Bethenny Frankel NY

Bethenny weighs in on the chef vs. cook debate and gives her take on Kelly's meltdown.

on May 20, 20100

 

I have never mentioned kelly's family in the press and there is no evidence to that effect. Kelly had a legal issue going on with her ex boyfriend and certainly generated a great deal of press on her own. This compounded with the "I'm up here" scene didn't do her any favors. As I said, I don't believe that Kelly understands what is happening around her. She creates her own reality.

Sonja was the first person to say out loud that there is something wrong with Kelly. I suppose I knew that intellectually, but I didn't understand the severity. Once the light bulb went off, we all calmed it down. It wasn't funny and my one liners were no longer appropriate nor helpful. We had entered a different place.

I also need to point out that I called Jill that night to tell her that Kelly was in trouble. She didn't seem very concerned, and as you will see next week, she was more consumed by her own agenda than Kelly's health. That is a whole separate issue.

Jill came to St. John because she wanted a grand entrance and to ensure that she wasn't absent in three episodes. Her excuse that she came to see me was laughable. St. John is very difficult to get to and I literally lived a block away from her. Stopping by my building would have been infinitely easier. You all know the real story there.

I would discuss my new baby girl aka the chick pea, but I would rather do it in a different forum. The details of this episode are so psychotic that I don't even want her mixed in with that negative energy. Just know that I thank you for all of your positive emails, love and advice. I have truly incredible fans. I am so grateful for that and I've learned a lot about life, friendships and now motherhood from you.

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Cyrus in Toronto
Cyrus in Toronto

The "praireside"? Oh my god I LOVE YOU SO MUCH BETHANNY, and judging by the overwhelming number of comments here, I am most definitly not alone. Seeing you partying and dancing with all the gay guys was just another example of how nonjudgemental and accepting you are. Just because I'm gay doesn't mean I need to see someone loving the gay community for me to like them because that's just one example of who you are, you've been sweet and kind on any number of occasions in any number of situations. But still, knowing you're comftorable enough with who you are to hang with 1000 dancy prancy nancy boys was a beautiful sight honeyboo! I don't mean to say all gay guys are prancy and nancy AT ALL, I just mean that the whole day was so fun and you were right in the thick of it. Your husband is a terrific guy and I'm sure he's just as loving to his daughter as he is to you and I have a lot of respect for him. There's NOTHING mild and meek about you Bethanny, you have a big personality and a big life, a man has to know who he is, has to have established his own character and his own identity in a secure way before he can be part of a life like yours ya know? I'm so pissed that I'm just seeing the RHONY now even though Season 3 wrapped months ago, so this is all new for me. I'd never seen it until about 2 months ago and it's only on once a week up here, every Saturday! Can you believe that shit?!! Yesterday they ran the first hour of the 3 hour reunion..it's gonna take 2 more flippin weeks before we see the conclusion of the reunion and honey I am unimpressed! But watching you is worth the wait. All the best to you and your beautiful new family Bethanny! I love and support you from afar! :o)

AJS75
AJS75

Bethanny, much respect, you seem very real on the show ,and seem to speak the truth. I don't see you as harsh as others seem to, you are just straight to the point and don't mix messages, Kelli is dumb as a sack of hammers and lives in a reality only she understands. She babbles and doesn't seem to carry out an entire thought process. I wish you well in all you do....you seem like an incredible person...Best of times with your baby!

New SKINNYGIRL
New SKINNYGIRL

Hi Bethenny!

I LOVE your cookbooks and the recipes on your website. In your next cookbook, can you please find ways to lighten up international dishes that are comfort food? Like German, British and French cuisines? We NEED SKINNYGIRL versions of these!!!

Also, please make more SKINNYGIRL Cocktails: like "Sidecars" and "Pina Coladas" and Chocolate martinis.

Thanks for the great advice in your books and website. WE NEED MORE!!

Cheers!

