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Closing a Horrible Chapter

Bethenny reflects on her relationship with her father.

May 5, 2010

 

I wasn't surprised to see how upset Jill was at LuAnn's event. She decided that she was completely done with me, she regretted it, and she didn't like that she was the last one to know everything that was going on in my life.

I believe that Jill wanted to patch things up with me, but her motives are questionable. There have been so many events that have transpired, and I have to stand by my current feelings. I really want to be happy and positive during this incredible time. I really don't want to get mired in the roller coaster drama of the show. My entire perspective and priorities have changed since Jill and I became friends, and I have to respect my relationship and where I am in my life. I am simply following my heart and hope that Jill one day finds the happiness that she needs in her life.

Everything Ramona said when I called her on the way to see my father was totally spot on. We often know the truth, but we simply want to hear someone else say it. Our circumstances with our fathers are definitely different, yet losing a parent with a tumultuous history between you is something very difficult. I appreciate her listening and I thought her input was sincere.

I would never have been even remotely resolved in my life (I'm only part of the way there, btw) had I not made that visit. I can't sugar coat it. It was brutal. My father really wasn't very kind to me, I experienced a lot of anger, resentment and sadness, and it was complete torture. That said, it did close a horrible chapter for me. For that I am grateful.

 

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I hope that once the anger passes that you guys can make up. In friendships, our similarities bring us together and then our differences pull us apart - at that point we have to negotiate through them. Once you get to the other side it's worth it.

Bethenny, This is a time to bask in your happiness. I to believe Jill always wanted to spread the new and the HOLDER of information. It isn't about you but about her needing to be the center. Don't let that TOXICITY back into your life. Congrats.

Hopefully this helps you work on you and people . Stop fighting with people and talk to them.

Bethenny,

Please know you are a truly special woman and I admire how far you have come in your life! Your heart is as big as your hair in the PETA episode! :) :)

I am truly sorry about the loss of your father. Be calmed knowing you had some, even if just a brief moment, of closure! Hopefully you can move on and remember the good times! We often learn more from negative experiences than from positive ones.

You are a fantastic example and role model for young women today! Do not let Jill's flip flopping, media attention grabbing, making herself feel like a victim ways take away from what you have accomplished!

May your future be filled with true friends who stick by you no matter what, and always, always want the best for you!

I cannot explain the happiness and joy I feel for you! Jason loves you so much and would do anything for you, and that is so obvious. Any bumps you come to in the road with him, work them out. Give your child a better upbringing than you had. Forget the negativity of your past with your family and friends. Your life is coming full circle and I am so happy for you!

May your future be full of positive energy and beautiful memories!

My heart goes out for you, in every way. Good luck with your happy future, you make alot of us happy. Hugz, Jace_

This year has been both the best and worst...ie the rollercoaster ride, but one day you will look back on it and be amazed at who you are because of it. You will come out for the better on all of this. My thoughts and prayers are with you as your marriage and baby have become your focus. Many blessings for the future.

Sunshine and smiles for you.

You are smart, smart, smart to be done with Jill. I am so happy to see you and Alex are now seeing Jill for what she is--Alex put it so well--Jill is a mean girl and she is in high school. Good luck with everything, blessings on your pregnancy and marriage.

Stay strong!!! Lots of love for you and Jason and the baby

I am sorry that your past a way and i am watch the show i do not think that you jill will make up

your amazing... you are the most "real" person on this show and I have soo much respect for you. Please do NOTTT let Jills immaturity and caddiness get in the way of your life and soon to be family! Can't wait for your show!!! xoxo

Bethenny,

I am very sorry for your loss. I hope you can find peace. I wish you the best with your baby and your husband. I loved your phone call to Ramona - very genuine - she had tears in her eyes and they were very sincere for you. Best wishes.

All the best Bethenny. I'm glad you were able to muster the strength to see your father and take the first steps towards recovery, and I am so happy you had Jason with you to hold your hand along the way. Congratulations on all your success. I wish you the best!

Bethenny, you have such a great attitude and perspective on life now. The dissolution of your friendship with Jill has made you a more positive and insightful person. I am hoping that Jill will become as insightful about her own actions. Life is about growth and while you are blossoming, Jill is becoming more and more infantile.

Bethenny, This show is totally my guilty pleasure after work. With that said, I usually look at the drama etc. as funny, amusing! This last episode when you went to see your father made me weep. It was crazy. I was like "why am I emotionally involved in someone who I have never met"? I pretty much only cry for Jane Austen films or animals getting hurt in movies... something like that. I'm very happy for you with everything-- hubby, baby, new show. And yes, I am posting... which is also crazy! Thanks for sharing with all of us... and it's pretty obvious we all support you in your journey!

Bethanny - You are so spot on with your comments re Jill. You offered her the olive branch twice and she refused. For her to be upset that you haven't been personally updating her on your life is so unbelievable. She truly doesn't get it. Just as she told Ramona that Alex should have called her to tell her your father passed away -- and that being after she told Alex "We're Done".

