Is your head still spinning from last week’s episode? Mine is from reliving it, and it happened six months ago. Not to mention we shot the reunion special yesterday but that’s another matter. Let’s go back to St. John in the US Verging on Crazy Islands.
Kelly and Jill seemed to have become very close this year, so after she broke down at dinner, Ramona called Jill to warn her that Kelly needed a friend, wasn’t making sense with us and perhaps Jill could reach out to her. Kelly had been asked to leave, and we all hoped that Jill might meet her in NY, and be a friend to her – help her decompress. Jill didn’t believe Ramona was serious, so Bethenny grabbed the phone to say something to the effect of “this is nothing to do with you and me but you must take this seriously – it isn’t a joke.” They hung up and we went to bed. At no time on the phone that night did Jill give any indication that she’d be showing up the next day.
Jill doesn’t like being ambushed. Cast your mind back - she said she was ambushed when Bethenny called her, and when Ramona tried to organize a summit at her apartment. What do you call her showing up in St. John? She breezed in as though it was no big deal and they were stopping by on their way to St. Barths. There is no airport on St. John – they had to fly to St. Thomas and take a boat to get to us. She said she wanted to see Bethenny before the holidays. At that time and for the previous two and a half months of filming, she lived a block away from Bethenny in Manhattan – a three minute walk.
When Jill arrived, she shouted out Ramona’s name, said hello to Bethenny and kissed Sonja. Me? She completely ignored me. Each time she glanced in my direction she shot daggers at me – it made me start to hyperventilate and nearly shut down. I shot a few daggers back at her myself, because I couldn’t believe that she waltzed in so cavalierly and refused to even acknowledge I was there. She also pretended that the phone call the night before never happened.
Please do yourself a favor and don't read the critical responses. I don't know what it is about you that makes people only see what they want to. Stay cool, stay a loving wife, mother and have fun with what you're doing.
Perhaps Jill was trying to meet in neutral territory with Bethenny's support system in place it really shouldn't have been as big a deal as you made it out to be. I'm not too sure why you were hyperventilating, that is a very passive way of not dealing with it, if you didn't want her there then you should have just said so. And I watched the reunion show and wondered to myself...why Ramona was so out of joint when she was yelling at Jill that she was given a chance when it really didn't look as though she was. But have a nice life.
Seems like yr getting quite a few disagreeable messages. What people obviously are not getting is that while yes ramona and Bethany have made rude comments in past it has been dicussed and resolved and forgiven. And what you are saying is that Jill has not been open to sitting down and resolving. In this episode her true colors come out and she is everything you have said.So much goes on out of camera view and you were trying to explain but not everyone is understanding so I say don't worry about it nor do you have to answer for yr behavior as it is very clear to many as to why you finally had to speak. And many are applauding you. Jill is very rude. You spoke up and defended yourself with as much dignity as possible. I'm also very glad to see the friendships that were formed this season.Hope to see more of you.
I am so disgusted by this season... As I read the blogs from those who love you I just wonder if they watched the same shows I did? Lets take the fact that the first show this year you were at Romona's- and getting ready to leave, and she said who's team are you on?? Trying to keep you at her place because the others didn't come. You know how bad you felt everytime that Romona and Mario had anything to say about you.... Come on.... Are you kidding me? Then Luann says it later to you? And that's all you think of? How do you dismiss the comments from Romona???? What are you getting from this? Jill was your connection to everyone in NYC!!! She was all about helping you! And this is what she gets? Wow!!! You get upset at the island because she didn't say anything to you? Well be glad she didn't because if it were me- I'd have a few things to say!! Jill I think got the bad wrap this year! And you girls are the "mean girls"!!! Your blaming Jill for some reason that you live in Brooklyn just trying to make it. While she lives in NYC???? How is that her fault?? Grow up!
Simon bowed out this year so that you would get more recognition, which is the only reason you were on so much by yourself. How would you get any if he was always present?
Why didnt you involve Jill with your fashion week? That was intentional and it was ugly on your part!
I hope your not smiling at yourself right now. You should be ashamed! And so should Bethanny!! I can't stand her anyways. Glad she is off the show!! Her mouth needs to be washed out with soap!!
Anyways- hope next season is different.
