheney will cave eventually, then she will get her 15 minutes of fame on her new show ect....She only blames you now, because she can not continue to blame betheney and still get what she wants. She is a dangerous person, and I hope you hold your ground. For her to say she could not film with you, its jill's way of trying to have the upper hand, control the outcome, and play the victim. She should apologize like and adult and stop lying and attacking you. When she went after you about how tasteless your photo's were....its was completly tasteless of her to even comment, her behavior, her looks, rolling of her eyes, supporting kelly claiming she was also bullied by you ... everyone see's the truth and she can not hide it. You have done the right thing, she has mocked and attacked your family and your kids - and in my opinon you were very gracious and she should be thankful.
Alex -- this is my first post ever, but i think you are great, you are a great mom and a great friend to the other girls. i hope that veiled threats from other cast members aren't allowed to determine your future on the show; best to you and simon, i hope you have a great summer and look forward to seeing you on the next season!
You sounded very guilty when Jill confronted you during the show that you were spread eagle in the hall of the hotel your husband manages. You barely protested her accusing you of this and you looked very guilty.
Why are you so hateful toward Jill. Are you jealous of what her relationship was like with Bethany and are fearful they will become friends and Bethany will drop you?
Gezzz your really pist. We all know how Jill is so there is no need to give us all the links we know. LoL no offense but we ALL got Jill's number. She does fight dirty though. Good luck on the battlefield. : )
LOVE you Alex & wish you and your Family all the BEST !!!! I agree with you on all things Jill - I think most people DO see through her mean games - hang in their and do not give up on calling her out - evil cannot prevail !!!
Alex, Don't worry about what Jill said or says to you. I think that any sane human being sees right through her. I, too, took her comments about your "photos", her not wanting to film with you, her blaming you for what happened the day she "showed up" on St. John, as nasty, childish, and a futile effort to get the viewers to turn on you. We love you, and Jill truly has shown and is showing her true colors. I'm not as nice as you, though. I do not think that Jill is happy for Bethenny, but she knows how her behavior backfired this season, hence, she has to try to come off as a true penitent where Bethenny is concerned. Notice how she patronized Bethenny on all 3 reunion shows, yet was pretty mean to you and Ramona. Poor Jill, the victim. You know what is particularly scarey to me? Jill feeds into Kelly's pathology, whereas you four girls keep telling her to get help....and she needs it. But if she gets better, she may stop being Jill's lap dog. Keep telling it like it is!!! Susan
Alex... I am glad you found your voice... you are one of the three that can clearly express yourself well both verbally and in written form.... You are a great balance and contribute a lot to the show... stay true to yourself... as you can see.... once the "real" people see who you are... they really want to be around you.. what a compliment... you compliment who you are with, if they are soulful people..... the show would not be the same without you... you do not contridict yourself and just expect a certain level of social grace... clearly.. others don't know what that is... like the countess says "money can;t buy you class" maybe that song was written to allow you to be comfortable with yourself??? have a wonderful summer... can't wait to see you next season....
Alex you are so true about Jill being the mean girl and as seen it has ruined a very special friendship, thank heavens Bethany had you and Ramona and Sonya to lean on it proved who the true friends were, as for Kelly she is just wacked and there is no other way to explain, i hope that you will still appear on Housewives because you have shown what it is to be a true friend, enjoy your time with Simon and the kids
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE come back next season! I think you're great! Love seeing the progressive fashions that you and Simon are always wearing! Really disappointed that I couldn't adjust my plans for while you were in the DC area!
Alex, if you leave, I'm gone too. The show would be so much better without Jill's and Kelly's psychosis.
You are more confident than ever! Your inner and outer beauty radiate! Keep up that confidence girl! It’s working for you! However, make sure it doesn’t turn into cockiness :)
Alex, I love reading your blogs. You, Ramona, Bethenny, and Sonja I enjoyed watching this season. I hope you and Simon come back to Florida for a book tour.
Just finished watching part three. Alex is still my favorite. She carries herself with true class. She was there for Bethenny when she really needed a friend. She's a cool lady. I get tips from watching her deal with the other ladies and nuts on how to deal with the ladies and nuts in my office. Thanks girl.
Alex! they won't let you go. First, I am now coming to your blog to get the real scoop. I feel you tell it like it is.
Second, I pray that Jill really internalizes this season and comes out with compassion and less anger. I think when Jill gets hurts - she gets really hurt and she has an impulsive reaction of.....revenge. Not good at all. However, I think Jill does have a good heart. I hope she can take a step back. I think the ladies drove it home. If you wanted to apologize to Bethany - she lived a block away. However, to Jill's defense. I think she loves hard and hates hard. She felt cut to the core by Beth's comment & kept a grudge. Howver, she needs to stop and she owes you a deep felt apology. I thought she was horrible to you on the reunion show - stating "we were never friends, we aren't friends." I thought how unkind! how unnecessary. I think she focuses on that you delivered a message versus why did you state that comment. You were hurt by her behavior and apparently tired of it.
Regarding Kelly, the rest of you ladies are very smart, quick and witty. I hate to sound jerky but Kelly is "young" in a lot of ways not crazy.
All the best Alex!!
