Jill's only interest is controlling other people's lives. You are, obviously, in control of your own life so now she needs to find a new "target". People like Jill are acquaintances at best. There are two kinds of people in this world....people who are successful on their own and people who take credit for people's success. There is NO doubt in my mind which one you are : ) Congratulations on all the great things happening in your life!

I love you Bethenny! I think you are the most realest housewife I have ever seen. I think that is why you are getting alot of slack this season from the cast. If it wasn't for you I wouldn't even watch the show! They are jealous because you have so much going for you right now. Good luck in life! Congrats on the baby!

Bethanny, I like you. I also happen to like Jill. I guess this is all about ratings and drama but both of you are just dragging this out for the camera's. I understand this was all filmed some months ago so there is nothing that we can say now that will change what will happen in the weeks to come but.... really???

Why this aggression? Did she really cross the line or do you think you cross the line?

I didn't like the fact that you made such a "whatever" statement about you not being there for Jill while Bobby was in the hospital and you sent a fruit basket. "Life" or not "no life" you should make time for your friends when they're in need.

Jill is not the innocent party here either, getting LuAnn to be her spoke person for her feelings. She wasn't clear with you and she wanted you to read her mind on what she was feeling and do something about it, while you were doing your own thing. Not cool either, pretty selfish.

Anyway, I wish you the best and I am extermely happy for you,Jason and the new addition.

Just don't burn your bridges, you can never have too many friends.

I am a Bethenney Fan, I say to you Congrats on all your Success and ofcourse your upcoming Marriage and Birth of your Baby, Hold your Head up High, Jill, Luann, Kelly all Haters and very Fake, you don't need them in your Life, Rem. Missery loves Company.

While I do agree that Jills reaction to your whole "get a hobby" fiasco was overblown, I have to say that last season, you were my favorite and this season you are not Bethenny. And I am going to make these comments to you, knowing that you probably don't care but hoping that your take them into consideration. First of all, let me say that Jason seems to be a doll and Congratulations on finding love and happiness. good for you. Second, I was really disappointed in seeing the manner in which you treated Jason's friends. I was honestly appalled and embarassed for you. This season you seem to be Bethenny 3.0, like a mixture of wired/angrier/snarkier version of your old self. You pretty much ostrasized all Jasons friends as though they are so much more beneath you and then publicly humuliated one of them at his party. And to watch you talk about them as though they were freaks and so ridiculous made you look rude, shallow, and elitist in the worst possible way. Your treatment of people is a little more two faced, and trash talker than anyone else, with the exception of Ramona. You seem to now have everything, but true friends, and not to say that they even should be Housewives from the show, but you come accross as downright obnoxious and more elitist than last season's Luanne. And then on a whole different note, I politely must tell you, that regardless of the fact that Skinny Girl is your brand, and youre all about skinny skinny this and that, this season, you are a little too skinny, and it has detracted from your pretty face, that looked far better with the 5-10 lbs that you have lost. Not a good look for you, and I am sad to say, you are no longer my favorite. I hope childbirth softens you up, and you stop smashing through friends like the Tazmanian devil. Sad to say, that vapid free boobing Kelly is actually much more likeable than you this season.

Bethany, you are my favorite one on the show, you are genuine, honest and a hoot to listen to. your crazy girl! this thing with jill, boy she sure is cashing in on what you said about "getting a hobby" but watching the 3 episodes so far, jill sure got a big head this season almost sickening to listen to her. i think jill is so into jill right now that luann is boosting her ego and jill is boosting luanns ego. I am so happy to see that you finally got what you were missing in your life, jason and baby on the way, congrats to the both of you. you deserve it. i will continue to support you but i can see this is going to be an ugly season!