Alex, I completely understand defending yourself this season. But your a very classy lady PLEASE don't stoop to the others level. Align yourself with Sonja, now that will be the dynamic duo for Season Four.
Kelly doesn't express herself very well but I get what she was saying during the reunion and on the trip. Ramona told her to "go in the other room" to talk to her daughters on the phone but you can sit at breakfast and "text" Simon about how to fix chocolate pancakes? (which was so staged it was insulting to viewers). I think you all actually did bully Kelly on the trip. She doesn't understand why you all "jump" on her every time she opens her mouth. And, like it or, you all do that to her.
You were my favorite housewife until this season. I loved your grace, elegance and ability to look at all the goings on around you with your beautiful, intelligent sense of humor.
There is a saying that (I paraphrase): Be careful whom you choose as your enemy, as you will become like him (her).
In the First Season, Bethenny was smart and mean. Every word practically out of her mouth was cutting and cruel. She is witty like the comic Don Rickels. Interestingly, this year we saw Jill make Bethenny her enemy and what happened? Jill turned into a mean and snarky, nasty woman. Just like Bethenny was!
And now you are making the same mistake. You have taken Jill on as your stated enemy - and voila! you are turning into the mean high school girl. The poison started with Bethenny and spread to Jill and is now spreading to you.
When I first moved to NYC, I was shocked to meet someone just like Bethenny. I later learned that there is a certain New York City snarkiness that is "in-your-face, brilliantly witty - at other people's expense. Much of Bethenny's humor is over most people's heads. She chuckles as she says things, as much amused be knowing that what she is saying is only going to be understood by people with IQs over 120 (she probably thinks IQs over 150 - but no - people with IQs over 150 see her as desperately hungry), as glorying in her cruel words (aka "look how smart I am!!". Kelly, who obviously is suffering from one too many falls off her horse (post concussion syndrome causes an inability to communicate clearly and also sudden emotional swings) is TRYING to explain what I just said about Bethenny. Unfortunately there are very few people who know what I'm talking about. You, being one of the smartest of the housewives - and I include ALL of the Housewives of all the different States in this comment - should understand what I'm saying.
Do not become Jill Zarin, aka Bethenny Frankel. Jill tried, with ill success, to be Bethenny this year. Bethenny beat Jill by getting her own show. That's Jill's lesson in life. Jill, becoming Bethenny, does not a show bring. It brings a hate fan club.
Your lesson may be that if you continue snarking as you have started this season, you will be as hated as Jill is by the end of the next season.
Only Bethenny looks cute and endearing as she slices and dices people. You are a nice person. It doesn't suit you.
You would be far better off making Sonya your friend. The two of you are actually the most alike - a great attitude about life, men, sex - and both smart. You are a good person Alex - and being snarky is only going to bring you the same hell that it has brought Alex. Nice people cannot do snarky. Please, take Sonya as your role model so we can all go back to loving you as we have in the prior seasons.
Hey Alex, I love you and Simon ! I am so glad u finally exploded and told Mrs. High Society about herself. People can blog that this one wasn't a friend, blah blah blah, but I remember Bethenny going to one of your kid's Birthday party, no one else ! She helped your son put a toy together. I am so glad you guys are friends. Keep it up girl :-)
HI Alex! To heck with all the drama. I want to know where Simon is!??!! He is wayyyy more fun. Hugs to you both and congratulations on being so very sane amidst a gene pool of nuts.
I'm still trying to figure out why you dislike Jill so much. While I don't excuse her behavior this season, she really didn't start anything with you. You ambushed her a couple times, in front of other people. You had no tact or class, and that's just plain wrong. The tension was between her and Bethany, but for some odd reason you decided to get in the middle of it. I think Bethany and Jill might have been able to mend their relationship if it wasn't for all of your negativity. I understand you don't like Jill's ways, but you come off as the "mean girl" the way that you treated her this season. And by the way... you and Ramona did look very strange on the catwalk.