Christina Ashley
Christina Ashley

I JUST LOVE WATCHING YOU YOU MAKE ME LAUGH SOOOOOOOOO HARD. YOUR ONE LINERS ARE DEFINITELY EPIC

kombiechick
kombiechick

ajax100 have you ever been preggars?? thought not. if i had someone in my face bantering on at me like the "crazy one" i think i would eventually snap too....

kombiechick
kombiechick

Bethenney there is no need to defend yourself when it comes to Kelly - I think anyone with half a brain can see she's "a sandwich short of a picnic". Just sit back & let her open her mouth is the best action. For her to turn around & say she was bullied - how absolutely bizarre! Everyone who watched that show saw her on the "attack". If she doesn't feel comfortable being around women who talk about their feelings then why the hell was she there? One lesson I've learnt in life is to be very careful around jealous women i.e. Jill & Kelly. Only surround yourself with people who are happy for you & your successes. xx

amy p
amy p

Bethenny, i think you are sooo inspirational, with everything that you do and have done in your life, from career to friends and family. You tell it like it is and that is such a great trait to have, especially in your friends. I think you would make an amazing friend to have, that would do anything for your friends... It sux that people abuse that and take advantage of your good nature. the world would be a better place if there were more people in the world like you =)

Sherry B.
Sherry B.

Bethany, I think your great. Congratulations on your wedding and your new baby girl. Can't wait to see that episode. You are so real. Love you sense of humor. As far as the housewife's go. I wouldn't blame you if you didn't renew your contract with them. That Kelly chick is really scarey. Unless it's acting. She's definetely a weirdo!!!! Hope your show keeps on going.

natashadenis
natashadenis

You are my favorite housewife!!! love that your so driven and get what you want. You have been through so much in your life and have made it possible for young girls all over america to have faith in themselves.

jnurse
jnurse

I love you Bethenny!! You are hilarious and an inspiration to sooo many women!

ZenBilli
ZenBilli

Bethenny don't stress over Kelli or what she thinks. Everything you've said about her is TOTALLY CORRECT! Just continue to treat her the way you did in the show finale. TRY hard not to call her crazy anymore, we all got it. It will only make you look bad to continue to say it. We in TV land are all REALLY happy for all your successes over the past year and wish you the best. Jason seems like a really nice guy...Also be careful with Jill. (You're totally right about her also!) The way she turned to LuAnn and KELLI, of all people, and betrayed your trust was really low-down. I know you'll make the right decision just make sure that Jill knows that her actions were not only hurtful but make it very hard for you to trust her with the same type of friendship that the two of you had in the past. How would you be able to trust that every time Jill feels that you aren't giving her enough, attention she won't turn to LuAnn and worst KELLI, to betray you again. CUIDADO Bethenny! BEST WISHES AND ZEN! Zen

Milka
Milka

Reality check #1: You are on a "reality show," hence, the "reality" of things potentially getting uncomfortable depending on who you are interacting with (ie. the dinner party with Kelly). You signed the contract. Reality check #2: What's the use of telling viewers things were much worse than what they saw? Take it to the editors and producers. It seems like you're on a never- ending quest to prove how unstable Kelly is. Please allow viewers to watch and come to their own conclusions. Reality check #3: If your family was as dysfunctional as you say it was, then you should have been better equipped to handle Kelly's behavior. Instead, you insulted the girl at every opportunity, screamed at her to go to sleep, and said "F-you to the people who allegedly doubted your analysis of her". You came off looking as out-of-control as she did. I'm just sayin'. Reality check #4: Any self-respecting chef/author (ie. someone in your position) is going to take comments like Kelly's with a grain of salt (and don't blame hormones.... you've had a mouth for three seasons). By the way, weren't you the one making snide comments about Kelly's own reliability and integrity at a charity event once? Guess what's sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander. Reality check #5: If Bobby Flay is indeed a friend, ask his advice on how to better handle criticism and blows to the ego. I'm sure he did not allow petty comments to "disturb" him in any way and interfere with his growth as a Food icon. Take some pages from his notebook, and grow a spine.

Sarah  o
Sarah o

Bethenny, You are my absolute favorite on the show!! You are funny and witty and real!! I was soo happy to see you fall in love and have your beautiful baby bryn. You deserve happiness !! Keep on moving into the future ...Great things await you!! ...and as for jill..let bygones be bygones..life is to short..if she is meant to be in your future it will happen but if not..their is a reason for that!! Keep on being the real and genuine person you are! Love your new show...move away from housewives...too crazy and catty!! Kelly is wack-a-doo!! lol

Sarah  o
Sarah o

Bethenny, You are my absolute favorite on the show!! You are funny and witty and real!! I was soo happy to see you fall in love and have your beautiful baby bryn. You deserve happiness !! Keep on moving into the future ...Great things await you!! ...and as for jill..let bygones be bygones..life is to short..if she is meant to be in your future it will happen but if not..their is a reason for that!! Keep on being the real and genuine person you are! Love your new show...move away from housewives...too crazy and catty!! Kelly is wack-a-doo!! lol