I loved the talk you gave at the annex you were so funny i love your humor and honesty and i would not be offended by you in the least! i will say it saddens me to see how the girls are just not including you all their gatherings, but heck if i had the choice between jason or them, hell ya i would pick jason...lol

Hi Bethenny,

Give the Jill bashing a rest! It's between you guys. If you stop the ugliness, give it some cooling off time, and let yourselves see what you really needed from the other, AND the ways you fell short of being the friend Jill needed you to be (and you needed her to be), maybe you can reconnect in a new, loving and healthy way. There seems to be a HUGE betrayal underlying it all, so give yourselves some space, so if and when, hopefully, you do reconnect, it's not with another 80 pounds of garbage on top of the real issue.

Be kind. And keep it just between you and yours.

Peace~

I think Bethenny is the only "real" person on the show. I do believe her hormones were raging at the beginning of this season. Kind of had it with all the high school drama. Is this what makes good TV? If I wasn't already hooked on the show I probably wouldn't even be watching it this season.

While, in general, I tend to agree with you (Bethenny) on most issues, I have to say that I *do* understand where Jill is coming from in this instance. I hope you read this and perhaps think of it from this perspective:

Her husband was having a major health issue. She was afraid. A lot of the time, the spouse of someone with a life-threatening illness has to be (or at least feels they have to be) strong and positive in front of their spouse. This is good for the ill person, but puts a great strain on the spouse: their spouse, their best friend, is the one they have to protect from their own anxiety, and that means they have to depend on their other friends -- for most women, their best girlfriends -- to be there during those times... to lean on.

I think that Jill feels hurt that you weren't there for her, to fall apart around. I know there were reasons: some business related and some personal, but... since the two of you were SO close, I can see how it would be hurtful. It would definitely hurt me if I were going through that, and my best friend wasn't there.

I know if my best friend was enduring that, I would move heaven and earth to be by her side, at least periodically. That you didn't come around at all..... yes, I can see why she is hurt.

I hope you don't think I am slamming you. Generally, you are my favorite character on the show. But.... gotta tell ya... in this case, I think you were in the wrong.

I belive your comments to Jill and Luanne was very mean spirited, cruel, and with extreme rage. I counld'nt see anywhere in previous episodes your verbal attacks to them were justified. I admire that you want to succeed in business, and is out there trying to make it happen, which has inspired me, but I cannont purchase your products, knowing how visciously you attacked others you called your friends, which unfortunately gives insight to your character. I'm so surprised how others on your blog supported your actions, which is really stupid. They should be encouring you to seek out the nature of your anger and resolve it, then you will be truely a happier person.

bethanny is are my favorite. I thought the way Jill was acting was very childish. Who in there right mind would save a message for months?!! So what that you said get a hobby, and...! She took it way too far than what it should have been. She should talked to you about it period not LuAnn. Be a woman about it!!!! Congrats on your baby!!

I love your personality, I thik you're a great and genuine person. I'm very sorry about the Jill's situation but I'm pretty sure that if she's intelligent as you the two of you will be friends no matter what.

You are one of the most beautiful women I've ever seen on tv, you prove that a woman can be beautiful, intelligent, and funny at the same time and I thankkyou for that. Congratulations and good luck with everything!

Irene

Bethenny ~ I would love to see you and Jill reconcile your friendship. Just suck it up and apologize! Good friends are hard to come and I believe that you will some day regret it if you do not do everything possible to patch up this friendship.

Bethany!! You go girl!! So happy you will soon have a baby! Forget Jill! Watch your back with Ramona and keep giving the countess HELL! My husband and I die laughing at you!! I think he watches just to see what you are going to do and say:) Kelly is just gross stay away from her and her icky ways she is a nasty thing! As for her in playboy! yuck you could not pay people to buy it unless they just wanted a good laugh!! We love to watch you every week take care!!! And keep being SNARKY!!

