I have no clue about the technical difference between a cook and a chef, nor do I really care. I've said repeatedly in past Top Chef blogs that if I ever went on that show, I'd be sent home the first week. I don't have great knife skills, I'm not making Coq au Vin on a regular basis, and a French-trained Michelin chef I am not. I leave that to my friends like Bobby Flay who really know what they're doing. That said, I know how to make healthy food taste delicious. My books Naturally Thin and Skinnygirl Dish are filled with easy, quick, delicious, healthy recipes. I went to culinary school but not Le Cordon Bleu. I went to school for food and healing to make healthy food more accessible to all.
I'm not nearly half as concerned or preoccupied about my credibility or skills as a chef as Kelly is. I find that rather disturbing.
I have to be honest. I felt for a few years now that I was seeing something in Kelly that I couldn't believe others couldn't see. I grew up in an insane asylum, so I can sense when someone is unstable from the beginning. I have seen signs of Kelly's erratic behavior for years now, and of course there was the domestic violence charge with her ex boyfriend. Things like that just don't happen to people. A large part of me feels sorry for her and sincerely thinks she should not be participating in a reality show environment. I don't think she can resist the temptation of the attention it brings regardless of the fact that it may not be good for her. Reality television is very stressful under the most normal circumstances.
For a brief period, it was the most eventful dinner party I've ever hosted, however, it took a scary, dramatic turn and we wanted to diffuse the situation. I realized that I needed to reel it in because this wasn't normal or healthy for anyone. Truth be told, what aired was very tame compared to what actually happened. I think that to air the full scope of it would terrify the viewers. We were truly terrified ourselves, and I must point out that none of us came home from that trip and told anyone about what went on there. We understood how serious it was and we were all scared. That night when I went to bed, I was legitimately scared for my safety as well as Kelly's. I know Alex felt the same. It was a completely horrendous trip and experience. That is the God's honest truth.
I am so happy for you and the new life you have created for yourself. Congratulations!
Honestly, as a pregnant woman myself I don't know how you were able to go through all that craziness with Kelly on that trip. That woman is insane and she needs to own up to it and work on what "reality" is.
I can't wait for your show to start!!! Yay!
Bethenny - you are so right! Kelly has some REAL problems. Any sane person would understand that the trauma of your father's passing, all of the drama this season on TOP of being pregnant, you really needed to get away from everything and just relax! If she was so uncomfortable, why didn't she just hop a plane home? Good for you for calling Jill about your concern for her new FRIEND'S (Kelly's) sake. You rock, girl!
Why is Kelly always picking on Bethenny. Just from what I've seen on the show, she is a walking contradiction! She says she hates people who act a certain way, and then takes her turn acting that way. She hates people who says certain spiteful things, then she goes off. Kelly went CRAZY. It was Ramona's special trip and she dared to tell Ramona to shush or not do/say things- who is she!? Poor Ramona. She probably worked so hard planning a perfect getaway that would have been fantastic if Kelly had stayed in New York. She ruined everything and terrified me just through the screen. I can't imagine seeing such a huge meltdown unfold in front of me. Bethenny did a great job handling herself. I would have slapped Kelly across the face after the "cook" thing, and hours later after it all Bethenny still remained as collect as possible. Good for you! Some people just need the drama. And what's with the "alliances"? Its clear that Ramona, Bethenny, and Alex chose the sain side. Bethenny was always in the right.
Bethenny! You rock! I am a "cook", my son is a "chef" and you my dear, are a "CHEF"!! When times seem tough, put a picture of your sweet Bryn in your mind and nothing else will matter!
I was so worried about you and the baby during the trip. No mother in thier first tri should have to go through that. For that alone Kelly was wrong and we cold go on and on about the other things. One of the craziest things I've ever seen. You couln't make that stuff up.
After reading so many viewer posts and observing all the hostility and negativity... I have to ask you...Why do you continue to bring Jill down? You've already caused enough polarization. I understand that you may not have many girlfriends - but perhaps - Jill may have really wanted to be your friend. For you to tell Ramona that you would leave if Jill shows up is childish and divisive.
