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Jill Zarin's mother, Gloria, answers your questions.

Jul 21, 2009

I'm 9 years older than my husband. I don't look older (I don't think so) and I'm very sensitive about my age. (I'll be 50 this year). My husband is the baby in his family and he has a family that is all about age. This past Thanksgiving at my sister in law's house, someone asked her father-in-law how old I was and he said 50 and that I robbed the cradle. I pretended that I didn't hear this comment. He laughed after he said it because he thought I heard him. I used to like this man, but what an ignorant and insensitive thing to say. I guess the bottom line is that if my husband is fine with the age difference, then, who cares? I'd just like to know, do you have a response for me to have ready when someone says something like this

Hi, I am sorry you were hurt by this crude remark. There is nothing short of being nasty that would have any effect on this cruel and rude person. He is not worth bothering with.  If, on the other hand, you are becoming sensitive to this fact, you can decide to seek further medical counseling. There is nothing wrong with wanting to look your best at 20, 30,50,60, etc. I would not let anyone tell me what I can and cannot do.