Jill is your past, your new family is your future. I can relate to the distant relationship with your father, as I have the same. Live in the now. Enjoy your new hubby and pregnancy - and - your career. I was so thrilled to hear you have a show starting this June. It's sure to be a hit.

Enjoy the great things in your life right now. You're awesome, beautiful, and deserve every happiness!!

Bethenny, my deepest sympathies on your father's passing. Even if your relationship with him wasn't a strong one, it still hurts.

I'm glad to hear you say you're trying to remove yourself from Jill's toxicity. There's something SERIOUSLY wrong with her this season. I think this is the first season I've really paid attention to all the drama so maybe she's always been like this but she really has a strong need to be in everyone's business and it's really rather pathetic. You're better off without her and I'm glad you've realized it.

I'm so sorry for all that you have gone through with the loss of your father and the difficulties involved in that.

I'm very happy for you that your are now married and nearing the birth of your baby - you deserve the joy in your life Betheny. Cant wait to start watching your show coming out in June :)

As for Jill - you are best to let that part of your life go. You need to be surrounded by people who truly have your best interest at heart - who truly care about you - not someone who wants to gossip or share the lime light of any happiness you are experiencing. She was not there for you when you needed her. Let her reap what she has sown.

Take care of you, the baby and Jason - that is all that matters.

Sorry about your loss B hope all is well !! Love your tweets

Bethenny i first off wanted to tell you congrats on becoming pregnant!!! Also i think that Luanne needs to stay out of business that doesnt concern her. I was really mad when she interrupted the first conversation you and jill had in soo long. i think that she needs to try to not look like an idiot. She said in tonights episode to Alex that you should not choose sides. IS SHE SERIOUS?? She obviously toke Jills side and was rude to you sooo she needs to let grown women tell with their own business... anyway you always make me laugh and i wanted to say again that in soo excited that your pregnant and engaged.. and i cant wait till next week!

Bethenny, i'm so happy for you and where you are in your life! You are too cute!!! love u! I believe Jill sincerely misses you. I can just tell. I'm sorry about your father and relationship, or lack there of. Jason does seem like a great man to have in your and baby's life. God has blessed you! I love you dearly and can't wait for your new show! love, andrea b.

Sorry to hear of your father's passing. For going through a difficult childhood, you have a good head on your shoulders. That said, you and your baby need to stay free and clear of the crazies! Boy, I think we could all use a friend like Alex! The sane people need to stick together.

Happy Mother's Day! (You are technically a mother!)

Bethenny, you are so right to question Jill's motives. She even tried to make your father's death about her. She always has to be the center of attention. She talks about all of her friend's back.

You've handled the situation very well and don't let that group back in your life! Alex is the only real person in the group.

I wish you all the happiness you deserve! You are a great person!! Don't forget it!

Bethenny first im so sorry for your loss. I think you should stay away from the drama. I think Jill wants everything on her terms her way,and now does feel bad about not being their for all you are going through. She is quite selfish and she does want to "win" per say. Unfortunately she didn't.

Bethany, your a good person. NEVER forget that. Things will work out. You should have bigger things going on in your life right now! Drama doesn't matter at the end of the day, family does!!! Congrats on the hubby and the soon to be baby! Life is too short!

Kudos to you Bethanny. I think that you are taking the high road each week by posting your blog in a timely fashion and reminding everyone (including Jill) that you and Jill are no longer friends and that you wish her the best but your friendship has just run it's course (that happens). Let people say what they want about you but you seem centered and happy even with all that chaos going on in your life. These last two episodes really show that Alex and Ramona have your back and those kinds of friends are hard to find. Stay well.

Bethenny

I am so sorry for your lost and I will say that I know what you are going through because I when the same thing with my dad and he was the same way as your father was but I did not go to my dad at the end I would not give him that he was not there at all through out my life so he leave this world with out talking to me. so my heart goes out for you and your family. you did what I would not and you have a good friend with Alex

HI B PLEASE, PLEASE, STAY AWAY FROM THAT CRAZY JILL AND LUANN. I THINK THEY ARE SO JEALOUS OF YOU THAT THEY CANNOT THINK STRAIGHT. JILL REALLY NEED HELP.

SORRY ABOUT YOUR DAD. NEW CHAPTER YOUR BABY AND HUBBY AND NEW LIFE. JUST REMEMBER THAT ALEX AND RAMONA REALLY DO HAVE YOUR BACK.

Sorry about your dad, Bethenny. You rock, and I hope the future brings great things for you!

Keep living your life Bethanny. You deserve all the happiness that is coming your way!

Bethenny, you are a snake, you use people, and now you act as though you have arrived!! You wanted to drop Jill as a friend because you didn't want to slow down on your rise to the "top" and SHE is the reason you even have a career....please Stevie Wonder can see through you.