I am so sorry Alex. It seems like Jill is just being mean to you because now you are the favorite housewife. That is probably the reason she was mean to Bethenny and now the only reason she wants to make up with Bethenny is because she has her own showand is the most successful housewife right now. Through the course of this season everyone has seen what Jill is about. Hopefully, Bravo will kick her off. Hold your head high and best of luck to you and your family
This is for Alex. You were great this season. Well, talk about high school. It is so obvious that Jill is jealous of your relationship with Bethenny. You've got what she can't have. I just finished watching season 3 reunion and you could read Jill like a book. Good luck next season !
Go Alex!. Jill is the biggest bully and nasty narcissist. She laid the gauntlet down tonight. It is very hard to keep track of all that she has said and done in a negative manner to everyone. On the Reunion show calling Ramona a liar in one moment and then having to say I'm sorry, it was the truth in the next. She will try to get away with whatever she can. Also - She apologized for your behavior to the hostess when you made the "high school" remark, AFTER she threw a complete hissy at Ramona for not telling her that B's dad had died. Do as I say not as I do. She is going after you because she can't handle that her wretched behavior is the cause of the dissolution of the relationship with Bethenny. Somehow you are to blame for it. An aside - Bethenny- DON"T GO BACK! She just isn't the kind of friend I would want having my back. Alex, I'm pulling for you. Hang in there.
Alex, this blog makes you look childish and like you are keeping score. You say Jill makes fun of your children. She laughed about them climbing up someone's leg. That's really not a big deal and you sound petty bringing it up like you are just trying to create a story to get people on your side.
Alex, you have changed, in the most negative way. All this blog shows is hear say causes problems and not solutions, she said he said, I'm over it. After watching these three reunion shows, I really hope you do not come back for another season.
I thought what Jill said about the naked pictures of you on tonight's reunion was horrible, and that was even before I read your blog. Jill is a mean girl. I can't stand watching her. My Dad always said "what goes around comes around" all this nasty behavior will eventually catch up with Jill. She will go to far one day and she will fall from grace, she is already seeing some of that happen with the viewers turning away from her in droves. I hope to see you back next year and Jill and Kelly gone from the show for good, enough of these two.
Go Alex! I'm sure there is a lot jealousy toward you because you have a very full and fulfilling life outside of the show. I loved to see you come into your own, and appreciate the class with which you handled increasingly juvenile and absurd situations.
Alex, I don't know how you managed to put up with Jill this long. Congratulations for finding your voice!
LOVE you, Alex! If they cut your from RHONY I'll stop watching! It's refreshing to see someone REAL like you on this show -- almost everyone else seems fake (or completely insane) by comparison!
Alex I want to see you come back to the show. You are one of my favorites. It is clear that Jill wants you out after the comment that she made at the reunion. Good Luck!
Alex, You are wonderful! I can see how you've tried to befriend her and make the best out of every situation with her (Jill). She is a horrible person. It is obvious, like Ramona said, Jill looks for the underdog. Look how she is now "friends" with Kelly. I'm glad you have taken a stand. She is a MEAN GIRL!
Way to stand up for yourself. I love you and here's hoping Bravo gets rid of Kelly and Jill instead.
Alex, you have really come in to your own! Stand your ground we are all in your corner!! Jill needs help but it looks like she is going to have to hit rock bottom before she sees the light and learns. She thinks that she has everyone snowed but we ALL see through her crocodile tears. BRAVO would be crazy to get rid of you, ironically, part of what would make it crazy is the degree to which Mz. Z. hates ya!
Right on girl! That is exactly how Jill plays. She really showed her venom when dealig with you. Project much? She needs a whipping boy and you are it. Keep up the good fight, better to go down swinging. She is awful.
I've really enjoyed you on the show from the beginning, and I'm glad you found your voice this season. If it came down to you or Jill, I'd much rather have you on the show!
I hope you win at this game. I like you Alex, and have since the beginning. You bring things to the show that the others don't. Jill is mean and immature.
Wow, take a breath....
Maybe next year you'll get lucky and Jill will leave the show. Then Bravo can concentrate more efforts to film all your gala fund raisers, charity works, social events, and lovely children.
Alex, I would seriously not be concerned about whether or not viewers can see through Jill and her "mean girl" ways. I know all my friends that watch the show think you're the most normal and certainly the most honest woman on the show. You back up your statements with specifics (so refreshing) and you're the same person no matter who you're around. Jill, on the other hand, is still seeking revenge on anyone who crosses her or she imagines slights her in any way, intentional or not, and she's still incredibly insecure for not being popular in high school. I can see why she wasn't. I, for one, will be campaigning for you to stay on the show, NOT JILL.
Hi Alex, I just loved, loved, loved you this season. I'm glad you stood up for yourself and family. True friends are hard to find and these ladies are your co-workers, so if you found at last one true friend from this experience I'm happy for you. Good Luck with your book , I can't wait to read it. As far as Jill is concerned her true colors came out tonite and once again has someone else to pick on. She's not happy with the viewers comments but yet continues to attack you . She still hasn't learned her lesson. Kelly obviously needs help.I really never liked the Countess until tonite for her honesty. Much luck to her I like her songs. The rest of the ladies I really enjoyed watching this season especially Ramona.Good luck and Many Blessings to you. From Bravo's biggest Fan ,especially NYHW.
I found you refreshing this season.... You have always been a little more down to earth and I enjoyed it. I am glad you found your voice and are calling a spade a spade. Jill is very disappointing to me and Kelly, well Kelly has problems. Stay true to yourself and family first, you will be fine. I look forard to next season with you,
Watch out Alex. It was clear tonight that you will be Jills next victim. It is Jill that should be fired,