Ajax100
Ajax100

Gosh, Bethenny, this blog makes it sound like you were kind and rational and caring, but the clip I keep seeing is you - looking crazed - screaming "GO T BED!" to kelly. Very caring since, as you said, you grew up with people who had emotional issues. It's great that you are seeing a shrink, but I dont think you are sincere about doing the work therapy requires as you allow cameras in on your session

At least in 2 years, Andy Cohen can launch his new reality series "Bethenny getting divorced."

leeji
leeji

Hi Bethenny, I just wanted to say I love you and your new show. Jason looks like a sweetheart. Also congrats with your new born. I wish you all of the best from Puerto Rico

Real HW Fan
Real HW Fan

You are the one who drew me to watch the show and I love it! Congrats on your wedding and baby girl! I do have to say about Jill...The meanness she directed to you during Season 3 is now aimed at Alex. I think you should tell her "No! I can't be friends with someone who is so hateful. You were hateful to me and now that you're over that you're hateful to Alex!" I wouldn't be willing to invite Jill drama into your happiness. Good luck and I love your new show!

DK
DK

I love the journey you and Alex have been on. Friendships between women can be very interesting. I hope you stay away from Jill. I suppose she is an ok friend for some people, but not if you want the toxic-drama to go away. Alex's attempts at being more honest and direct may be awkward, but they always are when the "good-girl-peace-keeper" decides to speak out. Good for her! And good for you for helping her at it. I am a little sad that you are leaving the show and Kelly is staying. Good grief. Why? WHen she goes "off" I find myself pressing my body into the back of the couch trying to escape her! The way you all respond to her has been inspiring to a recovering "good-girl-peace-keeper". Thanks for making your journey's public to us.

Viewer22
Viewer22

OMG! Your show this week, LOL x 10! I don't know what was the funniest, Your boobs in Max's face while dancing, Cookie" intervention, Your wedding planner's facial expression's ( Did he take a Ramona Eyeball pill?), the bridal registry, Jason and the gun, wow you are so funny, charming I love the real relationship you have with your wonderful Jason, his family ( the last seen with Jason's Mom made me cry) You are one in a million thanks for sharing your life with us, your show is an Emmy winner! You have found a true soul mate and a wonderful family the one you have always deserved! We love all of you! Make sure you start on that Baby cook book for new Moms, My son is having a baby soon!

jazzmin
jazzmin

Bethenny love your new show, so lighthearted and heartwarming compared to RHWNYC. Do us all a favor and keep Jill on hold for this season at least. She has some very serious and toxic issue that would poison your success and marriage if she had her way. Move on and move forward and don't look back. Jill is very needy and not in a positive way. God bless you in all that you do. You are a breath of fresh air, and you new shows success proves it.

rkk
rkk

Bethany I just wanted to say you did an EXCELLENT job maintaing yourself on the finally reunion, I'm mouthy like you and it just drove me crazy how she kept cutting you guys off, What an a** she made of herslf..enlightened she's NOT..Kelly was constantly cutting you off and not letting you tell your side of the story and there is NOTHING more fustrating than that. I could see the look of discust on your face everytime she said "UM I'm talking let me finsih" well how about letting you guys defend yourselves against her crazy and rediculous accusations. I want you to stay and they should send her packing. When it gets to the point where she's asked to leave a taping in the island there's a PROBLEM and it's spelled KELLY!!

jrc
jrc

Bethenny I love you so much!!! I wish you all the best in your career and with your new family! Can't wait to see you next season!

V
V

Bethenny, I absolutely fell in love with you this season. Everything that was thrown your way this season was handled really well. I don't think I would have had the patience to deal with Kelly or Jill. Maybe they should just be friends and share their negativity with one another. Congrats on getting married and the baby. I am watching your new show as I type this and I will definitely continue to. You are an amazing woman!

DW
DW

Bethenny -- YOU ROCK! So happy for you, your cute husband and adorable baby. Keep "telling it like it is" and enjoying your success. Will miss you if you don't come back to RHONYC, but wouldn't blame you a bit. Life is too short to be exposed to "Kook-a-doodle-do's" and mean girls. Love your new show!

amyjj6
amyjj6

Bethanny, PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE, don't leave the show! You are the reason I watch. And I believe if you go, poor Alex will be eatin alive by the other women (other than Ramona). It just wouldn't be the same without you.