Bethenny, you are a bit different this season. I'm happy that you are so successful with Bethenny Bakes and Skinnygirl, but you are very different. You aren't as nice as you were before. Go back to being a nice polite person to everyone and don't worry about Kelly trying to show you up with her fur. Kelly is a very immature person and you shouldn't let her bother you at all.

i think that this whole situation is pretty high school. i really enjoy how everyone is playing this whole "let's not get the other too upset" but why do you care what Jill thinks. Seriously, friends come and go. Granted you do come across as harsh sometimes, so i don't understand why Jill took so much offense to your words. You've said harsher words to her in the past. Something tells me that there may be some hair of jealousy from Jill's standpoint. And if that is the case, you don't need her as a friend

Sometimes friendships change. Jill had alot going on in her life with Bobby having been diagnosed with cancer. Scary stuff. Sounds like you had aalot going on as well, Bethany. It is definitely not acceptable to drag everyone into your fight like Jill has done. She really needs to grow up. Take the high road Bethany!!! You are better than this feuding. Your life is going great and I wish you much happiness and success:)

Bethenny,

Congratulations on all the wonderful things that are happening in your life right now! You are a wonderful person and if I were in your shoes I wouldn't have any regrets either. Keep going strong and building your life. As for your friendship with Jill, you dont need it. The last thing you need in your life are so called friends who bring you down, only worry about themselves, and can't seem to be happy for you and the great acconplishments you are achieving in your life. Although I'm sure you've already realized this.

Best of luck always!

I have to say, you are my favorite person on this show, and other than wathcing to see how nuts Ramona can get, you are by far the most entertaining! Stay true, and don't let anyone tell you to make up with Jill. She is one of those "Mothering" type friends who suffocate the life out of you. they are not happy unless you are unhappy and they are controlling every aspect of your life... when you are down (the underdog) it works, becuse you usually need all the help you can get. But when you are back on your feet, they feel like the relationship is threatened because you are moving in another direction, and they cling even more, and control even harder. Then, when you actually break free of the friendship, they throw guilt in your face: "look at everything I did for you when things weren't going good for you"...This is not friendship! I have had friends just like that...It is toxic, especially when you are in a good place in your life. you need to surround yourself with supportive friends. you go Bethanny, stay strong!

Bethenny, you've done your best to reconcile with Jill. She obviously is so infatuated with LuAnn (the dis-countess) she can't see who is a true friend and who is a big ego disguised as a friend. Seems to me she is really enjoying her "wounded innocent" role. Continue to take the high road. If Jill was ever your real friend, she'll reach out to you. If she doesn't, then good riddance to bad rubbish. Enjoy your new life with your husband and baby - be happy!

Honestly, I don't know what to say about the fued between you and Jill. I have never commented on any of the Housewives or the show, but I truly felt moved to speak on your behalf. In my opinion, Jill is actively acting out as a child or teenage girl would do when he/she has insecurities...in this case, maybe Jill's sincere fear of losing her husband clouded her ability to simply state that she needed you by her side. Instead, she hoped that you would be able to read her mind and just know that she needed and/or wanted you during such a difficult time in her life. As Bobby fought for his life, I am confident that you had no idea just how sick he was...I know you would have been there had you known...Jill should have spoken up and not assumed. She was beyond wrong not to let you in on such a personal time in her life, but hold you responsible for not being there. Especially with your career taking off and you on the go with promotions. Both of you, as friends do, were dealing with different things in your lives that called for you not to be able to be by each other's side as you had in months previous. Friends, real friends, realize that each other has a life separate from one another, but should be confident enough in the strength of the relationship to know that the other is a mere phone call away. Jill was not honest with you and that isn't fair to the friendship. In addition, Jill should never have stepped out on the friendship and spoke her concerns with someone else nor should she have replayed your message to LuAnn or anyone else...that is beyond childish and quite disrespectful. I commend you for attempting to keep the concerns you had between the two of you! Notice I say attempt because you fell short of keeping things private by speaking on the situation with your assistant, Bethany, Ramona,etc..that was wrong, but we all fall short at times! I pray that all works out for the best and in HIS plan, but please be careful with those you let into your life and heart...ensure that they are true to you and not speaking ill of you the moment something goes wrong...that is not a friend! Maybe if Jill takes a step back and stops talking to everyone else, then you may get the opportunity to decide for yourself if your friendship is worth saving. And remember, misery loves company! Take that as you will,but know that when those around you are not truly and completely happy with themselves they will look for ways to bring you down in order to make themselves feel better...or to have something to talk about! Keep your head high and if you and Jill are truly friends, the two of you will work this out! Friends fight, but they don't forget!