Oh Alex, I love you both! I have been where you have been, with the house torn up but that won't stop me from celebrating my kids birthdays ( I have seven ), to having a husband that says inappropriate ( at times ) things, but he is hysterical so I let it ride....sometimes he says things I want to say and I let him be the "messenger", to having to put up with the snubs of people "above my station" that have no clue what that really means. I just wish I had your reserve and class. I am going to buy the book you both co-authored; just wish you were coming to the Bay Area, because I would cherish a signed copy. If you ever get out here, is it okay to bring a previously purchased copy for signage? As I have indicated to the Bravo Boards, if you two are not on the roster next year, I am devoting my Thursday nights to laundry. I only have one bone to pick with you; why on earth did you give that incredible gown to Luann's charity? You KNOW the one I mean; the wearable art!!! She accepts the donation, and then lashes into you about Jill! If I were in your shoes, I would have headed back to the clothes rack and emptied a hearty glass of Merlot on the dress! PS Don't ya' just love it? Jill comments that Luann would keep on driving away from Brooklyn Fashion week if there were garbage bags by the curb, and a later episode shows her entering a former opium den with garbage by the door! Luv ya both!!! Johan face!
I agree with many who post that if you were to compare all of the hurtful "mean" things said about you , Simon and the kids by those new Best friends - it would NOT come close to a few things Jill said. You have blown it way out of proportion . Honestly , what Jill and Luann were referring to about your children that day at the dock was not as horrific as you make it out be. Bethenny says far worse ,Ramona could not even look at you and Simon last year, Jill had your back from day 1, and now you make Jill out to be the devil?? That she shot daggers your way, you say in your blog you shot them right back at her. Hypocrite. What you did to Jill this season was the "mean girl" behavior you claim to despise. Melodramatic would be your reaction to Jill showing up in the VI. Now every time I read something about the HWs you seem to be Bethenny's new designated spokesperson, the same exact thing ppl. accused Jill of. Seems to me that is Beth's M.O. she is a very needy person, but hey - social status is your M.O. hope Beth gets you some screen time. That Social ladder is not gonna climb itself ; )
Alex, I have truly enjoyed seeing you, Ramona and Bethanny get closer this season! Simon is hilarious! Can't wait for next season!
You should be very proud of yourself. You took a stand and did not let anyone change your mind. I always enjoy watching you and your family as you seem to be closer to what a real housewife is than any of the others. Good job and best wishes.
Seems like someone else needs a history lesson, too. Do you not remember how abysmally all of these women treated you not so long ago?
Alex, I'm really surprise at your commitment to Bethney when last season your comment to her was to say it to my face. I think your friendship with Bethney exsited just because Bethney was not a good friend to Jill.
The episode where you confront Jill and LuAnn about your sons climbing someone's leg, a flashback was shown that proved LuAnn said it. You are hanging onto old, imagined hurts from Jill, yet the old hateful comments from everybody else, you just ignore. I don't get you. I liked you last year and though your kids do seem to need more discipline, you usually stay above the fray and keep you classy attitude. Not this year. Wow.
Where is this weeks blog? For me, you are the nearest thing to real housewife on any of the housewife shows. I hope you continue to bring that to the show next year. Sometimes taking "it" is easier then confronting "it", but you've tried, good for you. Confrontation is a learned art, you'll learn. In the Morman polygamist cults women are taught to "keep sweet" meaning they never fight back and smile while being disregarded and belittled. We view that as abuse when we read about it but fail to see how often women are expected to do just that in our society. We have to fight back and not take "it",and not be emarressed when we voice our true feelings, even when our feelings are confrontational. Wish you, Simon and the kids well. Can't wait for the reunion show.
Alex, where's your blog this week? Yours are so to the point and you don't make excuses. We need to hear from you!
Alex, Have loved you and Simon...so funny. what the heck happened? Simon is fine, you seemed to have went left of center....i totally understand standing up for yourself...but doesnt seem to really be a reason....most of the gals have liked you....and if they didnt you just let it go..because really, didnt matter, did it? guess it does build up. but you signed up for this train wreck. I totally missed where Jill apparently said something about your kids...and I believe she said he hadnt and was backed up...you still seemed so upset...and that seemed to carry on ... hunny relax...you are fine and no need to be angry...you had it going on.... Anyway....Happy anniversary to you both....amazing couple admire your love and family......Simon you rock and crack me up.....
Grace and peace to you all
I think you are all mean girls and in high school. I liked you much better in past seasons before you fell into the sad place you are now. You used to be above the drama. I think you and Bethenny are no different than Jill and Luann.
