Ask the Countess

The Countess answers your questions on funeral arrangements, party guest dos and don'ts, and more!

Apr 13, 2009

While watching the show I have heard Jill and you say that you are Native American. What kind of Native American are you? I know you do a lot of charity work, does any of that consist of helping your heritage? It seem you concentrate more on your husbands family line.
Thank you for your time.
A fellow Native

Hi fellow Native,
I'm from a branch of the Algonquins called the Micmac. I'm very proud of my heritage. Amongst others, I support the American Cancer Society as well as helping the Ace Partnership for the homeless. I try to give to organizations that serve everyone.
The Countess

Countess, can you give us your top Do's and Don'ts for being a Party Guest? We would like to share it with our readers at
Dawn Sandomeno

Bring gift hostess
Offer to help
Help the hostess keeping conversation alive and engaging
Make a toast to your hostess
Tell good jokes

Bring food as a gift that might not complement what she has organized
Drink too much
Monopolize the conversation
Stack plates at the table to be helpful
Tell racist jokes

Dear Countess,
My grandmother recently passed away. Although she had many friends and family, we had a very simple, private burial for her in accordance with her wishes. My question is what do I do with the thank you cards supplied by the funeral home. Do I use them for people who sent sympathy cards, the few who attended the burial, or anyone who helped during her final days, or all of the above?
Thank you for your help,

Hi Anne
So sorry to hear. If you like the cards, why not use them to say thank you.
The Countess