Reality Fan
Reality Fan

Bethenny- You are my absolute favorite, of all the housewives! Of all the locations. I find your wit, honesty and candor refreshing. Please don't let the others get you down, you are a breed apart from them (a good breed) and I LOVE YOUR NEW SHOW!!! And Jason is FAB and Bryn is beautiful. You are proof, the girl can have the success, the baby and the boy!

P.S. If you complete culinary school, you are a chef. If not, you are a cook! Embrace it sister, you are a CHEF!

 josky
josky

Hey Bethenny, I think you were the SANE one, I think you are funny, smart and beautiful. I LOVE your new show and am so happy that you found Jason, it's obvious you are in love with each other. I hope Jill isn't trying to make up because she wants in on your well deserved fame...I hope she's sincere.

Cyn from Dallas
Cyn from Dallas

Bethenny,

LOVE, LOVE, LOVE YOU! I have always admired you since becoming a fan. Love you have your own show. I will be watching! I am counting on only the best blessings for you. Kelly is a loon. I see it plain as day. Luann not my favorite. Keep the wit and the tongue. Bite em', if they don't like ... you can fix it your beautiful energy. You inspire me, no pressure. Be happy.

Oliveyew2
Oliveyew2

Hi Bethenny, Congrats on your marriage and your new baby. You will be the best mom and something tells me there won't be a dull moment at your place. I'm glad to see that you are being very wary about letting Jill back into your life. After all the appologies you offered her and she turned you down and now she realizes what a great friend you were, well, I'd cry to if I had to hang out everyday with Luann! What a boring life that would be daaaaahling.

C in MN
C in MN

As you can see, we all feel we know you to some extent. I imagine that reality TV makes us feel this way since you are in our homes so often. I do want to say that I so totally love your sense of humor. I love the way your mind is wired. LOL You just crack me up. I am so glad that at least a few of the gals were finally witness to Kelly's craziness. I don't know that I have ever seen anyone who makes me scratch my head and wonder what in the heck she is talking about as much as Kelly does. Kelly world is not on my list of destinations to visit. LOL Thank you, Bethany, for being a voice of reason and sanity in an otherwise insane groups of women. Enjoy your new little one. They grow way too fast. Those are the memories you want to hold in your heart, not the toxic moments from the show.

DIANE4242
DIANE4242

Bethenny,

I love your wit! I think your a great person on the show.

Congrats on your New baby girl.

maisy
maisy

You are the reason I watch the show..and I LOVE the new show. Jason seems great..treat him well. I think you will make a great mother..your sense of humor will serve you well and you seem like you have great intuition. You called the Kelly thing right on. Best of Luck..enjoy this time of your life.

Queenie
Queenie

Forgive Jill. It's good for you, It's good for her, it's good karma. Let her love you and that sweet baby and life will be so much easier. Besides, Bobby will make an amazing Uncle. He's very wise.

mkb
mkb

Always have loved you Bethenny!! The manner in which you deal with freak-show (you know who I'm talking about) is beyond what I could tolerate without doing something illegal! You've got it all girlfriend...the smarts, looks, sense of humor, talent, success and now a beautiful family!! You never cease to make me laugh and have always been my favorite HW, and I watch them all. I'll be watching your new show. I'm a big, big fan! Keep on keeping it real. Somebody has to! Love, your biggest fan

brenlee
brenlee

Bethenny, I think your such a great person, I don't know what it is about you that has kelly acting like a kid in high school, but you keep on being the classy lady you are. good luck to you and your husband on your first child.

Emiie
Emiie

Bethenny, Love your new show. It is so uplifting. Best to you, Jason and Bryn. Consider having a second child. I did--ag age 36 and 37. My sons are adults now, and there for each other.

Average Mom
Average Mom

I think what most normal/average people can relate to is your honesty and your authenticity. You provide a nice baseline.

RealityCheck
RealityCheck

Bethenny,

Thank you for being on this show. Thank you for speaking your mind, the truth, and keeping it real. You are the only person who says the reality of what happens. I am so sorry you have to deal with Kelly. I hope she goes away. Avoid the drama. It's better for your health.

yaya1234
yaya1234

You and Jill had something special outside of the camera. You were a family. You are now waco like Alex and Ramona. Too bad. I will not be watching your series. Too bad.. I used to enjoy your wit.