You have a lot going for you now, no need to cause more harm to others. And, no need to keep the viewers is such a polarized emotional state.
You are my favorite housewife also. After watching last nights episode and reading your blog the whole thing left me with a bad feeling. Kelly was really scary to watch. She needs help! I am almost afraid to watch next week but of course I wouldn't miss it.
P.S. Your baby girl is so beautiful!
Still in shock and horror....I am a huge fan and supporter of you and have been following you since Martha's Apprentice.....but quit with the "I told you so" We all saw how tragic Kelly really is, let's leave it at that. As for Jill, I know the two of you have your issues but I for one would love to see the two of you work it out...you have a beautiful life now with your baby and husband, YA GOTTA LET IT GO. Love you always.
B, I love the way you handled yourself on this weeks show. Kelly finally let everyone see how crazy she is!! Wish we could have gotten the full eposisode on tape. I wish you and your new family well. Congratulations on a job well done in all areas.
Bethanny, DAMN! I couldn't believe what I was watching last night but good for you for keeping your calm and helping to difuse the situation. You could see the worry and fear in your face when you appologized for blowing up at Kelly ("Just go to sleep!"). You are definitely the bigger person and I'm so glad that the other ladies finally got to see what you were talking about. Best of luck to you and congratulations on your baby girl.
You really shouldn't be commenting on what else happened that evening. What was seen was exremely worrisome and sad. If you truly feel for Kelly, leave it alone. One thing is the way you ladies gossip and argue but this is completely diiferent. I don't particularly like Kelly so this isn't a fan trying to defend her. This is a viewer who witnessed someone in real need of help and if you truly realize that and care, do not talk about it anymore.
You have a keen quick wit - born from a lot of pain I'm realizing. Kelly screaming Al Sharpton after your "You can't handle the truth" comment was very sad. Reading that it was even worse than what I saw last night IS scary.
Please stay away from Kelly. She is not "funny" crazy. She is creepy crazy. Jill too for that matter...what an ego.
Congratulations - Motherhood is the most wonderful, fulfilling and exhasting thing in the world. Enjoy it - it goes way too fast.
Really....Kelly does need help, I could not believe what I was watching last night!!!! At first it was hillarious but then it got weird and crazy....Stay away from her...
Congrats on the hubby & baby and I'm looking forward to the new show!
Bethenny, I have no idea how you have tolerated having that crazy woman around you. Kelly made the comment to you on the yacht "Nobody cares about you Bethenny". The only reason she said this was because she is envious of you. I am just guessing here but I think Kelly snapped a long time ago maybe in 1979. It has just taken someone as intelligent as you to figure this out. Congrats on your baby girl.
When did Jill decided that she needed to save your friendship... before or after she found out you were getting your own show?
I am 64 years old and have never witnessed anything before as last night's episode. I hope Kelly gets the help she needs. I so look forward to your new show, Bethenny. Your baby and your husband are precious!!!
OMG!! Bethany you handled yourself very well on the vacation, as for Kelli WHAT IS WRONG with her!!! She absolutely looked like a crazy women. Everything that came out of her mouth didn't make any sense. I was even scared of her, she looked like the one that could kill someone...
OMG Bethenny, last night's episode was un-REAL! It was obvious from the begining that there was something a bit off with Kelly, but, "Holy Prozac Batman" if what unravelled on screen was truly what went down, then you have been vindicated a million times over! I have to admit, I hope Kelly does not leave the show because it is like watching a train wreck, you just can't look away and come back for more. Serioiusly, how many times can we listen to Jill pontificate about how 'wronged' she was over her "Bobby"...Anyway, hope you stay with the show cause you're one-liners and zingers are just the best...love ya!
So much CLASS from you this season.
Your speech that lead to the final diffusion at the end couldn't have been spoken perfectly/eloquently. My first thought was: "This is someone who definitely grew up around crazy people." Trust me... I would know.