This season was just way to painful to watch. I think that all of you behaved badly. Lets hope that next year brings some fun times. Life is to short to be mean. You would be ashamed if your children acted the way that you did.
Maybe Luann should take some etiquette tips from you, Alex. You handled yourself amazingly this season. I agree with you on Jill's motive for her "surprise" visit. She wasn't getting enought airtime being away from the trip. I guess she thought the cameras would stay on her throughout the trip. Sorry Jill. It's not always about you.
Hi Alex, I just wanted to say that your are a beautiful woman. I think that Jill needs a haircut, and to renew herself... Amy
Alex, I applaud your efforts to stand behind Bethenny and call Jill out on the carpet. I hope you learned your lesson, when you need to speak to someone (deliver a message) please do it one-on-one. I know you admitted your mistake but seems like you did it again???? Stay strong!
Alex, you are a very classy lady, not to mention, absolutely beautiful. I am very proud of you for telling Jill that she is a mean girl and is in high school. I have been screaming that at the tv the whole season, so thanks for delivering my message to her!! Ha! Why does Jill always run away? She creates drama and then when someone wants to talk to her and make her deal with it, she runs away. For example, you tried to approach her at the charity event, so she left. You tried to approach her at Romana's renewal affair, and she said no and kept walking away. I just saw a clip of the reunion, and it looks like she is walking again!! Please tell the producers to let her keep walking. I have had quite enough of her teenage behavior!!
Hey alex! I really have come to love you during this season. It seems you're going against the grain, instead of getting worse and worse with each season it seems like you've gotten better and more relaxed.I really didn't get you at first, but now you're one of my favorites! I get pissed of everytime Jill is mean to you, I don't get her, she used to be so cool.
anyways..... congrats you're a very smart well grounded woman, and I agree your blogs are great.
Alex bud out stay out of it ...what happens between Ramona and her friend of 17 years Jill Zarin. You are a trouble maker.
Alex you are class! Wonderful, beautiful person you are, you can teach the Countless Da Loseit about the true definiton of ellegance and class.
Bravo Alex! You're very classy in my opinion. Huge fan, almost 50, homemaker/volunteer tutor K-12, happily married 24 yrs., & have 2 great "kids". You are smart, poised, eloquent, sweet, funny, & sincere. (Yes, love hairstyles) I've lived in many states, visited many countries, educ. in private schools, & know that money (or educ.) does not buy class, character, or common sense.
Always felt Jill was a narcissist, but confirmed Season 3. (For my girlfriends, too & one is a therapist) Happy for you when you stood up to J. Sure she was in shock. J complains constantly (Mercedes 4x4--poor Bobby & R/M 2nd wedding--poor wedding planner) & when she apologizes it never seems truly genuine. Yes, no one is perfect & we all make mistakes; however, one can say they're sorry & turn around & repeat same bad behavior. What's the point in saying you're sorry if not truly sincere?
I was distressed/appalled at not only how J treated you, but how she's treated Bethenny. The whole phone call incident where she had LuAnn (can be a real lulu..not so classy) listen in to what should have been private. Still shaking my head in disbelief. (I was hoping..trying hard to give J benefit of doubt..thought MAYBE she & B could work it out..How can one be so disingenuous/deceitful?!)
Obviously, I don't think you're ignoble. I admit I'd have handled the delivering of B's message to J a bit differently, but you said that so yourself. You (& B) made various attempts to talk w/ J; however, she'd blow you off, OR she'd talk over you & have very snide comebacks. If J doesn't get her way she yells/pouts..or runs & hides in a pantry. (Nice pantry by the way)
I've always been told I was sweet/nice..too nice many times. Well, being nice isn't easy when dealing w/ narcissists. That's why I say BRAVO ALEX! I had to deal w/ 2 for too long, & knew I had to take a stand. That, & my doctor said I had high blood pressure from stress..could get an ulcer. I felt great after taking an overdue stand! You want to be nice to everyone, but narcissists see you as weak & will run all over you because they think they can. Sad they have such low self-esteem & have to put others down to build themselves up. Best to avoid toxic people.