Mrs Warlord
Mrs Warlord

Bethany, I think you are great and wish you and your family all the best. I'm so glad that you see Kelly for what she is, a legitmately "crazy" woman. She also isn't the sharpest tool in the shed.

Again best to you.

skc from VA
skc from VA

Bethenny, you are my favorite NY housewife by far. What you had to go through with Jill, Kelly, and even Louann this season was so uncalled for. They need to get a life. The breakdown that Kelly had on the vacation was scary--so I can just imagine how it was for you being there. I wish you, Jason, and your baby the best in life!! Take care.

abinbuf.ny
abinbuf.ny

You Bethany are one of the most normal on the show. At least you seem to just live while the rest constantly want to create trouble. It is rediculous! Good luck with your family and in business you deserve it!

tmac1018
tmac1018

Congrats Bethenny and Jason. I am so happy for you. Ok now let's get down to the good stuff. Why do people like Jill and LuAnn keep making excuses for Kelly. She is a complete nut job. I have been watching since the show started and she is so fake. She would never be someone that I or many people would associate with. Kelly Ripa mentioned that she was different when she met her before she was on the show. Kelly must have just met her in passing because there is no way this woman is normal.

I love the new relationships you have developed with Sonja, Alex and Ramona. Sonja is a hoot she acutally graduated from high school with someone I work with in upstate new york. I still miss the relationship you and Jill had. She just doesn't seem the same without you. She looks like she is pretending to be happy.

Well good luck with the new show and of course I will be watching. Keep keeping it real.

Mariadc
Mariadc

Congratulations on your marriage and the birth of your baby. You are awesome. Please don't change. Others in the show let me down. Ramona's new attitude is admirable. I really like her now. Alex has always been one of my favorites. You guys were the classy ones. Keep working hard and taking care of the real people in your life. May God Bless You Always.

liberty
liberty

Bethanny-I'm going to go against popular opinion here and ask you to consider forgiving Jill. For all her outrageous behavior this year it's still evident that underneath it all she needs you and you need her. The friendships formed because of your fall out with her are really just antagonistic alliances. Alex and Romona may be good friends to you, but i do believe that you and Jill had a unique relationship that can still serve you both. We all need someone who we can fight with, disagree with, but still love, and I think she does love you. You're intelligence is so over Kelly's head it's hysterical, but not worth your time, so let her make an idiot of herself all by herself. I hope you can find it in your big heart to forgive Jill and get this show back on track.

NiNi1010
NiNi1010

A bit late in commenting on this, just started watching recently, and you are and have always been my favorite. You are so funny, I would love to hang out with someone like you. People who take funny comments too seriously are just ridiculous. YOU WENT TO CULINARY SCHOOL - THEREFORE YOU ARE A CHEF! You do not have the rights to wear chef whites, unless you went to culinary school - Anyone who cooks at the Taco Bell to Lonestar Steakhouse is a COOK. Get some help Kelly!!!

realechousewife
realechousewife

Bethenny, I am so glad to see your fun sense of humor back, I was missing those comments! You definitely have to have it around this crowd, it's a shame that Kelly chooses to create her own drama by worrying over every detail of your life and every word you say,she is a girl who needs a check up from the neck up--she is causing the both of you to have stress. Jill should have figured out for herself that she was wrong to treat you the way she did, instead of Bobby having to tell her and then for her to show up suddenly in St. John, she should have known better.

CarylT
CarylT

My husband is an Exec. Chef, and when we first started he was a dishwasher, then a cook, and after school and Italy, he was a sous chef, and worked his way to exec. Call him a cook...he wouldn't be ashamed. He has passion and love in what he does. He gets more out of his job then most. So keep cooking...be a cook...There have been some wonderful cooks Paula Dean, Rachel Ray, Martha Stewart, Betheny Frankel. xoxoxoxo Happy for your new family.

Teresa m
Teresa m

I Luv You!! I think you are the most down to earth and reallist... I luv that you just tell it like it is its real and refreshing. and i commend you on taking the high road and changing you out look on kelly on the trip. Just showed what kind of person you are and you should be very proud!! Just keep doing what you do and living youre life Best of wishes on everything xoxox