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The Countess answers your questions about marriages and money drives!

Mar 31, 2009

I have a co-worker that is getting married in a few months. I have received an invitation to both her bridal shower and the wedding. This co-worker is extremely nosey, gossip stirring and a rumor starting individual. I speak with her because I am her supervisor and sit directly infront of her (facing each other) and have to. We are not friends and to be completely honest do not want to be. My questions are do I have to buy her a gift, and do I need to attend the two events? I think the office is going to chip in a purchase something. I do not even want to do that. What's your opinion Countess?

Hi Cathy,
She sounds like someone you want to stay away from. I would send a group gift along with your fellow co-workers as I think its the polite thing to do and skip the two events. You will make her happy and I think you'll sleep better too. Sweet dreams!
The Countess

I have moved into this small, sophisticated community and have been welcomed by the people I want in my life, not only for me but for my children as well. I didn't keep in touch with the families as well, for over a year, as I am learning now that I should have. My excuse, I am very new to networking and not only that but my education was put on hold due to having two more children in three years. Education is huge in this town so I don't feel as if I fit in as well when I first moved here. How can I reconnect with the "clique" or should I move on for now?
Young Mother

Hi fellow mom,
Sounds to me that you were already part of the clique. Start from there and let them know your back and want to reconnect. Invite them for coffee or drinks and invite their children. They welcomed you before so why wouldn't they again? Cheers!
The Countess