Again, so happy for you, congrats on anniv., boys are cute, & my girlfriends & I will be tuning in Thursday night!
hi, I didn't like you untill this season. You seem to have dropped most of the phony airs unlike LuAnn and Kelly. It makes me crazy how some of the women on the show think they are so hot and classy and they are NOT! YOU have more class then they do. I'm glad that you are sticking up for yourself. Your hair looks much better too. You and Beth are my favs.
Alex,I love to watch you are so classy you alway take the high road.More of a real house wife than any other you work have children and true to your self.far as Jill she really needs to look at her self and know she is the common problem of every situation she may never change but dont stoop down to her level xo anita b.
I have read some the fan emails. You have been quiet and you have taken what people has said begind your back and to your face and have not responded. So why is it when people start taking up for theirselves finally or their friends THEN ALL THE LOUD MOUTHS WANT THEM TO BE QUIET. I go through the same thing. Am I to always turn my cheek and let people run over me? Well keep taking up for yourself....and tell Simon that when you request a WING MAN that he does NOT jump to the enemies side so quickly. He acts like he's out there sometimes and I think that he should always have your back. Your fan.
I'd love to see a compilation of clips of the things Bethenny, Ramona and Jill have said to and about you. I guarantee that your new bff's have been FAR more hateful to you, and yet, Jill has apparently been deemed unforgivable. I don't at all understand that unless it's that you really are just after air time and securing your position with the Mean Girls. At this rate, you may well become the new Ramona if you make it to another season!
Alex, I had a really hard time watching you this season. I really don't understand what specifically Jill did to you that was any different then what Ramona or Bethany did before. In fact if I remember correctly, Jill did MORE for you and Simon back in season one then any other of the housewives. i don't remember you having a hard time using Jill when you needed a school for your son to go to...Oh did you forget that?Now don't get me wrong, I'm not a big fan of the way Jill has behaved this season but let's call your actions to your own light. All I see is you trying to become popular with the other ladies and trying to get into the "click" because once more lets go back to season one...that is all you wanted to be a part of. I really hope they don't bring you back if they do another season for NY, other then siding with everyone you don't bring anything to the show.
Which one of your new BFF's said, last season that you and Simon "made her skin crawl"?
I could never be friends with someone who made such a mean, hateful comment about me. Ever.
It's funny how so many of the unsupportive posts on here are filled with grammar and spelling errors.
Alex, Totally understand you reaction when Jill showed up in St. John's. After Kelly's bizarre behavior and apparantly being asked to leave by the producers you were all just finally taking a deep breath when Jill arrived unexpectedly. At that point any intrusion good or bad would have been unwelcome and a breaking point for any normal psyche. It really had nothing to do with Jill and after viewing the episodes on TV she should have understood that. So keep being real (didn't think you were at first) stay true to your family and friends and go Brooklyn!
You have Jill all wrong. Things would go better for you if you had the same attitude that your husband does with the ladies. When you confronted Jill, she apologized and really cared that your feeling were hurt. What else do you want?
Oh Alex I am so Proud of how you have finally let it out. You handled it with class and grace. Never Change, Please. Jill is just taking all her problems with Bethany out on you. She thinks you are weak, LOL BOY IS SHE WRONG!!! Stay the Class act that you are.
Saw you in Chicago last night - you and Simon were so much fun together, treated people so nicely and answered all questions without rancor! Your book is hilarious - any parent can relate!
Hi alex, Is there anyway, you could bargain for a show of your own channeling Samantha S. from the a tv show from the 60's & early 70's? she had a straight but kookie husbad like you do and she had two kids like you do and you look amazingly like she did. You have beauty, charm, intelligence, you have a backbone and you are a nice woman, like she was. S how about it can you do any magic tricks? lol
I liked you more when you were "real" and not telling folks how "real" you are. . . .You seem to think Jill is the bad guy when all you girls are behaving the same. . . I now just fast forward the parts you're in. . . . Don't let all this crap get to your head. . . you're starting to act like Bethenny!
Alex - I'm thrilled at the way you stood up to Jill this season. It's high time someone did. Jill gets away with verbal murder and it's sickening. You're articulate, classy, genuine and "spot on" about Jill's nasty, self-serving behavior. I'm overjoyed that Jill was banished from St. John. After the Kelly debacle, you deserved to have a relaxing vacation.