Also, most fabulous dinner presentationally I've seen in awhile, televised or otherwise. Paul Newman, you most definitely are not.
Keep with the bliss and love to your new child!
I applaud Bethenny and her ability to stay true to herself despite the camera's. I used to think Jill was a great friend to her, but now know that Jill is really no-ones friend. She will trash you as soon as she has no more use for you as a friend. Bethenny, I am so happy for you and Jason and your little chickpea and I look forward to your new show.
As you said I knew Kelly's true colors would come out at some point.. I have always been in your corner! I was also excited to see you have your own show coming on soon.. I can't wait!
Congrats on your new baby! You are awesome, real, and hilarious! Kelly is a trip. My jaw dropped the entire episode. I wonder what is wrong with her. Congrats! Keep up the good work! Love your honesty.
Bethanny, you are a great chef, judging by how great your food was presented. Kelly couldn't cut her steak because she was using her knife upside-down. Have a nice day!
I have always liked you on the show. You have always spoken the truth and I'm sorry that Kelly feels the need to attack you every chance she gets. Remember, take the high road as you always have and just ignore her. Congrats on having a beautiful little girl, you are blessed.
I am happy for you and the new baby. However, if you really had any concern for others you might want to not pass judgement on Kelly and her emotional state. You have many followers and you are setting an example. If Kelly has problems it is not for you or any one else to judge. You may be a chef but you are not medically trained. Set an example show some compassion, set aside the differences and imagine if it was your daughter. Last night was disturbing and horrible to watch. Imagine if the tables were turned. I don't expect to see this post, but I had to respond.
WOW...good for you Bethenny for standing up for yourself but for also knowing when to sit back and regroup..i think Kelly needs to leave the show and focus on herself and her girls..I'm not a crazy person by nature..but if you would put me on a reality show w/ 4 or 5 other women..i definitely would be! so i can't even imagine the state Kelly is in..I don't know how you got through that trip...
Congrats on your baby girl! Enjoy motherhood...it's the most rewarding job on the planet!
WOW! I just watched his last epeisode and I feel for you but yet am sooo happy it finally came out that you knew she was a little "off". I truley love ou and everything that's going on with you. I cried when I saw that you were pregnant. You are going to be a wonderful mom! I say that knowing it's true because of what you have gone through and the way you have learned from it. Love you soooo much. Love your books, I love the fit and feel of the skinnygirl T shirt! Thanks for all you have tought me!
You are my FAVE housewife. Be true to yourself, enjoy your marriage and your beautiful baby daughter.
Congratulations and you are NOT the crazy one!!! My goodness, Kelly needs to get some help. Wow if the trip was worse than it showed, I feel bad for Ramona. She wanted and spend a ton of money to have a nice trip and then it got ruined for everyone. How sad is that?
I hope you and Jill can get past your problems. I had a friend exactly like that and I had to ask myself if I thought life was better with her or without her. We decided to let the past be in the past and start fresh and it has helped. No true friend wants to hurt the other. Good luck with your baby and marriage.
I'm so glad you are getting a show of your own, and wish you could take Alex with you. I know you had your baby, Congradulations! and I know all that stress is not good for an expecting mother or child. I have an opinion that some of the women on the show are not happy unless they are in the spotlight. I've wondered about Kelly though. She seems to hear things that weren't really said and she goes off the deep end over the tinyest things. If you had given me a gift bag, even if I didn't like anything in it I would not have broken down. I think Alex is a true friend and so is Ramona (but should only be taken in small doses!) and hope your life is everything you wish for. Good luck!
Bethenny- You are my favorite housewife. After going through so much - losing your father, being pregnant, and dealing with the 'situation' at St. John's, I am proud to see you handled it so well. Such composure. BTW, this chef/ cook thing was so ridiculous, but you know it's all sour grapes!
