Ask the Countess

Ducking out of awkward conversations, appropriate flowers for prom, and more!

Feb 17, 2009

Dear Gracious Countess,
What is one to say or do when one is utterly tired of someone else's banter? Should I fake a bout of nausea, get an urgent call on my terribly ill, mannered use of iphone, or just say "excuse me, it has been wonderful talking to you?" You may pick one of the three. Thank you so much. I am UTTERLY dazed and confused. Thank you Bravo, this is such a great idea!
Hopelessly Bothered


Darling Bothered,
You should graciously say, "It's been nice chatting with you, please excuse me." It is the safest choice, unless you're a great actor!
The Countess

Hi LuAnn,
Love your show! Quick question — with proms around the corner, I was wondering if corsages & boutonnieres are still in vogue with the teen set these days, and do they coordinate this flower exchange or do the parents? Best of luck this season!

Darling RJR, any flower other than a corsage is in vogue. I think it's up to the parents to provide this as a gift on prom night!
The Countess

Dear Lady de Lesseps,
I am a senior in college and was raised in a family where table manners were considered very important, I even had to put my fork and knife at 4 o'clock when I was finished on just a regular family evening meal, and Thanksgiving often involved formal place settings. Coming to college I noticed a lot of my peers did not learn basic table manners. Of course I never say anything when I eat with friends who do not have the best table manners, because that would be rude and etiquette is about respecting the people around you. Recently one of my friends expressed interest in learning table manners basics. What is the best way to help a friend out in this situation?
P.S How do you address a countess in an email?

Hello Meredith,
The best way to handle friends is to tell them the truth and show them the way. Of course, be delicate.
The Countess