BTW, as I watch the sneak peak into next week's episode...did you honestly think that Ramona was being sincere in her letting you know that Jill was going to be at her house? I could have told you that that was a mere set up for her desire to stir up your daily fix of drama. If she really cared about the friendship, she would have arranged for the two of you to meet and be able to talk privately instead of in the mix of everyone else! You don't trust LuAnn, but she isn't the one with ill motives!

Bethany dear, please get on with your life withJason and leave that backstabing bunch {minus Alex} in the dust. You have done more than enough to heal the relationship with jill but she refuses. You know what I think? Shes so controlling and she does'nt have you to control anymore so she is pissed! Dont let her get to you. You have Jason and you guys are great together. Leave that bunch of snakes behind you, they are not worth the time or energy. That said, I wish you well and I hope to see good things happen for you in the future!

Hello Bethanny

I also responded to Jill's blog and told her what I am about to tell you. I too had a pretty big argument with my best friend back in April of 09 and we have not spoken since. He has been emotionally abusive in that he takes things that I've shared with him, really personal things, and not only shares them with others, but then uses them against me in other ways. When this season started I identified with Jill, when she said that she felt she made a very large emotional deposit in your's and her friendship bank, and she felt you withdrew and walked away. There is however one big difference between Jill and I, first I don't harbour hurt feelings and repeat them to everyone. But more importantly I would NEVER put my best friend on speakerphone when she was trying to reach out to me, so someone (especially someone like Luanne) could listen. Luanne is a child, shes trying to take your place, but a best friends place can not be occupied by any other then you. I wish my ex best friend would reach out to me as you have to Jill. God Bless your Marraige and your new baby, and sometimes Bethanny, no matter how much you want to salvage a once great friendship? Your better off without a toxic friend, and that is what Jill is. Jason is right, keep positive energy close to you, don't look back, and focus on your new family, because in the end, they will be the ones there for you anyway!

Bethenny, I'm so impressed with the weay you fought for your friendship with Jull. You must love her very much. I do hope things work out for the two of you. She's just a jealous little girl at heart. She's so self involved, it never occurred to her that your life was changing and new doors were opening up for you. All she could see or hear was her own plight. Thats not to say that she is a bad person, just scared. I saw the trailor of her walking up and admiring your ring. I also saw the look on your face. Bethenny, give her the benifit of the doubt. i.e.: continue taking the high road. She can't. But, I know she loves you, and whats more I think you know it took. I just read the article in the TV guide re: you and Jason's marriage. Hurray for you both I wish you the best of everything for the rest of your life. But, most of all, Congratulations on the coming of your first child. I loved your responce to the pragnacy test while you were sitting on the bathroom floor with your adorable dog. You are so real, God bless you, Jason and the coming baby.

Bethanny's you are by far the franchise of the Real Housewives of " Anywhere". If I am feeling down and unfortunately that's often. I put the T.V. On and tune into any of the shows your on, you crack me up so hard I piss myself. The episode with you and Jason registering with the fake guest classic. The sheet of tp into a dress I can go on. You must know Jill sucks , luannne is a lap dog, Kelly is a loon and creedmore called saying she missed curfew. Alex and Ramona great and I Sonya cool. You my friend, put ti this way if I had to pay a separate charge for Bravo in my cable package as long as you have a show on the network bring it on.....thanks and I have to say Jason is Mentch of a man father husband friend just stunning your daughter well just beautiful........