OMG!Bethenny I dont know how you deal with kelly she is so annoying.She makes me want to turn the channel when she starts talking she is crazy!!!!I think you did a great job at your dinner and it looked amazing.You should avoid kelly people like that you dont need in your life shes a nut case.Congrats on your baby and good luck with everything!!!
TEAM BETHENNY 100%! I don't even understand why Kelly is still on this show b/c she is seriously crazy and she's always in her own weird world! I can't even imagine what it's like to have a conversation with her! So happy for you and your cute lil family! Congrats!
Stick to baking muffins and cookies. I can't believe that you couldn't prepare 5 small tenderloin steaks to perfection. That is THE easiest cut of meat to cook. One was undercooked with string still on it. You're a chef alright. Just a poor one.
Taking credit for smoothing the tension should go to Sonja, not you. Sonja alerted you 3 clucking hens that Kelly had unraveled. Sonja directed everyone to stop smack talking Kelly to settle things down, not you!
Looking ahead, you've already shown your cards that your desire to get back with Jill a few eps ago had an expiration date. Now, that she realized HER error, you refuse to give her a chance to redeem herself. Obviously, your friendship is conditional.
That was to MUCH last night! NOW I see what your talking about KELLY really need HELP! And Jill is NOT NICE and it's so sad that you all are NOT friends anymore AND NOW I see why. She's a piece of work. If she was Kelly's friend she would have been there for her and ALL THE GIRLS!
Bethenny, OMG! Kelly has totally lost it....stay away from her...I honestly worried about you on that trip with her because she's so eratic...
.your a joy to watch and keep being yourself...
Bethenny, Congratulations on the baby, I love her name as you can see I have a cool name as well..ha ha ha... I love the Real Housewife's of New York. I am sorry there is something wrong with Kelly, you are right... really she is gone and should of stayed home with Luann and Jill! She always brings up the past. You are a cool lady and will be a cool mom, Congrats on everything..
I will be watching your own show...can't wait..!
You're the most sane person on this show I think. Kelly is crazy, she never makes any sense when she opens her mouth. She goes from hot to cold in like seconds. I have never read anyting about her in the paper and wouldn't waste my time. Bethenny who cares if you are a cook or cheif whatever and why does she make a big deal about it. I've never seen her as a model so maybe she really isn't one...lol. Stay strong and live life to the fullest, can't wait till your new show. I hope there isn't Kelly drama on it cause I can't handle it anymore!! love you lots Bethenny
Bethenny, you are terrific. Your humor, wit, and sensitivity and admirable. The fact that you were able to reign it in on Kelly as she was spewing her nonsense was indicative of your poise and elegance. And I think that girl needs A LOT of help. She is so afraid of any feelings and appears to have completely lost touch with reality (and to your point, should really not be participating in a "reality show").
Keep on with the positivity, congrats on you and Jason's chickpea, and know that you are loved.
I loved, loved, loved the happy dance you did telling everyone I told you so!!! That was priceless!!
Bethenny, You and Alex are the most normal girls out of this bunch. I like how you are down to earth and witty. You should probably stay away from Luann, Jill, and Kelly they are immature, rude, unclassy women that have nothing better to do with themselves throughout the day,so they will continue to attack you and the other housewives just to get their fix on drama! Good luck to you! Congratulations on the new baby! You are going to experience so much and it will be amazing!
Hey lady just wanted to let you know you are not crazy. She is nuts. Also to add to the craziness I am so sorry she brought up your father that way, that was honestly very heartless. My mother recently passed away in February the day after my birthday, and even though she treated me in the most unfavorable ways growing up, she apologized on her death bed and like you I stayed till the end feeding her, changing her, bathing her, and just letting her know I was there. That being said, if anyone were to jump in and tell me how to deal with my grief, they would be truly sorry once I was done with them. You are the best, and just remember she can say all she wants, and no one cares,
Love you Bethenny and wish you the best of luck on your new upcoming show! It must be hard to avoid KKB and JZ on RHONYC but hopefully on your new show you will not have to deal with such nitwits. Blessing and love to you and your sweet family!