Dear Bethany: Iam so sorry to hear about your father and even though the relationship was strained...that is something still very difficult to be faced with and my prayers are with you. Congradulations on your pregnancy ad your marriage...yu deserve every bit of it and your man is hot. Good for you. I so know that you where tormented about the ending of the relationship with Jill and it is sad because it is of my opinion that you and her would have resolved everything and reconnected if it wasnt for the countess. She is an instigator and she thrives off pretending to be sincere when she is actually, just manipulating Jill. Jill has to stop being a follower and do what she thinks is right. Now she desires to be in your life and be there for you, yet she wouldnt allow herself to forgive and and make amends after you tried several times. You can forgive her...I just thing if she rid herself of the Queen...Be careful of Ramona as well because she offended me when she said that you have no one but you now husband and that you would probably mess that up to. That was low and rude and hurtful and unneccassary. A friend of realness would not have said that to you. You are beautiful and blessed and do not allow anyone to steal your joy. Alex appears to be the real deal and that is who you should pour yourself into and allow her to pour into you. Eagles soar together...you feed the ducks with a long handle spoon. Be Blessed in all that you do.

Bethanny Congrats on the nuptiuals and the pregnancy. I wish you nothing but happiness. You look beautiful.Enjoy every moment of the pregnancy. I am so sorry for the loss of your father. I completely understand the non-relationship you have with your father. I am glad you have some kind of closure and move on to being the the best woman, wife & mom to be. As for the toxicity w/Jill, kudos to getting her out of your life. I think with Jill she has to be the mother in every relationship and if she can't then there is no friendship. You do not need a mother you need a friend. All the best!! I am so excited to watch your show and planning your wedding..CAN'T WAIT!

I am so sorry for the loss of your Father. I will be praying for you. I just hate everything you are going through with the drama of the show. I am a big fan of yours, please dont ever leave the show.

My condolences on the passing of your father. Thank GOD that Ramona and Alex have been there to support you. Please, please, DO NOT EVER forget Alex's loyalty and genuine friendship to you when you and Jill reconcile. (And you WILL reconcile, if you haven't already). You're still the best, your softer side is adorable and much more interesting than (last season's) Jill/Bethenny show!

I love you, I think you deserve to be rid of Jill who can't stand not to be the star of your life.

Hi Bethany,

I'm very sorry to hear about the passing of your Father, no matter the circumstances he was your Father and I know that you were hurt by so many things. But he's gone and you did have a last chance with him. Now it's time for your happiness, release the drama and move on with your life.

Much success on your new show.

I really admire you. It is so wonderful to see someone get what they deserve.......happiness.

Bless you Bethenny on this journey you are on. May the joy outweigh the pain and may you find the healing you need to capture the happiness around you. p.s Jason's beard is HOT!

B, I'm so sorry for your loss. I can totally relate and I'm sorry you're having to relive this on tv. Best wishes of happiness in your new chapter of life with Jason and the baby!

I just wanted to say how happy I am for you. It's strange to see how the universe has sent all of these positive things into your life, as a certain person or people are leaving your life. Blessed with a wonderful man you loves you (it's so obvious) and a baby that you have always talked about wanting. My mom has always told me that people come in out of your life for a reason. The ones that leave have served a purpose in your life. Whether it was to learn from that relationship, or be drained by it. It served it's purpose. I hate to see how you were mistreated by Jill, especially during a very difficult time in your life. Clearly you didn't mean that much to her if she was able to dismiss you and your friendship so easily. The great thing is that you realized who she really was and allowed that negative energy to be released from your life! I wish you many great, beautiful and happy days...I don't know you personally but from the info that you have shared about your life... the happiness you now share with us is well deserved.

Be Strong! You are one of my favorites

I knew your dad had passed away but to see the hurt on your face was tragic. This episode probably brought up lots of emotions again. Stay strong, lean on your hubby for support and think about the wonderful life you have now. Bethenny, you rock!

I think Jill was upset because someone she loved (you) were in pain and she knew she couldn't be there to help and she took it out on Ramona because she felt like Ramona could have prevented it by filling her in on the urgency of the situation - which was wrong of her, but I think she just felt helpless and made a bad choice. I can imagine being in her position and it would have devastated me also not to be able to help someone I love during such a sad time. It doesn't mean she doesn't need to take some responsibility for being in that position, but it would still be really rough and heartbreaking.

I am sorry for your loss. I also agree with you, Jill's concern was not coming from a place of compassion but the fact that she wasn't able to confirm before feeding more information to Perez Hilton. The expression that we hear constantly is keep your friends close and your enemies closer, but Jill she is neither so keep her as far away as possible. You don't need the stress. LIVE your life with Jason and new baby, LOVE them with all you have to offer, and LAUGH with them often.Create the memories that will last a lifetime.

Condolances on your loss Bethanny. And congrats on your new man new life and new baby on the way! Time helps us honor the nobility of self.What we think of self.What we think of ourselves is now more important than what others think of us.Celebrate the unique you! ackknowledge your Worthiness. Those who make you feel insecure can't do so without your permission. Respect yourself.Do what is best for you Mentally,Spiritually,Emotionally and Physically and then consider the highest good for all. welcome the opportunity to choose. I wish you and your new husband to be and beautiful baby all the best in life for your future. Remeber when we do not react and act to a situation we take the power away from the person causing the problems allow them to show others there true colours which is happening with Jill and Loo Ann.~smile~