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Lu Ann, RE: Putting Lipstick on at the Table: Actually, it's quite appropriate. Check your sources. Good Luck in the future

Dear Countess,

I was watching an episode in which you were placing these robbin's egg colored blue bowls into your Hampton's House dishwasher and was wondering where did you get those bowls and who makes them?

I feel you are an excellent role model for women and it is a pleasure watching you on the show.

Best,
Elizabeth

Countess,

I love watching RHNC I especially enjoy watching other womens lives that are so differant than mine. I have to say that I really have hope when I hear you address manners and respect for others. There is something that is really bothering me. I have children, and I do not understand how BRAVo could think is was classy to parade children onto the stage at the A list awards, and listen to Kathy Gifford scream and yell the F word to these children and they are our future. Wow what have we become. Where is the morality ? What kind of example does this set for our children. I was totally shocked and sickened. I respect you, and I am hoping that somehow the message will get out, that this is trashy. I just do not think you would be involved in this kind of behavior or condone it.Although I know that you have very little to do with what Bravo does, it just makes me sick that people think this is okay or entertainement.

a Fan
karolyn

When attempting the attention of a stranger, is it still appropriate to address a woman as 'ma'am,' or in this day and age, has this salutation morphed into something more modern or casual, yet equally as respectful? Thank you Countess!

Dear Countess,
I am constantly inspired by your poise and grace in any situation. I write to you now to ask for advice about how to manage the attention one gets as a fellow tall female.

I am over 6 ft tall, and have always managed to see this as a blessing however difficult people make it! Comments are exhausting, but as an adult you learn to handle yourself. My problem at this point is managing an aging, more vuluptuous body than I've ever had with grace and style.I do keep in shape and am beginning a dance class to help with both my posture and confidence....but I greatly appreciate your insight.

Sincerely,
Amy

Dear Countess, I thoroghly enjoy watching you on the show, and we admire your graciousness. Perhaps you can help with this question. My wife and I had become quite friendly with another couple. We then met another couple through them and the six of us went to dinner. We have invited both couples to parties. It seems that something happened at the dinner where the six of us were out, and the original couple whose friendship we valued is now upset with us and avoiding our company. We cannot get to the bottom of it..when asked, they pretend there is no issue...we believe there must have been some misunderstanding started by couple number 2...any suggestions how to resolve this..or do we just move on?

Dear Countess/Mrs. Delesseps:
I have a truly obnoxious friend who insists that the hired help (some of whom live with her) call her Mrs. XXX. She has compared them to children, in that they should show that sort of respect to her. In contrast, she does not require that her children address the nanny with a particular title or Ms./Aunt Rosie (sorry meant to say Aunt XXX). In addition, and I witnessed this, when her nanny/housekeeper returned from vacation, she complained out loud that she had to do all of "her" work instead of graciously welcoming her home. Then she proceeded to show her all of the laundry on the floor.

How do I tell my friend that her behavior is obnoxious? She has deemed herself the arbiter of style and class but she is acting like a complete contradiction. Thanks and good luck with the show.

Countess,
I do find it so amusing that you consider yourself royalty. I highly doubt that you were ever taught any of these lessons when you were growing up or anytime before you became the FOURTH wife of the count! Do you know how many people have a title that have no class, or social graces??? Don't be a preacher if you have nothing to preach about, maybe something in the or you could talk about a little bit better....

Mrs. de Lesseps,

I think it is a tremendous gift you are giving to others by sharing your own experiences while learning the do's and don't's of proper etiquette. I am sure the nay sayers do not realize that some of your lessons may not have been as tactful as the ones you impart to your readers. Your motivation to help others avoid the discomfort that you may have suffered once again just reinforces your abundance of "class".

Lu Ann, it is so difficult to watch you sacrifice your children and your dignity and the love in the world for fame. It sickens me to watch you on this series and "act" as if you are such a high and mighty countess (give me a break. You treat everyone as if they are less than you, even your children. You are a pathetic example of a woman in every sense possible. Get a heart and give respect in order to receive it.